Leaving, getting, answering comments and the craziness of it all

Good morning, good afternoon, good evening friends ! How are you? I hope your week is going well so far. Today’s another Wednesday where I tackle a blogging subject, and it will be, drumrolls…All about commenting.

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If you ask me, commenting is the mind and the soul of book bloggers. Well, obviously after writing endless rants about books we loved and didn’t love so much, posts about our feelings on books and all the craziness that makes us, well…us. I have said this a couple times already, and I heard so many bloggers feel the same way. It’s interaction with the community, getting to know other bloggers, sharing love,Β  bookish recommendations and crazy feelings such as bookshelves space, endless fangirling and blogging pressure….it’s THIS, that bounds us together. And it’s probably why I love it so much.

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But since I’m always here to complain – strike that, I am here just to scream out loud what I’ve seen, and what I feel even if it seems a bit stupid – comments are sometimes coming with some kind of pressure, as well. Maybe it’s just me, but whenever I don’t have time to answer my comments of the day, I feel like I’m not…being polite enough ? Or not quick enough ? This might be because I’m crazy, though, but I’m always guessing that people are looking for a dialogueI’m talking about comments that are thoughtful, and not comments that are fishing for views, such as hey check out my blog. For me, these aren’t looking for a conversation #sorry. And whenever I take a long time to answer to them, I kind of feel like I’m ignoring them for that long, and it makes me feel like I am failing, for some reason.

Yes, this is a first-world problem, I do realize it, and we are all allowed to take a break, to breathe and take a couple days, or even weeks, to answer comments when life gets a bit hectic. OBVIOUSLY. But since this feature is made to share struggles, even if they seem a bit stupid, well here I am, ranting away.

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There are comments on your blog, but also on other blogs. Blogs you are following, people you are loving, because they are sweet, nice, because they love and fangirl about the same books, write insightful blog posts and just, are overall awesome. I don’t know how everyone works with blog hopping, and commenting on other blogs, I don’t know if you all have some kind of schedule, but I do try to share love by visiting other blogs a lot. But then, you’re on twitter or bookstagram, and you find more and MORE BLOGS that seem awesome. Because the community is basically a dark hole you’ll fall into. You have been warned. And if you get started, you can spend ALL DAY just commenting on OTHER blogs. Not blogging for yourself. Not answering your comments. Not tweeting about that book you love. NOT READING (insert terrified scream here). BUT there is something SO rewarding about talking with other book bloggers. About finding YOUR KIND OF PEOPLE out there, from Australia and New Zealand, from the US and England, from India and ALL THE PEOPLE. This is beautiful, guys. But also, we all could use another pair of hands to type and a couple more DAYS in one day to share all the love with everyone.

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SO what do we do now, you ask? Freak out because you need to answer to comments? Freak out because you haven’t blog hopped in a week and people will forget you? I guess there’s no universal answer to this, but if there are things I have learned in my couple years of blogging, it’s that BOOK BLOGGERS are not ROBOTS, nor should you be. I took a two week hiatus and felt guilty about it all, but shouldn’t have. If I missed about a billion great posts and probably will never catch up with these, there are new ones. No one screamed at me for answering ten days later to a comment. Because I still answered.

We can always try to climb out of that black hole that is book blogging. Try not to feel stuck, buried, overwhelmed by comments and the feeling that, in order to feel PART of the community, you need to be quick, a robot, comment everywhere and just be crazy. Seriously, we don’t even have to try. We’re not that into deep, as long as we can see the light. As long as we remind ourselves that comments might be one of the most rewarding thing about book blogging, but there’s nothing wrong in taking our time with it.

Do you answer to your comments on a daily-basis, or do you take a day once in a while to do it all at once? Do you feel a bit guilty when you’re slow to answer?

Do you feel the urge to comments on ALL THE BLOGS, only to feel a bit overwhelmed afterwards? Let’s chat in comments!

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94 thoughts on “Leaving, getting, answering comments and the craziness of it all

  1. I relate with this post SO much! I’m so glad it’s not just me that gets overwhelmed with comments and feels guilty if it takes me a while. I’m only new to the community but already I’m freaking out about keeping up with comments on all my platforms (twitter and Instagram as well) plus writing posts and taking pictures as well as actually reading which is actually the point of all this. I seriously need more hours in a day or some jurda and coffee to keep me awake all night so I can have those extra hours! Thank you for making me feel slightly less stressed about this! xx😊

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    1. Oh thank you so, so much, and welcome to the community!! I hope you’re enjoying blogging so far πŸ™‚ You’re definitely not alone in freaking out, I guess it comes with the job ahah. If you ever need to rant about anything, I’m here πŸ™‚ And take your time to answer, just enjoy it, that’s all that matters πŸ˜€ ❀

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      1. Thank you so much! i’m loving blogging so far! it’s awesome being able to communicate with people who aren’t weirded by my fangirling. xxxx

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  2. You’ve illustrated the trials and tribulations of blog commenting so well here! I definitely feel guilty sometimes for not checking out the blogs I’m following for a few days, and worry that I’ve missed out on some great posts. And then when I do get round to catching up on them I get like 20 comments back in a row that I suddenly need to answer! I definitely shouldn’t complain, because as you say, the interaction is so fulfilling, but it can be quite intense to try and catch up/keep up with the ever-moving blogsphere. My current tactic is to try and devote a little time each day to checking out some of the most recent posts on my reader that really catch my attention, or that share common interests with my own. It’s mostly working, but I’ll always wish there were more hours in the day for blogging and blog hopping! Thanks for such a great post!

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    1. Ohh thank you so, so much, I’m so glad you could relate to this! I worry as well that I missed SO many posts, and especially things I would have loved to read, but I guess we can’t do it all, ahah. I love your tactic, I’m trying to do the same, but sometimes it gets a bit tiring, even if it’s just a little bit everyday. I guess we can’t send love to the whole community, even if I wish we could πŸ™‚ Thank you! ❀

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  3. Trying to keep up with absolutely everything that’s out there in your realm of blogging is impossible. I used to feel really pressured to read at least one post by every single book blogger I came across – now I have realized that since I am not a robot, nor a superhuman, it is ridiculous to beat myself up from not doing so. You’re right – we are supposed to be having fun, and when it becomes more about strategy or trying to get everyone to like you – well, it just won’t happen. And we need to accept that, and concentrate on our personal goals and our own little community.

    Something I really like about your style is that you are always faithful in responding – even if it isn’t within 20 seconds – and you always are thoughtful and it’s clear you take effort to reply to people. That makes us feel special. So, we’ve got your back, Marie. Thank you.

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    1. You’re so right about this. I wanted to keep up with everything and everyone in the blogosphere when I first started, and soon realized it was impossible. Then I just tried to keep up with some blogs, and even then I realized I couldn’t comment on everything. It takes so much time. I guess we should just have fun and spread love for blog posts as much as we can, but because we love them, not feel obligated to do so πŸ™‚
      Oh thank you so, so much, I can’t even say how much that means to me, you’re so sweet ❀ And you are special, all of you, I feel so happy to be talking to you almost on a daily basis. Thank you so, so much ❀

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  4. I comment as I feel like it. Sometimes it is in a long conversation, and sometimes in a few words. I never really feel pressured about it. I do not feel as if the blogger involved has to respond every time. An occasional thank you is all that is required.

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  5. Hahah, DON’T FEEL PRESSURED to respond to this! But I will say that I do try to respond to comments the same day or at least within the next 24 hours, but that’s because I don’t get a ton. But, sometimes the comments are just really difficult to respond to, and that will often stress me out. “I really want to read this book!” — like, what do you say to that? Those things stress me. Otherwise I don’t find it too terribly stressful unless I get a lot of comments in one day (:

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    1. I always try to answer the same day as well, but sometimes it gets a bit overwhelming, especially with life and work taking a lot of time ahah. Ohh I understand, sometimes I find myself with nothing more to say, either, but I always try to say at least thank you πŸ™‚ I don’t get tons of comments either, but since I try to comment back all the time, there’s quickly a lot to do ahah πŸ™‚ Thank you so much for stopping by, Ali πŸ™‚

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  6. I try to respond to comments on my own blog at least once a day, but I have had weeks where that simply wasn’t possible. I felt a little bad sometimes, but you can always go back and check what the conversation was about if you aren’t in the loop anymore.
    I have, however, gotten VERY terrible at commenting on other people’s blogs. I still read as much as possible, but everything seems time sensitive these days and I don’t always have the energy to leave a comment that I think the blogger would deserve. It stresses me out a little.

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    1. You’re right ahah, I find myself often checking the conversation again even if it’s just after a day or so, my memory sucks haha.
      I get it, I feel like I barely have time these days as well, and it makes me so sad. I want to show love to everyone and leave thoughtful comments, but sometimes I’m at a loss for words as well :/ I guess we can’t comment on everything ahah πŸ™‚ Thank you so much Kat ❀

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  7. I’ve been commenting on more and more blogs, and have a list of about 50 blogs where I basically comment on every post. It’s very rewarding and feels great to interact with the people who share the same passion that you do! That said, I agree with you that it can become a bit of a pressure. Okay, a lot at times. My weekends are 98% blog free. Which is nice because I can invest my time and energy into other important things. Then when it’s Monday, I open up my notification feed and see that I have about 150 posts I still ‘need’ to read. While Monday used to be my steady review day, I simply don’t have time to review anymore because I feel like I need to catch up. Which is nonsense, of course, because no one is forcing us to! I try to comment back on a daily basis (apart from the weekends again) as well and sometimes, I can sit up to 6 hours and haven’t written anything myself. Let alone read a book. It’s hard to juggle all the balls! And this is a great discussion post because it makes me see that I’m not alone in this. And hopefully someone will provide us with the PERFECT tip on how to be a robot while not being a robot and still living peacefully ;).

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    1. ” I feel like I need to catch up. Which is nonsense, of course, because no one is forcing us to!” I can relate to this SO MUCH, it’s crazy. No one’s forcing me to blog hop everynight or leave comments, but for some reason I feel like I’m failing if I don’t.
      It’s crazy how you manage to comment on SO many blogs, I’m impressed! It is so rewarding to talk with people and it always makes me so happy, but it does take a lot of time. In the evenings, I have time for nothing else but commenting and answering my comments, so if I’m busy on weekends, I panic because I can’t schedule my blog posts haha, it’s a vicious circle. Thank you so, so much for leaving your thoughts on this, I’m so glad I’m not alone in this ahah πŸ™‚ ❀

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      1. Yes, exactly! Failing and guilty! I think we need to loosen up a little. *sings Let it Go*. But it’s so hard!! I don’t know how those people whom I see commenting on a lot more blogs than I do, do it! You’re definitely not πŸ˜€ ❀

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  8. I try to reply and comment on other blogs but sometimes life comes in the way and it’s absolutely okay to slow down for a bit. I remind myself that I am doing this for fun and people will understand if I reply later. It’s not always possible to go and comment back to every one who has commented on a post of mine and I think it’s okay but everything is not possible, we are muggles [ 😦 ] after all.
    Great post!

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  9. AWWW don’t feel guilty!! You’re one of the best commenters I know! I totally agree that commenting, specifically dialogue comments, are totally the best part of blogging. I feel way less guilty about ignoring self-promoting comments. *nods*

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  10. I sometimes worry about not responding to comments fast enough, but then I just stop and realize that mature people aren’t going to be upset about me not responding within 5 minutes. We all have lives outside of book blogging and it’s totally unreasonable to expect an immediate response. If I’m busy, I’ll just like a comment to show that I’ve seen and acknowledged it, then when I have time, I’ll comment back. Do what works for you and don’t feel pressured! πŸ™‚

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  11. Great post, Marie! I always look forward to your ‘blogging ways’ posts because they’re so relatable. πŸ™‚ I totally feel you on this one. I quite often don’t have time to reply to comments on the same day someone leaves them and I always feel super guilty about that! I will always reply when I have the time, but I want to have the time to properly reply to people’s comments as well as commenting on their own blogs and blog hopping. It’s hard trying to fit it all in, especially when you work and have other bits and pieces to juggle too! x

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    1. Oh thank you, this makes me so happy! These are actually my favorite posts to write, I’m glad they feel so relatable to you πŸ™‚ I understand, and I feel the same way. Even if sometimes I could have a couple of minutes to reply to a comment, I’d rather answer properly and thoughtfully than rush it all. It is hard to do it all even if you’re exhausted after a day at work, but conversations make it worth it πŸ™‚

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  12. I relate SO MUCH to all of this !! Since school started back up again my tipe blog hopping and answering comments was drastically reduced, even when compared with last school year, this one is WAAY too crazy ! Where I used to blog-hop everyday for an hour, I am Lucky to find the time to do it once a week with all the blogging I have to do myself and studying and reading and so on and so forth. And I used to answer my comments RIGHT AWAY with the WP app but now even with that it can go a week without me finding the time too, even though recently I4ve been trying to answer ever other day before starting my night read.
    UGH!!! And the worst part is that I feel SO guilty even though I know I shouldn’t and it’s not a big deal, I can’t help it.
    Anyway, rant over hahaha! Great post my Twinnie ❀

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    1. I’m SO glad you can relate my twinnie! It is crazy how things change when you’re back to school / at work and everything, I definitely feel it since I started working. I guess we just need to find our rhythm, and yeah remember that people won’t be mad if we are slow, as long as we answer πŸ™‚ I can’t help feeling guilty as well, but I guess there’s a reason why we are twinnies πŸ˜›

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  13. LOVE THIS POST. I am new to book blogging, and so I have been absolutely blown away by both the number of blogs and also how many of them are awesome! Finding a balance will hopefully come with time, but this blog post in general was just really encouraging. Thanks!

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    1. Oh thank you so, so much, and I am so happy you enjoyed this post. There are so many blogs indeed, it’s sometimes hard to keep up and even know where to start and which ones you’ll want to follow and eagerly comment on every day, week, month, because you love their content. But it comes with time I guess πŸ™‚ I hope you’re enjoying book blogging! πŸ™‚

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  14. Awesome post, Marie! You’re on a roll with this Blogging Ways blog series. ^.^ I feel extremely guilty because, as you know, I’m not replying to comments on my blog as actively anymore. And I feel even worse that I still get comments despite my lack of replying and blog hopping, but a part of me also feels a bit relieved. Before I had these thoughts that people only read the content I released on Xingsings because they were obligated to (because I had visited their blogs). But realizing that even if I’m not as active, friends will still continue to take the time to comment really warms my heart, as cheesy as that sounds. I’m not sure if I’m making a whole lot of sense, haha. XD

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    1. Thank you so, so much Summer! I really am, ahah, every time I think I’ll run out of ideas, and then come up with another rant. I guess I can’t shut up about blogging, I’m glad you’re still enjoying it πŸ™‚
      Ohhh I get this feeling so, SO much. Before, I thought I got comments only because I visited some blogs. Lately, I don’t visit new blogs, and even when I don’t have too much time to blog hop, I’m always surprised and so happy to find out that people are still coming, leaving comments and everything. It warms my heart as well, so I completely understand your feeling! πŸ™‚

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  15. Yes, yes, YES!! I try to comment on as many posts as I can, but sometimes I get behind and don’t have the time to comment on every post. And yes, I feel very guilty about it. I know I shouldn’t. I know it’s not the end of the world. And hopefully people will understand that sometimes you’re just too busy or don’t have the time. But I still get stressed about it. This was a fantastic discussion post, by the way!

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  16. Great post Marie ❀ and I've never actually seen anyone talk about this before but you definitely made points I agree with as well! I love talking to other bloggers but I do agree with you about the pressures (if that is the right word) of having to reply as soon as possible. I always feel guilty if I eave comments for too long but then I know that it doesn't really cause offense because if people don't reply to my comments within a certain time frame I don't really mind.
    It takes a lot of time to comment and reply and we all have other things going on in our lives.
    Oh I haven't had a chance to blog hop in ages. I really need to clear a weekend or something to do just that I feel like I'm potentially missing out on some great bloggers out there! πŸ˜€

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      1. That’s all right, and yeah I’ve started to skip some days just because I’m so busy. Just with work and life in general, but I know my blog will be waiting for me when I have the time again, and I certainly don’t expect people to reply to my comments every day if they’re too busy.
        I hope so too, I know there are some amazing ones out there, I just need to discover them! πŸ˜€

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  17. The community is definitely a black hole for awesome blogs & people to get to know – but if I don’t stay on top of my comments, I get so bogged down that they pile up & stress me out! I make myself do them as soon as I see them so that I don’t forget.

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  18. Yes! As you said, interaction is like the heart and soul of the book blogging community, and I love getting comments and replying to comments and leaving comments on other blogs. But it’s also overwhelming because it takes so much time and effort, and we all have limited time, you know? I still haven’t really figured out how to handle all the commenting stuff. I kind of just flounder a lot lol. I reply to all comments on my blog (unless they really don’t require a comment), but I do feel like I’m neglecting people if it takes more than like two days. And I try to visit people back, make sure to visit regularly all the blogs I follow, but not only does it take time, it’s hard to keep track of because there are so many! And I feel like bloglovin’ doesn’t show me every post :-/ So yeah, it’s overwhelming, but I’ve recently started using Pocket to save posts and then go back and go through all of them to comment when I have a chance. And you can delete them once you’ve visited and whatnot, so it’s helping me stay organized at least!

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    1. It really does take so much time to answer to all the comments, and trying to be organized is SO complicated at times. I don’t use Pocket, but it’s actually a great tip, I might have to try that! Thank you so, so much for your thoughtful comment and for sharing this tip! πŸ™‚

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  19. Excellent post! I used to wonder how people managed to be on everyone’s posts all the time and basically never miss anything in the blogging community. I know now that they put a lot of effort and interest just to check out what’s up around town. It’s definitely time-consuming, but it shows a lot of dedication if you ask me! I personally usually answer the comments on my posts as soon as possible (within 24 hours) cause it’s already quite rare to see people drop a thought or two on my posts. It’s always a huge pleasure to see them do so though, especially when I don’t expect anyone to drop by (i.e. mostly cause I might not have read something that the blogging community has tendencies to read). Great post again, Marie! πŸ™‚

    – Lashaan

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    1. It is dedication, and I can’t believe how some people do it, aha. It takes HOURS, really, to get through all blog posts and comment and answer to your own comments, it’s so time-consuming, but it is really rewarding as well. Ohhh I understand the feeling, those are the best times, when you don’t expect anyone to actually answer, but somehow they do. It’s awesome πŸ™‚
      Thank you so, so much Lashaan! πŸ™‚

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  20. Commenting is probably my favorite topic when it comes to blogging! πŸ˜€ just like you said, comment is one of the best thing of ever, it’s so precious and rewarding and yes it comes with a sense of obligation as a book blogger. I am flattered every time I receive some super long, thoughtful comments, but those comments take longer to reply because they require some equally thoughtful answers and then since they’re so nice I want to visit their blog and comment back which is (honestly) time consuming, so most of the time I end up putting off comments for a while 😦 at least until I get in the mood and have enough time to do all of the above. And during my busy days, I feel really bad about it because everyone is so nice and aghhh you know how this feels, right? :’)

    And YESSS I love commenting on other blogs, ALL THE BLOGS. There are sooo many amazing posts out there but sometimes I’m just to overwhelm to even read the posts, let alone comment on them 😦

    Anyway, those looking-for-visitor comments are the worst, it happened a lot to me and I genuinely don’t know how to reply. Someone once said ‘great book’ on my review and am I supposed to say thank you? I mean, that’s not my book hahaha πŸ˜› and even worse is when people drop a link out of the blue, it’s irritating when the link is even longer than the comment itself.

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    1. Haha I definitely know how this feels. Ii want to take time to answer properly to people who take the time to read and answer thoughtfully to my blog posts, but at the same time I feel like if I’m too slow, well… I just feel guilty about it,which is silly, but well I can’t help it haha.
      And YES, there are way too many posts out there. I wish we could keep up with everything and show love to all bloggers out there, but it quickly gets overwhelming. I try to comment on a few blogs every evening, but there are so many posts I could do it all night ahah.
      OH YES I get this, ahah sometimes people just leave a word or two, and it’s complicated to answer to them. When people are just here to self-promote, it makes me sad as well… I mean, they are missing out on so much by doing this, instead of leaving a “better” comment :/
      THANK YOU so, so much for your comment ❀ ❀ ❀

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      1. Totally silly! I mean, it’s not like people are desperately waiting for us to answer their comments anyway… or are they? That would be wonderful if people are really waiting for my replies hahaha πŸ˜›

        I know right! There’s also comment asking us to follow back… which I most likely won’t do. I probably would have followed said person if he/she just leave regular comments :’) you’re welcome Marie! ❀

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      2. Haha well… I have to say sometimes I am eager to get answers, especially when I want to know what some people thought about a book, or just because…I’m just looking forward to continue the conversation with lovely people just as YOU ❀
        Yes exactly! When people actually ask for a follow back, it makes me a bit mad. If the person comments nicely without even saying this and I end up liking her/his blog, I'd follow anyway, so πŸ™‚
        Thank you again ❀ ❀

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  21. Your posts always come just when I need them! ❀ I totally relate to this. I was actually thinking about it while making flashcards for my literature class (I don't understand half of what I wrote, it's harder when you don't read the book discussed in class xD). I did not have time to check posts and comments for yesterday's This Week In Books and I have let comments unanswered because of sleep/studies/engrossing book I can't tear myself away from. Now I feel guilty, there are 15 comments waiting for me. But it doesn't stop there! I also feel guilty when I don't spare an hour a day commenting on other's posts! I wish I could read them all and find interesting things to say but either I don't have the time to read all posts or sometimes my mind is blank and I can't find a thing to say, which is so frustrating!!!! There are so many blogs that I love now, I try to visit my favorite first and then go over my whole reader, but it takes an afternoon to check all the last posts. Just the last!!! Still, commenting is so much fun, and you can make the best of friends simply by interacting on a post. It makes all the difference. I blog for myself, but I love seeing a comment from someone reacting to what I said, even if it's small. We don't always need a novel-length comment! It's also so nice when friends take the time to check your ramblings despite you being absent for a couple of days, it never fails to make me smile πŸ™‚
    I'm making new adjustments to my schedule (again :p) so I'll try to keep an hour a day to visit and reply at least three times a week. Let's see how it goes!

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    1. It’s the sweechie brains, we are connected ahah πŸ™‚ Also, I feel kind of reassured that you’re saying you spend hours, and a whole afternoon at times, checking others’ posts. I do this too, it is SO long, and sometimes my mind is BLANK, EMPTY, and it makes me so frustrated, but… I guess we can’t always think of something to say to everything, can we? Also, YES. I blog for myself as well, but talking to other people make this adventure so, so great, and even more worthwile. I have made wonnderful friends thanks to comments, and even if it’s exhausting, I love the outcome, so I guess…we have to work ahah and find a good organization πŸ™‚
      Ohhh I hope it goes well, you’ll let me know, and I might steal your idea πŸ˜‰

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  22. Seriously feel like we all need to read a post like this!! Totally, totally agree!!! I feel so much guilt when I can’t get to comments fast enough- and like you said, I shouldn’t- but it’s like you said, people want to have a conversation and here I am, slowing it down, holding it up, keeping people waiting :/ and yes, that’s especially true if you’re trying to get to everyone’s blogs too- cos the convo should never stop on your own blog- I mean it’s the best thing when you can continue the conversation and I just want to read everyone else’s posts all the time dammit!! (okay I need to *breathe* now πŸ˜‰ )

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    1. Hahaha, I’m so glad you feel the same way than I do, and..well I feel the freaking out here haha. I want to read ALL the blogs and I hate to keep people waiting, but at the same time I guess we are not robots and we can’t do it all. Sometimes all we need is to chill a little bit? If we ever can haha :p Thank you SO much ❀ ❀

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  23. I feel with this post SO much, especially at the moment and it is so so horrible! Leaving comments there while I’m busy doing something makes me feel SO BAD knowing that some lovely person has been so awesome makes me feel horrible. I just want everyone to know how much I love and appreciate them but time is not by my side so much these past few weeks and I just can’t do it on time. The same thing goes by with commenting on other people’s posts (if not, I feel even worse) because all these fantastic people are writing posts SO WORTHY of so much love and I just want to tell them how much I truly do love them! I’ve been so absent on visiting blogs with everything and it makes me truly feel so bad and guilty and I’m really trying to set up some time but I feel like I’m taking so long! I mean with your posts for example! Such great content and so much love and compassion brought into these posts and I CAN SEE that and I want to scream it to the world because this blog is so amazing but time escapes me and I don’t comment and I feel so bad.

    ANYWAY, a really great discussion post that I feel so related to and I love it so much! ❀ Keep doing what you do my forever crazy because you are so great! πŸ™‚

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    1. OH my forever crazy, don’t feel guilty if you don’t comment on all the posts or anything. I mean, I do, too, so I completely get the feeling, but I’m trying to get over it. I mean, I understand when people take time to answer to my comments because they are busy, so I guess we should chill and feel okay if we don’t have time to answer to comments or / and blog hop and share some love right away? I’m just like you, I want to share all the love right now everywhere, all the time, but it is SO overwhelming at times :/
      Thank you so, SO much my forever crazy ❀ ❀

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      1. Aww my forever crazy, thank you for all the reassurances! I completely understand, its just sometimes so easy to forget when I’m feeling behind on everything but I’ll be sure to really keep that in mind!

        Whenever you’re sharing the love, its such a tremendous and great support and I want to thank you so greatly for it! ❀ You truly are so wonderful!

        Always! ❀ ❀

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  24. I usually l do answer my own comments on a daily basis, just because I like to. I don’t think anyone should feel obliged to comment that quickly though. The key is finding a balance between replying immediately and forgetting to reply. Sometimes I see bloggers say they’re going to spend all day and reply to all the comments–and they’re going to start with the posts from five months ago. Honestly, if I left a comment on your blog five months ago, I don’t really need a reply now. I’ve forgotten what I said and won’t be looking for a reply. πŸ˜‰

    And I definitely agree commenting can be time-consuming. I think anyone who says commenting is not important is not really being honest with other bloggers. My own traffic ebbs and flows with how much I comment around, and I’ve read enough blog posts on commenting to know people feel unappreciated when they leave comments and a blogger never responds. But you’re also totally right that finding a way to show the community you do care about them, while actually spending time on your own blog, is important.

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    1. You’re so right, and it’s great that you manage to answer to your comments every single day. It’s important to find a right rhythm without feeling too consumed by everything we have to do, but some days it’s harder than others, because SO many blog posts everywhere ahah.
      I agree with you. Commenting definitely helps your blog grow, in numbers obviously, but most importantly in feeling part of the community πŸ™‚ Thank you so, so much for your comment! ❀

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  25. This post is everything I’ve been feeling over the past few weeks! I used to comment and blog hop daily but life has gotten so busy as of late that I’m lucky if I can post more than once a week or finish a book much less everything else. I always feel so guilty when it has been a few days and I haven’t been able to reply to comments or blog hop and it gets overwhelming sometimes. And I know I shouldn’t feel guilty or overwhelmed because we all get busy but I end up feeling that way anyway. Commenting is definitely something that is easy to get caught up in but it’s so much fun talking to other book bloggers. I just need to find some balance. πŸ™ˆ

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    1. Oh I am so glad you feel the same way. It is hard to keep up with everything, and even if I know feeling guilty is silly, I just sometimes can’t help it, ahah. I hope we will both find some balance sometimes,and most importantly, that we keep on enjoying blogging and commenting no matter how busy we can get πŸ™‚
      Thank you so much Melissa! πŸ™‚

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  26. Out of everything, commenting is what I enjoy the most out of blogging but it’s also the most time consuming. I used to try and reply to them within 24 hours and blog hop back with a few days. But that was way too much pressure from it and I was finding myself too stressed, so I do it here and there when I have time. It’s a lot more enjoyable that way, because I know people appreciate it nonetheless.

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  27. Such a relatable post Marie! I love visiting other blogs and commenting, but it is indeed super time-consuming. It’s part of the never-ending book blogger balance act that I haven’t quite figured out yet myself. Like, some weeks I’ll be super good at blog hopping and commenting but then I will not have read anything or written any posts. Or one day I will comment a lot but then the next day I’m already feeling guilty because there are so many other great blogs that I haven’t visited yet.
    I try to reply back to comments on my blog within 48 hours (though it doesn’t always work) and have 1 or maybe two blog hopping moments throughout the week. I’m not super satisfied with my routine yet but I’ll figure it out πŸ™‚
    Also, it’s true that the most important thing is just the enjoyment you can get from commenting and talking to book blogger friends.

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    1. Thank you so, so much, I’m glad you ca relate! I guess it takes a bit of time to adjust and find the right balance between taking care of your blog and commenting / sharing with the community. But it’s so fulfilling to talk to people with the same interests as you, I love it so much πŸ™‚ Thank you!

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  28. Actually, come to think of it, ranting and commenting are an excellent way to summarize the existence of a book blogger, LOL.

    The crippling guilt of the hiatus is very real and has haunted me during many a vacation and necessary break. *sigh* And YES! The desire to comment on and read everything is so big! I always reply to comments on my own blog, but…sometimes I get behind. *cries* Why must distraction be a thing?

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  29. This post! The comments to this post! I love your blog!
    You’ve expressed many of our fears and insecurities perfectly, Marie. I feel most connected with the blogging community when I blog hop and leave comments on other blogs, which I tend to do pretty regularly. Twitter is a good place to connect as well, but when someone engages me on the very open space of Twitter, it doesn’t feel as personal as when they leave a comment on my blog.
    I’m usually pretty good about responding to comments and then visiting back, but don’t stress over it much if I take a couple of days to do it. I rarely take longer than 3-5 days to respond, though! I understand I am allowed to take a long break from responding to comments & blog hopping, but I usually don’t because I love doing it. πŸ™‚

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    1. Oh thank you so, so much, you are way too sweet! I’m so glad you liked this ❀
      I agree, even if I love talking with people on twitter, it feels more personal when they're commenting on my blog, and we can discuss more – and leave longer comments, haha. I just love doing this as well, even if it takes a lot of time, it is so rewarding πŸ™‚

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  30. I’m majorly behind in my emailed posts (I think I hover around 600 unanswered) but still go into the WordPress app and try to respond to people’s comments to me. I also try to comment or like every post, though I know it’s impossible. I have a small enough following to where I’m consistently 7-10 days behind (like now), but if I got more followers I would just have to blog hop. I like a personal touch and I try to keep it up, but it doesn’t keep me up at night bc ppl know I’m in school. I know you have a lot of followers so I’m never offended when it takes awhile for you or anyone else to get back to me…because you always eventually will. 😊

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    1. Oh I like to have some people I constantly follow and comment on, and talk to, but there are so many great blogs to see, and blog posts here and there that are so interesting, it’s hard to keep up with everything at times, and give everyone the love they deserve. But yeah you’re right, and everyone has their own priorities and responsibilities outside of the blog πŸ™‚ Thank you for your comment ❀

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  31. I relate to this post so much. I’m trying to wade through months of comments and blogs to read, and it’s exhausting!
    I just feel so terrible when people visit my blog everytime I post, and I never visit theirs. It makes me feel soooooooooo bad. I want to get through a list of blogs that I particularly like, and then I want to dedicate at least 20 mins a day to just catching up on people’s blogs!

    … one day I’ll get there. But thank you for these small and important messages and reminders, Marie! I need them more than ever. Thank you. 😘

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    1. I understand your feeling. I’m not going to lie, I feel overwhelmed with commenting and keeping up with everyone on an almost daily basis, especially during week-days haha. But best thing to do is to blog hop when we are motivated and try not to feel too guilty about being a bit late – we need to sleep too haha. Thank you so much, I’m so glad you could relate to this ❀

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