On belonging to a community, fear of mising out and other blogging anxiety

Happy Sunday, friends! I am already exhausted from my first week back at work, and getting back into the blogging rhythm has been a little dreadful…and overwhelming, at times. So obviously, I wrote about all of it.

Also, no, you’re not dreaming – that image above features a very rare picture of me heading to Hogwarts because #whynot.ย  I’m a bit late but wait for meeeeeeeee wizards, I shall bring tons of Chocolate Frogs.

Before you ask: yes, these are my bookshelves, so you might see a couple French book titles here. #oops.

I say it more than often on here: blogging has turned my life completely upside down. Not in a way that it gave me all of the free books, allowed me to become rich and sit on my couch all day, swallowed whole by a pile of books. (that’s the dream, right?)

Blogging did made me buy more books, fall in love with reading even more every single day. But blogging also brought me something I did not expect. Something I didn’t even know existed, something big. A community. A gathering of people made of the same breed, made with words and imaginary worlds, made of pages, whether they’re real or in e-books, made of a whole lot of fangirling, sure, but also made of such a fierce love for books it is terrifyingly beautiful.

After almost three years, I have seen the community grow, change. I have seen people coming and going, coming back or not, I have seen small bloggers grow bigger than anyone else in the matter of just a few months while other big bloggers slowed down their rhythm. The community is something that’s alive, eternally changing, moving, constantly adapting. It’s not waiting for anyone and it surely wasn’t waiting for me.

As you might have notice, I was gone for most of the month of August. Traveling, living outside of book blogging. It has been a blast, yet also it has been dreading to come back. Overwhelming, even. The community, people, books, hype, everything that makes the community what it is, just moves so fast. It’s like trying to catch a train on the move. Trying to catch a train you left at one particular station, knowing it might not come back. It will be a whole different train, changed, evolved. For someone very anxious, with a deep fear of missing out and being forgotten, this has been hard.

I remember nervously clicking on the WordPress app, sitting on the bed of an hotel room after a four-hour car drive, making the mistake of checking numbers, stats, comments, seeing that nothing is as wild as before. Like in any place, you have the feeling of belonging when you’re feeling included. In conversations. In comments. Even just seeing that people are still here, looking at your empty corner of the internet while you’re on holidays. Taking a break is refreshing, but feeling like I’m losing my place somewhere is depressing.

Blogging has changed my life, it really has. In the past years, I’ve become more confident, aware of my passion even if it’s one I will probably never be able to turn into something to make a living of. I’ve become happier and more passionate every single day about this blog, these people, this community I met online and love more and more every single day. While my life changed, blogging has been a constant. Yet, just like with everything else, I can’t help but being anxious about it all.

Is my blog good enough?

Am I doing good enough for this?

Am I missing out by taking this break? Will everyone hate me, forget me, hate this post or everything else I write?

Am I really part of something big, or just fooling myself because I’m certainly not a 5 K twitter account screaming about books all day because that’s just not who I am? (I’m trying but twitter makes me anxious at times and a billion times more shy since people are a billion times fiercer on here. I admire them from afar. But that’s a whole other question).

Before you ask the question: YES. Blogging makes me happy. I know that, by the time blogging makes me more anxious, sad or mad, than happy, it will be time to quit. But I’m a hardcore blogger. I’m passionate and because I care so much, I’m bound to ask myself too many questions. To wonder whether or not I belong on a daily basis. To think about whether or not I am good enough. To have fear of missing out on everything.

I’m an anxious person, I guess. But I love blogging.

Whenever I get a notification, a comment, whenever I’m still seeing views on my blog, whenever people are asking how I am or the warm welcome I got when I came back from holidays.. I know it. I know that despite the anxiety, the nervousness, the fear of missing out, that I’m okay, because I got you. The community, or at least my tip of the gigantic iceberg I know, are here and make me feel like I belong. Like it’s okay to have missed out, because I can catch up to speed, or slowly ease my way back in. Like it’s okay to be anxious about it all, because it’s okay to be passionate. Like no matter how anxious I am to raise my hand to try and catch that bookish community train while it always moves ; there’s always someone there to help me hop in.

Are you sometimes a bit anxious about blogging? Do you ask yourself these very same questions like, am I doing okay, am I good enough, am I like, part of this community?

What makes you feel like you belong to the book blogging community? Is it the comments, the views on your blog, chatting on twitter or something else?

Do you have silly fears of missing out on everything when you can’t blog, or is it just me? How do you deal with it all?

 

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139 thoughts on “On belonging to a community, fear of mising out and other blogging anxiety

  1. Thank you for your honesty with this post! I’ve been feeling the same. Sorta like you, I recently got a new job and by the time I get home, all I want to do is pass out. So I’ve slacked a bit more on my blog and it’s definitely a sucky feeling sometimes, like you’re letting yourself and your readers down. BUT life happens sometimes and I just keep reminding myself I’m no robot :p I’m completely in the same boat with you as feeling anxious..thank you for sharing!

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    1. Oh thank you so, so much Melissa – I’m really happy you could relate to my feelings here. You’re so right – I keep reminding myself that I’m not a robot either, even if sometimes it’s hard and I want to try and do more, and more, and moreeee ahah. Thank you so much, Melissa! I hope you’ll find your blogging rhythm and happiness. I think that’s what we should focus on, being happy with what we can do ๐Ÿ™‚ โค

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  2. First of all I have to say that the person with 20 followers and the person with 2,000 are the same to me. I don’t measure a blog by its success or views. I measure it by their passion for books and reading. They both belong to the community just the same ๐Ÿ™‚ and I love that this community as a whole recognizes that as well. This community is so loving and accepting! So you ARE good enough, even if you don’t feel like you are sometimes!

    I took a small 3 day break when I went camping with my kids. I kept up with comments and such, but my views and traffic lessened by half. In just three days!! It’s hard to not let that bother you. When I first started my stats were everything and they determined if I thought I was successful or not. Now I don’t look at stats nearly as often. I’m doing this for me because I love it soooo much. If people read it then great! But if they don’t, that’s ok too. It took me many months to get to that point!

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    1. Shanah – I kind of want to print out your comment and frame it so I can remember it forever ahah. Sorry that sounds creepy haha, but I just love how you said that you measure a blogger by its passion for books. I so agree with you on that and it’s something to remember for sure. โค thank you for saying this.
      I understand and it's so great you are able to feel content by what you are doing. I'm too much of an overachiever, and if sometimes I don't let stats or anything bother me, other days I'm getting…well, obsessed and sad about it all ahah. I need to remember that, just like you said, the community is here, loving and passionate and it's all that matters for me to belong โค thank you so much for your supportive comment โค

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  3. I know exactly what you’re talking about! I feel like I measure my success or belonging most on the amount of comments/interaction I recieve. I try to be active on twitter, but it’s hard because you have to be active every day, and I already do that on bookstagram so it’s hard to keep up, really. And taking a break is way too scary for me right now, because my blog is so small I’m pretty sure no one will still be here when I get back haha. But I feel you. And it’s important that you know that YOU ARE AMAZING!!

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    1. It really is hard to eep up – I don’t know how some bloggers are able to be on top of their blogging game, on bookstagram, twitter, do everything. It’s crazy. It’s fabulous for them, obviously, but I could never be able to do it all.
      Well…if you’re taking a break, Esther, I WILL STILL BE THEREEEEEE, stalk you endlessly until you come back. This is not a creepy comment, haha. I had the same thought when I left early August and… well I realized people were still here. I had to reach out again obviously, it took me a bit of time to catch up with everyone, but now…I’m almost back into gear like I was never gone. I’m sure if you take a break, it will be just like that โค โค
      YOU are the amazing one, Esther, THANK YOU for your sweet words, it means so much to me โค โค

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      1. OMG I KNOW. Especially since twitter literally requires daily, if not hourly attention?? I mean I reply to comments and post on instagram on a daily basis (at least I TRY and sometimes I fail hahaha) but that alone is so much next to everything else!
        These are the blogging gods haha
        โค

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      2. Ugh yes. I leave twitter for a day and there is just SO MUCH that has happened. It’s crazy. We could be on here all day and still miss out on things haha. I’m replying to comments on a daily basis already and doing the blogging things, but it’s already a lot to take on every day. I don’t know how some people do it hahaha I am amazed.
        I think we’re doing pretty good with the time we have? I hope? Haha โค โค โค

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  4. I felt the same way when I took a break because of my studies. It was a huge mistake to check on my stats, but I thought, it’s definitely okay. I tried to catch up on my favourite bloggers’ posts and chat with them. One thing that I learned is the blogging community is such a nice community. There will always be people who will still read your post even after you’re long gone. Looove this post! ๐Ÿ˜Šโค

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    1. Oh I’m so glad to hear this, it warms my heart so much. I agree, the community is such a nice one, there will always be people here to support you, it’s so encouraging, I love it so much โค Thank you for your sweet comment! โค

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  5. I get what you mean, however, for me Iโ€™m paranoid that people wonโ€™t like my content. I see from the stats that are practically in my face that people donโ€™t like my posts like they used to, donโ€™t comment as much and I donโ€™t know what Iโ€™m doing wrong? I donโ€™t mind the stats, but I canโ€™t help but feel Iโ€™m doing something wrong. And it makes me scared that people are just naturally going to forget about my blog. And I love blogging, donโ€™t get me wrong, and the love the community, but sometimes I just canโ€™t help but feel like that.

    The community does move fast as you say, itโ€™s as though everyone is rushing and rushing to get as many views as they can and itโ€™s so stressful sometimes. However, as long as youโ€™re going at the speed that youโ€™re comfortable with, and youโ€™re communicating with who you want, it will all be okay.

    — Lu

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    1. Oh, Lu, thank you for sharing your thoughts with me about all this. I’m sorry you’re feeling this way it is bound to happen to anyone, but I am sure that nothing is wrong with your content, or your blog. It has happened at times that my stats went down, my comments as well and everything, there are periods of time where there are less people – I’m guessing it happens, it’s just periods where they are busy, etc etc. I’m trying not to freak out when that happens either, but I get that it’s hard. Don’t worry – I’m sure it is all just nothing, you’re doing awesomely! Maybe reaching out to other bloggers, commenting and trying to strike up new conversations will bring you motivation and everything else will fall into place again? ๐Ÿ™‚
      Thank you so much for your sweet comment, Lu! Sending you love xx

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      1. Aww thank you Marie! Youโ€™re super sweet. Yeah at the moment Iโ€™m just trying to focus on the positives by making new fiends online and talking to new people. The community really is a lovely place. I hope that you feel more sure about your blog soon,
        Hugs,
        Lu xxx

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      2. You’re so welcome, Lu! The community is such a lovely place, it takes a bit of time to get accustomed to it, try and find your kind of people on here and everything ๐Ÿ™‚ โค

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  6. I definitely feel you about being anxious about blogging! I get terrified posting semi-controversial discussions because WHAT IF EVERYONE HATES ME? Or wondering if what I posted was good enough or if people will care about it. Or why this post got less comments than this other post. It’s something that’s fun, but it can defitneky be terrifying at times, I guess! What really makes me feel like I belong is really just talking to people and getting comments on my blog and commenting on other people’s blogs! That never fails to make me feel better! ๐Ÿ˜„

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    1. I’m glad I’m not the only one, ahah, though you are doing FANTASTIC, Mikaela, seriously, you have nothing to worry about, except maybe being too awesome and growing too fabulous too quickly? ๐Ÿ˜› โค
      I agree with you – comments, and chatting with other bloggers, never fail at making me feel better and part of it all ๐Ÿ™‚ Thank you so much for your sweet comment! โค

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  7. I am anxious about blogging all the time. I often feel like I should put in more effort to visit other blogs and interact, while at the same time I barely have time to write my own blog posts. Sometimes I just see people passing me by and I am happy for them reaching their new goals, while at the same wondering why that isn’t me. All those feelings aside, I still love my blog. It is categorically mine. I can write and say whatever I want, I can express things no one else will listen to. Do I wish there was even more interaction sometimes? Yes, because I am so passionate about these things that I’d love to discuss them with people all day long, but I am SO happy and grateful for what I DO have.
    I really try to post at least twice a week, to remain some sense of regularity, but FOMO is real ahahaha

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    1. I’m right here with you, Kat. Sometimes I hate myself for being so prone to comparison but I can’t help it. I’m happy for them but also so insecure about things sometimes ahah.
      I think that, especially given your situation right now (YOU ARE LIVING THE DREAM, like really, it’s pretty cool, Kat), you are doing pretty great at blogging, still managing to post twice a week and you should enjoy your adventure as much as you can without all of these blogging worries dragging you down. I know, easier said than done ahah. FOMO is the worst thing ever, I wish that just wasn’t a thing.
      I guess we just have to remember that we love what we DO, and what we HAVE, that’s something we ought to be grateful for. Anxiety needs to shuuuut up and leave ahah. ๐Ÿ™‚
      I’m ranting ahah, thank you, Kat! โค โค

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      1. I know, I know. I am having a good life right now and a little blogging drought was bound to happen with lfie being so busy, but sometimes I just wish it would still be as easy as it was when I first started hahaha
        I agree though, anxiety just needs to shut up! โค

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  8. It’s understandable to be anxious when you’re away but if you need a break, you need a break. Once you’re a part of the community you’re in it no matter how present you are or how many hiatuses you need to take. As far as “blogging enough” and it being “good enough” you should blog for you. If you like it then that’s what matters

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  9. Hi Marie, I can relate! Recently I deleted Twitter and Facebook from my phone because it was causing me anxiety given the news outlets I follow. I sometimes panic thinking that I am not active enough on those channels but the fact is…you have to find a blogging model that works for you. Yes I worry about numbers because that’s a measurable metric, but I can also say that I took an unscheduled five month break this year and although my numbers fell most people welcomed me back even if they didn’t remember exactly who I was.

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    1. Hi Lauren! You’re so right: we all need to find the blogging model that we are comfortable with. Some people are able to do it all, Twitter, Bookstagram, all the things, while some others can’t. It’s important to find what works for us without making us feel too anxious about it all โค I'm glad people welcomed you back to blogging – it's so good to see that we are not forgotten and still welcome, even after little or long breaks ๐Ÿ™‚ Thank you so much, Lauren! โค โค

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      1. Oh, I understand. Maybe try one thing at a time, bookstagram, or booktube, see what you can do with the time you have, what you enjoy doing, and you’ll find if you can do it all, or not, what suits you and everything! ๐Ÿ™‚

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  10. I feel you on all of these! I’ll go through stages where I’ll be feeling really good about my blog, and then a post will flop, and I feel really discouraged for a while. I feel a part of the community when I make the effort to like, comment on people’s blogs, but it’s haaard to find blogs to find sometimes, and then it’s discouraging when it seems like no new people are coming to yours. One big thing for me is comments on my posts! Then i know my writing is actually reaching someone, and is not just slowly disappearing.
    I haven’t had a big break, but I do feel nervous even thinking about what would happen if I did leave my blog for a long time. What if people forgot about me? I like what you said about the blogging world being like a moving train – that’s totally what it sometimes feels like for me.
    This was a really fantastic discussion, Marie! I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels this way… xD.

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    1. I’m with you on comments – it what makes me feel the happier, whenever I get to interact with other bloggers! โค Sometimes it is a bit hard to find new bloggers and new people to talk with, it also is very time consuming… I wish I could do that more often and share the love, but I guess we only have 24 hours each day.
      I'm glad I'm not the only one having ups and downs feelings about blogging, I feel less alone ahah. However, when and if you will have to take a break, I'm sure it will be okay. It's good to step back once in a while – right now I'm feeling motivated again and even if it took me a bit of time to catch up and reach out to other bloggers, it's just like I never left ๐Ÿ™‚ โค
      Thank you again! โค โค

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  11. (unrelated to the topic but I have to comment on your shelf because it’s so cute!! And I love that picture of you at Platform 9 3/4!)

    I feel this so much Marie! I went through this last school year when I was absent a lot and then when I finally came back to blogging this Summer (the random posts here and there during the school year don’t really count since I still felt really disconnected from the community). With school starting again this is going through my head again, so thank you for this post ๐Ÿ™‚ โค๏ธ

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    1. ( Awww thank you so much, Michelle! โค โค )
      OH you're welcome, I'm glad I'm not alone feeling this way. But you are always such a big part of the community, even when you were gone during the school year, reading your blog posts, even sporadically, always made me so happy โค I'm sure you will do great – school matters more, obviously, but you will find your rhythm โค โค

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      1. Usually I try not to compare my blog with others but sometimes I can’t help myself and feel that why isn’t my blog gaining more followers when a new blog already has that amount it took me to achieve in 2 years and I feel disappointed in myself. I know I shouldn’t, I keep reminding myself I blog for myself but sometimes these anxieties get the better of me.

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      2. Ugh, I get this feeling so much. There are relatively new bloggers getting TONS of followers in the matter of a few months and achieving what I haven’t even achieved in almost three years ๐Ÿ˜‚ it’s crazy and a bit disapointing at times, but I guess we all have different blogging rhythm and growth. I try to remind myself I am blogging for myself before anything else, and that we all are different, we should be happy with what we have already and our little corner of the internet for sure. I know you should be proud, you’re amazing, Poulami โค I get the same anxieties as you about all of this. If you ever need to talk, rant, or anything, I'm here โค

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  12. I love this post Marie, and I feel the same about so much of what you’ve said. โค I'm not on Twitter so sometimes I feel like I'm missing out on things on there because it seems like everyone on WordPress has a Twitter account and there's so much bookish news being announced there. I am going to create a Twitter account son, I'm just slow on adding social media to my blog. ๐Ÿ™‚
    I still feel anxious when posting things at times, mainly my discussions and features. I always worry about what other people will make on my posts but at the same time I love the community and I know on WordPress it's an incredibly welcoming and supportive place. I think we all have those doubts, part of being human right, and yeah like you said the most important thing is that blogging makes you more happy than anxious. That's the case for me and I'm glad that's the case for you as well! ๐Ÿ˜€ โค
    Great post Marie. โค

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    1. Ohh thank you, Beth! โค โค There are so many things happening on Twitter, but it is also consuming – and I'm not even that active on Twitter. I don't know how people do it all. I also feel more pressured and a bit less like I belong on here for some reason. ANYWAY it also is very practical and fun at times, so I'll be waiting for your twitter account someday for sure, Beth! โค โค
      Thank you so, so much for your sweet comment โค โค

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      1. That’s all right. ๐Ÿ™‚ โค๏ธ Yeah at times I can only just manage blogging, any other social media account is just too much. ๐Ÿ™‚
        Oh that’s a shame, I’ve heard some off things about the Twitter community, I mean I can’t say for sure but it does seem like the WordPress community is more open you know? I’ll hopefully be on Twitter before too long. ๐Ÿ˜€
        That’s all right! ๐Ÿ™‚ โค๏ธ โค๏ธ

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      2. Yeah I get it – I feel like this as well. Twitter is GREAT, it’s just…well, it gets a bit overwhelming at times and I feel like it needs constant attention. Which makes me crazy ahah.

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  13. Love this post Marie. I feel anxious about blogging all the time and question myself and this so much like you do. The community and friends I have made have been unbelievable. Which largely includes you.
    But I do often feeling out of place, like i’m forcing myself into a spot or forcing myself into conversations and ignoring people. I guess a lot of the anxiety also comes down to how despite loving blogging, it is also a hobby we sometimes have to push ourselves to do with our jobs taking up alot of our time.
    It’s a tough balance!

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    1. Oh yes – that’s exactly it. I know I’m treating blogging as a job most of the time, even if it’s something I love, but treating it this way comes with a lot of anxiety, I guess. I’m glad – but also sad – that you’re feeling the same way about it all :/ โค It is a tough balance, but I'm thinking that we all have a place here, and you're NOT out of place at all, at least you never will be with me, Hannah! โค โค
      Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts about this โค

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  14. I can 100% relate to this post. When I went to New Zealand last year I was so conscious of the fact that I was absent from the blogosphere and how even within the space of the month the dynamic of the community can completely shift and I was scared I’d be left behind in that. I still feel like that. I’ve been in a bit of a rut recently and because of that I’ve taken a small step back from blogging because life and adulting sucks. I feel so guilty that I’m not as consistent with my posts/blog hopping as much and I fear that when i’m not engaging on the blog or via social media, my place in the community becomes a bit more uncertain. I still love blogging and I really appreciate everything it’s done for me but there’s always a lingering fear in the back of my mind that’s related to this sense of belonging. Hope you enjoyed your travels. ๐Ÿ˜€

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    1. (This is not related, well, a little bit, but…YOU WENT TO NEW ZEALAND?? That’s SO COOL!)
      I feel the exact same way. Whenever I’m not able to blog-hop as much as usual or something, even if it’s just a day, I feel guilty and like my place isn’t as certain anymore. It’s a silly feeling, I guess, but…we all want to belong. I’m glad I’m not the only one having this fear and…well hoping it will pass someday ahah ๐Ÿ™‚
      Thank you so much, Lois! โค โค โค

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  15. That’s a lot of feels! I I can totally relate to this post! Taking a break from blogging for sometime is normal and it’s good for your physical and mental health but it always gets us sad when you see its effecting your stats and the no of comments.

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    1. I think I should re-brand my whole blog and just say “I’m a blogger with a LOT OF FEELS” ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚
      Thank you, Raven – it is hard at times to see stats, interaction and overall don’t feel part of it all, but sometimes breaks are needed I guess ๐Ÿ™‚

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  16. Awww, Marie! It makes me so sad that you get anxious over your blog, because you don’t deserve to be! You are an absolutely AMAZING blogger with an equally amazing blog, and you have nothing to worry about! We all know how hard you work and it really shows. โค But like you said, the more we're passionate about something, the more we worry about it — because we want our passion to show and our passion to be worth something.

    Marie, you'll always be a part of the community! We love you and you support us so so much that it feels weird to not have you around. Never think that you are excluded, lovely! โค

    Also what great timing to read this post when I'm about to go on hiatus. XD

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    1. Ohhh May – I hope this did not depress you about your upcoming hiatus and everything ๐Ÿ˜‚ I just have tons of feels ahah.
      That’s exactly it – the more we are passionate, the more we worry about it. Maybe that’s why I spend half the time worrying about my blog and the other half about my WIP? ๐Ÿ˜‚
      Thank you so, SO MUCH for your sweet words, May, this means so much to me โค โค I'm sure everything will be okay when / if you have to go on a hiatus, don't worry too much – enjoy the break as well to take a step back from blogging, and come back even more inspired and everything! โค

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  17. Marie, sometimes I think we are the same person! I totally feel anxious about blogging, even though I have been loving it so far. I’m anxious each day I post something new, about how people will respond to it. And when I took a break for a week, I was anxious about that, too! I worried that since I’m a small blogger, people would forget that I existed if I disappeared for a week. But I do feel like I’m a part of the community, and that makes me happy.

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    1. Oh Angela – we are twins maybe, who knows, ahah ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m so glad you’re feeling the same way, but also sad because I wish no one would feel anxious about blogging. It’s supposed to be fun – yet…well, we love it so much, so we want it to work well, somehow, and for people to enjoy our content, which is a bit…well, it makes me very nervous all the time ahah.
      We ARE part of the community, though, whether we are small, medium, big bloggers, posting once a week or once a month, people are always there to leave sweet words and welcome you back. It’s reassuring and it’s just so beautiful as well ๐Ÿ™‚ โค I'm so glad you're happy with blogging, Angela โค
      Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts about this โค

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    1. I’m so glad you’re blogging because you love it, and not letting insecurities get in the way. Some days, if I listened to myself, I would let ALL of the insecurities prevent me from blogging…and it would make me really depressed ahah. I’m so glad you’re loving it, you’re doing awesome โค also, whether you're small or big, you're part of the community. don't be afraid to reach out to other bloggers and have a chat ๐Ÿ™‚ โค
      thank you so much for your sweet comment! โค

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    1. Oh thank you so much for your sweet comment, I’m so happy my post spoke to you, in a way โค I'm not that big of a blogger, you're too sweet โค I agree that somedays, it's easy to get discouraged by everything, but what matters is that you are enjoying it all. Writing blog posts, commenting, talking about books and everything. I've been doing this for a long time now and even if I'm still anxious at times, the fun I'm having outweight all of that! ๐Ÿ™‚ โค
      thank you for your sweet comment! โค

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  18. I fully relate to this post. I’m studying abroad in Hong Kong and I don’t have a phone ton constantly stay updated, so also fear my blog will go lost. But I try to carve out 30 minutes at night to chat with new bloggers and it’s helping with the worry. Try to carve out some time each day. Hope this helps!

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    1. Ohh, Hong Kong, that’s so cool! I hope you’re having a great time ๐Ÿ™‚
      this is such a great advice – trying to have time each day, even if it’s just a little bit, dedicated to blogging. I love it. thank you for sharing this! โค

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  19. I totally understand. I started my blog about two years ago now and I became so addicted . . . I loved (still love) it so much. When I first started out, I was posting a lot more and started meeting other bloggers and following their blogs and began to feel like I was really making friends even though it was with people I had never met. It was kind of addicting–checking blog stats and getting new followers and what-not. But then I started re-evaluating my goals and looking at how I was spending my time. What I really want to write is fiction and the more time I spent writing blogs, the less time I spent working on my short stories and building my fiction-writing muscles. (I think learning to write good blog posts and learning to write good fiction are two different crafts.) So I started backing off on the blogging and spending more time on my other projects. It was hard, though, because, like you say, I felt like I made friends and didn’t want to miss out. It’s hard for me to know how to balance in the “correct” way these two different things I really enjoy, but I’m trying to figure it out. One of my goals this year is to spend my time (once again) building community in the blogging world and working on posting more regularly. Wish me luck ๐Ÿ™‚

    This was a great post, by the way. Some good things to think about and discuss ๐Ÿ™‚

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    1. Oh thank you so, so much for your comment, and for sharing your story, Lonna! โค I think it's so great that you tried to spend more time on other writing projects – I hope it went well, with the writing? :). But I get it, it feels a bit weird, after feeling like such a big part of it all, to step away, not talk to some people everyday, etc, etc. I guess finding balance in everything is hard but…I'm hopeful that someday we all will without losing our minds. Someday. Ahah ๐Ÿ™‚
      Best of luck for getting back to blogging, I hope you'll have fun posting again! ๐Ÿ™‚ โค
      Thank you again for your sweet comment! โค โค

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    1. Oh, yes – I get that feeling as well. I guess we just have to try not to get too overwhelmed with numbers and everything, and remember that it’s our space and we can blog about what we do like ๐Ÿ™‚
      Thank you so much for your sweet comment! โค

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  20. I really enjoy reading, talking about the books I read, visiting book blogs, and connecting to other readers via my blog. I have a few loyal visitors, who I really enjoy chatting with. I will cherish every comment they leave. Sadly, I will never have a real social media presence. I am gone either traveling to work or at work for about 12 hours a day, and Twitter usually makes me sad when I visit, because of all the negativity.

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    1. I get the feeling. I’m always feeling conflicted about twitter. I’m on it and wil tweet sometimes, somedays I will love how easy it is to talk to other people and some other days I will hate all the negativity. Social media gets overwhelming very quickly – I will always enjoy book blogs a bit more because of that ๐Ÿ™‚
      thank you so much for your sweet comment! โค โค

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  21. I get anxious sometimes too, but then I remember that the people who truly care about you and your blog will wait as long as necessary. They’ll welcome you back with open arms and catch you up on everything you might have missed no matter how long you’ve been away because they’re friends and that’s what friends do ๐Ÿ™‚ โค

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  22. *raises hand* I relate! I am a very anxious person and I always worry that my posts are dumb or not good enough or don’t even make sense or that my humour will be forced or something. ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜‚ There’s SO much to panic over! And taking hiatuses are like so needed and yet so hard!?? I keep wanting to take one but the thought of trying to play catch up is exhausting and terrifying. BUT IT’S STILL SUCH A LOVELY COMMUNITY AND I LOVE BLOGGING SO MUCH!! I think people are really quite kind. :’) And the rewards of enjoying blogging, and being satisfied with stats, making friends, and creating art definitely outweighs everything else for me. โค๏ธ

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    1. Well, Cait…I LOVE your posts so, SO much – everything just screams “THIS IS CAIT”, and it’s what I love the most about it all. It has your crazy humour, your sometimes crazy trail of thought as well but it’s always ON POINT ALL THE TIME. โค
      It's hard NOT to panic while blogging, though, haha, I think we might all be crazy ๐Ÿ˜‚ but yes yes YES, the community and people make it all worth it. They are the ultimate reward โค โค thank you so, so much for your sweet comment โค โค

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    1. Ohh well I hope you’ll have tons of fun blogging – and that all of this anxiety did not scare you away ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ the community is SO fantastic, it outweights everything else, really โค
      thank you so much for your sweet comment!

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    1. Well..we all need to remind ourselves that we love it and we’ keep on going for that very reason sometimes. Even if we are anxious and feeling pressured, the community is always here and it’s the best feeling โค

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  23. I think sometimes we compare our blogs with others having this desire to be as big and great as someone else. It`s ok having this motivation but it could also get into obsession which can ruin everything. If we know how the world of blogging works we can enjoy it so much because it`s all about fun. I just love the way we all connect with other bloggers. The power of our community is amazing.

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  24. I can completely relate to the feeling of getting left behind! I went to costa rica for the last week, and since blogging has such a huge impact on my daily life, that it’s so weird to be back. I feel like I missed out on so many amazing posts and such, but there is only so much I can do! I have to life my life away from the computer also! Don’t worry, you’re definitely not the only one who feels like this ๐Ÿ™‚ xxx

    Melina | http://www.ivefoundwaldo.com

    Ps: welcome back!

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    1. Thank you so much, Melina! Ohhh Costa Rica, that’s SO great, I hope you had a great time there! ๐Ÿ™‚
      I’m glad I’m not the only one feeling this way. It’s hard to try and catch up, but I guess we can’t do it all ๐Ÿ™‚ โค

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  25. Oh, Marie. *HUGS!* This is how I’ve been feeling since I came back! The perpetual question of did I miss the train? (totally) and do I still belong? It can get really frustrating at times. But, like you, I love this community so much and all the pros outweigh the cons. So hang in there, dear. You’re doing awesome! โค

    PS. All these things you worry over are valid! But I hope you don't dwell on them too frequently, okay?

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    1. Aww thank you, you’re the sweetest. It is frustrating, at times, but I guess we can’t help and ask ourselves too many questions when we are passionate about all of it? ๐Ÿ™‚
      Thank you so much for your sweet words. I’m trying not to ahah I’m a reaaaaally anxious person at times ahah.<3 โค

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  26. MY SWEECHIE I’M ON THE SAME BOAT!!!! I now have …. like 1h every other day to blog and I feel guilty, anxious to miss out, to be forgotten, to forget how to blog, to .. everything! I love blogging but I feel the pressure to be constantly on and catching up with everything and it’s killing the fun!

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    1. Oh I’m sorry you’re feeling the same way – but I feel less alone as well, ahah. It’s so had because there is just SO MUCH to do and so much to be done, but…it’s also so tiring, trying to catch up with everything every day. We’re only human after all, there’s only so much we can do. I’m trying to do less. Trying ahah, it’s hard, but… Doing too much HAS been killing the fun out of blogging sometimes, and we all want to keep it fun, I guess ๐Ÿ˜€ โค
      Thank you my sweechie, hope everything goes well for you. If you ever need to rant about it all, well…we can together ahah โค

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  27. Oh, my heart. I recently deleted my Tumblr poetry blog; years of writing gone in a second. I was terrified then of being forgotten & even now as I venture into book blogging it is more about not feeling welcomed. There will always be fears for one thing or the other. But knowing that there are friends who are there for you whatever pace you go out is worth more than the stats. As for me, I’ll keep looking out for your posts & dropping by.

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    1. ( you were doing poetry? That’s SO cool. I’d love to read some of it someday, if you’re going back into writing? I’m just super curious, sorry ahah <3)
      You're so right about this. It is so good to know there are so many welcoming, supportive people in this community – it's what makes me happy everyday โค โค Thank you so much for your sweet comment โค โค

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  28. This post = SPEAKS TO ME. On sooo many levels.

    I’ve always been the type of person that hates being forgotten and feeling invisible. Last month I wrote a post on Book Hype & the Fear of Missing Out, which essentially talked about giving into book hype and reading a book that’s super popular (despite the synopsis interesting you) just so you can feel like you’re “in the loop” with the book community. So this post is just like YESSSS THIS IS SO MEEEE!

    I want to know what’s going on in the book community. That’s a big reason why I caved and got a twitter account, but I’m so awkward on twitter and never know what to say??? I certainly try and act confident when talking to people but in reality I’m like… ๐Ÿ˜ณ

    It’s also why I fear taking a hiatus because 1) if I do – I’m probably never going to come back lol and 2) everyone would definitely forget about me. July and August were super blog slumpy for me and my stats suffered A LOT. So I can only imagine if I leave for 2 weeks completely that my blog traffic will be like a wasteland…

    Sigh, I’ve got no positive way to spin this, but yeah – I totally relate!

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    1. AHHH Bridget, I must have missed your post on the hype while I was on holidays – I’ll check it out right after for sure!! โค
      I'm glad / also a bit sad that you're feeling the same way. Twitter makes me feel a bit awkward and somehow out of place, at times…I'm much more at ease on WordPress ๐Ÿ™‚
      I so understand the feeling. I had – and forever have the same fear whenever I take a hiatus. I've taken two "big" hiatuses, both about a month long, this year and the year before that. I'm not going to lie, my stats suffered and I felt a bit down looking at it all when I came back. But the people still were there to welcome me back. I gained new motivation, obviously because I wanted to be back to what my stats used to be, but also because I wanted to blog again. To write, talk about books with people. I think, ultimately, if you really love it all, no matter the break you take, you will come back to it eventually โค โค
      Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this, Bridget โค โค

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    1. It is crazy – things are moving really fast, sometimes it’s hard to keep up ahah ๐Ÿ™‚ but it’s also a lot of fun โค
      thank you so much for stopping by! โค

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  29. This was such a wonderful, honest post ๐Ÿ™‚
    I honestly relate to it so much as well! I was off the blogosphere for a while and when I tried getting back into it now, I just feel a bit lost because of how many blog posts I’ve missed and how my views, likes and comments have dropped. While taking a break is refreshing, coming back into blogging is something that needs to be worked upon I guess. But blogging is still something that makes us happy so just need to keep reminding ourselves that in a while everything will go back to normal I guess! ๐Ÿ™‚
    Lovely to hear that you enjoyed your time traveling though ๐Ÿ˜

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    1. Aww thank you so much, lovely, I’m so glad you enjoyed reading this โค โค
      YES, definitely remind yourself of that. It takes a little while to come back to normal, I guess, and it always makes me a bit depressed, but it will come back to normal eventually, as long as we keep going and keep loving it all ๐Ÿ™‚ โค
      Thank you again! โค โค

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  30. Oh, Marie! I’m so sorry blogging has made you feel anxious, I’ve definitely felt like that before and I know that it sucks ๐Ÿ’• I’m constantly feeling like my blog isn’t good enough or my reviews aren’t good enough, especially because English isn’t my first language. I can hardly believe so many people want to read my ramblings ๐Ÿ™ˆ I definitely feel like I’m missing out when I take a break and especially on Twitter, but it’s just so hardcore and stresses me out so much! I think taking breaks are essential though and I’ve learnt that your blog and your followers will still be here when you get back ๐Ÿ’• I think the friends I’ve made on here make me feel less anxious; if my friends like and comment on my posts I feel content and happy.

    P.S. You and your blog are amazing and I’ll always look up to it and you ๐Ÿ’•

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    1. Okay. I need a moment because, wow. I had NO idea that English wasn’t your first language? You write just so, so well, Michelle! โค โค
      Oh yes, Twitter stresses me out just as well, and it's where I get the feeling of just, not belonging, a lot more. Breaks are needed a lot, there, ahah. โค
      Exactly – you're so right about this. I'm feeling happy to have come back to blogging and still have all of these wonderful friends welcoming me back. It's the best โค โค
      Aw, you are way, WAY too sweet, Michelle, you and your stunning blog are too amazing โค โค โค

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      1. Omw! Thank you so, so much ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ I’m seriously blushing right know, you’re too kind ๐Ÿ’•
        I definitely feel like I don’t belong on Twitter, but it’s okay – I’m mostly there to retweet Harry Potter things! I’m so happy that you were happy when you came back from vacation, you definitely deserve all the love ๐Ÿ’•

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  31. I SO relate to this post! I also get quite anxious and uncertain about the blogging community at times, as well. I sometimes feel as if I’m not part of the community as much as I used to be and I’m not particularly sure why that is! I think in my first two years of blogging I was super active on Twitter and jumped headfirst into a lot more conversations than I do now and also a lot of the blogging friends I had in the beginning have stopped blogging now/I’ve lost contact with! I’d quite like to join in on more discussions and comment more frequently on blogs to really develop a friendship with more bloggers! This is such a relatable post, thank you for sharing! โค

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    1. Oh thank you so much for your sweet comment, Kyra! โค โค It is just so great to join in on conversations and find out about new bloggers. Twitter makes me feel a bit nervous, but bloggers on the blogosphere make me smile and I feel way less shy on here. It's so great to be able to chat and develop a friendship, I love it! โค Just like I love chatting more and more with you, Kyra. Thank you so much for your sweet words and comments! โค โค

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  32. Wow, I absolutely love this post! First of all, your blog is amazing and it is awesome that you have been doing this for three years! Your dedication and love for blogging is an inspiration for me ๐Ÿ™‚

    The community is my favorite aspect about blogging. I love getting comments on my posts, and once in a while I still have that itching disbelief that, “whoa, people out there are actually reading what I’m writing! O_o” I do wonder at times if my blog is good enough, but overall I feel that I becoming more confident and comfortable with my blogging “voice” ๐Ÿ™‚

    Love how honest you are with this post Marie (as always) ๐Ÿ™‚

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    1. Oh thank you so, so much, Sophie! โค You're so sweet โค I'm definitely getting the same feeling, over and over again – I'm surprised because I was so nervous to publish this whole ranting, I'm still suprised people are reading and relating to it all. It's such an honor! โค
      Your blog IS fabulous, Sophie, you're doing such a great job and it's always so great to see you in my feed; I'm glad you're becoming more confident, you should be โค โค
      Thank you! โค โค

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      1. Thank you Marie ๐Ÿ™‚ that is so sweet of you. I am not surprised that people relate to this post, though it takes courage to be so honest. I find that some of my best blog posts are the ones that I am scared to make ๐Ÿ™‚

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  33. Ugh, I feel you about twitter. I don’t go on there anymore. I like Instagram for social media. it makes me calm and I like to chat about books on that. I get anxious sometimes too, so don’t feel alone in that. I get stressed and worry. I just took a 2 week break because I could feel I was getting burnt out. Breaks are VERY necessary! I’ve taken them before but always had posts scheduled during that break so I wasn’t just forgotten. This time, I just jumped into a 2 week break and did ABSOLUTELY no blogging, nothing was even scheduled. It was glorious hahaha

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    1. Hahaha, well it must have been SO relaxing to take that break, not even think about blogging or the scheduled posts going up, or anything else. I need to do that again someday. I’m glad to be back to blogging now, but sometimes I just feel a bit overwhelmed by it all. It’s bound to happen I guess, with a hobby taking up this much time! ๐Ÿ’•
      I’m fascinated by the community on Instagram – yet I suck at taking boookish pictures, ahah.
      Thank you so much for stopping by, Molly โค

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  34. I’ve taken some breaks before, too, and I agree there’s a weird feeling of having no idea what’s going on when you come back and being slightly disappointed if your stats seems lower. But I think it’s always possible to jump back in and get conversations moving again!

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    1. It is such a weird feeling, I’m glad I’m not the only one experimenting it. I agree though – it takes a bit of time to get back to the rhythm, but once I did, it’s great to find blogging again and the love for it all ๐Ÿ™‚
      thank you so much, Briana โค โค

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