This feels like a strange post to write, but what the hell, I’m doing it anyway because it feels necessary to put it out there, too.
I know that, if you’re unhappy while book blogging, if you’re feeling down, if you resent it and everything else, sometimes there are no reasons to go on with it and I agree with that. If you’re not feeling things anymore, it’s okay. It’s okay to take a break and it’s okay to give up on it, too. Life is too short to do things you’re unhappy about.
Yet. Yet, friends, I also know we’re all humans here.
Unless some of you reading this are robots…. this is a bit strange, but well I’m not shutting off that possibility, the world is a strange place after all. Because we’re all humans, we go through ups and downs, we feel happy, sad and go through an incredibly colorful and sometimes annoying panel of moods, moments in life and everything else. That affects book blogging and, sometimes, just makes us feel negative, upset and down about it all.
We, but the book blogging world as well, goes through ups and downs and through passageways and times we don’t really understand, either. Page views, comments, interaction, what seems to make our blog burst alive and with colors sometimes goes down, up and down again. There are moments when nothing seems to happen and we can’t quite figure out why. We haven’t been working less on our blog, sometimes even working more, putting hours and hours on end drafting blog posts, finding the perfect layout, updating book covers and fretting with formatting for hours and hours until the day, night, weekend is over and all we wrote is one blog post.
?Related blog post: How much time do I spend blogging?
We’re proud of ourselves and that’s the most important thing, but we are also human and, as humans, we’re always going to seek validation. I know I always do, bothering my sister all the time to proof-read my blog posts and tell me if it seems okay (hi hello, sister, I love you thank you). I know I get giddy and excited when I see that I received comments, that a post was shared on twitter, that I got more views than before on that particular day. It feels like I did something GOOD and it feels good, too.
Yet sometimes life happens. Sometimes book blogging envy happens because we realize we could be getting more page views, more comments, we could chat with more bloggers, put ourselves out there more, overall, do more. Sometimes it feels so disheartening when we’ve been working hard and hard and loving it, but feel like we’re not getting that validation we’re craving for.
? Related blog post: Validation as a book blogger and why it matters.
Honesty alert, friends. I’ve been blogging for over 4 years and sometimes I feel kind of proud of everything I do, did and keep on doing. (Kind of). Yet, yet, yet, almost every single day,
I feel like I’m not doing enough and like I’m not enough.
I know reasonably that I can’t do more. I know I’m already putting myself out there as much as I can, spending way too many hours sometimes on everything. Even if, logically, that would make me grow, get bigger reach and logically, more pageviews, I know I couldn’t post every day. I just don’t have the time. I know I could start bookstagram, because it sounds like such a must and I should do it. I also know that would make my health really go down the drain because I would do too much and, as hard as it is for me to admit, I can’t do more.
I also know that, as a creative, it’s hard to come to terms with the fact that I can’t do more. When I feel down and worthless and like things are not moving enough, I’m doing this. So here’s some advice, for you and for me, too.
Advice to use whenever you’re feeling a little down and tired and need some blogging positivity…
? I look at my bookshelves, goodreads TBR, the books I want to read….
because it is filled with recommendations from book bloggers and books I added because, well, thanks to, this community. This makes me happy and we always need more books, so this makes me want to go on, too.
? I blog-hop….
because supporting other book bloggers always makes me warm and happy and somehow, reading and seeing how hard other bloggers are working just inspires me a lot, too. I adore chatting with you all, too.
? Related blog post: Why and how I blog hop & why you should do it, too.
✏️ I look at my blog and go through old blog posts….
because as cringe-worthy as this might sound, it reminds me of all the work I’ve put into this blog since it started, I am reminded of old posts I was, and am still proud of and it makes me want to go on, do better, grow more.
? I remind myself of small and big accomplishments…
because no matter where you’re in, in your book blogging journey, there are accomplishments to look at proudly. Whether it’s numbers -because yes, no matter what we tell ourselves and want to believe, numbers feel important- your first, 100th, 1000th follower, pageviews, comments…. or whether it’s small, unquantifiable things. Like hitting publish on that blog post you were nervous to write. Like putting yourself out there and trying to chat with bloggers that you were a little nervous to approach. Like putting out a tweet in that scary, fierce twitter bookish community (me). Like, yes, receiving that first digital or physical ARC. Like hearing, well, reading, a compliment about your blog.
Or, simply, like creating that little corner of the internet to scream about books on and to be yourself. That’s something to be proud of.
Keep every small and big thing in your mind and heart.
? I take a break…
because no matter how small or big, whenever I’m away from this community, it feels good and refreshing to come back to it. I’m reminded of how I miss it after a while (after half a day sometimes, too) and how important it is to me and, most importantly, how much I love it.
I know that it feels strange to have to remind ourselves of why we’re doing this and some people might disagree, but if you ask me, we are human. It’s okay to feel down and get back up again, this happens. Just like a reading slump.
Be proud of yourselves friends. Take breaks if you need to. Keep on going because you love it. That’s what matters the most and despite what I said before, it’s not statistics and numbers that make your blog burst with colors and feel alive at the tip of your fingers. It’s your passion and it shows.
I can tell.
? In case you would like a peek into book bloggers’ hard work, I would definitely recommend reading CW’s fantastic feature on her blog. You might find me and my experience…. there!
If you’re interested in supporting book bloggers, please consider reading these two blog posts as well:
? Support Book Bloggers
? Support International Book Bloggers.
The inspiration from this post has started from a small question from my friend Michelle. It’s funny how even a small snippet of conversation can start up a whole rant, isn’t it. Shout out to her and her incredible blog!
What do you do to stay positive when you’re feeling a little down about blogging? Do you have any tips and tricks?
What is the thing that never fails at making you happy when you blog? Share some positivity in comments, I’d love to hear from you!
Aj @ Read All The Things! says
Right now I’m not feeling great because I’m working really hard, but my pageviews are way lower than usual. I have no idea what I’m doing wrong. When I get frustrated with blogging, I like to try something new. Next Tuesday, I’m posting a new kind of post that I haven’t tried before. The whole reason I’m doing it is because I’m bored. I wanted to mix things up.
Marie says
I’m so sorry to hear that, I know how frustrating it can get sometimes :/ oh yes, mixing things up is such a fantastic idea, that often give us motivation again, too and that’s great! I hope you’ll have fun witth this new kind of post 🙂
Thank you so much for your comment! <3
Rasya says
If I feel down about blogging I’ll mindlessly scrolling my blog and blog hopping by using Twitter thread or WordPress search bar to find new blogs to read.
Btw, you’re doing ABSOLUTELY GREAT, Marie!
Marie says
OH yay that’s a great thing to do! I always love reading other blogs 🙂
Oh thank you, you’re way too sweet, this means so much, thank you! <3 <3 <3
thewolfandbooks says
This was such a great reminder of how great the book blogging community is and how as creatives we’re too hard on ourselves. This is such solid advice. The points in blog hopping on other blogs reminds me to pour into other creatives and taking a break reminds me that sometimes our minds and bodies need a rest, too. Thanks for sharing ♥️♥️
Marie says
Oh thank you, this makes me so happy to hear <3 Thank you so much! <3 It's always good to take some time for ourselves when we feel like it's too much!
Thank you for such a sweet comment <3 <3
Swetlana @ The Caffeinated Bookworm Life says
Marie, I’m honestly slowly starting to wonder if you’re somehow able to peek into my thoughts because this is either a scary coincidence or proof that you read my thoughts recently!
As soon as I saw your tweet about this post on Twitter, I knew I had to read it because I’ve been feeling a bit ‘meh’ recently and I figured you’d have fantastic advice/tips in here to help me put blogging and everything related to it into perspective, so thank you for that!
For me, whenever I feel down, I try to make myself remember the amazing books I discovered thanks to blogging – some of which are now all-time favorites. Or the amazing people I consider friends thanks to blogging. I wouldn’t have met them if it wasn’t for this platform that I joined on a whim and how could I not be grateful for that.
I don’t think I’ve got any tips that you haven’t already mentioned for staying positive but I think just being grateful for what you’ve accomplished overall in those moments you’re feeling down can do quite a bit.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and tips, Marie! This was a fantastic post!
Marie says
I may be a mind reader, who knows….?? honestly, I’m so happy to hear these kind of posts find you at the right time – and know that you can always come to me to chat about anything blogging, too, always!! <3
I'm so happy you use some of these tips, too, it's so great to remember about what we read and people we met thanks to blogging, it always warms my heart and makes me happier and want to go on, too 🙂 Thank you so, so much for your sweet comment! <3 <3
Alex says
I usually just give myself a bit of a break. Usually, when I’m not feeling positive it’s either because I’m stressed or uninspired. As for the thing that makes me happy while blogging…I guess it’s just putting work into posts. Even if the post doesn’t get much attention, the fact that I put a lot of work in and feel proud of it is all that matters to me. This was a great post and very uplifting. 🙂
Marie says
It’s always great to take a step back when you’re not feeling it, to come back refreshed and inspired! 🙂
YES! This is such a good thing, I’m so happy you feel this way. It’s so good and important to be proud of ourselves and the work we put into our posts.
I’m so happy you enjoyed this post, thank you so, so much for your sweet comment! <3
Anastasia says
Nice post and good thoughts! I keep positive by thinking that it’s nice to have created something and having had sticked to it for 5 years now. I think other thing is that I’m doing it without investing that much to it… Like maybe I would have more engagement with business plan that would allow plugins but hey I’m alright XD So you know. Keep on swimming ?
Marie says
5 years, YAY this is so great! I’m so happy you kept on going for so long and I hope you’ll continue 🙂
Thank you so much for your sweet comment! <3 <3
jessierenea says
Great helpful advice !! I love when experienced bloggers take time to help the newbies !! ? I’m not a book blogger but enjoyed your encouragement. Positivity is key! Job well done !!
https://jessierenea.com/3-reasons-why-you-shouldnt-focus-on-the-blog-stats/
Marie says
Thank you so, so much, I’m so happy you enjoyed it! You’re so right, we all need a little positivity here and there 🙂
Thank you! 🙂
jessierenea says
You’re welcome girlie !
Erica Mae says
This is just a great post, Marie! Really needed this and you inspired me to write a post about blogging so thanks for that, haha. Whenever I feel down, I always look at my blog pages. I see how I worked for every post and how awesome (for me LOL) it looks. I’m proud of my work and reading comments from people who appreciate your efforts are wonderful bonuses! “I’ve come a long way, why quit now? I can do this.” I always say that little mantra to myself whenever I’m not feeling it. And remember how you started in the first place. That before you started your blog, you never thought that you’d be able to write and create content. And now, you proved that you can!
And blog hopping really works. It’s now a part of my every day. It’s amazing how you know someone would be really happy if you give even just a small amount of your time to read their content and leave a short comment. Plus, you’ll be motivated to whip up a nice post too! And you get to pick up inspirations for a new blog post 🙂
Marie says
Oh thank you so, so much Erica, I’m so happy to hear this inspired you! Thank you! <3 I think you have such a great routine and mantra, too, that's fantastic! 🙂 and yes, I agree that blog-hopping, despite being very time-consuming, it amazing too and gives you both inspiration and makes you happy to be part of the community, too <3 Thank you so much for your sweet comment <3
Surina says
I loved this post! It was extremely thoughtful and I related to many of the points you raised. ? Thank you for writing it and I hope you have a wonderful day!
Marie says
Oh thank you so, so much, I’m so happy you enjoyed it! 😀 Thank you for your sweet comment! <3
Kerry says
Oh man, I really needed to read this. Thank you for this beautiful post! I’m still fairly new to blogging and already have felt like I’m not doing enough and maybe aren’t cut out for it. But knowing other bloggers have felt the same is a comfort. ❤️
Marie says
Oh you’re so, so welcome, I’m so happy you enjoyed this and that it could be helpful <3 You are doing amazing, keep on going and do what you love, that's the most important 🙂
flippingthruthepages says
You have explained it so well, Marie 🙂 Thank you for writing this. One day or another, I do feel low and doesn’t want to write posts. It gets overwhelming sometimes. But then post as these keep me motivated. They remind me that there are bloggers like me who are doing this for more than 4,5 and even 7 years and I definitely need to learn from them.
I have come to realise that taking a blogging break is really important, especially if you aren’t feeling motivated. It helps you in coming back strong enough.
Loved this write-up 🙂
Marie says
Thank you so, so, so much Sim, this makes me so happy to hear! I agree that breaks are important, even if I definitely suck at them, I know I need them every now and then, too 🙂
Thank you so much! <3 <3
Cee Arr @ Dora Reads says
Thanks for this – I needed it! XD
Due to life in general, I haven’t had as much time to blog as I want lately – and I get discouraged when I’m not able to write and finish the posts I want to publish. But really, it’s impressive that I’ve managed to do 3+ posts per week, given how goddamn hectic life is right now! So I have to remind myself of that 🙂
Marie says
3 posts per week, despite life being pretty hectic, that’s AMAZING, if you ask me, you’re doing SO great, you should be proud of yourself! Keep on going and, most importantly, remember that if you need to slow down, it’s okay, too! 🙂
Thank you so much for your sweet comment, I’m so happy you enjoyed this 🙂
Raven @ Dreamy Addictions says
Great post, Marie! When I’m feeling down, I would take a short break and do other things that makes me happy. I also feel giddy when I receive comments on my posts, they motivate me to keep going. Handling both your blog and the bookstagram at the same time is a very stressful job. I’m mostly active on my Blog and less on my bookstagram account.
Marie says
Thank you so much, Raven! <3 I'm so happy you liked this post. I agree that it's so good to receive comments, this always makes me the happiest ever <3
It has to be so hard to juggle blogging and bookstagram, I admire people doing that SO much!
thepaperbackpiano says
I have so much love for this post. As someone who battles anxiety on a daily basis, it can sometimes feel counter-intuitive to me that I’m deliberately putting myself out there on the internet and creating more sources of stress for myself. And lately, with having to balance work, uni, blogging and bookstagram, as well as trying to have some form of social life and stay SANE, I’ve been struggling a bit more than usual. I’ve got big plans for my blog this year but I need to remind myself that I have a whole year to implement them and they don’t all need to happen in 2 months!
Anyway, sorry, I didn’t mean to end up pouring my heart out in the comments. I just wanted to say how much I appreciate you! Your posts are always wonderful <3
Marie says
Oh please Alex never apologize for that, know that I’m ALWAYS there if you ever need or want to rant about blogging or anything in the comments or anywhere, always! <3 <3
I get that feeling so much, both the anxiety and the plans and wanting to do it all together at once. It's so important to pace ourselves and to remember that we have time, too, our health matters a lot more than it all. A reminder I always need ??
Thank you so, so much for your sweet comment, this means so, so much <3
thepaperbackpiano says
You are just the sweetest person <3 Thank you so much and the offer extends both ways, if you ever need an understanding ear I'm happy to listen! Sending huge hugs your way! <3
Marie says
Thank you so, so, SO much, you’re too sweet <3 <3
Catarina @ Pages & Plots says
This post is so inspiring! I completely agree with you on how going through old blog posts can help you fall back in love with blogging. I’m always amazed at how much I grew as a writer in just 4 months since I started this blog and that is the best motivation I could ask for.
Thank you for taking the time to write this post and for being a light of positivity in the book blogger community.
Marie says
I’m so happy to hear that! It’s fun to see just how much we grow as writers and bloggers even in such a short span of time. It’s amazing, I love this so much 🙂
Thank YOU so much for takin the time to leave such a sweet comment, this makes me, so, so, SO happy <3 <3
Lauren Becker says
Great post! I think that as long as the good far outweighs the bad, then you should keep blogging, because you obviously enjoy it. I love blogging, but it can be tough. I wish I had more follows, comments, stats, etc. but I also know that I can’t work myself to the bone either. I want to continue blogging because I love it and I love the people.
-Lauren
http://www.shootingstarsmag.net
Marie says
I agree with you 200%! As long as the good outweight the bad, it just means we should keep on going, as long as it makes us happy! 🙂 <3
Thank you so much, Lauren! <3
Dezzy @ The Thoughtful Voice says
I adore this post with all my heart, Marie ? This is such an inspiring, beautiful, and important post. I’m sorry that you feel that you aren’t doing enough, but please, trust me (and all your other friends and supporters), YOU ARE. You truly are. This isn’t the first time I’ve said this, but you do SO much for this community and you make it a better, brighter, and more supportive place. ☺️ And you deserve to be proud of your blog, it’s honestly so great!!
I love the advice you gave!! I love blog hopping, reading my old posts, and looking through my (never-ending) TBR too, haha. It definitely makes me feel better, and I enjoy blog hopping in particular because I get to chat & interact with wonderful people like you. ? I love this post so much, Marie, and I hope that you’ll always remember how amazing of a person you are and how you *are* enough. ❤️
Marie says
Oh Dezzy, Ohh Dezzy don’t mind me I’m sobbing while reading your comment why are you so sweet to me ahhh I don’t deserve you ?❤️ thank you so, so much, your words mean everything ?❤️
I’m so happy you enjoyed these little tips, too, thank you SO much!! I’m going to cry now thank you I’m feeling way too emotional now ?❤️
Renard Moreau says
? Actually, I do not feel down about blogging because I love it.
I lift my spirits by listening to electronic dance music; which places me in a positive frame of mind.
Plus, I publish content on my blog on a weekly basis (So, I do not feel burnt out or anything like that).
And, do have yourself a wonderful week!
Marie says
Yay that’s great that you found a rhythm that works out great for you 🙂
Thank you so much for your sweet comment! 🙂
christine @ lady gets lit says
This post is amazing and honestly made me feel so encouraged ? blogging can be hard work and requires so much mental/emotional energy. I constantly feel like I’m behind because I’m surrounded by people who’ve been at this YEARS longer than me. I start to wonder if I really have anything to offer. But, like you said, every time I look at my shelves and notice how my reading has changed through listening to other bloggers, I feel a little better. Every time I blog hop and read amazing posts like this one, I’m inspired to do what I can to spread love and positivity whenever I can. Even if only 2 people read my posts, that’s still 2 people, right?
Thank you so much for sharing this. I know I’m not the only one who needed it?
Marie says
Oh Christine this makes me so, so happy to hear,it’s honestly all I wanted to do with this post, encourage people and I’m glad I could do that with you! <3 <3 I do think you have so many fabulous things to offer to the community, you're such a gem and I am so happy you're back at blogging, too, I've missed you tons. I'm so happy I could inspire you and you're so right, what matters is that we are proud of what we put out there and how we've discovered so many books thanks to this, too <3
Thank you so much, your comment made my day!! <3
Margaret @ Weird Zeal says
This is such a lovely and affirming post! <3 You're completely right that blogging can be discouraging when you don't feel like you're getting validation for your hard work, but it's so important to remember how much amazingness we also get out of this! 😀 I especially love looking at all the books I've heard about through blogging that I might not have discovered otherwise. And reading old posts is nice too at times, even if a little embarrassing, since it reminds me how much effort I put into this!
It's really nice to hear sometimes that I'm not the only one with those kind of discouragements, so thanks for this post and your reminders how to stay positive! <3
Marie says
Oh thank you, Margaret, so happy you enjoyed this! 😀
I agree that it’s so important to remember how awesome it all is when we are feeling down, to think about all of the books, to remember all the effort we put into this small space online. I love it 🙂
Keep on going, you’re doing amazing, love! <3 Thank you so much! <3
meandinkblog says
This is a lovely post!! And I thoroughly enjoyed reading it!!
I have only been blogging for just over a year and I definitely have ups and downs but I enjoy it so I keep trying.
To stay positive I definitely celebrate big and small achievements like you said– I think it is important. And getting involved in the book community more– which I am getting better at whether blog hopping or on twitter. It’s great to communicate with people especially over a shared love of books ?
One of my favourite parts of blogging is creating new ideas because when I first started I always felt so excited for a new idea or writing about this and even now I get that same feeling. And I love it. And of course engaging with people is always rewarding.
Lovely post!!! ??
Marie says
Ohh thank you, SO so happy you enjoyed it! <3 It really is amazing to communicate with people about books and scream about new and old releases and, just, find our kind of people. It's the best thing about it all, really 🙂
Thank you so much! <3 <3
meandinkblog says
I really did!! Yes it is I love talking about all the bookish content and occasionally screaming ? You’re welcome ?
Marie says
I always love to scream about books haha, always ? <3
Sophie Li says
Hey Marie!
I love this post and how you are honest and encouraging at the same time. Book blogging is full of ups and downs for me too, and everyday I feel like there is so much more that I should be doing. (For example I really really wanted to get into bookstagramming at one point too) But it just seems like there isn’t enough time in the day! I think I try to stay positive by reading books that I enjoy, without pressuring myself to read when I’m not feeling like it, and to write posts that I am excited and passionate about. I am really glad to participate in challenges this year (like the YARC reading challenge and the discussion post challenge) and I’m hoping to stretch out of my comfort zone and discover some new blogs out there!
Marie says
Oh thank you, Sophie, this means so much! <3 I'm always trying to be positive about it all and to remind myself of why I love it, even if the pressure gets to me, I guess all I have to do is try not to let it get to me too much haha 🙂
Thank you so,so much! I hope you'll find some fabulous new blogs! <3 <3
Stephanie says
I like to comment on other bloggers’ stuff too! I find that when I’m more excited about other creative things in my life, I am more exited about blogging.
Marie says
YAY! That’s so great to hear, it is so much fun to start up conversations with other bloggers 🙂
Thank you so much for your comment, Stephanie <3
Genni @ Ready, Set, Read! says
Marie, I absolutely love this post. I do blog hop, but sometimes I don’t have enough time to visit blogs and comment, let alone post content! I always get a little down in the dumps when university racks up because I don’t post as often and feel guilty about it! But like you said, I’m doing the most I can do without affecting my health. I’m definitely going to reflect more on what I’ve accomplished instead of looking at what more I could do! Also, seeing my old posts makes me super happy too, because I’ve come such a long way since my posts with no graphics, small print, and no voice!
I loved this post, Marie! Keep up the amazing work. <3
Marie says
Oh, having time to do it all is… well it’s always a little complicated haha, I think it’s imoprtant to see what we can do, reasonably, without getting too overwhelmed and prioritize what makes us happy, too, because in the end we are blogging for ourselves and it’s a hobby, it should be fun before anything else 😀
I’m so happy you’re proud of how far you’ve come, you should be! I hope you’ll keep on going and keep on loving it 🙂
Thank you so much for your sweet comment, Genni! <3
Malka @ Paper Procrastinators says
I honestly feel very lucky to co-blog with Chana. I think that having someone who gets just as excited as me about every goal we reach keeps us both motivated. It also helps that if one of us is busy, the other one is usually there to pick up the slack.
But even as a newer blog, I can relate. We had to take a hiatus a few months ago because school got too busy for us both and it was really demoralizing to come back and feel forgotten about. But I think what you said is true. Looking at my bookshelves, and posting on other people’s blogs and Instas when I had the time, helped me still feel like part of the community, even if my personal blog wasn’t running at the moment.
I absolutely adored this post!! ?
Marie says
This is amazing! It has to be so much fun to go through blogging together like that. I’m so lucky to have my sister occasionally co-blogging there and, even if she doesn’t post as much as I do, I feel lucky to have her helping me getting through all of my blogging moods and being so encouraging, too. It’s so good to have people like that around us! <3
It's often so hard to look back at our blogs when we were on hiatus. Stats will go down and everything but still, it is a bit demoralizing, but we should always remember that we love it, not because of the stats, but because of the BOOKS and community overall 😀
Thank you so, so much for your sweet comment, Malka, you're the sweetest <3 <3
Julianna @ Paper Blots says
This was such a heartwarming and lovely post, Marie!! ???? I can totally relate to that feeling where you’re proud of yourself.. and then you think about how you can do so, so much more but it’s also TIRING to do that much, but you feel guilty for not doing it & I’ve been struggling with it for a while. I love you and this blog, always.
Marie says
Ahhhh thank you so, so much Ju you’re too sweet!! I’m so happy you enjoyed it. I’m glad you could relate to this, it is exhausting to feel this way, but… I don’t know, I can’t really help it haha. Thank you for your love and support, this honestly means the world ??
Beth (Reading Every Night) says
I love this post Marie. 🙂 ❤️ I do think we’ve all felt like this (I know I have) and I tried the whole ‘posting everyday’ and ‘maintaining a Bookstagram account’ but honestly it was exhausting. When it comes to blogging we all just have to do what we can do but sometimes when stats are down and nothing seems to have changed it can be kind of gutting. I’ve felt that way many times and I loved your advice. Most times I just think of either taking a break or powering through what I’m feeling but all your points, especially the one about going back through old posts and seeing how far I’ve come, are great ones and I’ll definitely be remembering this for the future when I next feel this way. 🙂 ❤️
Marie says
Oh thank you, Beth, I’m so happy to hear you liked this post, thank you so much <3
I'm so happy if this could be helpful adn you're right, sometimes it's important to take a step back and remember all we've done so far already! 🙂
wordandsentence says
Maris this post is wonderful ! And don’t forget to remember that what you’re doing is truly amazing and that your posts really help me to feel happy when I’m sad ( and I’m sure a lot of other persons feel this way too ) <3 <3
Well, I don't really think that I am a really positive blogger ( I really suck at blogging anyway ) but I'll try to make some improvements in the future !
Sending you a lot of love <3
Marie says
Oh, oh you’re way too sweet I don’t deserve you ahh ?? thank you so much for your words, this means so much!
I’m certain that you do not suck at blogging at all! Everyone has their own way of blogging, their own rhythm and their own thing and you’re doing amazing, I believe in you and know that you are amazing. <3 I'm always here if you ever need to chat, about anything blogging! ?
Thank you so much for your sweet comment!
CG @ Paper Fury says
Aw I love this post!! So true and so important to remember truly! I often feel a bit overwhelmed/down with blogging,,, particularly when my blog sort of unintentionally capsized last year with my followers drifting away (I assume a lot of them just went onto other things lol but it was lonely!) and then my blog’s email followers widget breaking. Gah. So this year I’ve been determining to blog more and blog-hop more…but also with the promise that I can take days off. I can skip if I need to. ?Blogging is AMAZING but it’s also ok to just be a formless potato at times and take care of oneself!!
Marie says
This last sentence is something I need to print and hang on my walls or something to have that constant reminder haha, yes! I agree with you and definitely need to do better with that, you’re so right, it’s okay to skip if we need to, too <3
Thank you for your sweet comment, Cait, you're fabulous ?
Norrie says
Such good advice! I think it’s really important to take breaks. Not just from blogging, but from everything. Anything can become an unpleasant chore, so it’s best to go on the preventative way 🙂
Marie says
I 200% agree with you on that! 🙂
thank you so much for your comment, Norrie! <3
Sharing Inspired Kreations says
Love this post! I definitely struggle with these things at times. I just try to keep going, but I have taken a few breaks here and there too! Blogging is a hobby, so it should always be something we enjoy, right? I especially struggle with coming up with inspiration for discussion-type posts lately. I’m not sure why, but it’s been a little bit since I’ve actually posted one and that sucks and makes me feel negatively sometimes. But, for now, I’ll just keep posting my reviews and other posts until inspiration strikes once again!
Marie says
I agree, it should always be something we enjoy and when it gets too much, it’s good to reconsider things and just, try to relax. Something I’m having a hard time doing hahaha but doing my best 😛
I’m sorry to hear you’ve been struggling about this, I hope your inspiration will stike again soon! <3 <3
Thank you so, so much for your sweet comment <3
Emily @ Mixed Margins says
Thanks, Marie. I needed this. ❤ I’ve been blogging for 9 years now, and this past year I’ve gotten really burned out and just uninspired. So much work and so little to show for it in terms of stats, and that’s really discouraging. But going back and seeing all that work, it does make me feel accomplished. Blogging has been such a good creative outlet for me over the years that I don’t think I could ever truly consider it a waste of time.
By the way, I LOVE your new header. It’s stunning!
Marie says
9 YEARS?! Emily, that is AMAZING, wow, <3
I'm so sorry to hear you've been feeling uninspired and a little burned out about it all, lately and I hope that feeling will pass, you're doing amazing and just the fact that you kept on going for so long shows how much you enjoy this, so that's something to hold on to, as well <3 you're amazing, really! <3
Oh thank you!! I'm so happy you love it, thank you so much! 😀
Arini says
This is a really great post, and 100% relatable too! ?? I’m not that much of a big book blogger like you are (yet ??), but I go through the phases you do as well from time to time. I often question why I even bother wasting hours of my time working on a post that I highly doubt people would even pay attention to. It made me get a bit demotivated. ? But then I remembered that I’m doing what I do bcs I love doing it. So, I’m trying not to make myself worry to much about numbers. One of the things that I love about blogging is that it gets my creativity flowing and it helps keeping my writing on a practice. Thus, me doing blogging is mostly for my sake. ? Being able to interact with other bloggers is an added bonus. I love chatting through comments. I don’t mind about likes, but comments really make my day. There aren’t many people in my real life I can talk stuff about books with. ?♀️?
Marie says
You are way, way too sweet, I don’t feel like I am a big book blogger though, thank you so much for thinking that, that is so sweet! ???
I’m so, SO happy to hear that you’re loving it all and tht is makes you feel creative, too, that’s one of the best things about blogging for me, too! I just love how I can get some ideas, how I’ve improved my writing in English and how I feel like I’m doing something good (well, every now and then, always that self-doubt haha).
I’m all about comments, too, I LOVE THEM SO MUCH. IT’s so good to be able to chat about books with everyone, I agree! 😀
Thank you so, so much for your sweet comment!! ?
thebookishskies says
Marie, I love how your posts show up exactly when I need them. I love book blogging and I have a lot of fun blog hopping & writing my own posts, but I do feel bad about myself sometimes for not putting myself enough out there. Socializing is a struggle and sometimes I am not in the mood even to talk to people online. I definitely feel like I should be doing more to grow an audience & rise my numbers, but not always I have the means to remain positive.
Your post definitely inspired me! I look up to your blog a lot – as you may already know – and it’s great to know even amazing bloggers can feel the same way I do. (And to add to that: your hardwork is inspiring and you’re such a lovely human. You always embrace new bloggers and make sure they feel like they belong to the community, so thanks a lot for that, truly. No matter how big or small a blog is, you’re just as enthusiastic in your support.)
Anyway, your post helped me a lot! I’ll be following your advice and I’m going back to re-read my old posts now, just to remind myself why I’m doing this in the first place!
Marie says
Oh thank you so, so much Lais, it makes me so happy that this post could inspire you a little ?
And, aerm, excuse me while I tear up a little bit ?? you’re way, way too sweet, I’m doing my very best and I feel like I’m not doing enough a whole lot, this means so much that you think that way, thank you ??
I hope this post helps and know that I am always here if you want to rant about blogging or anything! You’re doing a fantastic job, really, I love your blog a lot <3
thebookishskies says
youre the bestttt????
Marie says
Aww, you are, I’m so lucky to have you and your support <3 <3
Adriana (@BooksOnHerMind) says
“I feel like I’m not doing enough and like I’m not enough.” – I know this feels. I’m currently thinking positively about my blog even though I want to change some things. It’s fine though. I’ll eventually get there. I don’t really do anything positive to make myself feel better about y blog so I’ll be taking your tips with me. I think I just need to chat with more book bloggers and I’ll feel fine by the end of it. I think being social with others is always helpful.
https://shesgotbooksonhermind.blogspot.com/
Marie says
I hope that these tips will help you! Trying to chat with other bloggers always helps me feel part of the community a little more and always makes me happier to blog, too 😀
Thank you so much for your comment! <3
Aurora Librialis says
This is such a wonderful, honest and inspiring post ❤️
It’s so clear how much time, effort and love you put into every single one of your posts and into interacting with your followers and supporting other bloggers. I feel like you’re everywhere, spreading so much love and positivity. It’s very inspiring ?
When things are kind of slow and I feel like nothing’s happening my first thought it always to work harder and put in more time and effort. Which is why it’s so frustrating when I’m already doing that and there’s still no change. It’s good to know I’m not the only one who feels that frustration or the pressure to always be doing more.
The blogging things that always make me happy are getting the first comment on a new post and blog-hopping! Interacting with other readers is my favorite thing about being a blogger ❤️
Marie says
Oh, oh thank you so much, you’re so, so sweet, this means a lot that you feel this way, thank you ??
I’m so with you on that – I always feel like I should be doing more, especially when things get a bit slow… but sometimes we just have no control over these things and it’s not our fault at all when things get slow, it can come from a lot of different things, everyone in exam, busy, summer, holidays or so on and people are less active, too.
I so agree with you on that! Interaction is my favorite thing about blogging overall, I love it so much <3
Thank you so, so much for your sweet comment! ?
Ash says
This is actually really great! It’s really hard to stay positive all the time, blogging can be really hard.
Marie says
It is hard at times, and it’s important to remember why we started it all 🙂
Thank you so much for your comment! <3
Bookish Rita says
Awww this is such a touching post. Your blog is one of my favorites and it’s one that I visit when I feel under the weather/like blogging isn’t for me. Your and Nyx’s writing, the (colorful and cheerful) books you pick, and how sweet you two are always makes me feel like blogging IS nice and cozy! I’m sending you all the love for you (and your blog) right now virtually! ?
Marie says
Ohhh thank you so much, you’re too sweet, this means SO much, thank you so, so much! ?? @nyxcorner ?
fitkittymama says
I love this!! I think we all get caught up in numbers and forget why we started in the first place sometimes. And focusing on the positives and what we love about blogging is what turns things around.
Marie says
Exactly! Thank you so much, I’m so happy you enjoyed this post 😀
Xandra @ Starry Sky Books says
Aw Marie, you are doing so much and are such an inspiration! ? but this is great advice for when we feel down about blogging. Blogging is supposed to be about interacting and sharing your passion with others, and having fun and being happy with it, so that is what really matters!
Marie says
Oh, oh thank you, you’re too sweet Xandra, this means SO much <3 <3 I agree, blogging is about having fun and letting our passion show that's what matters the most 🙂 <3
Kelly | Another Book in the Wall says
What’s funny is how I’ve been in a bit of a blogging funk, even though I should be excited about blogging rn! I think I overexerted myself when I was migrating my blog, and I haven’t been able to find that rhythm again. I’m hoping that soon I’ll be able to discover what schedule I want to stick to, and see how I feel from there!
This is such a lovely post as always, Marie! Thanks for sharing! ??
Marie says
Oh no!I’m so sorry to hear that, Kelly, I hope you will be able to find your rhythm again. It’s always good to take a step back, a little break, or just to slow down and take some time to find out how you want to continue with it all. I hope you’ll be able to get out of that funk soon! <3
Thank you so, so much for your sweet comment! <3
S. J. Pajonas (spajonas) says
My blog, in general, makes me happy. It’s a place to be me and talk about what I’m doing. I stopped looking at comment numbers and page views and traffic and all that stuff ages ago (I’ve been blogging since 2003, so…) and just focused on ‘my space.’ I’m an author, though, so there’s plenty to obsess about there with reviews, review numbers, books sold, income made. My blog is almost an oasis!
Marie says
That’s so great! It’s so important to try and step back from the numbers to focus on why we really enjoy it and to just, keep on doing it for the love of it overall 🙂
Thank you so much for your comment! 🙂
Melina Elisa says
preach girl, seriously preach! I think this is a post that any blogger can relate to, not just book bloggers! Great post Marie xx
Melina | http://www.melinaelisa.com
Marie says
Oh thank you so, so, SO much Melina, this means a lot <3
abby // whenwordsfly.com says
okay i read the title as ‘how to stay alive while book blogging’ and i didn’t even question it. i just clicked. that post would be just as relevant as this one.
after that special behind the scenes tidbit, OMG THIS POST BLESSES MY LIFE. i’ve been feeling under the weather when it comes to blogging since recently i have less time to imput than i used to, which results in lower-quality posts and less blog hopping. reading this post in itself should be on the list of ways to feel better because it’s so nice to feel less alone.
asdfdsdfkkj ?? in all this post is just. spectacular. very good job, marie
Marie says
omg ?? well I can’t say that this blog post title didn’t cross my mind because it did ??
I’m so, so happy to hear this post could help you, you are definitely NOT alone in this and you’re doing fantastic! sometimes we just, can’t do as much as we would like to, but it should be okay, too. We’re doing our best and it’s a hobby, we shouldn’t stress out too much and try to see all the positives <3
thank you so much ahh this means so much, you're too sweet abby, thank you!! <3
Marta says
Thank you, Marie! I’ll be sure to use this advice. This past week I’ve been trying to fix my college schedule for this semester, so I can properly fit blogging in it. Last semester, I thought I would have to quit blogging because I organized my time badly and never had time to read, write, blog hop, share … And so I took a mandatory hiatus. Ever since my exams ended, I’ve been focusing on my blog more, but the numbers are really disheartening. I just hope I can manage it all now! I would love to go back to bookstagram, but it’s like you said – I could never dedicate 100% to it.
Marie says
Oh I understand how disheartening it can be after a small break, but that break was necessary, too, so no regrets. You’ll find your rhythm again and you’ll do FANTASTIC, I am certain of it all <3 Keep on going, Marta <3
Thank you so, so much for your sweet comment! <3
Marta says
Thank you so much for your kind words <3 <3
Marie says
Of course, you’re welcome love! <3
May @ Forever and Everly says
Marie, I’m in love with this post!! I really do think that it can get super discouraging when things don’t go the way they expect or stats start declining. It definitely helps me to blog hop and interact with other bloggers because having conversations with them always makes me happy! (Which is funny, since that very interaction is what I’ve been doing horribly at for a long time haha.)
And I love your tip of looking back on old posts! I do it often, actually, and while it makes me want to shrivel up in embarrassment, I also love to see how I’ve changed and improved and become better because of the continuous work and effort I put in. I love this post, Marie!! <3
Marie says
Oh thank you so, so much May, you’re so sweet, this means a lot that you enjoyed it <3
I'm with you, having conversations always make me so happy, but we don't always have the time to properly do that, too and while it's frustrating, self-care matters more. That's something I'm trying to work on haha 🙂
Oh I'm with you on that! Reading old posts make me cringe a little bit, but also it makes me see how far I've gone and how I've improved and it's so motivating to see that. Thank you so much!! <3
Kyra says
I LOVE YOUR BLOG SO MUCH. <3
I love blogging, but I just haven't had time lately. The past three weeks I really haven't had time to blog because my dog has been so sick, and our daily lives have completely changed now that she has diabetes. I know that because I haven't been able to be as involved in the community, the views and comments are going to drastically drop, which is quite frustrating. Sometimes it's hard to balance everything, right?
I definitely find reading my old reviews and posts helps. It reminds me how much I love it and why I do what I do. 🙂
Marie says
Oh Kyra you’re too sweet to me thank you SO MUCH ahhh <3 <3 <3
I'm so sorry to hear about your dog, I'm sending tons of positive vibes and love your way <3
I get how frustrating it can be, but sometimes we can't do it all either and some things matter more than blogging, in the end, too <3
I'm so happy you're reminded of why you love it while reading old posts as well, yay! <3 <3
Thank you so much for your sweet comment, Kyra <3
The Candid Cover says
Blog hopping is definitely my way of staying positive! I love the interactions we all have and posts like these make me feel like I’m not alone. My biggest thing right now is trying to figure out how to fix all of my Google images. Thanks for this lovely post, Marie! 🙂
Marie says
Oh you are not alone at all <3 And yes, the interactions are the best part of it all, I agree! 🙂
thank you so much for your sweet comment! 🙂
Beware Of The Reader says
Interesting and honest post here Marie! Well when I feel low I take some time away because most of the time I am just tired and need to rest. I blog hop and I also re read all the interviews authors had gifted me with. And I am once more amazed and humbled at the welcome some authors have for bloggers and readers. I also try to make more bookstagrams because that’s an outlet for my creativity and then I am back on the saddle. I don’t want to burn out so I know that I have to take time out to come back with joy and pleasure.
Marie says
Thank you so much, Sophie, so glad you enjoyed it! 🙂
It is so important to take time for ourselves and to rest, too – and yes! it’s so great to read interview authors, that has to be amazing and to know you had so many great opportunities, too, I love that. <3
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! 🙂
Alyssa @ breadreadsbooks says
I am just starting to come back after a year long break and I needed this post. I am always so self conscious with my blog and I always don’t feel like I am a worthy blogger.
Thank you for this lovely post and boost of confidence.
Marie says
Oh you’re so welcome, I’m glad if this could help! <3 It is always hard to get back to it after a break, but I am certain you'll find your rhythm again and, if you're writing it all and doing it with passion, it shows <3 I'm certain you're doing amazing, keep on going <3
Thank you for such a sweet comment <3
Ola says
I had a bit of downtime with my blogging recently, but I came back and I found that editing graphic for my blog posts is very much relaxing for me, those are never too complicated things so I don’t get frustrated with them, I just enjoy time spend on creating them.
Marie says
Oh that’s so great! It’s good to focus on the things that make you the happiest! 🙂
Thank you so much for your sweet comment! 🙂
Kaleena @ Reader Voracious says
This is a great post, Marie! I think a lot of bloggers get so disheartened with blogging for a variety of factors, and we don’t talk about it enough in the community to normalize the fact that blogging slumps happen, too. And that’s okay!
I love the suggestions you have, especially blog hopping & taking a break. For me the best form of blogging self-care is scheduling ahead and hopping as much as possible, but not beating myself up about it when I get behind.
Marie says
I agree that it’s important to talk about these things and be completely honest with them, too. It happens and it’s okay! <3
Thank you! I'm so happy that you enjoyed this post adn yay for scheduling haha, it's always a life saver for me 🙂
Aline @ Fully Booked says
Oh, this is SUCH an amazing post Marie! I haven’t been blogging for very long, but in the time I found your blog, I’ve seen how much care you put into your posts and how much time you must spend blog hopping and interacting in the blogosphere in general! It’s so admirable, especially since you’ve been doing it for so long. ❤️ Your posts are so amazing, I appreciate you and your blog so much! Because I’ve only started blogging basically, I haven’t really paid too much attention to the stats (because they’re not going to be great no matter what haha), but I can totally get how it can be discouraging. But your tips were so great, and I love how you’re spreading positivity in the blogosphere despite the more difficult parts of it! <3
Marie says
Oh, oh Aline you’re such a sweetheart, thank you SO much for your sweet words, they mean THE world ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
I think it’s important to try and step away from the numbers, I know that I have the hardest time doing so, but at the same time, they tend to make us sad about blogging, too and… we’re here for the fun and to scream about books ❤️
Thank you so, so much!! ❤️
Nicole @ Feed Your Fiction Addiction says
No matter how much we love blogging, there are always times that we feel like we could or should be doing more. I definitely find myself falling prey to those moments of anxiety where I can’t keep up with everything and I feel like I’m failing at certain things. But you give some great advice here on how to combat that!
Marie says
I’m so glad to hear it happens to you, too, makes me feel less alone ❤️ thank you, I’m so happy you enjoyed this post!! ❤️
Amanda @Cover2CoverMom says
What a lovely post Marie!
What do you do to stay positive when you’re feeling a little down about blogging? Do you have any tips and tricks?
When I am feeling down about blogging, I actually like to watch BookTube…. I don’t know what it is about BookTube that just inspires me to work on my blog.
I also like to sit down & draft some creative content ideas when I’m feeling down about blogging. This always gets me back into the mood to blog because I’m excited about what I’m working on.
I’ll go read. Eventually I’ll read a book I need to talk about, then I’ll start blogging again. It’s a cycle.
What is the thing that never fails at making you happy when you blog?
Every time I hit the publish button, I feel joy. I think if you blog for yourself first, blogging will make you happy. If you are blogging for stats or for others, blogging isn’t going to be as enjoyable. I’ve now been blogging for 3 years this month, and I’ve come to learn to take off all pressure on blogging and just blog to make myself happy 🙂
Marie says
Oh that’s amazing! I don’t really watch booktube, but I bet it has to give you so much inspiration, this is such a good tip 🙂
I’m so, so happy to hear this, this is my ultimate goal, too and if I’m still caring too much about stats and stupid things, I’m also enjoying it more and trying to focus on what makes me happier more and more and it’s been, well I’ve been slowly feeling a little more relaxed and happier about it all, too 🙂
thank you so, so much Amanda! <3 <3
Gayathri Lakshminarayanan says
This is such a fabulous post and at the right moment, at least for me. I have been feeling a bit of a burn out lately and this came in at the right time. Blog hopping usually helps and so does reading my old posts. Fabulous piece of advice, Marie.
Marie says
Oh I’m so sorry to hear you’ve been feeling a little burned out! I hope this helped a little bit and that you’ll feel the motivation again soon! Take care of yourself <3 <3
Thank you so much for your sweet comment <3
Fadwa @ Word Wonders says
What I’m realizing lately is that we ALL feel this way whereas before i thought i was alone in feeling down about blogging and like i’m not enough, should be doing more, etc… so thank you for this, Marie!
Lots of love to you ❤
Marie says
I’m so, so glad we are not alone in this. I guess we’re all doing our best and, as long as we enjoy it, that’s what matters <3
Thank you so much! <3 <3
StackingMy BookShelves says
Amazing post. Sometimes it is hard and life does happen. I totally agree if you don’t want, like doing it anymore – DON’T. Take a break if you still feel like that – maybe it’s time to give it up. Be done with it.
Mary
Marie says
Oh thank you for your comment, Mary, I’m glad you enjoyed the post 🙂
theorangutanlibrarian says
Brilliant and super important post! I think it’s so important to take breaks (even if I always feel guilty about it) And I really relate to not being able to do more- cos like you said, we’re human (well most of us anyway 😉 )
Marie says
Ugh right there with you, the guilt is always there, but it’s so important to take breaks when we feel like we’re about to burn out, too. We’re here to have fun! 🙂
Thank you so much!! <3
Keira says
So relatable though…
Marie says
I’m glad you could relate a little bit 🙂 thank you for your comment, Keira! <3
Elise @thebookishactress says
Love your tip about going through old posts, Marie! sometimes it’s so hard and so important to get that motivation back, and I really loved this acknowledgement of that <3
Marie says
Oh thank you so, so much, Elise, I’m so happy you enjoyed this post❤❤
(shri) sunandchai says
thanks for writing this!! i really love reading about how other bloggers deal with the slumps and manage to stay positive because i know it’s something i’ve been struggling with too only 2 months into the experience. this was very well written and inspirational.
Marie says
Oh thank you so much for your sweet comment, I’m so happy you enjoyed it <3 I hope you'll keep on finding the positives in your experience and keep on loving it all <3
Elley says
I needed this today. 🙂 I like to read through the posts in the Discussion Challenge link-up hosted by Feed Your Fiction Addiction and It Starts at Midnight to give myself a blogging boost. It helps me to connect with other bloggers and see how they’re doing, and I love how real everyone gets in their discussion posts.
Marie says
Ohhh yes, this is such a great tip! I love reading other bloggers’ posts and sometimes it’s so inspiring and makes me feel so happy to be part of this community 🙂
Thank you so much!! <3
Cristina @ Girl in the Pages says
This post was so timely for me, as I’ve recently been feeling a little fatigued with blogging! I love doing it but it’s so hard to feel like I’m staying relevant, especially after 5+ years and still not having the thousands upon thousands of followers it seems other people have on platforms such as instagram! I appreciate when bloggers are transparent about there feelings about blogging because it helps remind us all that it’s ok to feel overwhelmed by this whole blogging thing no matter how much we love doing it. Wonderful post!
Marie says
Oh I’m really glad this post found you at the right time <3 I agree that it can be a bit disheartening to see how fast bookish people are growing when they're on social media such as instagram, compared to a good old blog haha. It's so important to remind ourselves that it's okay to feel a little overwhelmed at times, it doesn't mean we don't love it anymore, it happens! 🙂
Thank you so much for your sweet comment, Cristina <3
Hana Bilqisthi says
This is really great post Marie ??✨
Love it ?? I am currently taking a break from book blog but I still do blog hopping and it remind me the exciment of book blogging
Marie says
Oh thank you so much Hana! I hope that you’ll find your enthusiasm for blogging again soon!! <3
ioana @dragonwaffles says
MARIE YET AGAIN COMING THROUGH WITH THE WISEST BESTEST POSTS OUT THERE! And a sprinkle of Gifs ?! Your discussion posts always feel like you opened up my head, found a blogging insecurity and decided to write something full of positivity about it! This really made me feel better (but that’s nothing new when I read your posts now is it? ?)! From now on when I feel down about taking frequent breaks I’ll think “Marie will be disappointed with me rn, WHAT WOULD MARIE DO” – foolproof magical way of making a blogger feel better.
Marie says
Ahhh you’re too sweet, thank you so, so much, this means SO muchh ahh I’m going to be all emotional, I don’t deserve your love and support <3 <3 <3
Solace In Reading says
I am on a break right now even though I started a month ago, and it is really helpful! At first, I tried posting everyday, but it just did not work for me. My new plan is to post every other day, or at least 3-4 times a week because I am still in high school.
Marie says
I’m glad taking a break has helped you! What matters the most is listening to yourself and post whenever you can feel like it and at a rhythm you can handle, with everything else 🙂