Pageviews, followers, the community: goals in blogging

Good morning, good afternoon, good evening friends! I hope you are all having a lovely week, filled with books and love. (Also, A Conjuring of Light released yesterday and if you’re not freaking out, well I AM. Anyway, out of topic completely.)

Today I am thrilled to be back with my blogging ways feature, where I rant and rave about everything blogging, and there’s something I’d like to highlight and particularily thank today, it’s you. The blogging community.

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In a world where we all want it all – the money, the fame, the lovely little house, the happy kids or whatever floats your boat -, it’s hard not to get blinded. Not to wish for it all – in the blogging sense of it just as well. Wish for all the followers in the world, a 4 or 5 or 6 or even more digits count, a 5 digits page-view per month and a thousand comments to get to every single day because everyone loves you and your blog and your posts. Blogging success, I guess it could be called this way.

A couple of weeks ago, I received an email and obviously I came to rant about this to my blogging friends Kat and Fadwa. It made me think, and it inspired this post a lot, just as well. When you’re starting out, there’s something that you want above everything: to be visible. Just like first day in a new school where it seems like everyone knows each other and already got billion of friends and you’re here, shy, lost and confused. I’m not saying you should fight your instincts and turn into Beyonce in the blink of a eye. I’m saying that there’s no reason to be afraid. Life, and blogging, surely begins out of your comfort zone. (Being in is nice. Keep on loving what you do. But point here is, don’t be afraid).

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I don’t like bragging and I am not the type of person to ever do that, but whenever I talk about my blog, or just think about it, I feel accomplished. In late 2014, I was the shy kid in the playground, looking up at other bloggers and just wondering what the hell I was doing here. Two years later, I feel stunned by knowing what I have accomplished with this little corner of the internet. Despite the amount of followers I have reached, it’s not what makes me feel accomplished. It’s you. It’s the comments, the interactions, the countless messages I sometimes get on twitter (you’ll recognize yourself), the Christmas card and gifts (you’ll also recognize yourself),

I worked hard for this – I know I will sound like I am bragging again, but guys, blogging is work, as you all may know it. I know it took me longer than most bloggers nowadays to get to a certain amount of followers – while some others just do that in a couple months. But I don’t care. It took me two and a half years to get where I am – and it’s not someplace with a follower count I feel is a bit over the top for what I’m actually doing here, which is ranting abbout blogging and screaming about books. It’s someplace where I feel content and confident, someplace where I found the people and the community I feel like I’ve always meant to be a part of.

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In the end, I’m here for the community, and this is what makes me keep on going. It’s not the fact that I get more followers or page-views, even if we’ll all admit for sure that this is something that makes us happy, and always will – just like money does. Numbers. But in the end, just like I’m glad to have a bit of money in the bank to be able to save up for my next trip and buy a couple more books I shouldn’t, I’m happier to have the people around me I can call home ; blogging is the same thing. If this corner of the internet managed to get bigger than I’d imagine, it still isn’t estranged by some kind of success or anything, and it is still home, it’s all because of you.

I’m not saying you shouldn’t blog to get to a thousand, a billion followers, the same amount of page-views, and not feel like you can call that a success. You can. Everyone defines success as they want to, and I’m not here to point fingers. For me, success is this community and feeling like I’m part of it.

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I feel overwhelmed and happy when people send me a comment, or an email asking me something like it happened the other day – to get more pageviews, more followers, more comments. The only thing I ever want to advice is to work, because nothing comes easily and I’m not a publicity service. And I’m not here to advice you on getting tons of pageviews and followers, because I can’t. It’s not the goal for me, and I don’t know how I happened to have something not that big but still astoundishing. The goal for me is right here, it’s you reading this behind your screen, the community. It’s what I’m here and always wanted to be here for.

In the blogging world, pageviews, followers, stats, NUMBERS, and interaction, comments, feeling genuine part of the community, can go hand in hand, obviously. They are not fighting against each other. But whether you’re the new kid on the playground or a rather old one fitting or still trying to fit in, remember that you do. You fit in. Maybe take one step like Beyonce once in a while, and be yourself just as well. And in a world where we want it all, remember what’s important to you, and work towards it. For me, what’s important, is you.

Do you feel part of the blogging community, or not yet? (Also, random idea suddenly, how would you feel about a collection of advice-posts regarding that particular topic?)

How IS blogging, compared to how you imagined it to be? Did you have expectations with the other bloggers, in terms of followers, page-views, and so on? Share your thoughts with me in comments! ๐Ÿ’ฌ

 

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113 thoughts on “Pageviews, followers, the community: goals in blogging

  1. Blogging is definitely hard work and is time consuming, it’s not a bad thing, I just think a lot of people don’t perhaps realise the amount of time it all takes when they first start. I don’t think I had any expectations when I started other than I might give up on it or more than likely that no-one would bother with my blog, no followers, likes, page views or comments, yeah, I lack confidence and I’m still surprised that people followed my blog!๐Ÿ˜‚ I think that was one of the main issues that I had around ARC’s when I started blogging and the 500 followers and 6 months rules that are bandied about so much. 6 months is easy to get to but for most of us when you first start you might well think you’ll achieve 500 or 1000 or even far more followers but at the beginning when your blog has around 50, a number like 500 can be so disheartening as it seems so massive and so far away.

    I personally never expected my blog to do anywhere near as well as it has, compared to lots of others it’s poor but to me, my figures are great and more than I could ever have imagined.๐Ÿ˜€

    I do feel like I’m part of the blogging community but I’m on the outskirts of it, looking in.lol I don’t have much time at times to always read and comment on posts, I often just like a post. I’m also a male, not to many of us bloggers are men, treasure us ladies we’re great!๐Ÿ˜‚ But, I’m a fantasy fan, as such I don’t read the same books as most bloggers and while I enjoy reading people’s views on books I’m not likely to actually read its hard to know what to say in the comments at times, yeah, I’m socially awkward, it is always great getting comments though and being able to interact with people.

    Another thing I found is that my chosen genre, most fantasy bloggers aren’t very verbal and will like your post but don’t comment or it’s only a couple of words ‘great review’ and its hard to strike up camaraderie with them. I’m not sure why but adult fantasy bloggers seem to be quiet and don’t interact on blogs but in a couple of FB groups fantasy fans are very vocal, weird.๐Ÿ˜‚

    Oh well, I’ve rambled enough, great post.๐Ÿ˜€

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    1. It really is a lot of work, and I never realized just how time-consuming it is. I also never expected to get any followers or comments or people caring enough to leave long and thoughtful comments about my rantings, so THANK YOU โค
      Oh I understand, sometimes it's hard to figure out what to say – even if I enjoyed reading a post, I'd rather leave a like than a random comment just saying "Great post", I feel like it does deserve more but sometimes…I'm at a loss for words haha.
      That's actually a great question, I wonder why that is…maybe on blogs the YA community is much more vocal than the other adult books? I'm not sure ahah.
      THANK YOU so much! โค โค

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      1. It definitely is time consuming, it’s a good type of time consuming but still it does take up a fair amount of time. I sort of stumbled into blogging without really looking into it at all, I’d vaguely considered it but that was all and then something happened in reality and I needed something to take my mind off things and decided on a blog, jumping in the pool at the deep end and blind to how it all works but I managed to someone figure it out.๐Ÿ˜‚ It’s definitely the one thing I wish I’d known though, blogging = time consuming, but it’s also fun.

        It is a good question, I follow a variety of blogs, my gang of fantasy bloggers are very quiet, not sure why but it is what it is, likewise the crime/thriller bloggers seem to be the same to, quite quiet with comments, etc. Everyone is really nice no matter the genre they blog about, the blogging community is great but it does seem that the Y-A community are a lot more vocal in general than others.

        Ha, your rantings are good, always thoughtful and have a point. Rantings/discussion posts in general are always good anyway as you get to offer your opinion no matter the genre of book you enjoy.๐Ÿ˜€

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      2. Oh yes, it’s something I wish I knew before just as well, but at the same time…I don’t regret it at all. It takes up a lot of my time, but…now I kind of have no idea what I was doing with my time?! Haha.
        I guess maybe they are more shy? Or maybe the Y-A community is SO loud that it drowns out everything else, haha – I wouldn’t be too surprised if that were the reason, ahah.

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  2. What a great post! I think that I first expected blogging to more like any other social media platform, where I would just bash out my thoughts and stick the post up online. I didn’t expect to be researching topics, trawling the web for pictures or obsessing over font sizes. You’re right, blogging is hard work and it takes a long time to get your blog and its content to where you want it to be. I also didn’t expect to meet such lovely, genuine people who were all enthusiastic and positive about what I was doing. I’ve not seen any trolling or negativity at all, which is ridiculously rare. Writing to a schedule has given a bit more structure to my life and its inspired me to branch out into writing some of my own fiction. I think it would be great if you wrote some more posts to help newer bloggers find their way, I would definitely read them! ๐Ÿ™‚

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    1. Haha well I’m glad I’m not the only one obsessing over font sizes haha. It’s just so amazing to feel part of a community, and even if there are dramas it’s incredble how sweet the community is overall โค
      Thank you so, so much! โค โค

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  3. Oh, yeah, I definitely feel like I’m part of the blogging community! Just passed two months on Monday, and it’s crazy to me that I have all these people who follow my blog and like my content. ๐Ÿ˜„

    I definitely didn’t think blogging was going to be as hard as it is. It’s not impossible, but juggling social media, thinking up blogging ideas, actually writing the posts, blog design, making graphics, getting people to find your website, etc. is a lot more than I thought is have to do. I do often get curious about popular blogger’s stats; not really because I’m jealous of them, but just because I want to compare. Like, am I inflating the numbers, or is it accurate? Even when I feel down when I see a blog that’s uber successful and has everything together, usually, those are the bloggers that have been around for years, so it reminds me that it’ll take time. But, right now, I’m very happy where I’m at! ๐Ÿ˜„

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    1. I’m so, so happy you feel part of the community, it is the BEST feeling, isn’t it? ๐Ÿ™‚
      I understand, and I often wonder about other people’s stats, but I guess that’s one of our biggest flaws: trying to compare to each other when we should be content with what we have and what we’re doing ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m so glad you’re happy, and you should be proud ๐Ÿ˜€

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  4. Fantastic post as usual, Marie! โค I agree with a lot of your points here. Numbers are definitely important for me because it is one way to measure success concretely, but along with it, being a part of the community also means so much to me. I love being able to make friends with fellow bloggers and not just mere acquaintances. I love having people to freak out over books or just to vent about my day in general. Before I started blogging I didn't know this was possible because having online friends didn't seem real to me… yet now it does hahaha but then again, it is nice to get lots of likes, comments, and followers. All those things make the effort worthwhile. My goal each month is to be better than the previous month, both in terms of stats, quality of the posts, and interaction with other bloggers ๐Ÿ˜€

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    1. Thank you so, so much Puput! โค Oh I get it, well I knew online friendships happened and were real, but friendships with such strong bookish bonds are awesome, and from all around the world, it's the best โค I love your goal! I'm trying to do that just as well, and not to get down by numbers even if at times, it's hard. Best thing are YOU guy, obviously ๐Ÿ™‚

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  5. I’ve only been active in the community aspect of blogging for a couple of weeks (I didn’t really interact before then, I’m not sure why) and I definitely feel involved. I’ve noticed, especially with book bloggers, that if you put yourself out there, people reply in kind. It’s a really lovely community to be a part of.

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  6. Yes, yes, yes to all of this!
    When I started blogging about six months ago I most definitely felt out of the loop. Everyone seemed to be friends already and always chatting in the comments section no matter who’s blog I was reading. Bloggers were posting WAY more than I had planned to. It took me weeks, even months, to get involved and to realize that the best part about blogging is the interactions. The book blogging community is so welcoming and being able to share our love for books is the best surprise I’ve stumbled upon. I feel accomplished because every day there is something new to talk about and new people to share stories with. I think a collection of advice posts would be great. Even though I feel like I’ve finally gotten the hang of blogging, I’m sure myself and others could learn more!

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    1. I felt SO out of the loop just as well when I started out, and then realized how easy it all was, to leave a comment and end up fangirling about the same books all day long ahah. I’m so glad you feel accomplished! Thank you so, so much Maxine ๐Ÿ™‚

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  7. I don’t think I had any expectations going into it. Now that I’ve been doing it for a while, I do have some specific goals. I’m not too worried about number of followers because I know that sci-fi and horror aren’t really ‘popular’ genres when it comes to blogging and the like. Still, I’d like to hit 500 soon.

    Page view wise, it’s getting better all the time, but I’d obviously like to push it a bit further.

    Interactions wise – I dunno. I know I should care more about this, and I like it when I do get comments and stuff, but… it’s never been an area I’ve focused a lot of time on.

    I like reading. I like reviewing. I like guest posts and author interviews.

    I’m just..unsociable. LOL.

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    1. Haha oh no, you are not! Everyone does blogging as they like to do it, whether they care more about viewers, interaction, blogging friends, or just writing blog posts and reviews and author interviews. What matters the most is that you find what you love and keep on doing it and loving it more and more ๐Ÿ™‚

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  8. I feel like if your doing what you love to do and your passionate and active about it people will gravitate towards you. I don’t blog because of the followers or page views or any of that. I do it because I love it, and this post really shows that you do too. I’m so happy to be a part of this community and I’m so glad to have met wonderful bloggers like you. Stay awesome! I look forward to more posts like this!

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  9. Great post Marie, also I completely agree with your reasons for starting your blog. I’m really proud of mine as well simply because I’ve never stuck at anything like this for long so the fact that I passed my one year blogiversary back in November is a massive achievement for me. I don’t really mind about stats either. I mean, don’t get me wrong it’s nice to see my monthly stats/my follower count grow each month but when it comes down to it the reason I started blogging was to talk to people about books so as long as I’m doing that I don’t care about anything else. It’s a lot of work but it’s worth it in the end. You can clearly see the amount of work you put into your blog, and it’s definitely paid off because you have an amazing blog and you’re an amazing blogger as well Marie! ๐Ÿ˜€ โค
    I really love your idea of a collection of advice posts, something like that would be handy for new bloggers, and something I wish I'd had when starting out as well!
    Also have you started A Conjuring of Light yet! I have two books I need to get through before I can pick it up but right now it's sitting on my shelf staring at me and I just want to pick it up immediately! ๐Ÿ˜€

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    1. Oh thank you so, so much Beth! โค It's so great to know we have stuck so long with this little hobby, and that we keep on loving it, isn't it? ๐Ÿ˜€
      No, I haven't started ACOL yet – I need to buy it ahah, I'm hoping to read it in the next few weeks, I can't WAIT – also, I am so very nervous about it haha.

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      1. That’s all right, and yeah it definitely feels like a major acheivement doesn’t it? Hopefully one we’ll both be able to continue with a little longer! ๐Ÿ˜€ โค
        I have a copy but there are still two other books I need to get through first before I can pick it up. Actually nervous is a very good way to describe how I feel about this one as well. It's so long though so there's a lot that will be happening! ๐Ÿ˜€

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  10. Lovely post, Marie! As we’ve probably discussed before, blogging success is something that I too struggle with. I’ve gotten wayyy more followers than I thought I would and while that’s something to be proud of (I suppose), I think I’m happier with the interaction I get on my blog as well as on other blogs, so I’m with you on that point. โค

    And blogging is definitely work! Fun work, but still – it does take quite a bit of effort. ๐Ÿ˜€

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  11. I’ve been blogging since September last year, when I decided I had to many feelings about books and needed to express them to people that would care lol. I feel I am starting to become part of the book community, but like you said at the start, it’s hard when you feel like everyone is friends and you are the new kid on the block. I really love blogging and being part of the book community on twitter (even though on twitter sometimes it feels like you are just talking to yourself).

    I never even look at my stats because I would rather not get the numbers in my head, I would rather just enjoy reading other posts and commenting, and ranting about random booky things. This is an awesome post ๐Ÿ™‚

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    1. I understand and it took me a while as well to get out of my shell and dare talking to other bloggers, even just to leave a comment. ONce I got over that silly fear, I felt part of the community so much more, and I love it so much
      You’re so right – it’s so much better to enjoy yourself and not stress out about stats ๐Ÿ˜€ Thank you so much!

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  12. Aww this is such a lovely post!!! Yes, blogging definitely starts out as really out of your comfort zone and a very confusing affair- but Iโ€™ve found whatโ€™s so incredible about the blogging community is even if youโ€™re standing on the edge of the playground looking in, thereโ€™s always someone to take you by the hand and invite you in!

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  13. I think what you’re doing is amazing! Definitely keep up the good work. I am happy that even 20 people follow me! As long as someone is out there reading my words I am content. I don’t need a million followers to be happy, just a few who can appreciate my hard work at the end of the day ๐Ÿ™‚

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    1. Oh thank you so, so much, you’re so sweet โค โค I agree with you, in the end, what matters is how you feel about your own content and that there are some people out there appreciating it ๐Ÿ˜€

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  14. I love the post so so much my forever crazy! Posts like this where you talk about being in the community and this feeling make me feel so happy and so warm inside and I truly do feel the same way. Honestly when I started out, I thought that numbers were a massive thing! Then I started talking to people, I started truly wanting to talk to people and know their opinion, I met so many fun and amazing and wonderful people that have made me feel so belonging and so happy inside and at this moment, I feel like none of that matters anymore. Sure, its nice when you meet a blogging milestone! But even if I never reached the next one, having these people around me, feeling in this community, so many honest friends and greatness – I would truly be overwhelmingly content in the bestest of ways! (and the sound of the advice topic sounds so interesting, would love to see how that is!)

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    1. I LOVE your new name my forever crazy – had to be said.
      Thank you so, so much! I really love how crazy we can be and how we can talk and fangirl about books like that – it’s so great to find people from all around the world sharing this same love; and definitely more important than stats. Thank you!! โค < 3

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  15. WE LOVE YOU MARIE! โค โค โค It took ages for me to get the follower numbers I have now as well and blogging is actual work. But it's totally worth it for the people. I think I would have given up a long time ago if I never got any kind of reactions. (I still sulk a little if I am proud of a post and there's no engagement on it hahaha)

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  16. You get a lot of messages from people asking for promotion? That must be annoying. My blog is TINY and largely unread and it even bugs me when people leave comments just telling me to read their work. In my mind I’m always like.. but why? Self promotion is such a tricky thing. It’s hard to do it without being irritating. But there is something particularly inauthentic for a total internet stranger to ask you for something without doing anything to try and earn it.

    I think you’re totally right. Blogging is so much about the work. It’s about consistency. In the end, at least in my approach, it’s something you can really only do if you’re doing it for the fun of it.

    I’m in a bit of a weird spot with my blog right now. Lately I have started to get a lot more interested in releases that aren’t the next big YA best seller. I still love YA, but at least for the past couple months it hasn’t been my primary interest. It stresses me out that when I’m not reading the latest thing the (very few, haha) readers that I have will go away. I guess I Just have to trust that the people who have been around for a while get where I’m coming from and will still be interested even though I’m not writing about what is currently generally considered the most interesting thing? Oof. Blogging anxiety is real.

    Ha, I’m sorry for the rambles. You always get me analysing this stuff x

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    1. Yes I get a couple of emails like this, but mostly it’s just like you, through comments that people are self-promoting without even taking the time to read or say something other than “nice post, check out my blog”. This makes me a bit mad to be honest. I get that when we’re small blogs we want to feel part of the community, and get visits, but I think a sweet and nice comment instead of self-promotion without any feeling behind it goes a long way.
      I get the feeling so much. At times, I don’t feel interested reading the latest blogging hit, or, like, I have no interest in reading some popular series like ToG or something – and the anxiety to feel left out it oh, so real.
      And don’t feel sorry – I always love talking with you about these kind of things! โค

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      1. Yeah nice post check mine out is the worst. That’s part of the reason I stay away from TTT. All people would comment is ‘read my one!’ and it was a bit depressing.

        I think maybe I have to embrace the whole being an uncool blogger thing ๐Ÿ˜‰

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      2. Yes it really was! This is one of the reasons I stopped just as well, that and the fact that it was getting a bit too repetitive :/
        Haha you are so NOT uncool, you are one of the coolest blogger I know, and I always LOVE talking with you โค

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  17. I agree blogging is a lot of work! Content ideas don’t just appear…then the need to be consistent and all this other stuff. I believe it’s commitment and perseverance to keep your blog going. Many times I feel stressed out coz I don’t seem to get on the same hype train other bloggers seem to get one…and I feel I don’t read enough, but then I get on and I see some of your posts and it makes me feel better. You support others and motivate others through your posts and its wonderful! Which is why I look up to bloggers and you! You’re like one of the SWEETEST blogger I know!!! I always count myself lucky that you’re so supportive of my blogging efforts (little of what I manage kekekeke)! But its nice when someone’s there to tell me they can’t wait to see what I will produce! Thank you ๐Ÿ™‚

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    1. Oh thank YOU so much for your comment, you are the sweetest, and I am so happy my posts and endless rants help you ahah โค I understand, and at times I feel guilty when I don't blog hop or commit as much on Twitter as some other bloggers do. It's so hard also to feel like you're doing enough, or your best. But it's so important to take a breath and remind ourselves that we love this, and it doesn't matter if we don't love one particular book or aren't able to check out others blogs once a day. Also, blog for yourself and love doing it, that's what matters the most ๐Ÿ˜€

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      1. It’s motivation like this which makes you awesome ๐Ÿ˜‰ I definitely don’t blog hop enough…which is a good idea! Yeah, I get discouraged but it’s always good to put my thoughts down and meet other readers and communicate with others ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป that is what makes blogging fun ๐Ÿ˜Š

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  18. I really like this post. I still feel really new in the blog world, my followers are slowly growing, but I still feel like the new kid on the block. I probably didn’t realize how much work blogging can be, I still find it fun, but also time consuming.
    I would like a few more posts with some advice, I try to soak up all the advice I can.

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    1. OH thank you so much! I understand, I got the “new kid” feeling for months, really. Blogging is a lot of fun, but it’s a commitment – one you don’t feel like is too much of a chore though, if you love it ๐Ÿ™‚ Thank you so much! I will definitely think about some new blogging advice posts ๐Ÿ™‚

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  19. Yaaaaaaas x100 to advice posts from you, Marie! You always write these kind of posts so well. I love them. โค

    I feel part of the community now, I think, but how connected I feel isn't generally related to my page views, it's more about talking with different people and having regular visitors/commenters and people have become genuine blogging friends. ๐Ÿ™‚ It's also about being consistent though, you're totally right, because when I'm less together with my blogging and with posting I do feel out of the loop and a bit less of a part of the community. I'm sure that's something to do with my general fear of missing out though, haha!

    Nice one, as always. ๐Ÿ™‚

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    1. Oh YES, the fear of missing out. I have that one and it’s making me CRAZY at times haha. I feel a bit stupid, but with the time difference between bloggers, I find that I am missing a lot of things, especially on the twitter side. I think I’m more okay with it now ? Haha.
      I think it’s the best, to know you have found blogging friends and people who regularly comment on your blog posts and with who you can have long conversations. That’s the best, and so much better than getting thousand of followers that barely talk with you!
      Thank you so,, so much โค โค

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  20. Bah! MARIE! Why are you so good at articulating all the things I’m thinking?! Yes Yes Yes — everything about this post: Yes! I started out in a complete bubble when I began blogging. I just wrote for myself. But I eventually realized I wanted to make connections and have conversations. Now I freak out over a new person commenting on my blog and I completely ignore all the stats from WordPress. Because I don’t care about that. Numbers are just numbers, like your weight on the scale. That doesn’t represent me. It’s the interaction which does.

    I love being a part of this community. I just wish there was more time to deepen and broaden those relationships! Relatedly, I’d love to see a series of posts about building and maintaining a community. ๐Ÿ™‚ Bring it on.

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    1. AWWW thank you, this is the best compliment I could ever get, this makes me so happy โค โค โค
      I so agree with you, it's the interaction that makes me happy ; and I really wish I had more time to talk with every blogger out there and make connections and fangirl with everyone. But I guess I'd need to do nothing else but that, in order to succeed ahah. Thank you so much!! โค โค

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  21. I would love a blogging community advice posts because I just started blogging two months ago! I love seeing all the comments on posts and the sharing of ideas, and I would love for that to happen on my blog posts. Thanks for this helpful article ๐Ÿ™‚

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      1. I’m having tons of fun! I also wanted to let you know that I LOVE your blog. I pull tons of inspiration from it because it’s so amazing.

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  22. I love the community.I have met so many wonderful people (including you,of course) and that is why blogging makes me happy.It’s like my home which I built myself and I come here to escape all the stress in daily life and it feels amazing โค โค and I get to fangirl about books and people don't blink an eye when I talk about being in love with fictional characters.

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    1. I am SO happy you feel this way! โค It's so great, isn't it, to be able to share our love together and have this little corner of the internet to escape and where our stress just stays OUT. It's the best. Thank you so much! ๐Ÿ™‚

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  23. YOU are the reason I keep coming back to this blog. I don’t care about your success (but I wish it to you of course!!) I just love to read your thoughts, feel your passion behind every word and just interact with you, lovely person that you are!
    If tomorrow my blog numbers stop doing good, it’s okay, because I have worked so hard to get it where it is and I love it the way it is, so it is enough to make me happy as long as I can keep those amazing relationships with the community.
    Fantastic post Sweechie! <333

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    1. OH MY SWEECHIE you’re going to make me cry, thank you โค โค โค I agree with you, and I think I'll be happy as long as I get to keep these relationships just as well โค

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  24. Everyone before me has pretty much stated my thoughts haha but I’m going to say them anyway because Marie. This post. Is. So. On. Point. Blogging takes SO MUCH work and we absolutely deserve to be proud of our work and where we’ve gotten to. And everyone, regardless of their stats, deserve to feel included. โค๏ธ The blogging community is so great at that, I’ve never really felt like I wasn’t welcome even when my stats weren’t as high as I’d hoped haha. SUCH A GREAT POST MARIE! โค๏ธโค๏ธ I love this.

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  25. This is such a really insightful and thoughtful post! Thank you for posting it! I totally agree that for me blogging is being part of the community and interacting with other like minded people and rave about our love of books. I know this sounds crazy but I rarely ever check my stats. I blog things that I love and that I find fun to do and if other people like them then that’s great. I have made so many wonderful friends through book blogging that it has changed my life completely x

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    1. Oh thank you so, so much! โค โค It does not sound crazy – I am not in that stage yet, but it's my ultimate goal, not to watch my stats too much. In the end, I'm obsessing way more about comments, interactions and reading other blog posts ๐Ÿ™‚ Blogging definitely changed my life as well ๐Ÿ™‚ Thank you! โค

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  26. When I started blogging a year ago, I obsessed over stats and followers. I thought the measure of a “successful blog” was having thousands of followers. Now that I have a year under my belt, I’ve noticed that I care less and less about the number of followers and views my blog gets, and more about the sense of accomplishment I get from blogging and being a part of the bookish community. I consider my blog “successful” because it makes me happy and fulfills my need to talk about books and be apart of a community.

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    1. I had the same feelings when I started out. I kept thinking about how others got to thousands of followers in such a short time, and I felt so unsuccessful. I really get that sense of accomplishment just as well from comments and interaction with other bloggers, than from stats now – and it is the BEST feeling. Thank you so much Amanda! โค

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  27. (off topic, I love the new look of your comment section and the fact that I jut noticed shows how crappy of a blogger and friend I have been lately hahaha!)
    This is such a thoughtful post my twinnie! I remember how frustrating that email was to you and it annoyed me too to be honest, but I’m glad you got something positive out of it: this post. โค
    I agree with everything you said, number sure are nice but what's the point if you don't interact with anyone, if you don't make friends and get meaningful comments, I really don't see the point, because if you ask me this is a human bookish experience first and foremost.
    LOVE the post !! โค

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    1. Ohh thank you my twinnie, haha and don’t worry about it, you are the sweetest and definitely NOT a crappy blogger AT ALL โค โค
      Yes that's exactly how I see it, and how I always want to see it, as an human bookish experience, and it is the best โค โค

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  28. I love this post so much, Marie! I remember when I first started blogging I was so lost on how to get interaction. I mean now it seems obvious but I wasn’t the most talkative person at first (shy person IRL problems) so I didn’t realize all I really had to do was comment on other people’s blogs. And then when I realized that and sort of broke out of my shell I think I became obsessed with stats for a while, to the point of feeling overwhelmed by it. I had to be on every day commenting and always caught up with every single post. I put a lot of pressure on myself until I burnt out for a while, which I’m still recovering from. Now I don’t really worry about it anymore. I mean what I’ve loved most is meeting everyone on here and making friends. Before blogging I never had anyone to really discuss books with. So, I think my original expectations were that it would be easy to obtain all the stats and keep up every day but in the end it wasn’t all that easy. Now rather than seeing success as stats I see it through the friends I’ve made. And you are so right about how hard blogging is. It can take me days on a post sometimes because I get so focused on making it perfect. And then how time consuming other aspects can be. Really though in the end it’s worth it. ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ’•

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    1. Thank you so, so much Melissa! My beginnings in blogging were just the same as yours were: since I am a bit shy IRL, I had a hard time bringing myself to leave comments, even simple ones, on other blogs. I admired them from afar ; then I started leaving a comment, and quickly became obsessed with it, and pleasantly surprised at how nice everyone was ๐Ÿ™‚
      I understand the pressure you might have felt – to be honest, there are days where I still feel it, and I try to reason myself and tell myself that it’s okay. The best thing is that even if you take a day to answer back to a comment because you’re busy, no one will be mad at all ahah ๐Ÿ™‚ Thank you so much Melissa โค โค

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      1. You’re welcome!! ๐Ÿ’•
        Yes, that’s exactly what I did too! I would always admire blogs and then go to write a comment only to not know what to say or feel self-conscious about it. But yeah once I started commenting I couldn’t stop. ๐Ÿ˜‚
        I try to do the same. Especially when I can’t be on for a day or two and feel that nagging feeling about not getting on. It really is! And I always try to remind myself that we all get busy and everyone understands if it takes a little bit for a reply. ๐Ÿ˜Š

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      2. Same, I felt so self-conscious about eveyrthing I wrote, and now…well I just let myself talk and I think it’s going pretty good? ๐Ÿ˜‚
        I always try to remember that just as well – some days it’s harder than others, but yes, we all do get pretty busy I gues ๐Ÿ™‚

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  29. Great post! I’ve only been blogging for about two months, so I’m still new to the community. I don’t feel part of it just yet but I do feel like it’s getting better and better each day / week. I just need to overcome this silly shyness and get out of my own way ๐Ÿ™‚

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    1. First of all, yay and WELCOME! I hope you’re having a great time blogging ๐Ÿ™‚ I understand being shy and feeling a bit nervous about commenting – I used to watch other bloggers from a distance the first few months I started blogging, I was so nervous ahah. I found out quickly how friendly book bloggers are and found it easier and easier to leave comments, chat and make blogging friends – and this is the best feeling, this, commenting ๐Ÿ™‚ So don’t be too afraid ๐Ÿ™‚ โค

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  30. I used to have a different kind of blog a couple of years ago (might even be a decade at this point) and what I loved the most was the community we had built. I think most of us started off on a website called Piczo and then slowly moved on and somehow never really lost touch with each other. We’d even have group MSN chats and talk about the most random things. And it was just pure FUN.

    I don’t feel quite like I am fully part of the community yet, or not as much as I would want to at least, but I’ve also only been doing it for two months! I do enjoy reading different blogs and commenting and talking to people about books and other topics! It’s such a fun way to spend my time! ๐Ÿ™‚

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    1. Ohhh that’s so sweet, you must have had a LOT of fun with that little group ๐Ÿ™‚
      Two months, well you are still a young blogger and I am sure you’ll feel part of the community even more after a couple more weeks at blogging – commenting and talking with other book bloggers really helped me feeling part of this community ๐Ÿ˜€

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  31. I actually stopped blogging for a year because I felt very overwhelmed. I also went through a phase where I felt like nothing I did was appreciated and it really got to me. I started again this month and realized how much I actually missed doing this. For me and for those who are interested in reading what I write, might it be 1 or 1000, I really don’t care. Numbers aren’t important and I didn’t end of the day, nothing can compare with me pushing that post button and replying to comments! They get me so excited and I always comment back. I loved interacting with other bloggers and even though it is harder than anyone thinks, I wouldn’t change it! I immensely enjoy it and this interaction makes it even better. Especially because I’m the only one who reads so much and if it wasn’t for this community, I would not have anyone to share my thoughts with! Definitely more than grateful for it! This is such a great post by the way! Keep up the amazing work!

    Elena @ Book Lady’s Reviews

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    1. Thank you so, so much, I’m glad you enjoyed this post ๐Ÿ™‚ Also, I’m really happy to hear you’re back into blogging and loving it – if you missed it, it means you’re supposed to be doing it after all, don’t you think? ๐Ÿ™‚
      Interaction is the best, and it has its moments for sure, it takes time and energy but it’s ultimately very rewarding, and a lot of fun just as well ๐Ÿ˜€

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  32. I get asked this ALL THE TIME! You know I’m not an old hat at this, that I’ve been blogging for less than a year now. But people are always asking me, “What’s your secret? How do you get so many comments? Followers?” What am I supposed to say? “I lure them to my candy house and then inprison them? I don’t know!! ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚
    Yeah, I love blogging and interacting. I don’t run around trying to get followers (my Insta is like pathetic in the numbers dept) but I want the people who talk to me and interact! I know an unnamed person who follows people for a week, and if they don’t follow her back, she unfollows. Cold!!
    I’m not about tricks. I don’t run giveaways though I’ll be holding my first at the end of the month (yay!) but I’m grateful for every single follower.
    And I’m grateful for YOU!!

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    1. Oh no, really, people do that? Follow and unfollow is just …well, people do whatever they want I guess, but, ugh. I think the best thing here is to talk with each other and have a lot of fun while doing it, and the rest comes, followers, pageviews and most importantly, the sense of being part of a community โค Thank you SO MUCH โค โค โค

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  33. This is a wonderful post! I definitely agree that blogging isn’t easy. I am still so new to this whole blogging thing and I have lots to learn! It definitely takes a lotttt of time to maintain a blog and to keeo it updated. I started this out with the hope that I can just share with the world what I enjoy doing in hopes that it brings a smile or words of wisdom. I dont have many followers right now but I do hope down the road more people will be able to enjoy my posts just as much as I enjoyed making it. Thank you for the read!!

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    1. Oh thank you so much, I’m so happy you enjoyed this post ๐Ÿ™‚
      I hope you’ll have tons of fun blogging, what matters the most is that you have fun writing your blog posts and discovering other bloggers ๐Ÿ˜€

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