How to: NOT stress out about blogging (or at least, try not to)

You know me. I tend to rant a whole lot about blogging. I also tend to stress out about it once in a while. Okay, probably every week, when it’s time for me to really focus and take the time to plan everything out and really take care of my blog. WHY, you ask? It’s supposed to be a hobby, it’s supposed to be fun. I KNOW that – yet I can’t help it. When I love something, I like to shout out loud about it, I’m stupidly passionate about it sometimes, to the point that it makes me feel pressured and stressed out.

SO, friends, if you’re a teensy bit like me and you ever found yourself stressing out about blogging, RAISE YOUR HANDS and join me.

In this endless spiral of thoughts and anxiety that life sometimes brings me, blogging feels just like another thing added to the mix. Something I have to take care of, because otherwise, I won’t feel accomplished. Blogging had brought me SO much these past three years, I know I tend to be a teensy bit obsessed about it all, at times. I want to do well. I want to blog well. Is there such a thing as blogging well, though?! Is there such a thing as a right, real book blogger? I do not know.

Something I realized – and something I am reminded of probably daily from my sister (shout-out: thank you for handling my questions, endless doubts and just screaming at me when I’m being stupid. #sistergoals) ; is that blogging is FUN. I LOVE it more than anything, even if I freak out about it all every once in a while. I also realized that I hold all of the keys in order to enter the paradise of “happy-blogger-not-freaking-out”. I just need to remember they’re right here in my hands…you know, casually not freaking out while remembering.

OBVIOUSLY I’m here to share some advice on not to stress out about blogging to much, so here goes. Disclaimer: these might help me, but they might not all do the trick for you. Do it your way, try it out!

ADVICE N°1: SCHEDULE ALL THE THINGS.

This is the first, obvious advice for me, but one that I know does not work out for everyone else. I feel a bit stressed out, both in blogging and life, when I don’t have a plan, when I do not know where things are going, when I’m in a new city and I don’t have a map. I LOVE TO PLAN THINGS and it shows on my blog. As I’m typing this, I have a Google Sheets Schedule for my blog that I still need to fill out for the week. #planningfreak

You don’t have to plan out the whole month – I know I don’t, I never have time to do so. You can plan the week, you can plan only the next time you’ll post. Knowing where I’m going, what I want to write next, HELPS ME TONS.

ADVICE N°2: RE-THINK YOUR BLOGGING SCHEDULE

Despite scheduling, or not, you might still feel a teensy bit stressed out every single time you have to post. Maybe it’s just because you’re trying to do it all. I know I am. I used to post four times a week. I used to post WAY too much and it made me feel pressured to write, to have ideas, to do it all. I just could NOT do it, especially as my life changed. I am now posting three times a week and I FEEL BETTER.

Keep in mind: most bloggers do not post every single day. Also keep that in mind: ALL bloggers – at least, book bloggers I know – don’t blog for a living. They have a life, a job, a family, etc. Keeping a strict blogging schedule can be tough at times for everyone. It’s okay to keep it flexible. It’s okay to miss a day. It’s also okay to post once a week if it’s the good rhythm for you not to stress out.

ADVICE N°3: KEEP YOUR IDEAS IN YOUR MIND…OR ON A NOTEPAD.

Do you think about blogging – or writing, or anything else while in the shower, in bed, in the car, anywhere else, then just promptly forget about it? I DO ALL THE TIME. Then I’m mad, frustrated and stressed out because I had a fabulous idea and I now don’t remember it. Write all the things, friends. Even the small idea – it can become something big, something fun, something…well, like the post I write right now.

ADVICE N°4: SPREADING OUT THE LOVE IS GOOD. BURNING OUT FROM IT IS BAD.

You know me – I will forever keep on praising bloggers who comment a lot. I will forever try and comment a lot, spread the love, follow bloggers, try and show my support every day with some comments here and there. If this is GOOD and if I will forever admire and support bloggers that are a bit like me – it’s okay NOT do to as much for other people. Taking care of yourself matters more.

Follow less blogs is the first thing to remember here. I used to follow 300+ blogs, I recently got this down to 150 blogs. It’s still A LOT and it still stresses me out, but it’s also slightly better. It’s okay NOT to follow everyone. It’s a lot of people in my feed to watch, after all. Follow the people that matter to you, the ones you want to read blog posts from the most. You can always blog hop and spread the love once in a while to other bloggers.

But you also don’t have to blog-hop all the time. Some people (like me) blog hop ALL THE TIME. Some people just, DON’T EVER BLOG HOP. It’s okay. Just do what you’re comfortable with.

ADVICE N°5: DON’T WORRY ABOUT THE NUMBERS

If you explore my blog…in the past, you’ll notice that I celebrated milestones. I did blog posts about did, I did a Q&A a while back. I haven’t shared my stats and followers for over a year now on this blog. It’s not because I’m not proud about it – it’s because sharing my own stats make me anxious about my performances, jealous about people getting the milestones I spend YEARS getting to in less than 6 months. In a nutshell: I WAS AND I STRESS OUT ABOUT NUMBERS.

This is an advice, but also something for me to remember here, if I’ll be honest. Numbers are DIGITS and they shouldn’t rule the world or our enjoyment of blogging. Be proud of yourself and have fun.

ADVICE N°6: STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHER BLOGGERS.

This is also quite the reminder for myself… I suffer of blogging envy and it makes me feel stressed out. But we’re all unique and different so STOP LOOKING AT OTHER PEOPLE AND DO YOUR THING. Or try.

ADVICE N°7: REMEMBER WHY YOU ARE BLOGGING

Best advice of the lot, friends. You’re not paid to blog -at least, I am not, even if it’d be a great and impossible dream. We’re doing ALL OF THIS because we have fun screaming about books. I already spent over an hour of my weekend on this blog post and I liked writing it. That’s what matters the most, enjoying ourselves. Just like getting back into a favorite book or tv show: watch it, get into it, enjoy it and don’t worry about the rest. Or try not to.

Do you sometimes stress out over blogging as well? What makes you feel the most pressure of it all?!

How many blogs do you follow? How many times do you post per week? Do you feel like being more flexible about it all helps you? Do you suffer of blogging envy as well?

What are your top tips not to stress out? Let me know everything in comments!

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121 thoughts on “How to: NOT stress out about blogging (or at least, try not to)

  1. Interesting post 🙂 My book blog is on a site that does not log statistics at all, so if I get less visitors because I post less reviews because I don’t have time to read… I wouldn’t know 😀 It’s for that reason I’m not moving that blog to WordPress. As for my WordPress blog, I’ve scheduled posts in advance until the end of the year… Because I’m lazy :p When I’m busy with other things, I don’t want to think about keeping my blog active as well (and I took too many photos of the Harry Potter exposition anyway). I follow quite a lot of people, but I only read the blogs I’m interested in at that particular moment.

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    1. Ohh, well it’s quite good not to have statistics, this way you’re not tempted to check them too often 😛
      Scheduled until the end of the year, WOW you’re awesome at scheduling, ahah 😛 and yes, it’s good to focus on some blogs, otherwise…well, we’d lose our minds, right? 😛
      Thank you so much for your sweet comment! xx

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  2. I definitely get stressed over blogging too! Mostly I just feel like just because I change my schedule, I’m not doing it right…like other people comment around a lot and write more than two posts a week. But over the last few months, because I’ve been busy doing other things–other things which, I have to remind myself, are also important–I’ve only been able to blog twice a week and not review as much as I’d like too. And I don’t really care about stats, except it makes me sad when posts I’m proud of don’t get many comments :(. And I would like more followers and engagement on twitter. My mum is very helpful at getting me not to freak out and reminding me that this is fun, and I should be enjoying it. I guess that reminder–that this is a hobby–is really helpful to me.

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    1. Oh I’m glad you could relate to this post, Shanti ❤ I'm always a bit disappointed when a blog post I'm so proud of didn't do as well as I wanted it to be. I guess we have to be happy about what we wrote anyway, since we mostly do it for us, but… yeah, I can't help looking at stats and most especially comments, which matters a whole lot to me.
      I'm so glad you mentioned Twitter. I feel the same way; I feel like it's such a fantastic place to talk about books and have fun – despite all the drama – and would love more interaction, but… I'm feeling weirdly shy on twitter at times?! I don't know why.
      YAY, your mum is awesome ❤ And right, obviously. We all need reminders to keep this fun, it's a hobby ❤

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  3. I’m a huge planner but when it comes to blogging, it’s like all of my planner and scheduling skills went flying out of the window. Like where were you when I need you.

    I’ve been really inconsistent on setting the day and time for my posts so now, I’m trying to find the best blogging schedule that would work for me.

    I follow quite a lot of blogs ranging from book bloggers, personal lifestyle bloggers and writer bloggers simply because I love reading.

    Blogging envy sucks but there’s no need to compare with others who obviously put out so much more work on their blogs.

    Great post, as usual, Marie! Sometimes, I forgot that blogging is supposed to be fun and not stressing about numbers of comments and stats.

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    1. Hahaha, I hope you’ll find your planning skills for blogging as well, I’m sure they are not that far 🙂 And blogging schedules can be flexible and change – I changed it a couple times already to fit my life as it changed 🙂
      Thank you so much, I’m glad you enjoyed this post! 🙂 ❤

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  4. Sometimes I stress out about blogging – it’s something I enjoy doing, and if I’m going to do it, I might as well do it right! Unfortunately, that leads to me stressing out because I want everything to be perfect.

    I definitely suffer from blog envy, but I try not to worry about it too much. I know what my strengths are and I try to play to those. And if everyone’s blogs were the same, it would be boring.

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    1. OH YES, welcome to the perfectionnists’ club, Angela, haha. I’m a VERY ACTIVE member of this club haha, which makes blogging hard at times. I want everything to be perfeeect.
      You’re so right – if everyone would have the same kind of blog, it would be veery boring 🙂
      Thank you so much for your sweet comment, Angela! 🙂

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  5. I’m still pretty new, but scheduling has been so helpful to me. Especially when I know I have a busy week coming up. I do follow a lot of blogs, but I just pick so many daily to actually look at. That way it’s not too much and I look at different people’s blog posts through the week.

    I did start a notebook with ideas which has also helped me. I still feel stressed some days, but these things have helped me already.

    Great post!

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    1. Ohh, this is such a great way to blog hop and you’re always watching different people during the week, which also keeps it fun, I guess? That’s so great, thank you for the tip! 🙂
      I’m so glad you found some useful tips to help you already ❤ Blogging should be fun before anything else! ❤
      Thank you so much for your sweet comment xx

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    1. Oh, blogging is a hobby for me too, ahah 🙂 you’re right, what matters the most is that we write from tthe heart and have fun while blogging. Something we should keep in mind for sure 🙂
      Thank you for stopping by! 🙂

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  6. Aw, this advice is so helpful, Marie! I find planning posts and writing down my ideas to be really helpful when it comes to actually writing posts! I also have found writing outlines to be super helpful since it’s easier to organize my thoughts way before I start writing the post for real! 😄 I think I’ve stopped comparing myself to other bloggers now, which makes me really happy! I feel satisfied with my blog at the moment, and that’s obviously the best place to be! ❤️

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    1. Aww thank you so much, I’m so glad you found this useful, Mikaela 🙂 Oh I’m the same way – I really like to write random ideas for the whole post, a messy outline, before getting into it as well. It helps TONS!
      It is the best place to be, that’s for sure, when you just love blogging 🙂

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  7. I am a horrible blog hopper and I only click the post titles that sounds really interesting at the moment? And I don’t check every day, just when I have time. I think it’s important to be in the community a bit, but TBH I’m happy with any comment. And I get SO EXCITED when I see I’m getting hits on an old post! This week, for some reason, I’ve had hits on a book review from February (which, frankly, is not super well written and I hated the book?). People are finding things! I’m contributing to the internet!

    I think that this is the first time in a while that I’m not super stressed out about blogging, and I’m a daily blogger (I’m crazy, also there are loads of reviews). What has helped me SO MUCH has been the calendar plugin that came pre-installed when I switched to self-hosted. I’m two weeks ahead, and every week I give myself a to-do list based on the drafts I’ve scheduled and feel like writing up. And it’s okay, it’s not too stressful. And since I have regular features, it’s not too tough. 🙂 I have 6 posts for Saturday, and 2 of them are easy, and one of them I’ve already started. Two are mostly pictures, so that’s fun too.

    That said, though, I could probably use a bit more solid content. I’m still very listy and reviewish and meme-ish. I rely on my Friday posts to be personal or vaguely interesting.

    Every post I click through on to your blog is solid gold, though. Just thought you should know. 🙂

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    1. First of all, I don’t think you’re a horrible blog-hopper!! Whenever you take the time to leave such a sweet and thoughtful comment, that makes you an awesome blog hopper and person overall. You should know that 🙂
      Also…YOU HAVE A CALENDAR?? I’m going to self host right this second? haha, I need this 😛 I have no idea how you manage to be a daily blogger, you have serious planning and blogging skills, you’re a superhero 😛
      OH, Amber, thank you SO MUCH, that’s way too sweet of you to say ❤ ❤ ❤
      I'm so happy you're enjoying my content ❤

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      1. My calendar is AMAZING I cannot praise it enough. I work with Book Host and Ashley included so many pre-installed plugins that are so useful for me as a book blogger and I love her so much lol. It’s not bad, though, because I do prompt-based posts 4 days a week (2 of my own, and 2 from others) and the other 3 days are usually reviews or wrap ups/check ins. Tuesdays are Top Ten Tuesday and my Fridays are Book Blogger Hop and I roll with those prompts or, if I don’t like them, I do an unboxing or tag those days instead. Since I’ve filled drafts into my calendar, it’s SOOOOO much easier. 🙂

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      2. Ohhh this is so great. I might come back to you someday to ask you questions about self hosting and everything you do (because your blog looks FANTASTIC and you’re doing great!), if you don’t mind 😂
        This calendar thing sounds fabulous. I always find it a bit reassuring and I love having things scheduled, makes me feel in control of the blogging things 😂😂

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  8. Thank you for this post! It’s good to know that I am not alone having blogging stress. I am new at the book blogging scene – but I have fallen into most of the traps. I 100% agree with you – especially around remembering why you are doing it, that has kept me grounded. I am working on the not obsessing over the numbers thing. What can I say, I am a work in progress. 🙂

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    1. Oh you’re so welcome, Barb, thank YOU for your sweet comment! ❤
      I'm with you – I'm always trying to remember that I'm having fun, answering to a comment or writing a blog post, that's what matters. Not looking at numbers definitely is a work in progress for me as well, but…WE can do this 🙂

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    1. SAMEEEEEE. I don’t know why, I KNOW I will forget 99% of the things, but I just don’t write things sometimes. I still trust my memory way too much and I’m pretty much like Dory, forgetting two seconds later 😛
      OHH thank you, I don’t know about queen, ahah, you’re too sweet ❤ ❤ ❤

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  9. Sooooo much great advice!!! Blogs are our passion but you’re right – it can be so overwhelming it causes burnout. I’m in the middle of that blog hop burnout right now and trying to keep up with it so I don’t stop completely. I wish I would have seen this advice when I first started – could have saved a lot of stress! lol

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    1. Haha, oh I wish I knew all of that when I first started as well!
      I hope your little burn out will go away soon. I find that just doing very little once in a while, or not AT ALL, really helps in loving it again, whenever I’m ready to get back to it. ❤
      Thank you so much! xx

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  10. Oh. My. God, Marie—YESSSS. This is such a brilliant post, literally all the points you’ve mentioned are SO TRUE.

    Scheduling is definitely so SO important to me! I try to schedule my posts at least a week ahead just so I don’t have to worry about writing a post in the day it goes up (bc that would stress me out to the MAX).

    And it’s so important to NOT look at the numbers all the time! Back when I used to post every single day (omg I don’t even know how I did that), I’d check my stats page like twice a day and I’d proper OBSESS over it and see how many likes and views and comments I’d get each day—it was so bad. Now I can’t remember the last time I checked the stats page!

    Having been on hiatus for 2 months, I realised quite a few things when it comes to blogging and I’ve learned how to take care of myself and stress less about blogging! I’ve taken the pressure off myself by not looking at stats too much, pre-writing/scheduling my posts, posting LESS times a week, not blog-hopping every single day and just generally not forcing myself to do things I don’t want to do! I always say YOU DO YOU. Blog about things that YOU want to blog about and don’t compare yourself to others—it’ll make you a much happier and less stressed blogger ❤️

    ANYWHO I’m rambling again and I pretty much just repeated what you said but I agree with it so much and I absolutely love this post Marie 💞💖

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    1. Oh, Jackie, THANK YOU SO MUCH for such a sweet comment and PLEASE feel free to ramble ANYTIME, I love it ahah ❤️
      I so agree with you – everytime I come back from an hiatus, or just somedays, I realize that it’s GOOD and I feel MUCH better about blogging when I’m just doing…well, whatever the heck I want. I know I still tend to put too much pressure on myself anyway, but.. I think I’m wired this way or something?! haha.
      Thank you!! xx

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      1. Yayyyy ❤️❤️❤️ and yes, I’m like that too! Even if I tell myself it’s okay to chill or to not post on a scheduled day, I still feel the pressure to come up with a post or at least apologise—when it really shouldn’t matter! I really need to work on that XD

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  11. I seriously admire your discussion posts Marie! I know it’s my fear of my own opinions being out there (as weird as that seems) for others to judge that intimidates me. Work in progress over here but def agree, blogging should always be fun even for us planners lol. Maybe starting a discussion spreadsheet will encourage me to actually come up with some topics, good suggestion 😉

    P.S. LOVE the gifs haha!

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    1. Ohh, Lilly, thank you SO much for your sweet words, this means so much to me ❤️ I get your feeling, so much. I was so nervous and, one day, I remember posting a blogging rant or something, thinking that no one would care of people would judge me, and… well, turned out people liked my rants?! haha. I realized, both on my discussions and on the discussions I like to read, that people enjoy hearing other bloggers’ opinions. I know I always do, so don’t be afraid 🙂 If a topic inspires you or is close to your heart, do it! ❤ ❤
      Thank you so much ❤

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  12. See when I first read this post I thought “you know, I don’t actually stress that much about blogging.” Then I thought about it more and realised I was lying to myself because, yes, I do stress about blogging, but I still about everything in my life pretty much. 🙂
    These are great tips Marie, and a great post as well. 🙂 ❤️ I’ve started scheduling more and it has helped so so much. Like I always knew what I wanted to post when but I’ve started saving drafts so I have them ready to publish a day or so before I need them which is a massive weight of my mind. I think the longer you’ve been blogging the more you realise better ways to manage everything. Give it another year and you’ll have plenty more tips you can share with the rest of us! 🙂
    Again great post! 😀 ❤️

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    1. Hahaha well, we’re so alike, Beth. I stress about pretty much everything in my life as well, haha.
      Ohh yes – we figure things out as we go, that’s for sure. If I’m still blogging next year – which I hope!, maybe I’ll find some other great tips, yes 😀
      Thank you! xx

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    1. OH yes, sometimes I just want to scream, thinking about the scheduling and thinking and ahhhh 😂😂 but in the end, I’m really glad I manage to stay organized…most of the time 😂
      Thank you so much, Trang!! ❤

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  13. Love your post! It’s pretty helpful for newbie bloggers and old bloggers like us. I think Keeping a blogging schedule and Scheduling your post in advance will definitely help reduce all the stress but unfortunately, I’m pretty bad at it and I found that WordPress doesn’t post your scheduled posts sometimes.I blog whenever I feel I like it. I have fun blogging about books and I don’t make it a chore.

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    1. Ohh thank you so much, Raven! ❤ ❤
      OH yes, sometimes WordPress is being weird, we always need to watch over it 😂 It's so good that it doesnt feel like a chore to you – it should never feel like it. Otherwise, that's when you know you need a break! 🙂
      Thank you!! ❤

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  14. THIS IS SUCH EXCELLENT ADVICE. *nods* I used to be super stressed about blogging, as I couldn’t post much due to school and other life commitments; however, I tend not to stress about it any more, as I’ve reminded myself it’s a fun hobby. I used to try to stick to blogging schedules and such but that ended up stressing me – I tend to just wing it now! ;D I’ve been on an organising kick lately though, so I’m trying to get slightly more organised with my blog. I’ve found a nice balance lately with school, blogging and reading etc, so I’m feeling more inspired to blog and want to organise my posts better! *_*

    I definitely agree with your point about remembering why you blog. Last summer I felt so inspired to blog, because I remembered why I started blogging in the first place: to spread my love of books. It’s so easy to get caught up in the stats, worrying if your content is good enough, worrying about whether or not you’re posting enough, and stressing about ARC dates. I think we need to take a step back now and again, and remember we do this because we love reading and we love books. That’s the reason we blog about books, and we mustn’t forget that.

    Wonderful post! ❤

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    1. Awww thank you so much, Kyra, I’m so glad you liked this post ❤ It's so, so important to remember that we love blogging, that it's a hobby we love, and it shouldn't be a chore. It's hard, when we're passionate, and when we care, not to stress out a little bit – at least, it is, for me, haha, but I think it's good to take a step back and remember that this is fun, that we should love it and just…BREATHE ahah 🙂
      Thank you!! xx

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  15. *Raises hand* I can absolutely relate to this post, Marie! I find that I feel stressed about blogging when I force myself to write a post when I am not in the mood to write. I agree that being flexible with our posting schedules is a good idea- sometimes if I feel too rushed on a given day, I will make the post one day later, which relieves some stress for me. It also really helped to reduce my posting frequency from 4 to 3 times a week!

    I used to follow ~120 bloggers and now I have just over 90. Even now I find it hard to keep up with everyone’s blog posts, and I want to reduce this number further. There are some bloggers who I follow who I rarely look at the posts of or interact with. I find it overwhelming to have so many posts in my feed and I often have to dig through these to find posts made by bloggers that I really do care about.

    Love this post Marie ❤ We are hard on ourselves as bloggers, but it is important to take care of ourselves too 🙂

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    1. Oh, I agree – sometimes, you’re just not in the mood to write, and I think it’s so important not to force ourselves 🙂
      Sometimes, I feel like I’m following WAY too many blogs (I don’t know how much, probably around 150), and my blogging feed feels overwhelming. Then, there are the bloggers that aren’t on my WordPress Feed… it’s ENDLESS. I love so many blogs, though 😂 but it’s pretty overwhelming, to try and do it all. I agree that it’s so important to reduce this number to the people we genuinly interact with and read blog posts from ALL the time. I want to share so much love, but…there’s only so many hours in one day 😂
      Thank you so much!! xx

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  16. This is one of the most relatable post I’ve ever read, I plan everything too! I hate surprises and spontaneous things and I have at least 3 posts scheduled every time, always getting anxious if it’s under 3 posts. But asides from this, which is only me being me, I feel like I stress sometimes about how active I am and whether I need to be more active, should I comment more and so on… But like you said, it’s supposed to be about fun and I try to remind myself of that, too. I really hope you keep writing these posts because they are very inspiring. I really loved what you said about the stats and the numbers of followers not mattering as much as we obsess over them, especially in the beginning. I know that I still get very happy and excited about every follower I get, but also in the back of head, I have some questions like ‘how am I doing comparing to others?’ and so on. So, yes, again, such a relatable post! ❤

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    1. Ohh thank you so, so much for your sweet comment ❤ It makes me so happy you're enjoying these kind of posts! ❤
      You're not the only one stressing out – even when I have everything planned, even when I comment a lot, I'm still stressing out, but I think it's just…how I am? 😂😂
      I really get so happy whenever I see numbers growing, likes, comments, followers – but trying not to care when these numbers get down, don't seem to grow as fast as other bloggers, and so on, is always a work in progress.
      Thank you so much for your sweet comment!! ❤ ❤

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      1. Hahaha, it’s definitely part of who we are. I feel like I can’t do much without constantly stressing, even things I enjoy (like reading) will make me overthink everything from time to time. No problem, Marie! ❤

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  17. So as someone who was tinkering around with just shutting down their own book blog because it just felt like spinning my wheels, this post is plenty to think about.

    I tend to get very distracted and cast a wide net, so I have been running up recent political books lately (like who wants to read that?) But I am thinking of trying to stay more focused and have additional posts on how to read and the benefits of reading.

    Thanks for the post! It is great advice.

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    1. Ohh no! I’m sorry you’ve been feeling a bit lost about your blog. I’m glad that this helped you a little bit, and I hope you’ll find you focus and happiness in blogging again soon. It’s so important to remember why you want to blog, what you want to blog about and, most importantly, blog for yourself, because you have fun writing the blog posts and everything else 🙂

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  18. What a lovely post Marie! ♥️ My favorite is not to stress over numbers… Funny I said this in an advice post a while back and then for the next month all I read was how while we know we shouldn’t care about numbers we know we all do… so this advice makes me very happy… Some advice I really, really NEED to follow is to drop some blogs… I follow almost 300 and some people just never pop up! I have to hunt them down and that stresses me out… one annoying thing is WordPress sometimes refollows blogs I’ve unfollowed! GAH!

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    1. Ohh thank you, Dani! ❤ ❤
      It's really hard to say that no one is CARING about numbers. We all do. I know I do, and I know I check my stats when I shouldn't, things like that. I think what we should remember is, not to let numbers rule our lives and the way we see and love our blog. As long as we like what we're putting out there… that's what matters the most. Definitely working on that 🙂
      WOW 300 ?? That's…INSANE 😂 It's a bit exhausing going on unfollow-sprees, but once you do, you're feeling a bit less overwhelmed and it's GOOD, that's for sure. Good luck ahah 🙂
      Thank you!! xx

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  19. Can I please hug you????

    Trying create harmony between academics, blogging, and things at home burns me out so easily. When it comes to blogging I try to prioritize by keeping a rough schedule. I try to make a rough post beforehand just so I know what has to be written as I don’t get to always spend weekends working on my posts. Bookstagram is far more stressful tbh. I try to post at least 4 to 5 times there.

    If I had to give a tip when it comes to blogging, it would be to always have a notebook in hand! Sometimes you get ideas on content which you can jot down in bullet points.

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    1. OH YES PLEASE DO ❤ ❤ You're so sweet, thank you xx
      I have no idea how you manage to handle both your blog and bookstagram, I could never do that along with everything else. You're doing awesome, seriously!!<3
      Oh yes, a notebook is a must – so many ideas we shouldn't forget 😀
      Thank you so much! ❤

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  20. In all aspects of my life I am extremely organised… except for my blog, haha! Over the next few weeks my goal is to schedule a months worth of posts over Christmas and New Years as I am not going to have the time to write, or read a lot either! Hopefully this will lower my blogger stress. Haha

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    1. MONTHS?! Wow, ahah, best of luck, I hope you’ll manage to do that. Scheduling really helps me feel less stressed out, but it’s okay to take a break when you realize that you just can’t do it all. We all have these moments in life when we’re just too busy to do it all 🙂
      Thank you so much for stopping by!! xx

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      1. I actually just had a little break (despite my scheduling plans) because I realized I just had too much on my plate. November is much more quiet for me so hopefully I can get that schedule sorted for my December break!

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      2. Oh, I hope you’ll manage to get everything sorted out then 🙂 it’s good sometimes to step back anyway, just to relax and…be able to manage it all, without adding blogging to the stress 🙂

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  21. Oh Marie, I absolutely LOVE this post!! I’ve been overwhelmed with blogging lately, mostly because I’m still trying to get back into my rhythm after my hiatus! I think it’s SO.impirtant to have a schedule or a plan — knowing what I’ll post and when I’ll post it makes me feel so much more secure! And YESSSS. If blogging is causing you to burn out, that’s obviously not good!! Especially when it comes to commenting — you should never force yourself to leave a comment because then it’s not as genuine and not nearly as fun! 😂

    LOVE THIS POST and I will definitely use this tips im the (near) future! (P.S. LOVE the new divider things. 😍)

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    1. Ohh thank you so much, May!! Also I’m so glad you liked the divider thing ❤
      Im so sorry you've been feeling a bit overwhelmed – I hope the feeling will pass!! Take your time, and do your thing, May, you're always being SO awesome at blogging and everything you do is amazing, so don't let the stress get to you 💖💖

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  22. YES I LOVE THIS POST. I honestly have thought about at least one of these things some time during my blogging career. And yeah, definitely some things I have stopped doing, like checking my numbers and stressing out about posting three times a week or whatever. Yes, I wish I did post as much as I did last year, but oh well!

    I need to start recording my bloggy thoughts more often, because I swear I had an idea earlier yesterday, and now I don’t remember it. Boo

    Awesome post Marie! 😀 😀

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  23. Thank you! I loved the tip that most of us blog for fun, and have other responsibilities in our lives. That was incredibly helpful to remember because I, too, stress about blogging frequency, topics, etc. Realizing that this is for fun, and is a part of my life story was refreshing.

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    1. Ohh I’m so glad to hear you found this post helpful. Some days, it’s hard to remember that, especially given how much time and love we pour into this blog. It should be fun 🙂
      thank YOU for your sweet comment! x

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  24. All these tips are so amazing and helpful, Marie 🌸
    Scheduling is definitely a life saver along with having an actually blogging schedule! I struggled a long time with getting a schedule that works for me and I’m definitely a bit better now, but I do still feel guilty sometimes when I think I’m not posting enough.
    Blogger envy was such a huge thing for me when I first started blogging; I would compare myself and my blog’s success with other bloggers and that can be really bad! I think the most important thing is to blog for your own enjoyment and the rest will follow.

    Really a great post with amazing advice as always 🌸

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    1. Oh thank you so much, Michelle! ❤ ❤ You're so right, we should really blog because we love it – and remind ourselves of that, often, if needed. The rest will and should follow 🙂
      Thank you! ❤ ❤

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  25. Nice one! I started a blog about books and with my own books reviews and i really suffer with all thoose things that you pointed out. The scheduling stuff can be really tricky. I’m portuguese and i write in portuguese in my blog but i have the translation available so stop by at any time! Thank you for awesome post!

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    1. It’s funny how the stress comes up, right? We all need a reminder once in a while that we’re having fun and should keep it that way 🙂
      Thank you so much for your sweet comment! xx

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  26. *Raises both hands* cos I relate to this post so much!! Blogging is fun, but it’s so easy to get stressed out over. I don’t always plan (sometimes I don’t have time to get on top of things or whatver) BUT when I do things go so much more smoothly, so I can relax about it more, so I really get behind your first bit of advice- and all kudos to you for being a proper planner 😀 And you’re so right about needing to be flexible!! And yes to writing everything down!!! And I love your advice for number 4 (it’s the one I need constant reminders for- cos the guilt gets really strong for that one!!) Agree about 5 and 6! And I love 7 so much!! Basically this post is the best!!! Love it!!

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    1. Ohhh thank you so, so much, I’m so glad you loved this post! ❤ ❤ It is so easy to get stressed out, and I'm especially having trouble with all the envy and things like this. I guess we all need to remind ourselves that we have fun and we ought to take a breather once in a while 😅😅
      Thank you!! ❤ ❤

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  27. I recently had a cull of the blogs I follow – I just couldn’t keep up! (obviously, I kept yours!) But I was getting so stressed about wanting to comment on every blog, that my comments were becoming really boring and generic (you know when you’re writing Christmas cards and you’re on the 50th one and you just put “happy Christmas”) just so I could get through them all!

    But now, I only follow the blogs that I absolutely love and make sure my comments actually mean something!

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    1. Oh I so agree with you – I had noticed the same thing. I wanted to comment on everyone’s blog, but.in the end, my comments weren’t as meaningful as I wanted them to be. Focusing on blogs we really love keeps the stress out and makes it all more fun, for sure 🙂
      Thank you so much for your sweet comment, Mattie!! ❤ ❤

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  28. You have no idea how much I needed this post right now. I am behind on books for review, and I wont be able to have them review when I had told them. Which happens more often than not I would say. I feel bad saying it should be done in October and then not being in the mood, or hitting a slump. I have some mixed feeling about a schedule. I sometimes stress myself out about a schedule, if I miss one or am late. The bar for me is low at the moment I aim for once a week haha. Maybe when I have a bit more energy I will get back too 2-3 times a week.

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    1. Oh I’m so sorry to hear you’ve been feeling so stressed out about blogging – maybe you are in a bit of a slump? ❤ Don't be too hard on yourself, try and find something that works for you. Write once a week on your blog, or overall just take a break from it for a little while. Inspiration and ideas and the WANT to actually write these reviews, will come again with time! ❤ Take care of yourself before anything else ❤ ❤

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      1. Oh, I get it COMPLETELY. I always have this feeling that I can’t catch up whenever I come back from holidays or something. Thing is… I don’t catch up, not really. I just take things day by day, again, restart my blogging routine and if I missed posts, well… we can’t do it all I guess 🙂 I hope you’ll get over this slump soon, sending you all the love!! ❤

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  29. Great Post Marie filled with so many helpful tips which for me especially are a great reminder. I always compare myself to other bloggers, I try not to and think I’d gotten better but I still do it. I compare my posts and statistics to others and think I’m not a real blogger because I don’t post as much as others. Think this will help so many people to remember that blogging is fun and meant to be fun, we put so much pressure on ourselves sometimes we really forget that.
    💕

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    1. Oh thank you so, so much, Hannah! ❤ ❤ I can't help with the comparison either, WE NEED TO STOP ahah and try to control ourselves. You are doing GREAT and you're such a great blogger, Hannah, you are THE BEST ❤ ❤

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      1. I feel like we just need to scream STOP at each other everyday then one day we might listen? Also you’re so sweet, you are great and such a great blogger and the best! If I am those things then I learnt them from you sis xx

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      2. Love you too! SCREAMING AT YOU TO DESTRESS INCASE ANYTHING IS STRESSING YOU OUT REGARDING BLOGGING RIGHT NOW.
        Capitols show the seriousness of my screaming then, daily reminder that your fab and your blog is fab xx

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  30. I’m trying to blog more but writer’s block can get in the way. I want to try to blog once a week and see how it goes. I really have not had my blog for long, only 8 months so I am still learning. My tip for not stressing out is to write things you’re passionate about. Also, your blog doesn’t have to talk about one thing. You can talk about various things, that has helped me a lot.

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    1. Oh, yes, writers’ block is annoying :/ Some time away from it all, really helps, as well as taking inspiration from reading a whole lot.
      It is such a great tip – we all should write what we are passionate about and not because it’s supposed to be…well, it’s supposed to be something we talk about. Passion really shows in our writing and it makes us happier, that’s for sure 🙂
      Thank you so, so much for your sweet comment and advice! 🙂

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  31. All your advice is PERFECT. And yet I know it’s HARD to follow. A while back, when I owned My Bookish life, I DIDN’T CARE FOR STATS at all! Honestly, the old me was fabulous. Now? I feel like i need to check my stats at least every week. I’m constantly comparing myself to other bloggers. Like wow 70 comments? I only got 40 on mine. AND I HATE MYSELF FOR THAT. Because these bloggers are my friends, and a lot of the time, I see them as competition. Not good.

    Not good because that is NOT what I blog for! I blog for MY FOLLOWERs, my own entertainment and because it’s something I enjoy and love and will always do. I admit these past two months have been crazy and my blogging schedule has been going out of the window. But you know what? When I manage to post again, I don’t say ‘sorry’ because sometimes? It’s okay to be late. it’s okay to have a life. And we don’t need to apologise for that.

    I really need to get back into the habit of scheduling WHAT I AM GOING To write because I know that helps a lot when i used to do it!

    right now i’ve had to stop looking at the blogs I follow 😦 I only have time for commenting back which is really very sad.

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    1. It is SO HARD to follow this advice sometimes, I’m doing this post as a reminder, but I know I’m having such a hard time with it all as well. The whole comparison game, blogging envy and such is the WORST. I am getting better at not checking my stats and/or not feeling down about it all. Really, days where I’m just checking my blog without opening the stats thing are THE BEST, because they’re much more fun?!

      You’re so right – we shouldn’t apologize if we want or need some time away 🙂 I hope you’ll find a way to get on top of your blogging schedule again, scheduling posts helps me SO much and makes me feel much less stressed out 🙂

      Thank you so much for your sweet comment ❤ ❤

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  32. Oh sobs, I had a HUGE comment and I had apparently taken too long (I guess WP doesn’t like tabs being open for a week, rude WP, rude) and it vanished. ANYWAY. I had said that this post is SO spot on. It really IS stressful. I think that anything you can do to make it easier for yourself is a great choice. I know for me, the thing that helped the most was cutting back on posting. Because then, not only did I have less content to write and come up with, but then I had fewer comments to return!

    Commenting is like, my blogging kryptonite. I LOVE comments, and I love commenting back, but sometimes I don’t have time. And then I feel awful, because I think comments are the thing I stress about the most, because I don’t ever want people to think I don’t appreciate their thoughts and comments, you know? But like you said, we have to take care of ourselves, too. I think for me it’s hard to find that middle ground. I am also infinitely less organized and scheduled than you so I am sure that’s a factor 🙂 Fabulous post!!

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    1. Oh, thank you so, so much for taking the time to share your thoughts again, despite WordPress being annoying ahah, that’s so sweet ❤ ❤

      I 100% get you when you're talking about blogging kryptonite. Comments are a bit this way for me, too. I absolutely love giving them, and having them, answering to them. It's my favorite thing, well one of my favorites, yet… It's probably one of the things that makes me very stressed out, too. There is SO much to do, it could be ENDLESS. I think it's important to try and take care of ourselves first, and not force it whenever we are just not in the mood to blog and / or comment. I'm trying to do that a bit better and I do feel better when I'm just… taking steps back a little bit.
      Thank you so, so much for your sweet comment ❤ ❤ ❤

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  33. This was such a great post, Marie! I tend to blog-hop when I have the time, but also always try to comment on my favourite blogs. It really depends on what I’m doing though… I’ve barely commented while I’ve been travelling (as you know), because I’ve had other things on my mind. I sometimes schedule my posts, although it depends how prepared I am (this week I didn’t schedule at all because I hadn’t written any the las week). And having a goal (two blog posts every 2 weeks) is really good. Having a co blogger also makes me less stressed because we can both work together and rely on each other. I’m glad your sister can do that for you, even if she doesn’t blog.
    The numbers thing really annoys me. I guess I know that my blog hasn’t done as well as others have in the time it’s been around, but I’m okay with that. I get really annoyed about my followers on instagram though…
    Anyway, thank you for this post! You’re one of my favourite bloggers and whatever you say is always on point ❤ ❤

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    1. Oh thank you so, so much, Shar, this means so much to me ❤ Especially when I'm feeling stressed or worthless or whatever, like after a short break or something ahah. Thank you ❤ ❤

      It is really good to set yourself goals – if you're into this kind of thing. I know planning things really helps me and I love being organized. I'm also grateful that my awesome sister puts up with me on the blogging things haha.
      It's hard NOT TO get bothered when it comes to numbers… I haven't found the right recipe in order NOT to care or think about them too much… someday we will? Let's hope so ahah 🙂

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  34. It’s very good that you rant about blogging 🙂 I think it’s probably the best thing to rant about xD
    Honestly, I don’t know where I’d be without the schedule! I also do the google docs thing. When I shared my setup with a friend, she said I should write a post about it one of these days, cause not everyone is this organized. I guess you are one of us excel freaks though 😀 (I love being one though. EVERYTHING. IS. TIDY.)
    Lately I’ve been posting 4 times a week and I’m starting to think maybe I need to slow down. I’m not even sure people have time to read my content xD and it’s just… I keep writing posts and I’m still short :/
    I follow hundreds of blogs, but I don’t mind. It gives them stats, and I don’t have to read them all the time 🙂 when I do tune in, I have a good choice of posts, at least 🙂
    The numbers and comparing though… I don’t know. That’s probably the hardest one for me 😀

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    1. YES FOR BEING EXCEL AND ORGANIZATION FREAKS. I would LOVE to read a blog post about your organization and everything else, if you want to write it someday. It’s always great to learn some tips from others 🙂

      4 times a week?! Wow, you are doing SO well, that’s great! I can barely get by with 3 posts a week ahah, you’re amazing. It’s so hard sometimes to keep up with it all and come up with ideas :/

      Oh you are right, this is such a great way to think of the bloggers you are following., I love it. It’s great to have a choice and to have tons of blogs to read content from, keeps everything fun and different 🙂

      Same here. I can’t help myself with the comparisons…I wish I could stop ahah.
      Thank you so, SO much for your sweet comment! ❤ ❤

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      1. You know what I wish the WP app had though? Lists 🙂 like Twitter lists. So you could out blogs on categories and read them by mood or group or something 🙂 now that would be great! And yeah, 4 posts are kind of tough. I’m thinking of giving it up and going back to 3 😀

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      2. OHHHHHHHHH this is such an excellent idea. It would be awesome, and so, so useful. Is there a WP suggestion box? haha 😛
        Well, whatever rhythm you choose, I hope it’ll work out well 😀

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  35. I feel all of this SO MUCH. Blogging can be so stressful, which is ridiculous because we all started this because we thought it’d be fun. And it is! If you ignore all the stress – we really need to stop stressing haha. I used to post three times a week plus my weekly wrap up before my sort of hiatus, but I think I’m going to post twice a week plus my weekly wrap up for a while until I’m back to my old rhytm, or maybe I’ll keep this schedule!

    I definitely suffer from blogging envy as well and I’m really trying to stop – it’s not healthy and doesn’t help at all. It’s great if other blogs motivate and inspire you to make your blog even better, but it’s not good if it makes you upset and stresses you out!

    Great post like always Marie 🙂

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    1. It IS so stupid. I always want to punch myself in the head whenever I’m stressed about blogging – we all started this as a FUN thing, and it should keep on being fun 😀
      I hope this new schedule will work out well for you, as long as you’re not feeling too pressured and have fun writing your posts 😀
      Thank you so, so much, Michelle! ❤ ❤

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