My top 5 tips to interact with the book blogging community

Hi friends! I’m sending you all the love, positive and healthy vibes and hope you’re all taking care of yourselves and your loved ones ❤️.

It’s been a little over a month since I wrote a blog post about blogging and today, I thought I’d talk about a topic I’ve had in mind for a little while, now : interaction and engagement in the book blogging community.

I started book blogging to find people just like me, loving books so much and wanting to scream about them… only to realize, at first, that interacting wasn’t that easy… especially when you’re kind of made of 80% of anxiety.

After a few years, though, I figured out some little things about interacting that I now use as important reminders, whenever I feel a little burned out, a little overwhelmed and sometimes, yes, a little annoyed about interacting.

So today, I’m sharing my top 5 tips to interact with the blogging community! I really hope these can be helpful to some of you and, if you have some more, please feel free to share them with me in comments!

1. Find your own place(s) to interact with the community

These days, the bookish community isn’t just in one place. You have:

  • Book bloggers,
  • Bookstagrammers,
  • Book twitter(ers?)

Maybe there are other bookish places I’m missing out (if so, feel free to let me know!). These, for me right now, are the three main places where bookish people find each other, chat with each other and gently shove book recommendations down each other’s throats.

All of these places are different, in their ways to talk about books and in their ways of interacting. Social media, instagram and twitter, have more of a fast paced, instant connection, while good old book blogs are maybe a little slower, comments getting a little out of fashion sometimes, for some people. That does not mean you should stop interacting on book blogs. I’m always and will always encourage comments on book blogs because they certainly for me, have this little something special.

ANYWAY. My first tip to interact is to find the place(s) you are most at ease with. I’m not saying you can’t juggle between one, two, three spaces, if you have the time and energy and can do it all, well I admire you VERY MUCH. Yet, I feel like it’s important to know how to pick your spaces. HOW, you ask? Well… there’s no right answer here, some people know right away they will pick social media, some others will have to give it a try before deciding it’s for them, or not at all.

Some people won’t be made for the fast-paced world of book twitter (and its dramas, sometimes), some people won’t feel like they’re able to keep up with instagram, some people just can’t be bothered to leave comments on blogs anymore.

You do you.

Personally? I mostly interact on book blogs, with good old blog comments. I sometimes interact on book twitter, too. I have a personal instagram, but not a bookish one and therefore, I just stare at my favorite bookstagrammers in awe and don’t interact there. Also, well I need more time to do it all and personally, I can’t.

☂️ Related blog post: How do you like to interact with the book blogging community?

2. Find your own pace to engage with the bookish community

Once you have the places, you need to have the right pace, too. It’s so, so easy to get overwhelmed with engagement, friends.

There are thousand, thousands of book bloggers out there on every platform. I find new ones every day.

It’s easy to want, to feel like you have to be everywhere all at once, to be interacting with the community 24/7 to feel like you’re part of it.

Let me tell you this: it took me like 5 years of blogging before figuring out it’s okay not to be there all the time. It’s okay to take breaks, it’s okay not to interact, to leave comments unanswered for days (even if it still makes my skin itch with anxiety) and more.

Some people are okay with interacting every day with the community. Some people need breaks, too. We all need breaks, too, sometimes. We’re all human.

Overwhelmed? Maybe take two days to answer to your comments before jumping into it. Ignore twitter or instagram notifications for just a little while and see what happens.

What happens is nothing. People, at least the ones that matter, will still be there when you answer two days later, in a better headspace or just when you actually feel like interacting.

That’s what you need to remember (and I do, too) from this paragraph: interact and engage when you feel like it, not because you feel like some invisible being is telling you to. You’ll feel better for it.

Important note on blog hopping and commenting back on blogs:

There is no right or wrong, here, really. Some people are really into blog hopping and do it a whole lot. Other bloggers will leave this task for once a month or every now and then. Other bloggers will never, ever blog hop.

I’m not going to tell you blog hopping isn’t good, I’m not going to tell you getting comments back isn’t appreciated. I personally love both, but there is no obligation for anything here. Book blogging is a hobby and, if you ask me, your blog’s success, and your own image in the community, does not depend on whether or not you have made time to blog hop in the past week. We’re all busy okay.

3. Engage when you actually have something to say.

I used to think I had to interact with every blogger out there, just because….. I don’t know. I don’t even know how to finish that sentence.

It’s stupid. Really, and it’s a waste of time.

We can’t have everything in common with every blogger out there and, when you’re grasping at straws for something to say…. just leave it there. There are book reviews out there for books I haven’t read and am not interested in. There are tweets I don’t need to interact with, posts I’m just not interested at all. No offense to any blogger out there, of course! I just, don’t read any horror books for instance, so… this is not my place, nor my need or want to interact, here. I’m not going to force myself, just for the sake of it.

Try to engage with relevant content, for you, content where you actually have something to say. The kind of content where you feel like you can bring something more, whether it’s a little more fangirling about a book, a conversation about something you want to read, a discussion about anything, really.

Okay, but what if I like the content, I really do, but I have nothing to say about it?

If you still like the content, it’s still good to do something about it. It means a lot to the blogger out there and, really, even the smallest thing can make a difference in someone’s day. You can:

  • Like the post, tweet, instagram post,
  • Share it on social media, retweet it, show appreciation for it in your instagram stories,
  • Share it on your blog, in a monthly wrap-up, a link-up of your favorite posts, etc.

If you can afford it, you can also show your appreciation for people’s work by tipping them with a ko-fi, if they have one, buying something off their book wishlist, for instance.

Also self-promotion just for the sake of it, I happen to have a ko-fi and a wishlist, you know. Just, if you apprecite my work, thought I’d put it out there. Okay, bye.

No matter what, it costs just a minute of your time to tell the blogger you enjoy their work and it could turn an entire day, week, life around, so think about doing that.

4. Put yourself out there… and be yourself

I know how hard it can be to put yourself out there, believe me. Confidence time: it took me a long time to get away from the sidelines, where I watched bloggers interact and become fast friends and so on.

I still have a long way to go to interact a little more freely on social media, too, if I’m being honest.

I also found out that 99% of the time (not writing 100% here because, well, people), people in the bookish community are kind and welcoming and ready to talk about books with you if you manage to click send on that tweet.

I know sometimes you will get ignored, some people won’t ever answer or want to interact with you and it’s sad, but it happens.

I also know it’s goddamn hard to put that anxiety aside and the whole overthinking about what if I send this and what if I write that.

Some times, you will find people that might just end up being some of the closest friends you ever have. So just put yourself out there and be your whole, fangirling self about the things that you love.

5. Remember to have fun

It’s hard not to care about something you love so much. For me, at least, it is. I adore blogging with all my heart and it brought me so, so much more than I ever thought it would. Yet, because of that, I care a whole damn lot about it all and I tend to overthink and stress out and it’s hard to blog with anxiety, at times.

Always, always remember to have fun.

I want to smile when I answer to comments and comment on blog posts and most days, I do, because I just love engaging with the blogging community so much.

I want YOU to smile when you’re interacting with the book blogging community. I want YOU to genuinely enjoy yourself when you’re answering to comments, tweeting, instagramming or whatever it is you prefer doing.

This, really, is what matters the most.

☂️ You might also be interested in: Why don’t you comment on blog posts?

 

What do you think of my tips? Do you used to (or still) feel like you have to be present and interact a whole damn lot? Do you also get a little bit anxious about interacting?

Do you have some tips on interacting and engaging in the bookish community? I’d love to chat in comments!

 

 

 

 

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100 thoughts on “My top 5 tips to interact with the book blogging community

  1. I agree with them Marie (even if as of today I can’t seem to reply to comments from the post self but just from the admin panel sigh). I only comment when I have something to say. Not a generic comment but one that truly relates to the post. I used to comment and reply every day but it was exhausting. Now I do it two or three times a week and take the time to do it properly.
    I prefer interacting on WordPress or on Instagram. These are my two favoritesplatforms.

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    1. Ah that’s so weird! I hope the problem works out soon 😦
      I agree with you! I used to interact a whole lot and especially blog hop a lot more, but it got exhausting and made me feel burned out and less enthusiastic about it all. I feel so much better now that I take my time with it 🙂
      Thank you so much, Sophie 🙂

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  2. I love it when you do posts like these, because I feel like you are really an angel when it comes to interaction in the community. Thanks for always sharing with everyone else how you do things and through that spreading the positivity a little bit. I also totally agree that you don’t HAVE to interact with anyone!! I think that’s a lesson we all had to learn (sometimes the hard way) during our blogging careers.

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    1. Oh Kat 😭 you’re too sweet thank you so, so much, this means a lot 😭
      I am still learning it a bit every day, sometimes old habits come back ahah. I’m trying to do my best and focus on how I feel and interact at the pace that makes me feel comfortable, too. I just feel much happier this way 🙂

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  3. I totally agree about saying things/commenting for the sake of it and not actually cause you have something to say. I loved this post because the community is my favourite part about having my blog and I really want to get more into participating in the community

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    1. Ahh thank you Marley, I’m so happy this could be helpful! 🙂 I get that, it can be a little daunting at first and there are SO many people, it’s so hard to know where to start. Take your time and I’m sure you’ll find your place and pace 🙂

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  4. Great post! Discussion posts mostly give a lot to talk about so I comment there without doubt. I also comment on review whenever I feel like saying something and always share posts when I don’t have anything to say, which I do a lot. I interact on blog and Instagram. Twitter is good but I don’t like limited word count.

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    1. Thank you so much! I agree, discussion posts always inspire me to comment a little bit more, because… well there is so much more to say sometimes! 🙂
      Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts! 🙂

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  5. Great post and great tips! 🙂 When I first started bookblogging I felt I really had to comments on everyone I came across – and I got exhausted. Now I have an okay balance, I think. I like making instagram posts, but I’m not that interested in other people’s pictures, so I just create on there and put it out for other people to look at, and really try to engage on bookblogs (mostly also because I have more to say there!) It took a while to find that balance but I think I did it 🙂

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    1. Thank you so, so much, so happy you liked it! 🙂
      I agree, it can quickly get exhausting to keep up with it all. It’s so important to find our right balance with it, in order not to burn out too hard 🙂
      Thank you so much!! 🙂

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  6. I love your point about not having to blog hop all the time. It can sometimes feel like there’s so much pressure to comment on every single blog, but realistically no one has time for that! I always have to remind myself to just do what I can ❤

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    1. I’m so glad you agree, Holly. I used to feel this pressure all the time and, still do sometimes. It’s important to remember that we’re all human and we should do what’s best for us, too 🙂
      thank you so much! ❤

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  7. Really great post. I remember being quite overwhelmed at first, especially since there are so many wonderful people to chat with. A lot of the reason why I left Twitter was there was just too much social media for me lol! I comment a lot here but I have a lot of DMs in the instagram world. So those are my two main methods. Wonderfully done!

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    1. Oh thank you, Jenna, so happy you liked it ❤
      I agree, it's so overwhelming at first! There are just so many bloggers to chat with everywhere, it's hard to keep up, or know how to.
      Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts!! 🙂

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  8. I love this post, and I think it’s very timely – we do need to stay connected right now. 💜 Finding your place is so important! I used to believe that I needed to be EVERYWHERE, on twitter, instagram, and other blogs – and that really didn’t work for me. I don’t like to say it because so many people put so much work into it, but man, I hate bookstagram. 😅 It never really brought me joy, and yet I kept on doing it because I thought it was part of having a blog.. smh. I also agree with only engaging with what you are interested in – besides what you said, I think it shows when someone is only commenting for the sake of commenting. (I experienced that with weekly memes, like TTT, which did contribute to me giving up on them.)

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    1. Thank you, Veronika, I’m so happy you liked it ❤ ❤
      Right? I used to believe that too, that I needed to be all the damn time everywhere, but I just can't realistically keep up, and my mental health can't handle it either 😅 I get that about bookstagram. I personally love pictures there and…. well, I still feel like I should get a bookstagram account because it feels like it's needed as a book blogger right now. But I don't know. I don't know if I'd appreciate it ahah.
      Thank you so, so much for your comment Veronika ❤ ❤

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  9. I definitely do most of my interacting through blog comments too. I’d love to be better at Twitter, but I should probably just resign myself to the fact that it just isn’t for me.
    And I totally agree with you about finding your own pace (I’m super slow with everything – that’s probably why I can’t deal with Twitter!) and only engaging when you have something to say. Sometimes just liking or sharing a post is OK! 🙂

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    1. I’m glad to hear that! I do most of my interacting this way and I love it, but I feel a little “old school” when I say that ahah 🙂
      Thank you so, so much, Laura! 🙂

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  10. I hope you’re staying safe Marie! 🙂
    I enjoyed reading this! I agree sometimes it’s hard to keep track of everything… I find Twitter so hard because it moves way faster than I do 😛
    I love commenting on blogs because I find it the easiest way to get to know a blogger. You can have some really meaningful conversations in the comments!
    I also agree with you, that if I find I don’t have anything to say on a blog post (without sounding redundant and boring, you know?)
    Again, a lovely post! ❤️

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    1. Doing my best. I hope you are, too, Meghan, sending you all the love ❤ ❤
      Right? Some platforms feel so fast and like, a little overwhelming ahah 🙂 I prefer how slow-paced comments are and how I can ramble on like that, too, haha 🙂
      Thank you so, so much! ❤ I'm so happy you liked this.

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      1. Aw thank you Marie! ❤️ Receiving your love, and sending you mine! 💞
        As much as I love Twitter, it’s SUPER overwhelming. I check it 2-3 times a day and it boggles me how many tweets go out!
        I love rambling, haha! 😀
        You’re very welcome! ☺️

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  11. I use the like and share on twitter buttons a lot on blogs. It helps so I don’t have to type out a lot of long comments to show that I enjoyed the content. I mostly interact on blogs and facebook (TBR and Beyond group). I’m on twitter and instagram, too. I just prefer the first two.

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  12. I love this post so much 😄!
    I also prefer commenting on blog posts! It feels more personal somehow, kinda like someone let you into their home and you’re complimenting their sense of design (a bad metaphor but the only one I could think of lol 😅). I only just made a Twitter, and it’s both exciting and terrifying to think of how many more users there are to interact with than on book blogs haha. And that part of engaging when you have something to say really got me! It’s been a few years now, and I STILL get scared to comment on blog posts I really love because I get intimidated 😅. But, I do make a point to like the posts at least so I’m a half-silent follower haha. It’s nice having Twitter now also so that I can at least show my appreciation by sharing posts too 😁.
    Really great tips, Marie 🙂!

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    1. OH thank you so much Belle, so happy you liked this post! ❤
      I so agree with you, I feel like commenting on blogs directly feels… a little personal and I like it this way ahha 🙂 and I get being intimidated, it still happens to me a whole lot more than I'd like to admit 😅😅
      Thank you so much!! ❤

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  13. WOWOWOWOW This post is *chief’s kiss*

    Honestly, I needed this so much right now. I love this community, but I struggle so much to know the best way for me to interact with people. Keeping up with social media causes me anxiety about 99% of the time (I’m looking at you Twitter), and if I’m being honest, sometimes even answering blog comments feels too overwhelming. But I LOVE the book community and I want to talk with all the lovely people who have showered me with their love and support.

    Your points about having fun and finding your own pace especially spoke to me today. Thank you so much for this amazing post, Marie! You always have the best discussion posts 💛

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    1. Ahh thank you thank you Kat, you’re WAY too sweet, I’m just so happy you enjoyed this and that this could be a timely post for you, too ❤
      I so get that. Keeping up with everything can feel so damn overwhelming, really and it's best sometimes to just… well, take a step back when we can't handle it all. ❤
      Thank you so, so much ahh, this made my day ❤

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  14. I agree that we need to pick the spaces where we engage. It’s so easy to get overwhelmed with everything that’s out there. I love the alternatives you suggest for when we like a post but simply have nothing to say. I want to comment to show blogger love, but sometimes I can’t think of something meaningful to say in response. When “Love this!” doesn’t feel like enough, next time I’ll share a post on Twitter or a wrap-up post.

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    1. I’m glad I’m not the only one feeling this way. There are so many different places to interact, it can get so overwhelming sometimes. And when we want to share some love, sometimes we just don’t know how to. I’m so, so happy this could help! Thank you so, so much ❤

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  15. yesss… this post was so helpful! i can totally relate with you about feeling pressured to comment on every single blog post you read and respond to blog comments right away, but i’m slowly learning that if i blog-hop too much, i burn myself out and can’t continue to think of positive or encouraging things to say. thanks for this lovely reminder to have fun while blogging and interact at your own pace! ❤

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  16. I SO NEEDED THIS POST RIGHT NOW IN MY LIFE!!! THANK YOU!!!

    picking a platform to interact with the community with is such a great piece of advice. i was just thinking about this a while ago and it’s so important to find your space on whatever platform you use. trying to balance all three at a very consistent level is REALLY tiring for me so i loved your advice about keeping active while staying sane lol

    another great tip on bloghopping, i agree so much with what you said. i definitely doesn’t work for everyone and it can be really daunting and exhausting to be consistently commenting and replying to every post you pass by. finding that balance and engaging when you want to is so important

    this was such an amazing post, you’re always so eloquent with your discussion posts and i truly loved reading this one ❤️

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    1. AH this makes me so so happy thank you SO much!! ❤ ❤ ❤

      I'm really glad you found this useful. I still make the mistake of thinking I need to be, like, everywhere all at once, even though I know I reasonably just can't handle it all ahah.

      Thank you so, so, so much for your sweet words, this means so much that you enjoyed this and my discussion posts so much ahh, thank you ❤ ❤ ❤

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  17. These are such great tips! I tend to interact through blog comments because Twitter is a little too fast for me and I don’t use Instagram all that often. But I do think I could do better at Twitter because I tend to use it to put any thoughts out there and unfortunately those thoughts can be really negative most of the time 🙃

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    1. Ahh thank you Louise, so glad you liked this! 🙂
      I feel like we all have our own ways of using social media, too! I know personally I use it more in a way to promote my blog than to share personal things, but some others do and that’s also how they make tons of close friends, too 🙂

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  18. I try to interact as much as possible, because I know how nice it is to get a comment. I also know how time consuming blogging is, and even though you choose to do it and even though sometimes a post isn’t that great, it still took a lot of time to put it out there and I want to acknowledge that.
    My biggest worry is that I’m being annoying or that my comment isn’t saying much. Sometimes I don’t know what else to say but: “Great post!” and it feels inadequate. So I think it’s important for everyone to know, myself included, that a comment like that is okay too!

    I love the be yourself advice, and I think it also applies to the first one. I tried bookstagram, I tried Twitter, but I’m still overwhelmed. So for now, I just stick to interacting on the blogs, because that works for me 🙂

    Anyway, love the tips and the post! ❤

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    1. I’m the same way! I love and want to interact a lot, because I know just how appreciated a comment can be, I love them SO much ❤ But sometimes it's so time consuming and hard to keep up with, too.

      YES! Definitely agree. Even if your comment is simple, any comment and time you took to put it out is always a great show of appreciation and I personally always enjoy it. Or, any like, share, mention of a post in a wrap-up or something is always so appreciated,too. There are different ways to show your love even if you feel like you don't have much to say, too 🙂

      Thank you so much!! 🙂

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  19. Ahhhhhhh, I empathize with this post so much!! I get some pretty bad anxiety sometimes when I don’t respond to comments right away or don’t blog hop for a few weeks, but now, I know I only have time about once a week to really check and sometimes, it goes on for even longer! But sometimes, you just gotta accept the schedule and lifestyle you NEED to do, even if it’s not the ideal of what you want to do. And your point of “nothing happens” if you wait is such a good reminder! I thought everyone was going to be so mad when I stopped responding to comments immediately, only to log on after, like, a MONTH, and…no one was upset. And people still responded and still had conversation, even though it’d been literal weeks since they had written.

    So, going at your pace is not only totally okay, but necessary. And thanks for writing a post exactly about that. ❤

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    1. Ahh I’m glad you can relate, Nicole ❤ I'm the same way. I feel very bad when I don't take the time to catch up or when I just can't, but… well sometimes life takes over or I just feel burned out and I don't want to force myself to interact, either… I feel like it'd make me hate it ahah.
      Thank you so much, I'm just so happy I'm not the only one feeling this way ❤

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      1. Oooh, exactly! Because of how much comments on posts mean to me, I used to tell myself that I HAD to comment on any post I loved, but sometimes, it just…isn’t necessary. Or my heart’s not in it and you can tell those sorts of things.

        This post was great. ❤

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  20. Such an amazing post as always, Marie! I really needed it 🥺 I’ve been on book twitter for over a year now, and I’m still having trouble with how I want to use it. Like you said, it’s way more fast-paced than book blogs, which I struggle with. I don’t always want to reply to the engagement I get on Twitter, and I feel *so guilty* because I know that some people were expecting a reply.:(
    there are also some days wherein I just don’t want to interact, and again, i feel very guilty about it. I know that most people don’t mind, but I know that some are expecting a reply from me, and inevitably. I’ll let someone down.
    Interacting is a lot, but I’m so happy that I’m not alone in my problems with it. Thank you so much for this post, Marie! I really needed it 🥰 And at the end of the day, even though I have a sort of complicated relationship with interacting, it’ll always be a source of fun and happiness for me! the book community is truly so welcoming ❤

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    1. Ahh thank you so much Caitlin, I’m so happy you enjoyed this post ❤
      I get that. Twitter is nice, but it feels so overwhelming sometimes, I know I can't handle it too much.
      I KNOW that's exactly how I feel, too. I feel so guilty when I don't feel like interacting, but I'm learning that it's okay. It's okay to take your time with answers, when you don't feel like it and no one will be mad at you for doing so! (at least, not the people that matter. the ones that are mad.. let's just not mention them!).
      I'm so glad you enjoyed this post, Caitlin. Take care of yourself and take your time with interaction, too, so it keeps on making you happy most of it all! ❤

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  21. This is such a great discussion post. I absolutely admire book bloggers that are everywhere (instagram, twitter, blog sometimes even youtube) personally I just stick to blog and instagram, twitter is a little bit too fast paced with me. And you’re right, I think people can be overwhelmed when they first get in the community of the need to blog hop and comment on every single post they’ve seen but really you don’t need to do that. I do love blogging, sharing bookish rants or shove recs to each other but I find making friends harder than I originally thought! People are generally very nice and friendly but we merely connect through a few comments it is hard to connect on a deeper level! Stay safe and stay indoors 🙂

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    1. Oh thank you! I’m so happy you liked it 🙂
      I so get that, I don’t know HOW some people manage to be everywhere all at once, I can’t handle it all ahah 🙂
      I can understand that, sometimes deeper connections take a whole lot of time, too. It depends on where you interact, too. I know I’ve started interacting with some people through blogs and now we’re chatting every day via messages or twitter DMs and our friendship grew that way, too. It’s through comments, first, then buddy reads sometimes, and little conversations here and there that slowly, but surely, connections happen 🙂
      Thank you so much. Take care of yourself ❤ ❤

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  22. Thanks for all the great tips! Maintaining your pace is very important – I once tried to blog hop everywhere while being active on twitter and it did not work out for me. I am still trying to figure out how to use twitter and well, blog comments have been my go to so far. I also interact with the community on discord but I have not been able to keep up there for the past 3 months due to my various things going on in my life but I hope to get back to interacting more now.

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    1. Thank you so much, I’m SO happy this could be useful and helpful!! 🙂
      I think we all manage in different ways, some people manage to interact everywhere all at once, while some others (like me!) need more time and just to be a little more focused on one or two places. I hope you’ll find your rhythm again soon! ❤

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  23. I really resounded with this post! I’ve been trying to focus on finding a niche (more than I have in the past 5 years of blogging, hahaha) and it all gets a little bit overwhelming! These are such helpful tips/reminders for me, especially the one about not interacting all the time with everyone! Sometimes that’s what you feel like you have to do to “get big” but that is 100% not the case at all. I do love blog hopping and commenting on other people’s posts though: it’s super fun and a great way to see what everyone’s up to and what they have to say 🙂

    Great post!!
    Hanne

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    1. Oh thank you, I’m so happy you enjoyed this post 🙂
      I agree: it’s so much fun to comment and chat with other bloggers, but we can’t do it all, there’s only so much time in a day, unfortunately.
      Thank you so much! 🙂

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  24. Thank you for the excellent advice. I haven’t been blogging like I used to a couple years ago, so my blog hopping is out of practice. These are some great reminders. Finding the place where you are most comfortable interacting with the community. I usually stick with WordPress and sometime Goodreads. Social media’s not my thing, but it’s good to know that! Pacing oneself and not feeling obligated to comment is also really important to remember. Sometimes I feel like I HAVE to blog hop a little everyday then I remind myself that, no, I don’t HAVE to. Blogging should never feel like a chore. It’s what we love to do and should always be an outlet for fun if that’s what we wish it to be! Again, fantastic post ❤

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    1. Thank you so much, I’m so happy you enjoyed this post 🙂
      I agree, I too often feel like I HAVE to blog hop every single day, but I don’t have to do anything at all, it shouldn’t feel like a chore, I agree 🙂
      Thank you so much! ❤

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    1. Oh thank you, I’m so happy you liked it 🙂
      I so get that. I used to, and sometimes still feel anxious about interacting, but everyone I’ve talked to have been very friendly and welcoming ❤ take your time with it all and interact when you feel like it ❤

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  25. this post is amazing marie!! i especially love your advice on finding which community you feel the most inclined to interact with people on — i’ve found that book blogs are also the main way i interact (though i’ve been sucky at it). i tend to just lurk on twitter, and i pretty much read insta captions only by friends 😭😭

    i also think commenting only when you have something to say is a great tip! sometimes i feel like it’s nice when someone drops a short comment saying something like “great review! enjoyed reading it” — even though they might not have actually read it, i think anyone likes feeling complimented haha — but i definitely do think that sometime forcing it, as you said, is not worth it 🙂

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    1. ahh thank you so much may, I’m so glad you liked this post ❤ ❤
      I feel like I'm interacting only on book blogs lately, but sometimes I want to branch out…. and then I just always come back to good old blogs, ahah 🙂

      Agree! it's always nice to get a comment, but sometimes I just don't want people to feel like they're forced to comment, if they're not feeling it ❤

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  26. I can totally relate to finding out that book blogging interaction isn’t as easy as it seems when you deal with anxiety. It’s such a relief to find out other people feel the same way.
    I really struggle with your second point – finding the right pace. You put it perfectly when you said how easy it is “to feel like you have to be everywhere all at once”. I feel like I am only getting worse at replying to comments in a timely manner (though they are one of my favourite things about blogging!), and I feel guilty whenever I only have the energy to scroll through Twitter – I feel like people are going to notice I’ve liked a tweet but haven’t replied to their comment yet and get annoyed at me. I think my biggest issue is looking at comments like this one huge task I have to complete, instead of a bunch of small, individual ones, and it gets overwhelming.
    These are some really great tips and good things to remember – I know I’ll be coming back to this post to remind myself of them! ❤

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    1. I SO get that anxiety, I feel the same way. I constantly feel like I’d disappoint people or let themselves down when I just – I don’t know, I just need to step away sometimes because it gets too overwhelming. You are not alone ❤ Take your time and do everything at your rhythm, people will always love you ❤ ❤
      Thank you so much Sabrina ❤

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  27. These are all great tips, thank you! ❤ I often struggle with interacting because I always feel I'm not doing enough. I prefer blog comments because I can always save blog posts and blog hop whenever I have time, and social media is so fast-paced, I can barely keep up. Even though I've recently gone back to bookstagram, I'm considering leaving it again, because I always feel out of place. It's not a great feeling! ):

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    1. Oh thank you, I’mso glad you liked it ❤
      I get that so much. Social media is SO fast paced, I more often need a break from it than I do from blogging. I like how it feels… calmer, somehow haha 🙂
      I'm so sorry you've been feeling out of place on bookstagram! Is it because you feel like it's fast paced, as well? Maybe you just haven't found your rhythm or your people just yet ❤ or maybe it's just not for you, there's no harm in trying and giving up to focus on where you feel more at ease 🙂

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      1. I love taking pictures for bookstagram, but last time I tried, I was completely out of ideas. I messed around with my books and props, but nothing came up. That was odd. And bookstagram is really fast paced, and I feel like I don’t have a place on it anymore – after my long hiatus, I felt that no one was interested in my account anymore. It’s a strange feeling!

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      2. Oh no! I’m sorry to hear that, maybe you’re just experiencing a bit of a burn out and inspiration will come back? Or maybe you need to switch things up or change completely your themes and types of pictures? I really hope you will find inspiration again ❤
        I understand that. I'm just starting on bookstagram and it feels so fast paced, it's so easy to feel lost!

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  28. I love your posts are always on spot and very helpful. I totally agree with the pressure to blog hop and often I feel guilty that I dont do it regularly. While I understand that it is not needed, it definitely makes a difference.

    I hope you are safe during these tryign times.

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  29. It took me a while to get comfortable commenting on blogs. Before I had my own blog, I used to be a silent subscriber to a few bloggers that I now interact with. I think I found commenting super intimidating. I wasn’t sure what to say, and I didn’t think I had anything worth saying. At this point I use a lot of the tips you mentioned to help manage those feelings.

    I’ve found that what helps me interact on blogs is taking my time. I rarely respond to comments on our blog immediately, and even when I’m blog hopping, it can take me a day or two to fully formulate my response to a post. (Which sometimes means I’ll like a post one day, and comment on it the next.) I think that’s because I like giving thought out responses, and that thinking takes time! So I’ll read a post or a comment, think about what I want to say for a bit, and then come back and write out my fully fledged thoughts whenever they’ve formed.

    I also never force myself to comment when blog hopping. Even though it can take me a while to put all my thoughts in order, I pretty much know immediately whether or not I have something to say. So if I have nothing to say I just like the post without commenting on it. I also don’t comment sometimes even when I do have something to say if it’s taking me too long to formulate my thoughts and the fact that I haven’t responded yet begins to make me anxious.

    On Instagram, I’m a bit different. I tend to just comment immediately if I have something to say, since I know it’s unlikely that I’ll find the post again if I wait. But that makes me anxious that I said the wrong thing, or inserted a typo. And DMing or responding to stories adds a whole new layer of anxiety! So I mostly stick to interacting on blogs, where I have the luxury of time, and have already made some friends!

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    1. Oh same. I was a… blog reader for a little while before I dared being active and starting to comment. I didn’t know what to say, I thought I would be too awkward, too annoying, too…. I don’t know. I still do sometimes.

      I think your method is SO amazing and so important, I could really learn from it! I sometimes struggle at finding the right words for some posts or even to answer my own comments, so I let them simmer for a little bit and… I feel better about what I answer afterwards. I still feel guilt when I don’t feel like I comment as much as I “should”, but I’m trying to get rid of that feeling 🙂

      I’m still learning to interact on instagram, it feels a little… fast paced and stressful sometimes haha.

      Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts, Malka!! ❤

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