The truth about taking a blogging hiatus

Good morning, good afternoon, good night friends! How are you? I hope you all had a wonderful week! Today is Sunday, and I want to introduce you to a new kind of blog posts on the blog. I don’t expect you to remember because it’s been a few months, but I wanted to introduce something new a while ago, called, Blogging Ways… and here it starts with my first blog post, today, on Sunday. After today, this special discussion feature will take place bi-monthly, on Wednesdays. Here’s to hoping you will enjoy it, and let’s start with the presentation, then dive right into it!

Side note: I will still post other bookish discussions, and they will take place on Sundays, as my discussion posts always did. All blogging related discussions and debates will happen on Wednesdays.

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Blogging Ways is a special discussion feature right here on Drizzle & Hurricane Books, where I shall discuss ALL THINGS BLOGGING. Whether it’s tips to find your voice, blog your heart out, comment, find ideas, blogging features… or kind of taboo subjects such as unpopular opinions, book blogging guilt, dealing with jealousy, ARCs etc… All things blogging will be talked about here. I will share my personal experiences on blogging, and you can share your experience with me in comments about every subject! As this goes on, there may be collaborative blog posts as well, if you’re into that idea.

Book bloggers, and bloggers in general, are a HUGE community, with its joys, its drama and its struggles. This feature is meant to share all of this together, talk openly, support each other.

If you have any idea of future topics, let me know !

Taking a hiatus. That’s a pretty crazy word in the blogging community. It’s surrounded by fear. Fear of being forgotten, fear of being at the lowest point once we have been at the highest. Fear of losing everything we have worked for, in this little tiny corner of the internet. It’s not like we built a fortune and we could lose it all in one single second, in a bad bet. But the feeling is much like it. Work, sweat and most of it all, TIME is devoted to our little corner of the blog every single day. What happens when time isn’t here anymore? Whether it’s for personal reasons, or for ANY reason, really, there’s that word popping around your mind at some point. Burn out, tiredness, holidays, travelling, family, computer issues, LIFE can bring us out of this little corner of the internet, by will or by force.

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The thing is, when you care about something, you CAN’T stop thinking about it that easily. It was the case, for me. It’s no secret, or, if you are new here, I took a pretty long blogging hiatus – for me. In one year and a half of blogging, I poured my heart and soul into that little place until the beginning of July. Moving out, reuniting with my family, then travelling, overall I have been gone for three weeks, but really, I haven’t been into the blogging frenzy since a month and a half. Despite planning blog posts, being able to look around the blogosphere a bit thanks to my Twitter addiction, I couldn’t be there. And blogging, and my blogger friends, what would become of my blog, was ALWAYS on my mind.

It’s like when your favorite tv show is taking a break. You’re sad, you wait, then you find another show to turn to, and when the first picks up after its mid-season break, you forgot all about it and why you loved it so much. It is so, so sad. Despite being on holidays,Β  blogging was always on the corner of my mind, and what would become of it while I was gone. There’s the fear, and then, there’s the guilt. There’s low stats, at the lowest, really, and even if stats aren’t everything, it’s still a punch in the gut to see yourself going back to where you were when you almost started. Low comments, low self-esteem at not really being a part of the community anymore.

Really, if there was a word to describe how going on an hiatus feels, I would say, WEIRD. Because blogging -if you’re into it like I am, and I am deep– is always on the corner of your mind, but you need to step back as well. Because when did I start CARING so much about a little website on the internet?

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But, weird isn’t necessarily a bad word. Some books are pretty weird, and they are all kinds of awesome. Despite the guilt, the fear, the disappointment, stepping back is the best way to find yourself again. Just like getting lost, or whatever that quote is. While I was exploring England, falling in love with London all over again, taking the boat in Italy and getting lost in bookshops everywhere, I felt good. I felt great. Because blogging is such a consuming part of every blogger, it’s weirdly awesome to step back and LIVE outside of the screen. It’s weirdly INSPIRING. To start over, to do some changes, to remember why I started all of this, and where I want to go next. Funny story: it is in one of my guilty-feeling moments that I wrote two sentences, two simple sentences that are the blog post you are reading right now.

It felt great because, when I came back, I still had you. I have you. With all your enthusiasm, your awesomeness and support. Maybe I lost a bit of my blogging frenzy on the way, but that takes a bit of time to come back. Maybe my stats have been at the lowest, and maybe I felt and still feel guilty if I never catch up with ALL I missed. But you’re here. And in the end, sharing this adventure with you, before, after, and during my hiatus is all that matters.

What do you think of that new kind of discussion? Are you excited about it? If you have any idea of future topics, let me know! πŸ’‘

And, for the topic at hand today… Did you ever take a hiatus? Do you think the book blogger’s guilt is real, did you ever experience it?

What are your tips to get the best out of an hiatus? Let’s chat in comments πŸ’¬

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88 thoughts on “The truth about taking a blogging hiatus

  1. I’m pretty much forced to take a blogging hiatus every time new semester of college starts because I have NO time whatsoever. I try my best to schedule a bunch of posts and tune into the blogging community every once in a while, but it’s not the same as it is for me during the summer. Though I would rather not have to take the hiatus at all, it does make me appreciate and enjoy blogging a lot more when I actually have time to do it!
    Love this discussion! ❀

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  2. I always love the idea of blogging about blogging! 😁 I’ve personally written a couple posts related to blogging and I think this is something that I will actually enjoy and look forward to read more 😘 I took a hiatus on April, in which I only posted ONCE and didn’t do any blog hop at all because I was busy and practically lost interest 😦 I was honestly sad to see my low stats at the moment! Like you said, it was like going back to where I first started. It took some time to get back on the game for me but I’ve decided that I’m never gonna completely leave my blog like that ever again πŸ˜‚ I’m a very organized person so I developed a better system of running my blog as well as visiting other blog so hopefully I wouldn’t have to go through that complete hiatus anymore πŸ˜‚ great post Marie! ❀

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    1. Oh thank you, so glad you like it πŸ™‚ I get it, and that’s what the most scary about it all: having spent SO much time blogging, and then losing interest about it. But I guess that’s life, and we need to do what we enjoy doing, and not feel forced at any times πŸ™‚ Ohh that’s such a great idea, I’m so happy to hear you found some kind of organization, it’s really important I think πŸ™‚ thank you! ❀

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  3. Summer has been slow for a lot of people – and a lot of people are taking a break right now. Stats aren’t everything – they don’t mean people aren’t reading your blog, or don’t care, or won’t be there when you come back. “Real” life is important, too! πŸ™‚

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  4. So happy you are back ❀
    I was forced to go on hiatus in July and gosh that fear! I was sure everyone would have forgotten me and my blog would disappear soon. But it was without counting on all the awesome bloggers who keep the community alive and welcome you back as if you had left yesterday. I hate looking at my stats but I always feel a little sad when they're low because life gets in the way and I am not here to take care of my little internet home. Then there's the guilt of missing all those posts from others, and the overwhelming feeling of desperation when you think of the endless things you need to catch up on. But when you're over that, you can start noticing the benefits of a hiatus. Your love for your baby blog is back and high, you are more inspired about everything, it's like the community is shiny and new and you get to rediscover the joys of logging in on WP. Well, I was not on holiday and the situation was not fun at all so I kept thinking about my blog, and I feel I haven't been able to disconnect and all, but overall I felt the same way.
    Loved that discussion post, you had nothing to worry about πŸ˜€ ❀ Who cares about stats, we've got cake!!!

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    1. Oh Donna, thank you so, SO much for your thoughtful comment, and I am happy you felt the same way, even if the circomstances were different. There’s so much guilt, and fear, and disappointment, which is crazy because it’s a BLOG, yet, I don’t know, maybe I care too much haha. It feels great though to come back with a fresh, new love for blogging, the community, with new ideas and old ones coming back full force. I think that’s why it still feels good to step back, a bit. I think I will try and do that a bit more from now on πŸ™‚
      Thank you so, so much AND YES as long as I have cake and YOU I am the HAPPIEST ❀

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  5. This post is soooo spot on and weridly reassuring because Uni is starting up in 2 weeks for me and it’s going to be crazier than ever and having to take hiatuses has been on my mind, A LOT, it’s scary really, as you said, to be away for long because we care waaaay too much and I never thought in a million years that would happen.
    BUUUT when we make such strong bonds between us it’s also a thing we can lean on because we hope that our blogger friends will always be there 😊 And I was, I MISSED YOU and was impatiently waiting for you to come back twinnie 😍❀

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    1. Ohh thank you so, so much my twinnie, I am SO happy you can relate to this ❀ It's scary, but weirdly reassuring as well, to leave and know it'll all still be there when you're back (because it will!) Despite low statistics, which is completely normal but a bit disappointing I'll admit it, I still felt glad to see that everyone was still there when I came back, welcoming me with open arms, and that's THE BEST. Reasons why the community is the best πŸ™‚ Thank you!!<3 ❀ ❀

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  6. OMG I can so relate. I haven’t taken a hiatus yet from this blog so far but I’ve definitely taken three or four days off… I have quite a huge backlog of drafted posts though so I’ll still be posting; I just won’t actually BE around. You’d think that 3-4 days is so little, but whenever I come back I feel like I’ve missed SO MUCH already! There are so many people I like to check in with, posts I need to read, etc.

    My biggest worry about hiatuses though I think has more to do with myself than external stuff like being forgotten, etc. I don’t like to think of myself as a quitter, but I have been on writing hiatuses before that were originally supposed to be a week, but then stretched out to be a month, even whole years. :/

    Anyway! I’m super glad to see that you’re back. And you definitely don’t need to feel guilty or even to catch up on the posts that you’ve missed β€” time is limited and I really, really believe that people don’t mind if you don’t read the posts they’ve written/published when you were away. I mean, I honestly wouldn’t expect you to! Welcome back (again), Marie. ❀

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    1. I just have one question: HOW do you manage to be SO organized? I just admire how you can always have blog posts in your drafts, and if I’m trying to work on that the best I can, it takes SOOO much time, and…any how, I am your biggest fan, Reg, ahah.
      Oh yes, this, you’re SO right. I didn’t think about this aspect of hiatuses while I wrote this post, but you’re so right. I really HATE to think myself as a quitter, it makes me SO mad, especially on things I really love. Though I guess time and life can force you to quit some things you love… ugh. Everything’s complicated sometimes, ahah.
      Thank you, so, so much Reg for sharing your thoughts with me ❀ ❀

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      1. I… I think it’s because my fear of not having posts to publish is greater than my procrastination, haha. I read quite a bit and try to finish reviews as soon as possible, though I may publish them months afterwards, especially for backlist books or old releases… oh, and I like to-do lists and checking things off it makes me feel good about myself. (Literally, not even joking!)

        Yeah, exactly! For me it’s hard to gain back momentum once I stop, so I try not to stop in the first place. I might slow down and take it easy, but I try to not stop. Then again, it’s only been a year that I’ve been doing this… so who’s to say what’ll happen in 3 years? I see bloggers having done this for 8 years and while I admire them SO MUCH, I can’t imagine that happening for myself – I’ve just never stuck with a thing for that long before. πŸ˜›

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      2. Hahahaha, I get the feeling. There are times where I’m not doing anything and it suddenly hits me: I have nothing prepared. Then it’s the feaaaaar haha.
        You love to-do lists? ME TOO. I write some all the time, even just in my head, it feels so good to cross something off the list afterwards πŸ™‚
        I’m amazed by people blogging for 8 + years, it’s crazy how they managed to stay motivated and everything all this time. But well… I can see you going a long, long way with your blog, Reg, so…never say never, you might still be here in 8 years πŸ˜›

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      3. I basically love all kinds of lists! And kudos to you for being able to write them in your head and remember them afterwards… my short memory is no joke, haha. I use an app to keep track of my list. πŸ˜›

        Thank you! I hope so. It’s exciting to know that the opportunity is there. ❀

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      4. I use Todoist – it’s literally just a to-do list app, haha. It’s simple and has limited functionality, but it does what it needs. I also use Asana at work, but that one’s more of a project management tool and is a tad more complicated in terms of functionality. πŸ˜€

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  7. This was an absolutely great post, Marie! ❀ I think we secretly or very openly fear what the hiatus will do to us and our blog. On the one hand there are the terrible stats (which were generally low this summer, it wasn't just your hiatus … everyone was taken away by the summer gods and the fairies of fresh air, so no one wanted to spend time inside in front of a screen hahaha) and then there's also missing out on what everyone else has done. I wanted to take a bit of a break during my time in Cardiff last year, but then ended up blogging there nonetheless (thank the heavens for free hotel wifi). It IS a big part of our lives and relinquishing control over it, whether it be for short or for long, it is, as you said, always weird. But sometimes it's just necessary, because while it is part of our lives, it should not dictate it entirely. Even CEOs, queens and presidents have holidays sometimes hahaha
    I am sure your blogging frenzy will be back to normal in a jiff! We love you and are glad to have you back πŸ˜€

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    1. Thank you so, so much Kat, for your thoughtful comment, and I’m glad I’m not the only one having these kind of irrational, at times, fears, ahah πŸ™‚ It’s really a huge part of our lives, sometimes I can’t believe how big it is ahah, but you’re right, it’s like that with everything, we just need to find the right balance, and step back sometimes to find inspiration again is always good πŸ™‚ Thank you so much!! ❀ ❀

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      1. I honestly would say that blogging is my job when someone would ask me. (not that anyone ever does, because the only people I meet are that the shop and they assume I can’t do anything other than being a cashier). Point being, of course it is important to us. But balance is necessary, even if it’s difficult at times.

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  8. I’m currently on a hiatus…slowly trying to ease back into blogging again. I do feel guilty about not posting. Sometimes I do sit down and try to get into typing out a post and to put some ideas down, but nothing really gets done.

    For me at the moment its the stress from work and my lifestyle which is eating into my ability to blog. It started where I had grown frustrated with my inability to produce content and to write, so I had decided to remove the pressure by going on hiatus. I do think about it daily….and I do worry…and I do feel the guilt. Yet at the moment it’s the best I can do for myself and to those who read my content and to the authors whose books I review (to be respectful even for books I didn’t enjoy…give them a proper review for their babies).

    Hopefully, I’ll find my writing mojo and start blogging again. One things for sure, when on hiatus keep reading 😊

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    1. Ohh well that sounds like a blogging slump as well :/ I’m happy that never happened to me yet, but to be honest, forcing you to write is never good, because it takes out all the fun, spontaneousity and love you can have for blogging. I think the best thing to do, but I am really no expert in this, it’s to keep on reading, of course, because that inspires the love for books, reaidng, reviewing, and helps as well maybe to find your blogging and reviewing frenzy again? And I found that, whenever I’m a bit less inspired or bothered about blogging, watching other blogs is both a source of inspiration -conversations with others strike some fantastic ideas!, and motivation. Thank you so mch for sharing your thoughts with me, and best of luck with everything ❀ ❀ ❀

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      1. I think for now it’s balancing work life and blogging…and work has been in some ways causing the blogging slump. For now it’s just a balancing game between work and life πŸ˜‚

        I’ll just keep reading…and keep trying to put my thoughts down even if I don’t post anything. πŸ‘ thanks for these discussions posts! Love reading em!

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      2. Oh I get it. With work and life commitments getting in the way, it’s even harder to get back into blogging… but yes, keep on writing and sometime you will feel like coming back! Even if you just post once a week, even if you are not here everyday, you’ll find some kind of schedule that works for you, I am sure of it πŸ™‚ Thank you so much! ❀

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  9. Please keep these discussion coming. Everyone loves talking about blogging so you will have a hit on your hands!

    I loved reading this, Marie. It was so honest and relatable. I haven’t been on hiatus yet, though I may consider it in the future. What I have done is scale back the number posts I publish a week to 2 (usually) so that I have more time to visit other bloggers, be active on Twitter, and schedule lots of posts! That way, if I have to go on a 3 week hiatus, I will have them scheduled, and very likely will still be able to respond to comments and such through my phone. πŸ˜›
    My hope is to not have to take a long hiatus at all, but sometimes it can’t be helped. It’s great to see you have a positive attitude about taking a break and some of the consequences that come with it. I’ve sen many bloggers take hiatus before. They are usually so anxious about it but everything’s fine once they return and get in the swing of things. I will be sure to not worry about it too my if I must take an unexpected hiatus. hehe. Because really, why do I care so much about my little blog and how much traffic it gets on a weekly basis. I can’t figure it out.

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    1. Oh thank you so, so much for your thoughtful comment, it means a lot ❀ I've been meaning to write this post -and hopefully a lot of the others, in such a manner that it feels personal, so other bloggers can share their personal stories as well with me. I feel like it's needed and it feels great to talk about both the good, and the bad of blogging together, in order to make the community stronger and united πŸ™‚
      This is such a good strategy, and that's what I am trying to do, as well, since I'll have less time on my hands the coming months – I guess. I was so anxious about taking my hiatus as well: it's scary to think that everything you've been working for -making friends, mostly- could just, well, not be there when you return. I'm happy to say, and I really want everyone to know that it's not true πŸ™‚ And oh yes, I can't figure out how I care so much either. It's crazy. SO crazy.
      Thank you SO much! ❀

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  10. This is a great post Marie, and really spot on as well. πŸ™‚ I worry about my blog and my stats if I even go a day or two without posting, let alone a month or so like you did. Even when I’m on holiday I still have scheduled posts in my drafts folder so it’s not like I’m away away more like just unable to comment or answer comments for a few days!
    I’m really glad you’re back now. I missed talking to you on here and missed seeing your posts as well, I love the idea of you doing more bookish discussions like this and I’m interested to see where you take your blog next. You were away for a while but if it’s given you a new take on blogging in general I can’t wait to see where you go with it! πŸ˜€
    And I think no matter how long you do on hiatus there are people here, myself included, who won’t ever forget you so you don’t need to worry about that! ❀

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    1. Thank you so, so much Beth, I’m happy you agree! It’s kind of crazy how much we tend to worry about it, but I guess that’s only because we care about this little corner of the internet πŸ™‚
      Thank you for all the support, and I hope you will enjoy my new, and old blog posts ahah πŸ™‚ ❀ ❀

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  11. This post literally came at the exact right time, Marie. Thank you so much for putting it out.

    I’m totally right there with you; I just ended an extended hiatus of five months yesterday and it’s so weird easing myself back into doing things after being away from everything for so long. I’ve missed so much in terms of new releases, arcs, news, interactions with other bloggers that it’s almost like starting fresh again. However, just as you said, it’s so enthralling and inspiring to step away from the keyboard and simply explore being yourself outside of blogging. Having this time away has really helped me, at least, feel like blogging is more of a hobby than a full-time job and a chore like it was becoming pre-hiatus.

    Truth be told, everyone should take an extended hiatus at least once in their blogging career. Being able to take that sigh of relief and detach from the world for just a little bit is so worth it, but it just makes the return that much sweeter.

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    1. Oh thank you so, SO much Amber, I am happy you liked this and that you could relate, as well. It’s really hard to come back full force after a hiatus, whether it’s been weeks, or months, you always feel like you missed tons of things, and getting back into it takes a bit of time and a lot of motivation. You are so, so right about all of this, and I completely agree: blogging felt like a chore to me as well, before I left. Now I learn to take things easier and let this be a hobby before anything else. Thank you so, so much for your thoughtful comment, Amber! ❀

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  12. Excellent post! I’ve wondered the same thing. I’ve had so much going on lately all I’ve been doing is reading and posting those reviews, which deviates from the discussions and various other topics I used to discuss, like writing and publishing. And I scaled back my number of posts. Most weekends in the summer I didn’t post a single thing, and I wondered if it was too much of a break, but it hasn’t been an issue for me. I actually like having the weekend to do things I need to do without distractions. I typically don’t read any blog posts when I’m not blogging, but I usually break that rule for bloggers I talk to a lot. I think your real friends will still be there when you go on hiatus and come back. πŸ™‚ I’m so glad you’re back!

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    1. Thank you so, so much Jillian, I am so happy you enjoyed it! ❀ It really is a struggle, because when I posted less because I wasn't here, I felt GREAT at having less things to look up every single day, but also felt a bit guilty about it all. I guess we should find the right balance, like in everything else in life πŸ™‚ Thank you so much! ❀

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  13. Such a wonderful idea of a feature, Marie!! But, let’s face it, you ALWAYS have the best ideas so I am not surprised in the slightest πŸ˜‰ I am currently on a hiatus (or trying to be), so I completely relate to this post! Yes, being on this hiatus (?) is pretty challenging just because, like you said, low stats & such is so hard to see when you’re so used to seeing so much more. But at the same time, it’s going to feel so GOOD to come back to such a welcoming community in the end πŸ™‚ I think my biggest fear when it comes to a hiatus is that (besides my stats being super low) I’d run out of inspiration & will to actually go BACK to blogging. Right now, it’s really not a problem because I’ve been pre-blogging & responding back to comments regularly, but when school gets more difficult, I don’t know how I’ll be able to manage my time. :/ But anyways, blogger’s guilt is definitely a thing and I’m trying to stay away from that mindset, but ya know, that’s kind of hard lol. Thank you for such an enlightening and entertaining post!! I really look forward to seeing even more discussions from you πŸ˜€

    -Jess @jbelkbooks

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    1. Ahh Jess thank you so much, how come you are always THE SWEETEST? ❀ ❀ Oh yes, don't focus on the negativity of it all. If it's a bit scary and disappointing to step away, it feels so good to come back after a while, refreshed and with great ideas. With school, I get that things can be a bit hectic, but don't worry, no one will forget you, and we will be waiting for your return πŸ™‚ ❀ ❀ The guilt is SO real, I'm not going to lie, but ultimately it feels GOOD to step away a bit, so don't let that consume you ❀ ❀

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  14. MARIE! HI! LONG TIME I NO COMMENT ON YOUR POST BECAUSE I SUCK! HI!
    Okay you are sooooo inspirational. Even when you were on hiatus your mind was still on your blog and that’s what I aspire too! With so much going on its soooo easy for me to forget abou my blog, but you’re so focused! I aspire to your level omgggg
    But I also totally understand what you mean about feeling disconnected. It’s so hard to find inspiration after a blogging hiatus or slump when you feel so left behind, when you feel like you’ve recessed 😦 I’m with ya, sister!! But I know we can do it, especially you with your rockin posts!!!

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    1. BECCA hi how are you?!! HOW DARE YOU say such a thing, you are one of the most AWESOME human being ❀ ❀
      Thank you so, SO much for your sweet comment, I don't know if I am such an inspiration ahah, it means so much to me that you'd think that. I guess I am sometimes TOO focused, I mean I should be thinking of different things sometimes, shouldn't I? Haha I am a bit obsessed.
      Feeling disconnected is one of THE WORST things, really, but it also feels great to come back and knowing you can catch up, you can find new things, new people, new inspiration everywhere, really ❀

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    1. Ohh thank you so, so much! Well I hope you found some kind of support in my blog post. It’s so scary to go on an hiatus, but ultimately it feels great to take a step back once in a while, to focus on other things and come back with more ideas and inspiration πŸ™‚ Good luck for the moving!! ❀

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  15. I’m glad that you enjoyed your hiatus. Also very happy that you’re back. I missed your little corner of the internet.

    I understand what you’re talking about. As you know, I am living in the perpetual freak out. I woke up late today, and there is a whole bunch of stuff I need to do, but I also need to blog. I was lying in bed panicking about something I could write that wouldn’t take me too much time but would also be interesting enough to be worth reading. It’s important to remember in moments like that that the reason that I started this is because I thought it would be fun.

    Writing is an even harder thing to want to do these days, because everything has to be so immediate. It’s like as soon as a major event happens (I am talking major event as in on Twitter, not so much of worldly significance), before you’ve had to change to decide what you think about it, there are like a hundred think pieces on the thing already. I find it quite exhausting sometimes. I always thought that a big part of writing was the sitting and thinking about the thing, but with the insane pace of people’s attention spans now, it seems like that has been lost. I can relate this to reading too – the older I get (and the less time I have, honestly), the more I want everything I consume to matter to me in some way. I want to expand my understanding, or challenge me, or, when I need it, provide me with a total escape from everything that I have to deal with. Quite often, the latest YA everyone is obsessed with doesn’t really sound like it’s doing that. So I’m always asking myself whether I should be reviewing the thing that everyone is reviewing, because that’s what people are interested in, or reading some slightly obscure memoir that I heard about on a podcast because it makes me happy? I don’t know. Sometimes when I think about writing I think I have to choose between my interests and whatever I think people will actually read, and I then I get depressed about the whole thing.

    SORRY. Epic ramble. I am in a heavy rejection phase where I keep sending off articles to various websites and hearing nothing, and I’m wondering whether it’s because I am approaching the thing all wrong. Are we supposed to do what we want to do, or what we think other people want us to do? It’s all very confusing.

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    1. Thank you so, so much Lydia, I missed you too so much! ❀ And this might be an epic ramble, but I could completely relate to it, and THANK YOU for sharing this, really. It makes me feel less alone. I have the same struggles, and even if I try to schedule the most I can, I panic when I know I have nothing prepared, and there's always doubt creeping in whenever I write. What if this post isn't good enough? What if I drive people away with my unpopular opinion? What if I'm reviewing something no one knows, and they don't CARE? The struggle is so real, but ultimately I think we have to remember that we started this for fun. So it's important to write about what we enjoy, life's got enough stupid jobs, responsibilities and things we don't want to do, we don't want to add blogging to that endless list. I'm so sorry to hear about the rejections. I'm currently in that same place where everything is so uncertain and you feel rejected and it is the worst, really. But in the end, it our lives, and we only live it once so we should do what matters to us, review what makes sense to us regardless of statistics, don't be afraid to stand up and call back if we are really interested in some things, and just do our best I guess? Life's confusing, unfortunately it doesn't come with an how-to manual. I wish it did sometimes ahah.

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  16. These kinds of posts sounds like a great idea! I’d love to read more discussions about blogging!
    I’ve been blogging for about 7 months now and I just took a one-week hiatus when I was on holiday (I tried to work ahead and schedule posts but I kind of failed at that :/) And I know that’s not a lot, but I still felt that guilt you were talking about. So I totally understand. But on the other hand it’s like you said, sometimes you need to take a step away to get some new inspiration and re-motivate you as well. πŸ™‚

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    1. Oh, don’t be afraid! If you feel like you are getting a bit sick of blogging right now, it’s really best to take a step back. Forget the fear, the guilt and every kind of feeling that comes with it, and take a step back to remember why you love blogging. What makes you keep on going. Think about some changes you want to do, things you want to talk about more, or less. Taking a step back can really put things into perspective πŸ™‚

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  17. I totally see what you mean about a hiatus. I’m moving soon and thought about maybe taking a week off and was immediately bombarded by fear. “What if I lose all my followers because I don’t have consistent content anymore” and so on. I completely understand what you were talking about with pouring your heart into a website and being worried about what will happen if you leave it for a bit.

    But I think it’s the sort of thing where if people like your stuff they’ll be there when you come back. Maybe you won’t get new followers, but all the loyal peeps and friends you make will still be around

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    1. That’s exactly it. It’s so scary to take a step back, especially for the first time. You’ve been there all the time, and it’s crazy to think you could lose everything you worked for. But people will be here when you come back, I am sure of it -let’s be honest, you have a fantastic blog!. And the loyal peeps and friends are the ones who matter the most πŸ™‚ Good luck for the moving! And thank you so, so much πŸ™‚

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  18. I’m really glad you are back, but hiatuses are a part of the “natural blogging life”. It is healthy to take a step back every once in a while and take a break from this blogging life that can be so demanding. I’m glad you had a good break. Also, IT IS OKAY to not be caught up on everything you missed in (roughly) a month. Also, no one (who is worth it) is going to leave your amazing blog just because you took a break (like we all have), so don’t worry about stats.

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  19. Interesting post!! I’m curious, when you take a blogging hiatus obviously your stats will go down while you’re doing it, but do you think it affects them in the long term, i.e. when you start up again? Or is it more that psychologically/emotionally you think it will?

    I only post once a week and I sometimes miss a week (just don’t have time for more!), so don’t post often enough to have a sense of a hiatus affecting my blog much at all. If I have guilt, it’s mostly because it’s a personal goal for me keep it up and if I miss a week I think I’m letting myself down, or if I don’t catch up with comments and reading other blogs I like I feel bad, but I don’t get much of a sense that anyone else will notice or that it’ll affect my stats… but then, I’m guessing it is very different if you post more regularly and are more active than I am! (which most people probably are πŸ™‚ ).

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    1. Thank you so, so much Nicole, so glad you liked reading this post πŸ™‚ Well, speaking from experience, I don’t think that stats are affected in the long term, when I started posting again, my stats went up again. It’s more of a psychological issue, because when you leave, you think no one’s going to be there waiting for you. Yet, when you publish another post, people see it on their feed, and come back, so…it’s more something you think will happen, rather than an actual fact. Well, it was, for me, every case is different I guess.
      I think that it doesn’t matter whether you choose to post once a week or twice, or more, what’s important is to blog as you want, and never pressure yourself to produce more content if you don’t want to, or can’t πŸ™‚ Thank you so much for your lovely comment!

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      1. You’re welcome πŸ™‚ I’m glad to hear it didn’t effect things in the long term! But I know what you mean about thinking it might happen anyway, it’s always something that is on your mind. I guess it’s a tiny bit like nurturing a plant to grow and flourish over months and years and then going on holiday – you know it’s probably going to survive till you get back but you can’t help but worry about it because so much time and effort went into it.

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  20. Marie, this post spoke to me.
    When I was gone for three months, I felt all those things you described. I definitely was worried about people forgetting me, or becoming ‘irrelevant’ (for lack of a better word). I’ve made changes to my blog too, and I am so happy with them. The only thing I’m concerned about is that I pour all my free time into blogging, which makes me happy, but I’m worried I’ll get burned out later. I guess we’ll see. I need to take a step back and make sure I do what is good for me.

    Your post was so honest and wonderful. I loved it. Thank you for sharing this, Marie. ❀

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  21. Loved this post and I love the feature! Can’t wait to see more posts about blogging 😊 I’ve never taken a proper hiatus yet but I can imagine what it would feel like I never new that I would love my little blog so much when I started and it’s just so cool to finally have something that I can connect with so many people that enjoy the same things as me 😊

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  22. Brilliant blogging discussion! I actually bookmarked this post when you first published it because I knew I wanted to return and comment. ^.^

    I so agree with all your points. Blogging is certainly a commitment that is hard to let go once one has started. I’ve had short hiatuses in the past but I still managed to schedule posts during my time away. (But then I realized that that was sort of stressful for me as well because comments would pile up and I’d feel incredibly guilty for not blogging hopping or keeping up with my friends’ blogs…) However, I’m proud to comment that I know feel like I’ve reached a point where I can take true hiatuses where I don’t have the urge to schedule posts. I think what comes with blogger maturity is being able to put aside insecurities and accept hiatuses if a blogger thinks he/she needs it. πŸ™‚

    And I really miss chatting with you, Marie! T_T Hope you’re doing well. πŸ˜€

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    1. Ahh Summer, thank you so, so much for your sweet comment, I am so happy you could relate to this. You’re so right, I’ve always felt a bit guilty about hiatuses, and it feels great when you finally come to the point of knowing you have the right to leave, and knowing that you won’t feel as guilty as before for doing so. It’s liberating, really!
      I miss chatting with you too, Summer! I hope classes are going okay? ❀

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