Hello friends, happy Wednesday! I hope your week was off to a lovely start. Today, I’m once again here to share wisdom and…. okay. Let’s stop it here, we all know I’m here to rant about blogging. But you like it, right? Let’s hope you do, because I kind of love to.
I have mentioned it before and will probably keep on mentioning it forever: comments are so, so important to me. I think that, after a little while blogging, blog hopping and trying to navigate the endless seas of book bloggers out there – there are just SO many -, I have gotten quite good at it. Or at least, I picked up a couple useful things about comments on blogs. SO I’m here to share wisdom, tips and overall, as you might expect from me now, RANT about blogging.
But, wait…why should I CARE about comments?
Basic question here and basic answer from me. BECAUSE YOU ARE HUMAN? As little humans, we thrive for connection, for other people to acknowledge us, stuff like that, you know. Look at me, being all philosophical.
More seriously, though. There are many, many things we think of when we are book bloggers, but, when we start – and probably because humans are sort of wired this way – we think about NUMBERS. Views. Popularity. A big, massive blog. On WordPress – or other platforms, you will apologize if I don’t know how it works -, it is easy to watch your stats every single day and rely on that to feel like your blog is successful. Well, for me, it is the amount of notifications I get from comments that make me feel successful. You know why? Because comments are AWESOME. Since I’m here to try and convince you of things, I shall make a list of the awesomeness of comments.
- Comments are an amazing way to really grow your blog. I wouldn’t be where I am without comments and interaction. Also, I have some other tips on how to grow your blog here if you’re interested. You know. Shout out to myself.
- Comments are awesome, because they make you feel like you are part of a community. Chatting with people on books, what they thought of said books and other crazy things really make you feel like you belong in this little crazy bookworm community.
- Comments are awesome because that’s how you make friends!! It all starts with one single comment, shared interests and it ends up with DMs on Twitter, daily conversations about travel destinations, bookshops dreams and buddy readings. It is A LOT of fun.
Believe it or not: three years ago, I was sitting with my laptop in my lap, reading blog post after blog post and having a nervous breakdown about leaving a comment. What should I say? What if I come off as weird or annoying? Leaving comments and trying to get into the community feels dreading, overwhelming and source of tons of anxiety. From staring at my screen, paralyzed both with the feeling of having nothing to say and the fear that I would annoy the hell out of people, to ….. well, spending two daily hours commenting on blog posts, I feel like I have come a long way.
Comments make me feel like an accomplished blogger, connected me with amazing bloggers and people I LOVE and overall is fabulous. But commenting is no easy task. It takes TIME. It takes COMMITMENT. I’m here to share some tips on good comments, what you could find in them, answer the question “what the hell should I actually comment”, and so on.
What’s a “good” comment and how to actually leave one – 101
Note that I wrote “good” because everyone has their own vision of what a good comment is. Some people love reading long, endless comments, while some other would rather read short and sweet comments. Some love both. No matter what you enjoy, there are obviously do and don’ts when it comes to commenting, at least, if you ask me. WHAT ARE THEY? Let me share them all.
DON’T
I’m sorry, but I have to start with the most common occurence here, which is: “Great post, check out my blog : thisismyblog.com”. Tons of people do this, and while I try and appreciate the thought, I just feel like…well, to me it feels like an empty shell AND just a way to advertise your own blog.
DO
Read the post. This might be an obvious one, but to leave an actual, good comment, you have to be able to say something. You can’t actually say something about a particular topic if you have nothing to rely on to write your comment. Sometimes, there are comments saying / asking things I actually said in my blog post. I know no one can’t pick up every detail or anything, and skimming through blog posts is a thing and it is OKAY. But not, not reading anything at all? I don’t know.
Answer the questions. So many bloggers are helping you, wanting you here in their comments. How do I know that? Well, pretty obvious answer here: THEY ASK QUESTIONS. I’m always SO eager to know what you guys think on what I’m writing, I always try and ask good questions at the end of my post…and try and answer the ones other bloggers are asking, assuming they want to hear from me. Because PEOPLE DO want to hear from you.
Be genuine, be yourself. Whether you are a SCREAMING IN ALL CAPS blogger, one with tons of emojis, or one in no caps at all… just be like you are on your blog, in your comments.
Remember that: There is a 102% chance that bloggers are wanting to hear from you.
On long comments: comments doesn’t have to be 1 000 words long. If you have tons of things to say? GREAT. If you have two sentences to share about the topic, great, too. Point is: comment if you want to. You always have something good to add to the conversation, a new friend to make, networking to do and most of it all, be part of a community. So take a chance every time you can, and comment. But don’t force yourself to.
Why you can’t / and should not comment on everyone’s post all the time
I’m not going to pretend I know it all – I’m still learning on that very part of the post….slowly, that, well, despite my urgent need to actually BE superman, I can’t be. I’m not even Clark Kent, guys. So….I just can’t do it all. I can’t always be on top of my commenting game, writing super deep things to everyone, or actually WANTING to. Some days, I’m just tired and I want to read, work on my WIP or watch yet another Friends episode.
Trying to do it all – commenting on every blog post out there thoughfully, takes A LOT of time and a LOT of brain cells. If it’s a lot of fun as well, it can cause a little bit of a burn-out.
- Remember to take your time. Read the blog posts, know yourself after a while and realize if you want to drop a comment or not. You don’t have to, all the time. It’s okay.
- Sharing the love is great and if it shows tons through comments, sharing the blog post, on your own blog, on twitter, goes a long way as well.
Helpful things to remember
Interact, reply and acknowlegde your own comments as well. For me, it’s all about balance between the conversations you have on your own blog and the ones you give out. I’m trying, as much as I can, to comment back on the people who left genuine comments on my blog because I’m all about sharing the love.
Find your kind of people. In the book blogging community, you’ll find people reading YA, others NA and others adult books. Some are into sci-fi, others into thrillers… If you can’t comment on everyone’s blog posts and blog-hop on the WHOLE book blogging community unless you’ve got, like, a thousand years to spare…. You can find and follow your kind of people, sharing the same taste as you, the ones you’ll want to talk with, read blog posts from, comment on, and overall make friends.
On another topic and to end on a great note, I wanted to say that the lovely Ilsa wrote a great post on how to make people comment on your blog post. It was a lot of fun, so you should read it.
If you’ve read all of this rambling, THANK YOU. I hope you did learn something, felt better about your own commenting game and everything else.
How much do YOU care about comments on your blog? Do you feel like you’ve won the lottery everytime people comment on your blog posts?! (I do)
What is a “good” comment, for you? What are some DO and DON’T for you, when it comes to commenting? Do you enjoy when people leave you long, endless ramblings?! (I do)
Do you sometimes feel a bit pressured to leave ALL THE COMMENTS everywhere, or is it just me? Do you have any tips to comment on book blogs, start conversations (maybe by mentioning chocolate or something?) Let me know everything in comments!
Anushka H. says
This was a super amazing post! I’ve always been vexed about the whole commenting game – and I’m poor at leaving comments on other blog posts as well as replying to comments on my own 😛
Your post is definitely helpful, with some relevant tips which can actually help increase your activity in the community 🙂
Marie says
Aww thank you so much, Anushka, Im so glad you enjoyed this post and that it could be useful! <3 Commenting really is hard at times, and I often wonder if I'm doing it right, if I'm too annoying all the time, if I'm doing it enough, too much… SO many questions ?
Thank you so much for your sweet comment <3
Kristin @ Kristin Kraves Books says
I always smile when I get a notification that someone left a comment. It makes me happy to know that they read my post and felt compelled to say something about it!
I completely agree about the please follow my blog comments. I am actually less likely to follow a person who leaves a comment like that.
When I started blogging I tried to comment on every post but I realized that I was forcing myself to come up with something to say. Now I try to comment only if I have something to say to add to the conversation!
Marie says
Oh, same here – it is the best feeling to see that people have something to say, to share with you, that they somehow related to a post and everything. I love it so much <3
Same here – I'm always trying to be nice and everything, but…being genuine just brings you a LONG way and it's so much better than just fishing for comments.
Definitely did that too. I wanted, needed, had to comment on every single post. I'm always trying to, whenever I see a blog I enjoy, to share the love and leave a comment, but forcing ourselves just makes us hate comments more ? It's great to have good conversations with people we want to, for sure 🙂
Thank you so much for your sweet comment and for sharing your thoughts on this, Kristin! <3 <3
Holly says
I LOVE reading and replying to comments! They make me feel like my voice is actually being heard in the blogging community. I also love hearing other people’s opinions and perspectives on whatever topics I discuss. For me, a good comment is a thoughtful one. But I do appreciate any time that someone takes two seconds to jot down something quick in the comments section! <3
Marie says
YES, this is exactly it. I feel like I’m being heard and it is the best feeling <3 <3 I agree, it's always so heartwarming to see that someone took a couple seconds to comment on our posts <3
Thank you so much, Holly! <3 <3
Swetlana says
Marie, you are seriously SO on top of your blogging related tips! I always really look forward to reading these posts of your’s whenever they shop up on my Twitter feed or Reader – depending on which I see first! Another fantastic post!
Oh, I most definitely feel like I won the lottery whenever I get a notification to let me know that someone took the time out of their day to read and comment on a post of mine! And if it’s a long and thoughtful comment, I usually get double excited! I’m a rambler who really loves long comments!
I feel like a big ‘don’t’ is definitely the comment that is just ‘Great post!’ and nothing else or includes an added link to someone’s website. That just makes it feel like they didn’t actually read the post (or even skim it) but wanted to get their link out there anyways. I feel like the best kind of promo you can do for yourself is always a thoughtful comment! It’s definitely more likely to catch my attention – whether in my own comments or someone else’s!
Definitely! Which then usually leads to me not wanting to read any blog posts because I don’t want to just read it without leaving feedback. And sometimes a ‘like’ just doesn’t feel like it’s enough. Especially when the person put a lot of work and time into their post!
I think a great way to start a conversation with a bookworm is almost always their favorite book! If you don’t know what that book is yet, ask! I’m pretty sure the person will love getting a chance to fangirl about their favorite book to you (and hopefully with you soon after!).
Also, Marie. Your Instagram feed is making me SO hungry right now. All that delicious food. Send some my way, please?
Marie says
Awww Swetlana, thank you SO much for your sweet and thoughtful comment! It means the world to me that you appreciate these kind of posts, they are a lot of fun to write but also take tons of time ? I’m so happy you liked this <3
I agree with you about these kind of "bad" comments. I'm always a bit sad whenever I see this, on my own blog or on others… I EXACTLY feel like people didn't even skim past the post, it makes me so sad :/ I mean, we can't comment thoughtfully on everything, but I'll take a thoughtful comment over a "great post + url" anytime ?
Definitely! I LOVE chatting books, I discovered so many of my favorite reads thanks to other bloggers and… It all started with a comment. I LOVE IT. <3
Awww you're too sweet!! I'll send tons of food your way now 😛
Swetlana says
You’re very welcome! I definitely think it shows how much work you put into your posts!
And if you’re sending me food, please include some signature French stuff too! 😛
Marie says
Aww, you’re the sweetest <3
Hahaha, I will for sure, we have the best food (I'm a little biaised here, but…hahaha)
Nordie says
Hi! Knowing how difficult it is to leave any kind of comment, and especially one better than “Great post! Follow me!” has made me think of how I write my own posts in the first instance. Have I given my reader something to comment on? Something to reply to? Challenge?
Because of this, I find my book reviews garner the least amount of comments. This is because they are my own personal reviews, and people will have difficulty to challenge them. The ones that gather reviews are the “free format” text ones, where I get to give tips or ask questions, which can lead to some kind of debate.
Which type of post do you get the most comments on?
Marie says
Hi! Thank you so much for taking the time to comment on my post and leave your thoughts about this topic! 🙂
It is indeed hard to know what to write, what will make people actually want to comment, and everything else. At the end of my post, you’ll notice that I linked to a lovely blogger’s post, she gives out some great tips for people to comment on your blog posts 🙂 Something that definitely works is, well…simply asking people for their opinion and somehow including them in your posts. Asking for opinion on a book, favorite book of the genre, asking questions regarding what you just talked about in your post, asking about a specific topic at hand, like I did in this very post, for instance 🙂
It’s been experienced by many bloggers, that discussion-types of posts get the most comment, but some reviews do too. Really, it depends on the bloggers 🙂
Amber says
I LOVE comments, and I couldn’t agree more – it’s so rewarding to feel like part of a community rather than looking at stats. I try not to look at my stats unless it’s near the end of the month and I’m doing my wrap-ups.
Also, the whole “great post, here’s mine” thing? Drives me CRAZY. I almost NEVER click those posts because honestly, why bother? I will click the ones that have also left a really meaningful comment. I will also never leave my blog link in-comment. If someone want to visit, they’ll click through my name. I think that blogging should be more about passion than popularity.
Long endless ramblings are the best. So much to talk about! I’m usually about the rambles, or nothing. 😛
Marie says
YES. I love that you said blogging should be about passion, not popularity, it is EXACTLY what it should be…and yet sometimes, well… it feels like it’s the opposite :/
Comments are SO rewarding, I feel so grateful whenever someone is taking time to write A LONG ENDLESS RAMBLING (which I love), or even a shorter but genuine comment <3
Thank you so, so much, Amber, you're the sweetest! <3 <3
Amber says
Aw, thanks, you just made me smile!
But seriously, if we’re not blogging about what we’re passionate about, and if we aren’t shining with a bright, fiery passion… well, then… why bother?
Marie says
Aw, I’m so glad! <3 <3
RIGHT? I agree <3
Nordie says
I have been known to delete “follow me” comments on my blog for several reasons 1) it’s my blog so nahnahnanahnah 2) it’s no better than spam, so it gets treated as such 3) it contributes nothing to the conversation.
Either I’ve written a post you can respond to (so respond!) or I haven’t (so don’t!)
Marie says
Oh, the “follow me” kind of comments do feel like spam, so… no one blames you here 🙂
Clara Bennet says
Ok, so my mom has always been kinda, “if they’re on the internet and you haven’t met them in person, they’re a creep who wants to kidnap you”, which I never believed. But I was still afraid to comment because I thought she’d be mad. But when I did start commenting, my stats really grew. So I firmly believe that comments are important. Commenting on other blogs helps grow your own, and it does feel like I’ve won the lottery every time someone comments on mine.
Marie says
I’m so glad you love comments just as much as I did. They’re really fun to give out, to receive, and they help our little blogs to become bigger and more fun for sure 😀 Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts here, Clara! <3
Angela says
Great post, Marie! Comments are so important for active blogging, and I can’t help but smile each time I get one. It means people are connecting with what I’m writing, and that makes me happy!
I definitely agree with posting thoughtful comments, not just advertising your own blog or asking for a visit. Comments don’t need to be long, either. I like when bloggers pose questions at the end of their posts, it invites more conversation and it’s something I’ve been trying to incorporate more.
Sometimes I want to leave comments everywhere, but I tell myself that I don’t have to. I try not to comment for the sake of commenting. I mean, I can usually find something in a post that I have a thought on, but if I don’t, or it’s a review for a book I’m not particularly into or something like that, it’s ok to just read and not comment.
Marie says
Thank you so, so much, Angela! <3 I'm always smiling so BIG whenever I get comments, I feel like I'm a crazy person ahah, I love these so much though ?
Same here. I'm trying to be more chill about it all, tell myself it is okay and that I can't do it all or comment on everything. Sometimes it's hard, sometimes I want to do more, but I guess we can't always be inspired or just feel in the mood to comment 🙂
Thank you so much, Angela, for your sweet comments, they mean the world to me <3
Shanah - Bionic Book Worm says
Commenting comes easy to some and it’s something I’m still working on. I’ve been so self conscious to comment sometimes. I feel like what I say doesn’t have anything to offer sometimes. But I’m working on it! Great post!
Marie says
Oh, I’m right here with you. Sometimes, I’ll read a post, I will love it, I will want to comment on it, then I’ll feel too self conscious, awkward, or like… I have nothing to do here, so I just leave. I’ve been working on that tons lately, but it takes a bit of time to get completely over it ? I’m trying to think that… I love getting comments and hearing from other bloggers so… other bloggers should feel the same way and I should just type the damn comment ?
Thank you so much! <3
Shanah - Bionic Book Worm says
Lol!! Just type the damn comment! That’s my new mantra! ?
Marie says
That’s an awesome mantra ?
silverbuttonbooks says
I always feel like I should comment! I think it is because I LOVE when people comment on my blog and I just want to do the whole do-unto-others bit. But, I know I also comment more when I agree with loving a book because I just want to spread all that positivity around and connect to the writers. This really is a great piece of writing – thanks for putting it out there!
Marie says
Aww, thank you so much! That means a lot that you enjoyed it <3
I'm with you here – I LOVE when people comment so much, I always try and give back as much as I can, also, I love engaging new conversations and finding new bookworms to talk with, it is the best <3 <3
Courtney Garrison says
I feel the same when it comes to my blog. I love getting comments and interacting more than i care about my followers. Any kinda of comment is good to me, excpet the whole “Great post check out my blog now”, thats just annoying. I try to blog hop for an hour each day, but i feel like im super annoying and get so much pressure to comment something great. Thank you so muc for this post.
Marie says
Ohhh, Courtney, I’m sure you are NOT annoying! It is so great that you’re taking so much time everyday to blog hop, YAY you!! <3 I think what matters, when you're commenting, is that you appreciate what you have to say, and do it because youre happy to, not because you feel forced to. If you're not inspired at times, it's okay to take a break. I know I did sometimes and it felt good, even just for a day. Made me love interaction even more 🙂 <3
Thank you so much for your sweet comment!
Courtney Garrison says
Thank you so much ? I do take breaks at time. It is overwhelming to try and comment on so many posts.
Marie says
It really is. It’s good to take breaks once in a while, makes us love commenting even more when we do get back to it 🙂
The Girl in Boots says
These are so helpful!
I was very bad at commenting, I would type out one and then don’t post it as I didn’t want to come across as annoying.
Now, I just hit post without overthinking it and it’s working for me so far! ?
Marie says
Aww I’m so glad to hear this is helpful, thank you so much! <3 <3 Same here. I used to overthink a little bit, or just not type anything because I was scared to be too annoying. Turns out that trying to be ourselves and just leaving thoughtful comments when we feel like we want to share it with the blogger, works well 😀
Ashlynn Peluso says
I can relate to this on so many levels. I often (sadly) feel validated when I read comments rather than seeing the numbers on my stats. I also feel obligated to interact with the blogs I follow, likes, and comments. A “good comment” to me are the honest ones, the ones who seem genuinely interested in your content, but also someone taking the time out of their day to comment makes them all good comments.
Marie says
I’m so glad you could relate to this, Ashlynn <3 It is hard not to feel obligated to interact with every book blog we follow – but we can't always have time or be interested / inspired to comment on every single blog post they do. It's also okay not to comment on everything. Leaves more space to comment thoughtfully and take more time for the content that we love the most, I think 🙂
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on the topic! <3 <3
Ashlynn Peluso says
Of course! Thank you. ❤❤
krazaykris says
Love this discussion post. Comments are amazing for bloggers. It means that someone out there is reading my post and I’m not just talking to myself. LoL I try to leave comments on the blogs I visit. While I’m horrible at replying back to commenters on my post, I always stop by each of the commenters blogs and read/comment on their posts. 🙂
Kristin @ Book Sniffers Anonymous
Marie says
That’s exactly it ? Sometimes I think I’m just ranting to myself, then I see comments coming, it makes me happy to have people to rant with ?
Thank you so much for your sweet comment, Kristin, so happy you liked the post <3 <3
Pamela Nicole says
When people leave comments on my blog it feels amazing because somehow I managed to write something someone else found interesting enough to have something to say about it! AND I LOVE ENDLESS RANTINGS!
I don’t feel pressured to leave comments, but I do feel upset if I go blog hopping and blog, after blog, I just don’t feel like commenting. I feel like a bit of a failure. 🙁
Marie says
Oh, Pam, you are NOT a failure at all! I have to admit – I feel the very same way sometimes. Somedays I’m just visiting blogs after blogs and just… I’m not feeling it. And I feel guilty. We shouldn’t, though, I guess we can’t always be up for it, another day we’ll be up to leave long, endless rantings! 😀 <3
Thank you so, so much for sharing your thoughts about this, Pam <3 <3
alwaysbooking says
I love it when people comment on my posts! It makes me feel like they are actually seeing it! However I know that people don’t always know what to say, so sometimes I just say something along the lines of “This is an amazing review” and it usually is but I have nothing to add to it because I either didn’t read the book or it’s amazing. I tend to leave more comments on discussion topic posts than on book reviews. Also I follow so many different blogs because I read a variety of genres… so I try to comment a lot during the week but I’m not always successful :/
Marie says
Oh I understand the feeling. Sometimes, I wat to comment something nice and show by support, but I’m just at a loss for words. Short but sweet comments are appreciated too then, I guess 😀
It is so hard to try and keep up with everyone, read blog posts, comments…we only have so many hours in a day ahah. I try and take things slow, give myself a bit of time to blog hop and comment, but also remember to take breaks. Otherwise, it just takes out all of the fun.
Thank you so much for your sweet comment! <3 <3
Kailyn Kausen says
I am so bipolar when it comes to commenting lol. One week, I am on top of the game, comments all around. The next, I’m dead. My phone stays on the charger all day because who needs any type of media? No commenting, no reading posts on any platform. Then the next week (or so), I’m and interactive wizard again.
Marie says
Ohh well, I think it’s good, in a way? I mean, you’re commenting and taking breaks from everything, which is also super refreshing and well-needed, sometimes, in order not to burn out 🙂 Thank you so much for your sweet comment! <3
Mikaela @ The Well-Thumbed Reader says
Ah, I absolutely love comments! They’re the actual best and always make me happy since it ,Evans someone cared enough to read through my post and wanted to say something about it!
I don’t think I have a personal standard for a good comment, but I did get a comment just this week where someone literally said, “Please like and follow my blog. Thanks.” Which is definitely not the way to comment. ? I love long comments and short comments and all types of comments; I’m lucky to get any and grow the way I did; so I appreciate all of them.
I do feel pressured to comment on ALL THE BLOGS, though, especially now that I comment back. It always stresses me out when I really want to leave a comment on the post of a loyal commenter, but I can’t find any post that’s interesting enough to comment on. ? I try not to stress myself out though, since it shouldn’t be stressful!
Marie says
Wow, that sounds like a…well, not a comment you’d want to get ?
I understand this feeling so much! I really love to comment and comment back, discover new, fabulous blogs and start a conversation and even a friendship this way. BUT there is a bit of pressure to try and comment on every blog… You’re doing amazing already, I think 🙂 It’s good to give ourselves a break as well. If sometimes we are just not inspired by a blogger’s post to comment, it’s not that bad. I’m trying to think this way now and I feel a bit better about everything. Still have that pressure because…I can’t help it, but I’m trying to cut myself some slack as well ?
Thank you so, so much for your sweet comment, Mikaela: Don’t stress yourself out too much, you’re fabulous!
Latanya says
Comments boast me. If I see them, I recognize I’m not talking into a void. Someone’s paying attention. I think they’re important and try to include at least one when I visit blogs.
Marie says
Oh that’s exactly it – it’s so great to see people are reading and want to share their thoughts about what I said 🙂
Thank you so much for your sweet comment <3 <3
jaimieweb says
I agree about comments, it makes me feel like I really am interacting with others. That’s one of the reasons I wanted to start a blog. I think since I am still new to blogging, I do get confused about what to say but I think I am getting better lol.
Marie says
Ohh don’t worry – it is SO confusing at the beginning, ahah. You do get better with practice and when you find your kind of bloggers for sure, I know that’s what happened to me 🙂
Thank you so much for your sweet comment! I hope you’re having fun blogging 😀
jaimieweb says
You’re welcome! Yes, I am having a good time blogging. I love having something that’s mine. It always helps me when I am stressed or sad. I am really glad I started one.
Marie says
I’m so glad to hear it! Blogging really is fun and it’s so good to have our little space online 🙂
Sydney @ Fire and Rain Books says
You are THE BEST commenter so these tips are super helpful! I feel like whenever you leave a comment you’re super sweet and it’s so long and thoughtful and when you respond it’s just so nice. I think it’s super important to only comment when you have something to say. That’s how you make the best connections ! And I love getting comments and commenting and replying and all that jazz because MAKING FRIENDS IS SO FUN. So great great post!
Marie says
Awww Sydney, you’re WAY too sweet, thank you so much! That means so much to me <3 I'm always trying my best whenever I read a blog post I enjoyed and want to share some love with bloggers I appreciate. I know this is what makes me the happiest about blogging <3 <3
OH YES, it is SO MUCH FUN! I just LOVE finding new bloggers to fangirl with, it's the best feeling <3
wakinguponthewrongsideof50 says
Great post. Read my blog……..no seriously. This is a great post. I am actually getting over my fear of commenting! I found a lot of people are like me, they don’t know if their opinion matters, they haven’t gotten a great response to comments they have made, and some people have gotten really negative commentary on their comments. But I love when I get comments…..they expand my mind and have inspired me for other posts. I’ve done a few follow up posts because I got so much amazing commentary. So seriously, great post!
Marie says
Hahaha, you made me laugh with how you started your comment ? I’m so happy you enjoyed this post! It is hard, at first, to get over the fear of not being at your place. People do love to read comments and get others’ opinions, really, as long as it is genuine and everything else, it’s all good and it makes people happy, so…we should just comment 😀 <3 Thank you again! <3
wakinguponthewrongsideof50 says
I had to start off that way! No one has ever written that in my comments, but I’ve seen it and I don’t get why they do it. But it’s a great post and should be blogging 101!
Marie says
Awww, thank you! <3 <3 <3
Gia says
Thanks for posting this! I agree – we’re all human and we all love it when our posts get comments! Especially when you can tell that the person actually read the post!
Marie says
Thank YOU so much for your sweet comment! <3 <3 I'm so glad you liked this post 🙂
Dani @ Perspective of a Writer says
Awwww great post Marie! <3 I've been thinking A LOT about comments lately so this was really timely for me. I don't know how 2 hours computes into a ton of comments but for me that is only a small portion of the blogs I follow. I must read slow or something. SO kudos that you use your time so well because I agree with May I see you ALL over the place.
I do find comments to be the holy grail of number tracking… I've learned that numbers don't matter that much but COMMENTS DO! It's great to have 80 likes or even 100 views but if that equates to less than a quarter comments I feel like its still not that good! I do feel like you shouldn't feel obligated to comment on EVERY post. Sometimes I haven't read the book and am not interested and so anything I say would NOT be genuine.
Yeah so I'm rambling now, hahhaa. I actually find comments HARD. And I know I'm NOT the best commenter either so i just try to be genuine and not get my feelings hurt!! (:
Marie says
Thank you so, so much, Dani! <3 <3 I am trying my best – I'm also a fast reader so, that helps, and I'm so used to blog hopping and everything, most of the time I know what to say and words just flow when I get to the comments section ? I might be a bit of an overachiever about all of this though ?
I agree – I pay attention to comments and I'll feel more disappointed when I get less comments, than with views for instance. I just love interaction so much <3 But you're so right, we shouldn't feel obligated to comment all the time. We can't have things to say all the time after all 🙂
Comments are always hard, in a way, but don't worry, Dani! You should not: you're doing GREAT, I really love all of your comments, they're always the sweetest <3 <3
Dani @ Perspective of a Writer says
Thanks Marie! (Are you sure you don’t always have something great to say?!) ♥️
Marie says
Aww, Dani, I don’t know ahah, I’m just trying my best 😛 <3 <3
Beth (Reading Every Night) says
I always love seeing comments on my posts, and I always love making comments as well. I know I’ve said it about a hundred times but the main reason I blog is the interaction so I love being able to interact with people. 🙂 Also it’s good you love long rambling comments because they’re the kind I make the most. I tend to go off on tangents a lot as well so sometimes I’ll find myself talking about something completely unrelated to what a person posted about because it’s just the way my mind works (I kind of feel myself doing that here.) 🙂
I definitely agree with you on the self-promoting comments. I don’t mind if it’s TTT posts because nine times out of then the person will read the post, comment something to start a conversation, and then leave their link. Besides I always feel it’s different on books memes because they’re all about sharing aren’t they? But just random ‘good post’ comments with a link I’m not a fan of because have they even read your post, or check out your blog?
Personally I think any comment is a good one! 😀
Great post Marie! 🙂 <3
Marie says
Ahah oh, Beth, I LOVE your long ramblings so much, they’re my favorite to read, I’m always smiling whenever I see your name in my notifications, because I LOVE reading your comments so much <3
Oh yes, definitely! I didn't mention book memes but you're so right about these – they're meant to be shared, so a link there is definitely not the same as a link in, say, a review or random discussion for sure 🙂
Thank you so, so much, Beth!! <3 <3
Beth (Reading Every Night) says
Ah, thanks so much Marie! <3 I always look forwards to seeing your name in my notifications, I love carrying on the conversations we've had so far. 🙂
Yeah those I don't mind, if I'm taking part in a tag or a meme I enjoy seeing what other people have chosen for the same prompts. A lot of the time it gives me more books to add to my TBR list. But when it comes to reviews or random discussions it almost feels like someone's just clicked on the first post they could find to promote their own blog.
That's all right! 😀 <3
Marie says
Same here – it’s always so great to talk with you, Beth <3
christine @ the story salve says
First of all, I 100% needed this post today. I’m slowly trying to get back into my blog hopping routine again and acknowledging just how much time I once spent on commenting. Reading this post reminded me that (a) I’m not alone in feeling the pressure and (b) that I only have to put in what I can put in on any given day, and that’s okay. So thank you, Marie, for being my moral support, haha.
I definitely get a boost of positive feelings whenever I see the notification that someone commented on my posts. Likes are great, don’t get me wrong, but comments are deeply personal (for the most part). I know that when I take the time to comment, it’s because I genuinely appreciated what the other blogger had to say, so it just feels so good when other people read my stuff and get something out of it. Literally, that is all I want as a writer: for others to read my words and get something out of them.
To me, a “good” comment is pretty much anything that (a) has something to say about the post and (b) isn’t just someone dropping their link or saying “great post” and nothing else. But a “great” comment, in my opinion, is one where I can really get a sense of the blogger’s personality behind their words. For instance, I love your comments because you always put an emoji in so I can tell how the post made you feel. I love seeing a blogger’s personality in the comments, because, like you said, blogging is so much about the community and connecting with other people.
Marie says
Awww, you’re so welcome, Christine, thank you for your sweet and beautiful comment. I’m so glad you enjoyed this post so much and that it could be of help <3 <3
I so agree with you here – I want people to be able to get something out of my blog posts, enjoy them, have something to say back, maybe, it is just the best feeling <3
Oh yes – this was so well-put here. I love comments where I get a little glimpse of the blogger's voice in it. Some are ALL CAPS people, other emoji people, other just, simple people but still, I get a bit of who they are and how they think, I LOVE IT <3 <3
Thank you so much once again, you're the sweetest – I'm so glad you're back, I missed you! <3
christine @ the story salve says
No, YOU’RE the sweetest! <3 Thank you for making me feel so included and important. It means a lot.
Marie says
Oh, Christine, you ARE important, I love you and your blog! <3
Michelle says
Yay! Another great discussion post, Marie ?
I love receiving comments, it totally makes me smile and I kinda feel proud of myself. It just shows me that people are actually interested in my ramblings! I love giving comments as well and I know how hard this can be! When I first started blogging I literally NEVER commented on anything, I was just so shy and scared, but I came out of my shell and it was the best decision I ever made ?
I also know that commenting and blog hopping takes a lot of time. I try to set aside a certain amount of time for it and sometimes when I’m just not in the mood I’ll come back later and leave a meaningful comment ? I must admit that I still don’t comment on every single blog, but I try my best to comment on as many as I can!
I think a good comment just needs to be sincere; it doesn’t have to be a certain length as long as it’s genuine and from the heart. I also don’t like those “check out my blog” comments – I’d just never have it in me to post something like that ?
P.S. I love, love, love that Sheldon GIF – he’s the best ?
Marie says
I’m SO glad you came out of your shell then, Michelle, because your comments are THE BEST and I’m so glad to talk to you now <3 <3
I think you're taking blog hopping and commenting just like I do. I'm always trying to set aside some time, but somedays I know I'm tired and won't do any good, so I leave it for the next day 🙂 <3
Thank you so, so much for your sweet comment, Michelle <3 <3
Sophie Li says
Hi Marie! How very meta that I am commenting on a post about commenting!
Love these tips! I agree that we can’t comment on every single post that we read. Sometimes nothing comes to my mind when I read a post. Other times I just don’t have the time.
I absolutely love long and rambling comments. To me, it means that the person found my blog post engaging enough that they thought of THAT much stuff to say. Usually I write a long and rambling comment back 🙂
Completely agree that “hey check out my blog” comments are annoying! I also am not a fan of generic “great post” comments that do not refer to the content of the post itself. Makes me wonder if they’ve read the post at all (maybe I am jaded!)
Thanks for sharing 🙂
Marie says
Oh, same here! I love long comments, even if somedays I’m a bit sad when I’m not that inspired to write long comments… I just love them. Love to get them, love to write them. It’s just so much fun to chat like that and rant haha.
You’re not jaded at all! I always wonder the same thing when there is just a “great post” written there. I wonder if it’s actually genuine or if the person just hasn’t read anything and commented for the sake of commenting.
Thank YOU for being so sweet, Sophie! <3 <3
Sophie Li says
Haha glad that I’m not the only one who feels that way about generic comments 🙂
deborahkehoe says
One of my favorite comments on a review post is when someone tells me I’ve inspired them to buy or check out the book. Every time I write a review that is what I’m striving for. Of course, I also love it when I can connect and start up a conversation. I’m going to read your links and see if I can pick up on some tips to make it happen more! Thanks for this, it was a great post!
Marie says
OH YES, you’re so right. I love it when people tell me I made them want to read a book – even better, when I see them later on buying or just reading the book and loving it. I feel so proud and honored ahah, I love that <3
Thank YOU for your sweet comment, Deborah, I'm so glad you enjoyed it <3
Lorilin says
I think you’re right about the importance of leaving comments. When I get a comment on a post, it definitely makes me feel more engaged and connected with the person. I also usually check their blog too, just because I feel like I WANT to be more familiar with the person who commented. It’s probably the more slow and steady approach to building a blogging community, but I think it’s definitely more effective than blindly following blogs or liking posts. Anyway, thanks for sharing your thoughts. 🙂
Marie says
Oh I so agree with you here. It is quite a slow method, but…it pays off, and along the way you get to meet fabulous bloggers and have great conversations 😀
Thank you so much for your sweet comment! <3 <3
Rasya says
Yes, yes and yes. I always feel anxious whenever I wanted to write a comment on other people’s blogs especially when I use English. English is not my first language so there’s the pressure of leaving a good comment plus typing something that is free from grammar mistakes.
But I’m SO guilty of leaving the comments unapproved for days. I prefer to wait for all the comments to pile up so I could save time commenting back ?
Marie says
Oh! Don’t worry, you are not the only one writing in English, even if it’s not your first language. English isn’t my first language either. It takes a bit of practice and tons of courage as well, at least it did, for me. I know I’m not mistakes-free, but no one is after all 🙂
? ? Well, if that’s a system that works for you, it’s awesome! 😛
Thank you so much for your sweet comment! <3
Kristabella's Hodgepodge says
Great post! Check out….hehe…just kidding ???
I couldn’t agree more! This there ⬆️ is a big turn off.
I LOVE to get comments – so I do try to leave something nice everywhere I go ? But, like you said, it can be exhausting. I used to write, and then edit my comments
Kristabella's Hodgepodge says
…hey…I wasn’t done yet ?
So…edit my comments, now I just write and send. I figure the first draft is me – hopefully not weird or annoying ?
Oh..and I’m obsessed with my numbers – mostly the ‘views’. I think I have to relax a bit. ?
Thanks for writing it all down ? It sure is helpful to know that I’m not the only one facing the daily challenges of blogging/commenting/obsessing over numbers ?
~ Tina xx
Marie says
(WordPress is weird sometimes ? ) and you are NOT weird or annoying at all, Tina, on the contrary, you’re awesome! Thank you for your sweet comment <3 <3
We're all a tiny bit obsessed with numbers, really…even if we're trying not to be, I guess we can't help it ? I guess taking things one day at a time, trying to forget about numbers and focus on the happiness we have while writing comments and posts…is already good 😀
Thank you so much, Tina! <3
Kristabella's Hodgepodge says
? Now I’m blushing a bit.
Well put – focus on the happiness ? I love that! That’s really why we’re doing this ? Write and meet lovely, like-minded people.
And, maybe…just maybe, use the numbers as an inspiration, a little nudge to keep going and up them bit by bit every month ?
Thank you for this, Marie! ?
Marie says
Definitely! Numbers should be an inspiration but not the sole purpose of our blogging 😀 Thank YOU for your sweet comments! <3 <3
bookmuffin says
I love getting genuine comments on my blog posts, so I get to discuss with people what I’ve written about and books I’ve read! It’s great when we have something in common we can discuss further. As far as commenting on other posts is concerned, I get what you mean about feeling pressured to comment on every single post, and it can be quite daunting, so I only leave a comment if I do actually have something genuine to say about the post or a book that appears in it, to start a conversation rather than leave empty words. This was such a great post, thank you ☺️
Marie says
It is so great! Sometimes, it all starts with just a comment, and you end up talking for days about books and other things. It’s one of the best things about blogging for sure, connecting with other bloggers this way 🙂
I think you have a great system here – I never want to leave empty words as a comment, it would make me so sad, so I always do my best not to and to comment when I feel like I have something to say 🙂
Thank YOU so much for your sweet comment <3 <3
bookmuffin says
Definitely, meaningful comments can really make a bloggers day! Your welcome ☺️
Shannon @ It Starts at Midnight says
This post is SO fabulous! I love that you talk about comments being important, but also talk about like, us being human beings and not being able to comment on ALL the things! That has always been one of my biggest struggles- like, I want to comment on everything! But I know I can’t, so I have to give myself that leeway.
I also love that you talk about how hard it is when you first start. I was SO paralyzed by fear when I started blogging- I didn’t reach out at all for about 6 months, I was just way, way too scared. But then when I did, exactly as you said, BAM, I started to find my people. Comments are absolutely the best way to start dialogues with people.
And YES- the annoying promo comments are the worst! Like- look, I DO want people to leave links, it’s why I have enabled them in my comment section, because of course I want to visit them! But if you are just copying and pasting promo…. it’s clear you only care about one thing.
I have a tendency to leave long comments, especially on posts like this that I think are super valuable, but I completely agree that I am so happy with any comment a person leaves! It’s such a nice feeling- and I definitely would never want anyone to think they have to leave novellas like I do 😉
Marie says
It has taken me a LOT of time – I still have to remind myself of this, sometimes. That I just can’t do it all and comment on ALL the posts, talk to EVERYONE and everything. I will lose my mind for sure. I’m trying to remember that on a daily basis and doing my best ?
I agree with you! I want people to leave their links, so I can give their blog a visit and maybe drop a comment, but I don’t want them to be just, well, here to do their own promotion. This is not what blogging is about – it’s about sharing the love for books, at least, for me 🙂
Aww thank you so, so much. It means the world to me that you enjoy this post, Shannon <3 It is such a great feeling to get comments, whether they're novels or a bit shorter, it's always great to see that people wanted to comment <3 <3
Mika says
Same here, Marie! Omg! I really love it too when people comment on my stuff because it makes me feel appreciated and interesting. I really love it when I comment on my favorite bloggers’ posts and they reply! Having a connection with other bloggers on your niche is one of the bestest things ever! Makes me not quit!!! ???
Marie says
I’m so glad you can relate to this, Mika! <3 It is the best feeling when favorite bloggers reply to you, when you start a fun conversation with someone new. It's great to feel part of the community this way 😀 <3
lindseyhabets says
Love your post Marie!
I LOVE comments, as they’re the biggest joy of blogging for me, but does that mean I’m on top of my blogging game? Eh, not always. Like you say, it’s hard and takes a lot of time, but it’s also super rewarding. I have weeks where I’m super on top of everything and commented back and blog hopped and left super thoughtful comments and then there are weeks where I’m struggling to keep up with all the amazing posts out there and formulating a thoughtful comment… Also my computer is getting outdated and often freezes which kills my blogging motivation but that’s all okay, because I still love it and for every hour I spend on it, I get so much in return. <3
I agree with you about do's and don't s for comments. I don't need super long, rambly comments, though of course I love them so much, but I'm also equally happy with a short but thoughtful two-sentence comment. Not the obvious self-promotion comments though… 🙂
Marie says
Aww thank you so much, Lindsey! <3 Comments are so rewarding, but…it's so hard to always be good at it. We'd have to spend our days at it to be the best ? I sometimes have my moments just as well, I'm always trying to take at least one evening off – I'm crazy like that, I spend tons of evenings commenting ? – during the week to relax, otherwise I'm going crazy, ahah.
Thank you so, so much!! <3 <3
amortalreader1 says
‘find your people’ – your my people. Great post, one I think will be very helpful to anyone in the book community especially those beginning their blogs. I adore interacting with others, I always have anxiety that i’m annoying people or forcing my way into conversations but the friends I have made. YOU and Michelle especially, It’s like we live in the same place not in three different countries. It’s an amazing experience.
Definitely agree with all your do’s and don’ts the worst comments are the ‘nice, check out my blog’ ones because they are just someone trying to gain another follower or view. It’s not a personal comment linked to your post at all. I also really liked how you commented on how being unable to comment on everything all the time is Ok. I always feel so bad when I haven’t commented on a post but sometimes I have the time to read it but not leave a comment so will come back later if I can, if not I like it and hope people understand I still love it.
There just isn’t enough hours in the day sometimes right?
P.s killing it on your gifs again.
Marie says
Aww, Hannah, THANK YOU SO MUCH, YOU are my people. You’re one of my favorites, I’m so, so happy that it all started with a comment and we’re now here. <3 you're the best <3
Oh, I never stop feeling bad whenever I don't have time to comment on blog posts, or not as much as I'm used to. I guess there's only so many hours in a day, though, and we need to be easier on ourselves 🙂 <3
Thank you so much <3 <3
amortalreader1 says
Exactly. Sometimes time is against us and we can’t get as much done as we hope ?X
Lois says
Ah commenting. I feel like it’s one of the most important aspects of blogging, especially in terms of community interaction. I find that the main issue I have with commenting is time. I can spend a good hour writing up a blog post and then spend the rest of the night blog hopping and commenting. I feel like because I value commenting so much I have to take the time and effort to return the favour. I love it, I really do but it’s hard not to feel overwhelmed by it all sometimes. At the end of the day finding a balance is the key, and it’ll keep me sane.
Marie says
Oh I agree – it is so hard to find the right balance. Commenting is so important to me as well, but at times it feels overwhelming and like, well…you can’t do it all. It makes me feel guilty and disappointed in myself ahah, but I need to chill out haha.
Thank you so, so much, Lois <3
ᴬᴰᴱᴸᴸ says
I always love a comment on my blog, I can definitely see the difference between those who have really read through the blog, liked what I wrote and had their own input as well as those who just want to comment in the hopes of gaining higher stats. I don’t mind if people leave their handle at the end (like I have) as I find it easier to navigate to the blog.
I have never felt any anxiety when leaving a reply on other blogs, I feel like I’m just replying to a friend or just chatting away, so I do tend to ramble on a bit but it makes it feel like such a cosy community. I feel like this post and the comment are one big ground of people just chatting away and you don’t get such a lovely atmosphere on other platforms in my opinion.
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Marie says
Same here – I really don’t mind when people leave their handle at the end of a comment…As long as it’s not all that they leave ahah 🙂
I sooo agree with you. It’s so great to be able to chat this way, everyone is so friendly, it is a beautiful community for sure. That’s what I love the most about it 🙂
Thank you so much for your sweet comment! <3
kozbisa says
I love comments, and you nailed it, the comment should be meaningful. Sometimes there are comments on posts and the only thing I can say is “thanks”. I really only comment when I have something to say, so I do put thought into my comments. I love when other bloggers make lists of great posts they’ve read, but I am so bad at keeping the list. I think that will be one of my goals for Oct.
Marie says
Ohhh same here. It’s something I so want to work on, but I am so bad at keeping lists as well. Something to work on for sure 🙂 Thank you so much for your lovely comment!! <3 <3
Molly's Book Nook says
OK I love this! I LOVE getting comments on my blog and I try to blog hop at least once a week because I want to share the love. It used to stress me out to comment as well, but I eventually just stopped caring if I came across annoying, I guess? hahah I just talk like I would if I was chatting with someone in real life. Great post!
Marie says
Ohh well you’re not annoying at all! All we have to do, really, is find our kind of people, and then we can never be afraid to come off as annoying.It’s the best feeling then, being comfortable and talking in comments just like you would talk to a friend 🙂
Thank you so, so much, Molly! <3
SERIESous Book Reviews says
I’m totally guilty of leaving long, rambling comments; especially on discussion posts 😛 But I can’t help it! I think I try to answer too many questions when I really should just pick one.
I try to level comments whenever I can but I don’t feel pressured to always leave comments. I don’t want to leave those hollow comments just for the sake of commenting; I like the ones that can create a discussion or clarify something.
Marie says
Ohh well…no one can blame you here, at least I won’t, I love long comments 😛
I agree with you: it’s good to leave a comment when you want to start a conversation or something – I’m always trying to leave something meaningful, I don’t want to leave hollow comments 🙂
Thank you so much!! <3
Meggy | Chocolate'n'Waffles says
On, how I love your posts, darling Sweechie! I haven’t been able to comment or reply to comments all week because my busiest blogging week ended up being my first week at uni xD Yeah for timing!!! Haha! But this morning I’m having fun sharing, commenting when I feel like it, trying to find things to say and as you said, be myself in comments, just as I would be on my own blog! Love ya! xx
Marie says
Awww thank you so much my Sweechie! <3 <3 It is so great whenever you have a little time to comment, it feels good to chat with friends like that, doesn't it? 😀
Literary Lattes says
I love getting comment notifications, it makes me feel so happy that people have spent the time to read and comment on my posts. I do enjoy commenting on other’s posts too, I love how friendly this community is! I get what you mean though about feeling like you’re not commenting right to start with. The first few comments I left I felt so awkward and felt like I wasn’t saying the right things, but I think the most important thing is to just be yourself and be genuine.
Marie says
I so agree wih you 🙂 it’s hard, at first, seeing everyone chatting away so easily in comments… thinking we can do the same. I felt like the newbie and like I would annoy everyone. In the end, being myself and getting over that fear paid off for sure! 🙂
Thank you so, so much for your sweet comment <3
Keira says
Ah love the GIFs in this one. I like to traipse through blogs and comment whilst eating my breakfast or whilst procrastinating writing posts (the latter not being particularly positive, but at least I’m reading through the community!).
Marie says
Aww thank you so much, Keira! Hahahaha, I do the exact same thing when I procrastinate…you’re right, at least we are being part of the community 🙂
theorangutanlibrarian says
YES TO THIS POST!!! I love comments!! oh gosh couldn’t agree more with you on people who basically use the comment section to ask you to go to their blog. The thing is, if people comment, I’ll want to go to their blog anyway- but at least give some indication you’ve actually read my post- it’s just common courtesy. So yes a million times over to *read the post*!! And I totally agree- sometimes I have a lot to say, sometimes I have a little and sometimes I don’t really have anything to say- as lovely as it is to receive comments- I really relate to not being able to comment on everything all the time. So I LOVED your part on not being able to do it all the time (it’s like your post was reading my mind as I read it lol!!) and yes, I always try to go back over the comments people left on my blog (even if I have to wait till I’m not as busy) cos I really do appreciate every single one that gets left!! Really brilliant piece!! 😀
Marie says
Awww thank you so, so much, I am SO glad you enjoyed this post <3 <3 I agree, it's sometimes impossible to do it all and…it's good to actually take a break sometimes as well 🙂
Thank you so, so much!! <3 <3
theorangutanlibrarian says
You’re welcome!! <3 <3 Yes for sure!!! You're very welcome 😀 <3
Ilsa @ A Whisper Of Ink says
Thanks for linking to my post! <3 I love that you talked about what to DO and DON't in a comment because Yes we need to actually leave thoughtful comments and READ THE POST. I get comments that simply say 'Great post..link.com' and I just feel like? NO that's not what comments are for. I will be more likely to check out your blog if you leave thoughtful comments not just ones that are spammy and full of self-promo. i did try commenting back but it's too much for me especially with school, I've barely had any time
Marie says
Oh you’re so welcome, it was brilliant, I had to share, I thought about it immediately when I started writing this. <3
I agree, for me, comments are to have conversations and share the love, I don't get the point of leaving a ""check out my blog" kind of comment.
Oh I get it – take your time, school comes first, and obviously no one has to comment back all the time and visit everyone's blog. It's important to take care of yourself first and blog hop and comment when you feel like it, you'll be much happier this way for sure 🙂 <3
Thank you so much!! <3
Jamie says
ooh this was super helpful! As a fellow blogger just starting out I’m only beginning to understand the importance of good comments (like how networking/commenting on other blogs is a good way to get your blog known) Also I believe that its important to respond to others comments. It makes them feel like you are listening to them you know? Great post! I love getting knowledge and insight from other successful bloggers! 🙂
Marie says
Ohhh you are so welcome, it makes me so happy if I could help, in any way! <3 <3 I hope that you're having tons of fun discovering new bloggers and commenting – it takes a bit of time but it's the best way to feel like part of the community and have fun 🙂
Kat Impossible says
What do you mean, you’re quite good at commenting!?!?!? YOU ARE THE QUEEN! I always admired how much time and effort you put into comments because you are just the best <3 I always see you on my blog and others and you never just post something superficial. Thanks for doing this post and letting us in on your secrets <3
Marie says
Aww Kat, you’re WAY too sweet, thank you <3 <3 I'm doing my best to share the love <3 <3
Kat Impossible says
Well, you are doing a phenomenal job!!
Marie says
Aww thank you <3 <3 <3
Julianna @ Blots of Ink and Words says
THIS IS SUCH A GREAT POST!
I totally care when someone comments on my blog posts <3 'cause it's like THEY TOOK TIME TO ACTUAL TALK TO MOI. Like whaaat?
A good comment is probably a comment that talks about something in the post?? I usually love things that I can respond to and have a conversation from! Personally, I try to talk about specific things I remembered or laughed at in the post, and then I also answer some/all of the questions if there's a signoff thingy!
I TOTALLY FEEL THE PRESSURE TO LEAVE ALL THE COMMENTS EVERYWHERE. I know MAY is really good at commenting EVERYWHERE OKAY. Also youuuuu areeeee <3 I love all of your comments on my blog!
Marie says
OH THANK YOU, you are way too sweet <3 <3 I agree wtih you, no matter whether it is short or long, as long as it talks about the actual post, that always makes me happy and it shows that people read and care <3
OH YES, she's so good at commenting everywhere ahah, it's crazy but also SO awesome!! <3
Julianna @ Blots of Ink and Words says
EXCUSE ME MARIE. (i think i’ve said this five million times) but YOU ARE SO MUCH MORE SWEETER THAN MEEEEE
AHHHHH I WISH I HAD COMMENTING SKILLZ
Marie says
BUT YOU DO HAVE AMAZING COMMENTING SKILLS!! <3 <3
Valerie says
HI LOVELY POST. CHECK OUT MY BLOG.
Just kidding. I’m sure someone already pulled this joke already.
This is my first time here and I love this post. But yes, comments. I used to comment a lot more when I first started off, but now I only comment on a couple posts a week. WHICH IS FINE, though maybe it’s not because one of the reasons I don’t comment much anymore is because everyone is leaving the blogosphere. Or not being active enough. (sadness).
In the beginning, I had the problem of trying to comment on EVERYONE’s posts, and spending more time on coming up with what to say, rather than only commenting on posts I actually HAD stuff to say about. It was rough, but I got over it. By not reading posts I wasn’t interested in. My life became infinitely better after that.
I really like receiving comments on my own blog, but replying back to them on my own blog is a bit hard for me. Mostly because I’m just saying the same thing over and over again to each person. It’s partly my fault because I really only post reviews nowadays, which doesn’t necessarily spark a discussion. (I think it also helps, and this will be something I need try, to not reply back to comments on the same post all at once.)
Marie says
Ahahah, you’re the second person doing this joke but…it’s not getting old, don’t worry about it ahah 😉
Thank you so, so much, Valerie! I’m really glad you enjoyed reading this post <3
This is such a great way to think about things. I used to be the same way. I wanted to comment on everyone's posts, I wanted to find something to say everywhere, but…well, sometimes you just can't, because you have NOTHING to say. It feels so much better to share your thoughts whenever you feel like you have something to add and want to. It makes everything a bit less stressful and a whole lot more fun, that's for sure 🙂
Oh yes, sometimes reviews don't sparkle tons of discussions in comments, but…well, it would be great if they did more. I mean, reviews are supposed to be the heart and soul of book bloggers, ahah 🙂
Thank you so much for your sweet comment <3 <3
Bridget says
I’ve actually received a couple comments before where the comment-er actually said sorry for leaving such a long comment! Like, what?! Don’t apologize – I love that! Clearly something about my post sparked their imagination, which means my blog post did something good.
And yes, I definitely feel pressure when commenting. My site traffic is horrid when I don’t comment on blogs so I find commenting to be essential to gaining traffic.
Marie says
Ahahah OH SAME here, I don’t understand it when people apologize for rambling on and on. I know I do sometimes, mostly because I’m scared of being annoying haha, but… well, long comments are THE BEST. I love them, I just love seeing that I actually inspired people to talk so much <3
Oh yes, comments are great to gain traffic – plus, they're tons of fun 🙂
Thank you so much, Bridget! xx
Anna @MyBookishDream says
I care a lot more about comments than likes. After all the reason I created my blog is to talk to other people who love reading. 😀 Also, it’s amazing to make friends who enjoy the same things as you!
Amazing discussion Marie! <3
Marie says
It really is one of the best thing about blogging 🙂 thank you so much, Anna! <3 <3
Shouni says
Yes I feel the exact same way about comments! Even a super short comment where someone just writes “nice post” makes me happy, longer ones make me even happier! I was also very hesitant about commenting on other blogs when I first started because I just wasn’t sure if I had anything valuable to add but I realize that doesn’t matter as much to bloggers as the simple act of interacting with other people does. Endless ramblings are the best! 😀 Hehe, mentioning chocolate sounds like a great conversation starter [I’m actually not a big fan, I feel like I’m the only person in the world who isn’t 🙂 ].
Marie says
[you don’t like CHOCOLATE?! Well…you’re probably not the only one, ahah, but I have to ask…what kind of food is your guilty pleasure, then? :P]
Thank you so much! You’re so right, it’s so good just to leave a sweet comment, try and start up a conversation. We might think we have nothing to add, but we always do, even if it’s just sweet words of encouragement! <3
Thank you <3 <3
Shouni says
Hehe, I get that reaction almost all the time 😀 . Hmm, my guilty food pleasure… does tea count? I’m literally a tea addict, I cannot go a day without a cup 🙂 . I completely agree! Receiving comments always makes me happy whether they add anything to the post or not.
Marie says
OH YES, tea does count – I love tea SO MUCH, can’t go a day without at least one cup either 🙂
Katisha @ Reel Literature says
I totally agree that a good comment never includes “great post! check out my blog”. A comment like that appears spammy and shows that you probably didn’t take the time to read the post. I LOVE when posts end with a question! It helps me formulate a comment when I did enjoy the post, but don’t really have something worth saying. I definitely feel like I won the lottery when someone comments on my blog because there are so many awesome book blogs, and I’m the new kid on the block.
Marie says
oh yes, I agree – it is so helpful when there are questions are the end. Sometimes, I really love the post but I want to say more than just, “great post”. It feels a bit empty otherwise, and these questions are helpful and fun to answer for sure 🙂
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this, Katisha! I hope you’re having fun blogging 😀
thewhimsicalwordsofanagreeablebookworm says
I read this after trying to make it through the endless tabs I have open of blog posts I want to read and comment on. XD So this is perfect. I really need to work on trying to comment back after somebody leaves a nice comment on my blog, but then the page gets lost in the 500 tabs I leave open. I really need to organize my time better. XD But getting a nice and meaningful comment on my post is the best feeling!
Marie says
Hahahaha, welcome to my life 😛 I currently have around 9 tabs opened with blogs… it is hard to keep up ahah and to know where you’re at. I always try and do it step by step, blog by blog, and to refrain myself from opening…more than 10 tabs at a time 😛
Thank you so much for your sweet comment <3 <3
thewhimsicalwordsofanagreeablebookworm says
Yeah, I should really try and make a rule of less than ten tabs open at a time. Luckily I worked my way down to 16 tabs yesterday from around 30 the day before. I know it’s crazy XD
Marie says
30? WHAT?! You are crazy hahahaha – but…crazy dedicated, so that’s good? 😛
thewhimsicalwordsofanagreeablebookworm says
I am very much crazy XD. Haha, I don’t think there’s any way of making it any less insane, but thanks for the optimism. 😉
Marie says
Well…we’re all crazy I guess in a way, so…nothing to worry about ? ?
jessicasblog45 says
I used to (still do on another website) write on a website that paid to write about anything. The key to get paid is to comment on other people’s posts. Alot of times people would comment saying to look at their post. I never did because that’s not really interacting. When I started blogging, I had written about something that happened at church and a guy spammed me saying to read a book about being preacher. It made me mad. I only comment on a blog, or post when I have something to say.
Marie says
Oh I so agree with you – it’s much more fulfilling and good to comment on a post when we actually want to have a conversation and have something to say 🙂
Thank you so much for your sweet comment! xx
flippingthruthepages says
This is my first time on your blog and I am loving it.. flipping through all your posts 😀 And I loved this topic. I am pretty new in the blogging community, it has been just 3 months and I am really enjoying it so far. But to tell the truth, it is hectic as well to manage the blogging game with my full-time job.
And within this limited time, I DO love comments. I mean what’s the point of writing posts even if no one is sharing their thoughts? Yeah, I seriously feel like I have won a lottery each time someone comments 😀
And yes, I do enjoy long comments 🙂 But I like the short comments equally, but yeah not the short ones like – “Nice post please check out my blog” as you said. I feel pressurized too sometimes about leaving comments, especially on the Memes post. But I guess, that’s the point of whole mem game to hop blogs, right?
Marie says
Hi Simant! Thank you so, so much for your sweet comments and your compliment, this just made my day so much brighter <3 <3
I get it, it is SO hectic to try and manage your blog as well as a full-time job, I'm in the same situation ? With the fun I'm having talking about books, it is worth it. Just need a little bit of organization 🙂
Comments are the best – I feel like I'm the luckiest whenever I get comments, it is the best feeling, you're right <3 Long, thoughtful comments warm my heart, knowing people took time to write them, but short comments are just as valuable, as long as they come from the heart and aren't just self-promoting 🙂
Thank you so, so much <3 <3 <3
flippingthruthepages says
I am so glad that I am here, meeting fabulous people like you ❤️
Rasya says
For new bloggers, commenting could be daunting. Heck, even I who has been blogging for years still feel an anxiety when I comment on blogs especially the new blogs that I just found. Like what if the blogger would ignore me (this is rare, but it happens) but luckily, most of the bloggers are lovely people who don’t mind my comments that are filled with grammar mistakes.
And I don’t know whether it just me but some posts are not exactly commentable? Like if the posts are touching on sensitive stuff or a bit personal.
Marie says
I had all of these feelings too. I don’t know, I feel a bit less shy now and sometimes just type out comments very quickly without even second-guessing myself?? It’s so weird, but the overall welcome of the blogging community has helped me tons in gaining confidence, when it comes to leaving comments and starting a conversation. I am so grateful for that <3 <3
Oh yes, I agree with you on that. Sometimes… I just don't know what to say either? :/
Thank you so much for your sweet comment!! xx
Kathy @ Books & Munches says
*The Queen of Ridiculous Long Comments has arrived.*
I’m typing this before actually knowing how long my comment is going to be, but.. it’s just the way I roll? [I just felt the need to say that because of your mentioning how comments don’t always have to be long but somehow mine end up to be pretty much 95% of the time. :’)]
Comments! I looove comments. Getting them, giving them. Doesn’t matter, love them. That is, until I had to ignore my notifications for two days and I can’t see the scrolling end of them and start freaking out? Commenting takes time, since bloghopping and reading posts take time. Replying to comments?! Goodness, there sometimes seems no end to it. I often have to go back to the post, skim it and try to remember what the post was about before having to reread half the conversation on it to figure out what I said already. That, or I’m too lazy, think I knew what it’s about and somehow just repeated myself. [It happened and I saw it afterwards and I felt freaking ashamed but I was tired and really did want to reply but my brain just wouldn’t cooperate?!] But, it doesn’t change the fact that I love people who start actual conversations on subjects. It’s like “Yes! You find me interesting enough to actually CARE!” and it makes my day every. single. time.
A don’t for me, when it comes to commenting, is the simple and dry “Nice review!” or “Nice post!” It makes my brain go “Did you even read the freaking thing or not?! Okay, sure. I know some people simply don’t know what else to say and just want to say SOMETHING but… It’s the way my brain works? My tendency to write way too long comments – and pretty much never the “nice review!”-kind doesn’t really help either does it? [Oh my lord, I’m just realizing how long this comment is getting…]
The pressure to leave comments everywhere only gets to me when I’m genuinely at my desk with the goal of: Let’s hop on some blogs and comment away! THAT is the moment I feel like I should be commenting on every post I read even though that’s simply not realistic. I can’t like every post or have something to say about every subject or review. Those are the moment I just walk away from my desk and return after five minutes to go on and ignore the post I didn’t comment on. :’) Or I leave it open to get back to it and try commenting on it anyway.. [Seriously, I’m over the top, right?]
When it comes to starting conversations [aka making people like you] it definitely helps when you give them compliments and pretty much make their day, like, for example, by mentioning how awesome they are at time-management when they are SO NOT. [Yes, I’m talking to you.] Okay. No, seriously. I think it’s fun to comment on blogs, start an actual conversation when I’ve read multiple posts of that blogger right then because you can maybe combine some things you wanted to say in a comment on one post. Or go “Oh, and I saw you read..” Having multiple subjects in your comment pretty much feels like the way to go when you want to start an actual conversation.
That or you can head to their social media and DM them with questions which are bound to lead to some kind of conversation? I don’t know. Could work as well? [Never done that, though.]
And now i’m going to crawl in a hole and hope you don’t curse me for having pretty much a blog post on your blog post instead of.. a.. comment.. Oops.
Marie says
Sorry it took me a couple days to get to your comment. You are the QUEEN of commenting, really haha, I love reading your thoughts about everything. Always makes my day <3
I'm the same when it comes to commenting – when I'm starting, I feel like I have to comment on everything, but it is SO not realistic. I mean, we can't always have something to say? Sometimes, even if I loved a blog post, I am drawing a blank when it comes to actually saying something. I hate just leaving a "nice review" kind of comment as well and always try to say something more. I don't like feeling like I am leaving an empty sort of comment? :/
Comments are the BEST way to start a conversation and make blogging friends, I love that so, SO MUCH. <3 <3
Kathy @ Books & Munches says
Hahaha, you’re welcome! <3
I knoooow! I once had a post I really liked SO much but I couldn't for the life of me come up with something interesting to say but I felt bad about not commenting either? I think that was the first and only time I went "Okay, so, I love this post but my brain is dead and can't come up with something useful to say so. I LOVE YOUR POST." :')
Truueee! I don't even want to know how often I went from endless comments / replies to tweeting to simply DM'ing all day, haha.
Marie says
THAT is the ultimate struggle. Sometimes I keep the post open for HOURS on my computer, hoping for some magical inspiration to come…. it rarely happens though ? SO frustrating.
THAT is the best, being able to chat all day with amazing people <3 <3
Kathy @ Books & Munches says
Definitely! We can only do our best.. And try.. Or just go with a like and be done with it before we start feeling even worse about not being creative and original and.. *sigh* ?
It is!!!
Cam @ Camillea Reads says
Great post, Marie. I’m glad you acknowledged that we can’t always comment on every blog post & assure us that it’s okay! Whenever I comment I don’t want it to be hollow. I always try to establish a connection even in the briefest sentences.
Comments mean SO MUCH to me! I love knowing people’s thoughts on what I wrote – reading different opinions helps me write better as well!
Marie says
Same here – I don’t want to leave an empty comment, I always want to try to expand my thoughts, even if it’s just with two sentences. I think it’s important, as you said, to establish a connection and just show appreciation to the blogger and the blog post 🙂
Thank you so much for your sweet comment! <3 <3
ceearrbooknerd says
I never know how many comments/blogs visited is ‘enough’ – like, I feel like there should be some standard number, but there isn’t, and then I’m convinced that no matter how much I comment, it’s *never* ‘enough’ (me? self-esteem issues? Haha… LOOK A DISTRACTION! *runs*)
And dude, there’s so many interesting-looking links in this post, and I’m gonna have to come back and check ’em out!
Marie says
I used to feel this way too, but there is no right or wrong and no standard number to follow. As long as you do what you CAN with the time you’re allowed, you’re doing GREAT. Whether you’re commenting on one blog or a thousand, you should be proud of yourself, every little comment is great and will make someone happy 🙂
Thank you so, so much for your sweet comment 🙂 x
shashank says
This was a super amazing post! I’ve always been vexed about the whole commenting game – and I’m poor at leaving comments on other blog posts as well as replying to comments on my own 😛
Your post is definitely helpful, with some relevant tips which can actually help increase your activity in the community 🙂
Umar says
Great post, Marie. I’m glad you acknowledged that we can’t always comment on every blog post & assure us that it’s okay! Whenever I comment I don’t want it to be hollow. I always try to establish a connection even in the briefest sentences.
drizzleandhurricanebooks says
Thank you so much! You’re so right, I think it’s so important to be real in your comment, not comment just for the sake of commenting. I appreciate you, thank you so much! 🥺
Awais Tariq says
For new bloggers, commenting could be daunting. Heck, even I who has been blogging for years still feel an anxiety when I comment on blogs especially the new blogs that I just found. Like what if the blogger would ignore me (this is rare, but it happens) but luckily, most of the bloggers are lovely people who don’t mind my comments that are filled with grammar mistakes.
And I don’t know whether it just me but some posts are not exactly commentable? Like if the posts are touching on sensitive stuff or a bit personal.