How to: be on top of your commenting game

Hello friends, happy Wednesday! I hope your week was off to a lovely start. Today, I’m once again here to share wisdom and…. okay. Let’s stop it here, we all know I’m here to rant about blogging. But you like it, right? Let’s hope you do, because I kind of love to.

I have mentioned it before and will probably keep on mentioning it forever: comments are so, so important to me. I think that, after a little while blogging, blog hopping and trying to navigate the endless seas of book bloggers out there – there are just SO many -, I have gotten quite good at it. Or at least, I picked up a couple useful things about comments on blogs. SO I’m here to share wisdom, tips and overall, as you might expect from me now, RANT about blogging.

But, wait…why should I CARE about comments?

Basic question here and basic answer from me. BECAUSE YOU ARE HUMAN? As little humans, we thrive for connection, for other people to acknowledge us, stuff like that, you know. Look at me, being all philosophical.

More seriously, though. There are many, many things we think of when we are book bloggers, but, when we start – and probably because humans are sort of wired this way – we think about NUMBERS. Views. Popularity. A big, massive blog. On WordPress – or other platforms, you will apologize if I don’t know how it works -, it is easy to watch your stats every single day and rely on that to feel like your blog is successful. Well, for me, it is the amount of notifications I get from comments that make me feel successful. You know why? Because comments are AWESOME. Since I’m here to try and convince you of things, I shall make a list of the awesomeness of comments.

  • Comments are an amazing way to really grow your blog. I wouldn’t be where I am without comments and interaction. Also, I have some other tips on how to grow your blog here if you’re interested. You know. Shout out to myself.
  • Comments are awesome, because they make you feel like you are part of a community. Chatting with people on books, what they thought of said books and other crazy things really make you feel like you belong in this little crazy bookworm community.
  • Comments are awesome because that’s how you make friends!! It all starts with one single comment, shared interests and it ends up with DMs on Twitter, daily conversations about travel destinations, bookshops dreams and buddy readings. It is A LOT of fun.

Believe it or not: three years ago, I was sitting with my laptop in my lap, reading blog post after blog post and having a nervous breakdown about leaving a comment. What should I say? What if I come off as weird or annoying? Leaving comments and trying to get into the community feels dreading, overwhelming and source of tons of anxiety. From staring at my screen, paralyzed both with the feeling of having nothing to say and the fear that I would annoy the hell out of people, to ….. well, spending two daily hours commenting on blog posts, I feel like I have come a long way.

Comments make me feel like an accomplished blogger, connected me with amazing bloggers and people I LOVE and overall is fabulous. But commenting is no easy task. It takes TIME. It takes COMMITMENT. I’m here to share some tips on good comments, what you could find in them, answer the question “what the hell should I actually comment”, and so on.

What’s a “good” comment and how to actually leave one – 101

Note that I wrote “good” because everyone has their own vision of what a good comment is. Some people love reading long, endless comments, while some other would rather read short and sweet comments. Some love both. No matter what you enjoy, there are obviously do and don’ts when it comes to commenting, at least, if you ask me. WHAT ARE THEY? Let me share them all.


I’m sorry, but I have to start with the most common occurence here, which is: “Great post, check out my blog :”. Tons of people do this, and while I try and appreciate the thought, I just feel like…well, to me it feels like an empty shell AND just a way to advertise your own blog.


Read the post. This might be an obvious one, but to leave an actual, good comment, you have to be able to say something. You can’t actually say something about a particular topic if you have nothing to rely on to write your comment. Sometimes, there are comments saying / asking things I actually said in my blog post. I know no one can’t pick up every detail or anything, and skimming through blog posts is a thing and it is OKAY. But not, not reading anything at all? I don’t know.

Answer the questions. So many bloggers are helping you, wanting you here in their comments. How do I know that? Well, pretty obvious answer here: THEY ASK QUESTIONS. I’m always SO eager to know what you guys think on what I’m writing, I always try and ask good questions at the end of my post…and try and answer the ones other bloggers are asking, assuming they want to hear from me. Because PEOPLE DO want to hear from you.

Be genuine, be yourself. Whether you are a SCREAMING IN ALL CAPS blogger, one with tons of emojis, or one in no caps at all… just be like you are on your blog, in your comments.

Remember that: There is a 102% chance that bloggers are wanting to hear from you.

On long comments: comments doesn’t have to be 1 000 words long. If you have tons of things to say? GREAT. If you have two sentences to share about the topic, great, too. Point is: comment if you want to. You always have something good to add to the conversation, a new friend to make, networking to do and most of it all, be part of a community. So take a chance every time you can, and comment. But don’t force yourself to.

Why you can’t / and should not comment on everyone’s post all the time

I’m not going to pretend I know it all – I’m still learning on that very part of the post….slowly, that, well, despite my urgent need to actually BE superman, I can’t be. I’m not even Clark Kent, guys. So….I just can’t do it all. I can’t always be on top of my commenting game, writing super deep things to everyone, or actually WANTING to. Some days, I’m just tired and I want to read, work on my WIP or watchΒ  yet another Friends episode.

Trying to do it all – commenting on every blog post out there thoughfully, takes A LOT of time and a LOT of brain cells. If it’s a lot of fun as well, it can cause a little bit of a burn-out.

  • Remember to take your time. Read the blog posts, know yourself after a while and realize if you want to drop a comment or not. You don’t have to, all the time. It’s okay.
  • Sharing the love is great and if it shows tons through comments, sharing the blog post, on your own blog, on twitter, goes a long way as well.

Helpful things to remember

Interact, reply and acknowlegde your own comments as well. For me, it’s all about balance between the conversations you have on your own blog and the ones you give out. I’m trying, as much as I can, to comment back on the people who left genuine comments on my blog because I’m all about sharing the love.

Find your kind of people. In the book blogging community, you’ll find people reading YA, others NA and others adult books. Some are into sci-fi, others into thrillers… If you can’t comment on everyone’s blog posts and blog-hop on the WHOLE book blogging community unless you’ve got, like, a thousand years to spare…. You can find and follow your kind of people, sharing the same taste as you, the ones you’ll want to talk with, read blog posts from, comment on, and overall make friends.

On another topic and to end on a great note, I wanted to say that the lovely Ilsa wrote a great post on how to make people comment on your blog post. It was a lot of fun, so you should read it.

If you’ve read all of this rambling, THANK YOU. I hope you did learn something, felt better about your own commenting game and everything else.

How much do YOU care about comments on your blog? Do you feel like you’ve won the lottery everytime people comment on your blog posts?! (I do)

What is a “good” comment, for you? What are some DO and DON’T for you, when it comes to commenting? Do you enjoy when people leave you long, endless ramblings?! (I do)

Do you sometimes feel a bit pressured to leave ALL THE COMMENTS everywhere, or is it just me? Do you have any tips to comment on book blogs, start conversations (maybe by mentioning chocolate or something?) Let me know everything in comments!


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175 thoughts on “How to: be on top of your commenting game

  1. ooh this was super helpful! As a fellow blogger just starting out I’m only beginning to understand the importance of good comments (like how networking/commenting on other blogs is a good way to get your blog known) Also I believe that its important to respond to others comments. It makes them feel like you are listening to them you know? Great post! I love getting knowledge and insight from other successful bloggers! πŸ™‚

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    1. Ohhh you are so welcome, it makes me so happy if I could help, in any way! ❀ ❀ I hope that you're having tons of fun discovering new bloggers and commenting – it takes a bit of time but it's the best way to feel like part of the community and have fun πŸ™‚


  2. What do you mean, you’re quite good at commenting!?!?!? YOU ARE THE QUEEN! I always admired how much time and effort you put into comments because you are just the best ❀ I always see you on my blog and others and you never just post something superficial. Thanks for doing this post and letting us in on your secrets ❀

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    I totally care when someone comments on my blog posts ❀ 'cause it's like THEY TOOK TIME TO ACTUAL TALK TO MOI. Like whaaat?

    A good comment is probably a comment that talks about something in the post?? I usually love things that I can respond to and have a conversation from! Personally, I try to talk about specific things I remembered or laughed at in the post, and then I also answer some/all of the questions if there's a signoff thingy!

    I TOTALLY FEEL THE PRESSURE TO LEAVE ALL THE COMMENTS EVERYWHERE. I know MAY is really good at commenting EVERYWHERE OKAY. Also youuuuu areeeee ❀ I love all of your comments on my blog!

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    1. OH THANK YOU, you are way too sweet ❀ ❀ I agree wtih you, no matter whether it is short or long, as long as it talks about the actual post, that always makes me happy and it shows that people read and care ❀
      OH YES, she's so good at commenting everywhere ahah, it's crazy but also SO awesome!! ❀

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    Just kidding. I’m sure someone already pulled this joke already.

    This is my first time here and I love this post. But yes, comments. I used to comment a lot more when I first started off, but now I only comment on a couple posts a week. WHICH IS FINE, though maybe it’s not because one of the reasons I don’t comment much anymore is because everyone is leaving the blogosphere. Or not being active enough. (sadness).

    In the beginning, I had the problem of trying to comment on EVERYONE’s posts, and spending more time on coming up with what to say, rather than only commenting on posts I actually HAD stuff to say about. It was rough, but I got over it. By not reading posts I wasn’t interested in. My life became infinitely better after that.

    I really like receiving comments on my own blog, but replying back to them on my own blog is a bit hard for me. Mostly because I’m just saying the same thing over and over again to each person. It’s partly my fault because I really only post reviews nowadays, which doesn’t necessarily spark a discussion. (I think it also helps, and this will be something I need try, to not reply back to comments on the same post all at once.)


    1. Ahahah, you’re the second person doing this joke but…it’s not getting old, don’t worry about it ahah πŸ˜‰
      Thank you so, so much, Valerie! I’m really glad you enjoyed reading this post ❀
      This is such a great way to think about things. I used to be the same way. I wanted to comment on everyone's posts, I wanted to find something to say everywhere, but…well, sometimes you just can't, because you have NOTHING to say. It feels so much better to share your thoughts whenever you feel like you have something to add and want to. It makes everything a bit less stressful and a whole lot more fun, that's for sure πŸ™‚
      Oh yes, sometimes reviews don't sparkle tons of discussions in comments, but…well, it would be great if they did more. I mean, reviews are supposed to be the heart and soul of book bloggers, ahah πŸ™‚
      Thank you so much for your sweet comment ❀ ❀


  5. I’ve actually received a couple comments before where the comment-er actually said sorry for leaving such a long comment! Like, what?! Don’t apologize – I love that! Clearly something about my post sparked their imagination, which means my blog post did something good.

    And yes, I definitely feel pressure when commenting. My site traffic is horrid when I don’t comment on blogs so I find commenting to be essential to gaining traffic.


    1. Ahahah OH SAME here, I don’t understand it when people apologize for rambling on and on. I know I do sometimes, mostly because I’m scared of being annoying haha, but… well, long comments are THE BEST. I love them, I just love seeing that I actually inspired people to talk so much ❀
      Oh yes, comments are great to gain traffic – plus, they're tons of fun πŸ™‚
      Thank you so much, Bridget! xx

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  6. Yes I feel the exact same way about comments! Even a super short comment where someone just writes “nice post” makes me happy, longer ones make me even happier! I was also very hesitant about commenting on other blogs when I first started because I just wasn’t sure if I had anything valuable to add but I realize that doesn’t matter as much to bloggers as the simple act of interacting with other people does. Endless ramblings are the best! πŸ˜€ Hehe, mentioning chocolate sounds like a great conversation starter [I’m actually not a big fan, I feel like I’m the only person in the world who isn’t πŸ™‚ ].

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    1. [you don’t like CHOCOLATE?! Well…you’re probably not the only one, ahah, but I have to ask…what kind of food is your guilty pleasure, then? :P]
      Thank you so much! You’re so right, it’s so good just to leave a sweet comment, try and start up a conversation. We might think we have nothing to add, but we always do, even if it’s just sweet words of encouragement! ❀
      Thank you ❀ ❀

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      1. Hehe, I get that reaction almost all the time πŸ˜€ . Hmm, my guilty food pleasure… does tea count? I’m literally a tea addict, I cannot go a day without a cup πŸ™‚ . I completely agree! Receiving comments always makes me happy whether they add anything to the post or not.

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  7. I totally agree that a good comment never includes “great post! check out my blog”. A comment like that appears spammy and shows that you probably didn’t take the time to read the post. I LOVE when posts end with a question! It helps me formulate a comment when I did enjoy the post, but don’t really have something worth saying. I definitely feel like I won the lottery when someone comments on my blog because there are so many awesome book blogs, and I’m the new kid on the block.

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    1. oh yes, I agree – it is so helpful when there are questions are the end. Sometimes, I really love the post but I want to say more than just, “great post”. It feels a bit empty otherwise, and these questions are helpful and fun to answer for sure πŸ™‚
      Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this, Katisha! I hope you’re having fun blogging πŸ˜€

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  8. I read this after trying to make it through the endless tabs I have open of blog posts I want to read and comment on. XD So this is perfect. I really need to work on trying to comment back after somebody leaves a nice comment on my blog, but then the page gets lost in the 500 tabs I leave open. I really need to organize my time better. XD But getting a nice and meaningful comment on my post is the best feeling!

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    1. Hahahaha, welcome to my life πŸ˜› I currently have around 9 tabs opened with blogs… it is hard to keep up ahah and to know where you’re at. I always try and do it step by step, blog by blog, and to refrain myself from opening…more than 10 tabs at a time πŸ˜›
      Thank you so much for your sweet comment ❀ ❀

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  9. I used to (still do on another website) write on a website that paid to write about anything. The key to get paid is to comment on other people’s posts. Alot of times people would comment saying to look at their post. I never did because that’s not really interacting. When I started blogging, I had written about something that happened at church and a guy spammed me saying to read a book about being preacher. It made me mad. I only comment on a blog, or post when I have something to say.

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    1. Oh I so agree with you – it’s much more fulfilling and good to comment on a post when we actually want to have a conversation and have something to say πŸ™‚
      Thank you so much for your sweet comment! xx

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  10. This is my first time on your blog and I am loving it.. flipping through all your posts πŸ˜€ And I loved this topic. I am pretty new in the blogging community, it has been just 3 months and I am really enjoying it so far. But to tell the truth, it is hectic as well to manage the blogging game with my full-time job.

    And within this limited time, I DO love comments. I mean what’s the point of writing posts even if no one is sharing their thoughts? Yeah, I seriously feel like I have won a lottery each time someone comments πŸ˜€

    And yes, I do enjoy long comments πŸ™‚ But I like the short comments equally, but yeah not the short ones like – “Nice post please check out my blog” as you said. I feel pressurized too sometimes about leaving comments, especially on the Memes post. But I guess, that’s the point of whole mem game to hop blogs, right?

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    1. Hi Simant! Thank you so, so much for your sweet comments and your compliment, this just made my day so much brighter ❀ ❀

      I get it, it is SO hectic to try and manage your blog as well as a full-time job, I'm in the same situation πŸ˜… With the fun I'm having talking about books, it is worth it. Just need a little bit of organization πŸ™‚

      Comments are the best – I feel like I'm the luckiest whenever I get comments, it is the best feeling, you're right ❀ Long, thoughtful comments warm my heart, knowing people took time to write them, but short comments are just as valuable, as long as they come from the heart and aren't just self-promoting πŸ™‚

      Thank you so, so much ❀ ❀ ❀

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  11. For new bloggers, commenting could be daunting. Heck, even I who has been blogging for years still feel an anxiety when I comment on blogs especially the new blogs that I just found. Like what if the blogger would ignore me (this is rare, but it happens) but luckily, most of the bloggers are lovely people who don’t mind my comments that are filled with grammar mistakes.

    And I don’t know whether it just me but some posts are not exactly commentable? Like if the posts are touching on sensitive stuff or a bit personal.


    1. I had all of these feelings too. I don’t know, I feel a bit less shy now and sometimes just type out comments very quickly without even second-guessing myself?? It’s so weird, but the overall welcome of the blogging community has helped me tons in gaining confidence, when it comes to leaving comments and starting a conversation. I am so grateful for that ❀ ❀
      Oh yes, I agree with you on that. Sometimes… I just don't know what to say either? :/
      Thank you so much for your sweet comment!! xx


  12. *The Queen of Ridiculous Long Comments has arrived.*
    I’m typing this before actually knowing how long my comment is going to be, but.. it’s just the way I roll? [I just felt the need to say that because of your mentioning how comments don’t always have to be long but somehow mine end up to be pretty much 95% of the time. :’)]

    Comments! I looove comments. Getting them, giving them. Doesn’t matter, love them. That is, until I had to ignore my notifications for two days and I can’t see the scrolling end of them and start freaking out? Commenting takes time, since bloghopping and reading posts take time. Replying to comments?! Goodness, there sometimes seems no end to it. I often have to go back to the post, skim it and try to remember what the post was about before having to reread half the conversation on it to figure out what I said already. That, or I’m too lazy, think I knew what it’s about and somehow just repeated myself. [It happened and I saw it afterwards and I felt freaking ashamed but I was tired and really did want to reply but my brain just wouldn’t cooperate?!] But, it doesn’t change the fact that I love people who start actual conversations on subjects. It’s like “Yes! You find me interesting enough to actually CARE!” and it makes my day every. single. time.

    A don’t for me, when it comes to commenting, is the simple and dry “Nice review!” or “Nice post!” It makes my brain go “Did you even read the freaking thing or not?! Okay, sure. I know some people simply don’t know what else to say and just want to say SOMETHING but… It’s the way my brain works? My tendency to write way too long comments – and pretty much never the “nice review!”-kind doesn’t really help either does it? [Oh my lord, I’m just realizing how long this comment is getting…]

    The pressure to leave comments everywhere only gets to me when I’m genuinely at my desk with the goal of: Let’s hop on some blogs and comment away! THAT is the moment I feel like I should be commenting on every post I read even though that’s simply not realistic. I can’t like every post or have something to say about every subject or review. Those are the moment I just walk away from my desk and return after five minutes to go on and ignore the post I didn’t comment on. :’) Or I leave it open to get back to it and try commenting on it anyway.. [Seriously, I’m over the top, right?]

    When it comes to starting conversations [aka making people like you] it definitely helps when you give them compliments and pretty much make their day, like, for example, by mentioning how awesome they are at time-management when they are SO NOT. [Yes, I’m talking to you.] Okay. No, seriously. I think it’s fun to comment on blogs, start an actual conversation when I’ve read multiple posts of that blogger right then because you can maybe combine some things you wanted to say in a comment on one post. Or go “Oh, and I saw you read..” Having multiple subjects in your comment pretty much feels like the way to go when you want to start an actual conversation.
    That or you can head to their social media and DM them with questions which are bound to lead to some kind of conversation? I don’t know. Could work as well? [Never done that, though.]

    And now i’m going to crawl in a hole and hope you don’t curse me for having pretty much a blog post on your blog post instead of.. a.. comment.. Oops.


    1. Sorry it took me a couple days to get to your comment. You are the QUEEN of commenting, really haha, I love reading your thoughts about everything. Always makes my day ❀
      I'm the same when it comes to commenting – when I'm starting, I feel like I have to comment on everything, but it is SO not realistic. I mean, we can't always have something to say? Sometimes, even if I loved a blog post, I am drawing a blank when it comes to actually saying something. I hate just leaving a "nice review" kind of comment as well and always try to say something more. I don't like feeling like I am leaving an empty sort of comment? :/
      Comments are the BEST way to start a conversation and make blogging friends, I love that so, SO MUCH. ❀ ❀

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      1. Hahaha, you’re welcome! ❀

        I knoooow! I once had a post I really liked SO much but I couldn't for the life of me come up with something interesting to say but I felt bad about not commenting either? I think that was the first and only time I went "Okay, so, I love this post but my brain is dead and can't come up with something useful to say so. I LOVE YOUR POST." :')

        Truueee! I don't even want to know how often I went from endless comments / replies to tweeting to simply DM'ing all day, haha.

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      2. THAT is the ultimate struggle. Sometimes I keep the post open for HOURS on my computer, hoping for some magical inspiration to come…. it rarely happens though πŸ˜‚ SO frustrating.

        THAT is the best, being able to chat all day with amazing people ❀ ❀

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  13. Great post, Marie. I’m glad you acknowledged that we can’t always comment on every blog post & assure us that it’s okay! Whenever I comment I don’t want it to be hollow. I always try to establish a connection even in the briefest sentences.

    Comments mean SO MUCH to me! I love knowing people’s thoughts on what I wrote – reading different opinions helps me write better as well!


    1. Same here – I don’t want to leave an empty comment, I always want to try to expand my thoughts, even if it’s just with two sentences. I think it’s important, as you said, to establish a connection and just show appreciation to the blogger and the blog post πŸ™‚
      Thank you so much for your sweet comment! ❀ ❀


  14. I never know how many comments/blogs visited is ‘enough’ – like, I feel like there should be some standard number, but there isn’t, and then I’m convinced that no matter how much I comment, it’s *never* ‘enough’ (me? self-esteem issues? Haha… LOOK A DISTRACTION! *runs*)

    And dude, there’s so many interesting-looking links in this post, and I’m gonna have to come back and check ’em out!

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    1. I used to feel this way too, but there is no right or wrong and no standard number to follow. As long as you do what you CAN with the time you’re allowed, you’re doing GREAT. Whether you’re commenting on one blog or a thousand, you should be proud of yourself, every little comment is great and will make someone happy πŸ™‚
      Thank you so, so much for your sweet comment πŸ™‚ x

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