Good morning, good afternoon, good evening friends ! How are you? I hope your week is going well so far. Today’s another Wednesday where I tackle a blogging subject, and it will be, drumrolls…All about commenting.
If you ask me, commenting is the mind and the soul of book bloggers. Well, obviously after writing endless rants about books we loved and didn’t love so much, posts about our feelings on books and all the craziness that makes us, well…us. I have said this a couple times already, and I heard so many bloggers feel the same way. It’s interaction with the community, getting to know other bloggers, sharing love, bookish recommendations and crazy feelings such as bookshelves space, endless fangirling and blogging pressure….it’s THIS, that bounds us together. And it’s probably why I love it so much.
But since I’m always here to complain – strike that, I am here just to scream out loud what I’ve seen, and what I feel even if it seems a bit stupid – comments are sometimes coming with some kind of pressure, as well. Maybe it’s just me, but whenever I don’t have time to answer my comments of the day, I feel like I’m not…being polite enough ? Or not quick enough ? This might be because I’m crazy, though, but I’m always guessing that people are looking for a dialogue – I’m talking about comments that are thoughtful, and not comments that are fishing for views, such as hey check out my blog. For me, these aren’t looking for a conversation #sorry. And whenever I take a long time to answer to them, I kind of feel like I’m ignoring them for that long, and it makes me feel like I am failing, for some reason.
Yes, this is a first-world problem, I do realize it, and we are all allowed to take a break, to breathe and take a couple days, or even weeks, to answer comments when life gets a bit hectic. OBVIOUSLY. But since this feature is made to share struggles, even if they seem a bit stupid, well here I am, ranting away.
There are comments on your blog, but also on other blogs. Blogs you are following, people you are loving, because they are sweet, nice, because they love and fangirl about the same books, write insightful blog posts and just, are overall awesome. I don’t know how everyone works with blog hopping, and commenting on other blogs, I don’t know if you all have some kind of schedule, but I do try to share love by visiting other blogs a lot. But then, you’re on twitter or bookstagram, and you find more and MORE BLOGS that seem awesome. Because the community is basically a dark hole you’ll fall into. You have been warned. And if you get started, you can spend ALL DAY just commenting on OTHER blogs. Not blogging for yourself. Not answering your comments. Not tweeting about that book you love. NOT READING (insert terrified scream here). BUT there is something SO rewarding about talking with other book bloggers. About finding YOUR KIND OF PEOPLE out there, from Australia and New Zealand, from the US and England, from India and ALL THE PEOPLE. This is beautiful, guys. But also, we all could use another pair of hands to type and a couple more DAYS in one day to share all the love with everyone.
SO what do we do now, you ask? Freak out because you need to answer to comments? Freak out because you haven’t blog hopped in a week and people will forget you? I guess there’s no universal answer to this, but if there are things I have learned in my couple years of blogging, it’s that BOOK BLOGGERS are not ROBOTS, nor should you be. I took a two week hiatus and felt guilty about it all, but shouldn’t have. If I missed about a billion great posts and probably will never catch up with these, there are new ones. No one screamed at me for answering ten days later to a comment. Because I still answered.
We can always try to climb out of that black hole that is book blogging. Try not to feel stuck, buried, overwhelmed by comments and the feeling that, in order to feel PART of the community, you need to be quick, a robot, comment everywhere and just be crazy. Seriously, we don’t even have to try. We’re not that into deep, as long as we can see the light. As long as we remind ourselves that comments might be one of the most rewarding thing about book blogging, but there’s nothing wrong in taking our time with it.