Getting real: all of my book blogging pressures

You know me, I always try and make a point of being completely honest about my book blogging experience. If you’ve been here for a while, you will also know that I am trying my hardest to be honest and as real as I can in all of my blog posts, especially when it comes to book blogging.

As I tried to come up with an idea, without success, while drafting this post, I just started writing whatever the heck I was feeling at the moment and the result is this. How I’ve been feeling, trying to come up with an idea without much success. How everything blogging makes me feel, sometimes, on bad blogging days.

I am nervous while typing this and probably still nervous as you will read this. This post is probably one of the hardest I ever had to write, because it makes me realize that book blogging is damn hard every single day.

I am doing my very best and I feel like, by writing this, you will all think I am a spoiled brat. If you’re seeing my follower count, if you’re seeing some blog posts I did reaching a pretty cool amount of comments, and so on. This post does not mean in ANY way that I am not grateful about everything happening here. Every single day, I am in awe whenever I see a new follower, a new comment, anything happening on my blog, it makes me want to cry with happiness, knowing how far I’ve come and how far I can still go.

Numbers, statistics and everything else, does not give me a shield from all of the blogging pressures I feel. It does not prevent me from wanting to bang my head on a wall because I can’t find a damn idea to write about. Sometimes, no matter how high or low the stats are, I feel crushed under the weight of others’ expectations when it comes to my blog…. but most importantly, over my own expectations. They’re the hardest to follow and the hardest to please, too.

I feel like I have to write and deliver perfect content all the time.

One of the secrets to blogging success is consistency. When you are posting on a regular basis, it’s obvious that people are coming back to read more, coming more often, which results in high stats, lots of comments and so.

It also brings tons of expectations. I feel like, whenever or if I miss one single day, someone will be disappointed. That someone is me, because I did not manage to have a brilliant idea, did not manage to deliver it perfectly with a great GIF game or anything else…. all of this results in me, basically like this:

Whenever I am not blogging consistently, I feel like I am failing.

I feel like I need to be everywhere all at once.

This is both a joy and a burden. You know me, and given my recent posts, you also know how I love and how important it is for me to support other book bloggers and to blog-hop. To give back to this community that has bought me so much. I WANT to do it.

But sometimes, it’s just too much and I can’t keep up with everything. Whenever I miss a comment, don’t blog-hop for even just one day, take a little while to check my twitter feed or participate to a group, I feel like I failed. Yet I know there are only so many hours in the day and I.just.physically.can’t.

I feel like I have to read all the books…

…and or just know about them, otherwise I’m out of the loop and just… not, relevant. Book blogging and bookish news come and go, every Tuesday new books are being released. I am not a slow, nor am I a fast reader. I read approximately 60-70 books a year and I can’t keep up with all the books being released, nor can I buy them all, because I am not rich and have strict book buying habits.

I haven’t read Six of Crows yet, because I haven’t bought it, because all the hype scares me and I feel like I’m not relevant for that. It’s just an example, one of many.

I feel like, if I’m taking a hiatus, whether small or big, the world will basically crumble….

…and that you’ll forget all about me. I have taken hiatuses before and I will take more, mostly because I need to and because I want to. Yet, the fear and insecurity that comes with it never stops. Whenever I’m not here consistently, whenever I’m not posting and / or blog-hopping, I don’t feel, but I know my stats will decrease. I also know that people will slowly, gradually, forget about me, should I leave long enough for them to do so.

I am genuinly scared of that happening, because I spend so much time working on this little corner of the internet, I want it to thrive and LIVE whenever I’m here and I come back. I wish it could live on its own, too, but let’s face it, it’s not a live creature I can pet.

Okay. That was slightly weird, I apologize.

I feel like I have to do better.

I am a perfectionist and I always feel like I am not doing enough, or that everything is not perfect enough. I know I’m doing my best, but I will always find something to say to a post I wrote a month ago, just, you know, because I’m like that. It is the internet and, unlike in real like, I can take my time with writing down comments, blog posts and answering twitter DMs or anything else, yet… very much like in real life, I feel like I could have done better afterwards. That’s a very stupid feeling.

This feeling also comes from blogging envy. This feeling also comes from the fact that I am an international book blogger and feel like I have to fight harder and to give the best of me to get incredible opportunities, too. I feel like I’m not good enough some days and it makes me go a tiny bit crazy.

I don’t know if I am a big, small, medium blogger or anything else, but I know that I’ve been around for quite a while now.

I also know that, with that, comes expectations, both from the outside and from myself. Expectations to blog, to ‘live up’ to the own hype I build up about my blog and what I should do with it. I am trying my hardest, because I love it. I also know that, sometimes, I am trying too hard.

I need to take better care of myself.

Don’t get me wrong, friends. I love blogging. Blogging has brought me so, so much more than I could ever have imagined and I am forever grateful for it. I don’t plan on quitting blogging soon. Yet, one of my blogging resolutions was and still is, to just TRY AND CHILL for goddamn sakes.

I am determined to keep my love for blogging and my happiness with it. That has to come with me trying not to freak out too much, me trying to be okay if I miss a day on my schedule, me trying to just deliver quality content about whatever the heck I want. And it’s starting with this mess of feelings kind of post.

Do you sometimes, feel that way too? What are some of your blogging pressures? How the hell do you chill about blogging? If you have any tips, I’m all for it.

Let me know all your thoughts in comments, always up for a chat!



Note: I’m taking a small hiatus from blogging (unrelated to this post, but damn it, well, maybe it’s good, too) starting this Saturday, 24th Feb. until next Sunday, 4th March. I will REALLY try to chill and not be here too much to come back fresh, even happier than ever to bother you all with my comments, rants and everything else. (YES. I am even scheduling my hiatuses, but I’m taking breaks and that is a good thing so… leave my inner-planning freak alone hahaha). I will be BACK SOON.

Love you all! xx

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223 thoughts on “Getting real: all of my book blogging pressures

  1. This post hit me right in feels because YES TO EVERYTHING !! I feel like sometimes I burn out just from the pressure and expectations I put on myself, to put up the perfect content, to have a good balance between what people want to see and what I want to put out, to interact with people, so on and so forth. And sometimes it’s discouraging when a post I was proud of and put a lot of effort in doesn’t get as much love as I hope (which has been happening a lot since I fell off the blog-hopping bandwagon :/ but that’s all my fault and I’m trying to catch up again).
    There’s also that fear that there will come a point when I just run out of things to talk about you know, it thankfully hasn’t happened yet but it’s in the back of my mind a lot.
    Thank you so much for this ❀

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    1. I’m so glad to hear I’m not alone in feeling like this. It’s hard not to feel burn out at times and it’s even harder to get rid of these expectations we put on ourselves. I think it’s so important to try and take a breather every once in a while. Remember why we love blogging, remember why we love writing but also why we love the community and to give something back to it all as well. ❀
      Thank you so, so much for stopping by and for your sweet comment! ❀ ❀


      1. I agree – I find it so very stressful not to type up posts when I should be and I also feel kind of… guilty? But you are right, it is way better than just burning out and ending up hating everything πŸ™‚ x


  2. Aww, Marie!! I always want to hug you and wrap you up in a huge, warm blanket because you deserve everything good in this world because you’re so precious! ❀ ❀ I hope this hiatus will be good for you, will you be taking a break from Twitter too? Because I will miss you there, I hope we can still talk. Also, you know I feel the same way about blogging as you do, I love it, but it can be very stressful to stay up to date with everything – ARCs, comments, posts, all of this. But we can deal with it, (also #2 : girl, how many times do I have to say that you're a HUGE blogger, very experienced, not small, not medium, so it sticks??? I will get a t-shirt with 'Marie is the blogging queen, I know no other', maybe that will finally work.
    Love you, take care of yourself!!! ❀ And know that I'm here for you always!

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    1. Awww you’re so, so sweet Marta, I’m so happy you’re here, seriously you’re one of the best people ❀
      We can always talk, I will distance myself from twitter and from checking it too often, but I'll always be there in DMs and we can always talk, of course ❀ ❀
      If I had a tee shirt like that, I'd feel like I really made it as a blogger hahaha, you're so sweet, I don't know I guess I'll never be convinced, I still feel small and awkward haha. ❀ ❀
      Thank you, you're the sweetest, love you!! ❀ ❀

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    1. Oh you stop it you’re going to make me blushhhhh you’re so so sweet and YOU DO NOT SUCK at blog hopping or at anything, you’re always the best and the sweetest ❀ ❀
      Thank youuuuu, I love you even moreeeeee ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀


  4. NO MARIEEEE *gives you all the hugs* I really think this unrelated hiatus will bring you back refreshed though!

    I feel you so much on this though. This used to be the case for me when I was a younger blogger. I would review every single book I read (no matter if I got it from the library or bought it etc.), and I would try to come up with interesting posts and discussions, AND COMMENT ON ALL THE BLOGS. Especially when I used to post Top Ten Tuesdays. I had days that were comment days, days that were for writing posts, and days solely for reading. It was….a schedule. I can NOT keep that up now though. It’s a bit impossible with all the stuff I have going on.

    So YES YOU ARE ALLOWED TO TAKE A BREAK. I mean me and I’m sure a bunch of others will be commenting no matter what you decide to do!

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    1. Oh thank you so much Valerie *hugs back* you are the sweetest ❀ ❀
      I have been making some progress, I used to be even more stressed out about blogging sometimes, but I know that, every once in a while, these old feelings and the pressure just comes back to bite me in the *** haha and I can't really get rid of it all. Taking a breath, sometimes taking a small hiatus, always helps me. And your sweet comment helps LOADS, too, I am so grateful ❀ ❀
      Thank you so much for everything!! ❀ ❀


  5. In a way, you lift this heavy charm there is on blogging; we always only see the good side, not the dark side. All we see are those marvellous and fairy Instagram accounts, the always witty, well-written blog posts. But, it might be good not to forget that this charm does not work on what we write/do. We see it through what I liked to call the “dark” spell. Especially when we are perfectionists!

    I started blogging last autumn, although that’s something I tried to do like forever, but my posts either missed something to be published or my blog wasn’t ready yet. It was the “dark” spell talking. Then, I’ve seen this on youtube: ” The Secret Of My Productivity ” by Hank Green. β†’ I realise that I waste time, that perfection is nothing but this ugly illusion that my brain tried to feed with this “dark” spell. I’m on the crazy side of the perfectionist spectrum, so of course, I’m still under the spell, but less. 😊

    I’m really tired! I apologise if that doesn’t make any sense. πŸ˜…

    That was very brave of you to share with us how you feel, Marie! Enjoy your break!

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    1. Yes okay so you throwing a Hank Green video at me right here… I MIGHT BE IN LOVE WITH YOU okay. hahaha no but more seriously, I love Hank Green and everything vlogbrothers and ahhhhhhhhh I’m so happy you mentioned him and this brilliant video ❀
      And rest assured, your comment makes a lot of sense, thank you so, so much for taking the time to write this down ❀ ❀

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  6. Sis, i’m sending you so many hugs right now. You’ve hit the nail on the head with this one for me, I understand your feelings completely here. You know you can always rant and talk to me when your feeling stressed or anything. Your blog is so amazing and I think your so hard on yourself, you honestly take amazing pictures, write amazing content and you having a hiatus or taking a break is ok. You’re allowed. We will still be here when you come back and want to hear what you have to say, you are a consistency in so many of our days and we wouldn’t leave you!

    I’m so glad your taking some time to yourself from tomorrow and relaxing, spending time with your boyfriend too. I’m going to not badger you during this time but I want stories when you return even if its just what films or shows you ended up watching!

    But seriously, your blog is amazing and you are a phenomenal person. It’s so easy to be bogged down in blogging and get stressed by it, you are in no way sounding like a spoiler brat for sharing your opinions! We all feel the same at some point or other, its what I felt at the end of the year and telling myself to just blog about what I want and not get too worried on stats has helped me so much! It’s easier said than done but just remember your blog is for you, so many love it and will love whatever you read, post about!

    Love you sis xx

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    1. Thank you so, so much for everything, sis, you are the sweetest and I will always come to you for anything and rants and to share my netflix stories, too, haha, you are the sweetest and I feel so, so lucky that you’re here ❀ ❀ ❀

      Your words mean so much, do you want to make me cry πŸ˜‚ I really need to remember that more often, to do this for myself and try not to stress out about it too much. Sometimes it works, but the stress comes back more often than not πŸ˜‚ I need to chill ahah ❀
      Thank you so much for everything, love you even more! x


  7. Ugh SAME!

    I only take time to read others blogs once a week (Sundays is normally my day but here I am??) so I don’t put nearly as much pressure on myself as you do – then again my blog is only almost a year old now – but even once a week it feels like a lot.

    And then when add on top of that – Twitter activity and Bookstagram activity. It’s just too much. And i still don’t find Twitter all that enjoyable so lately I’ve spent most of my time on bookstagram.

    In addition, I’ve taken my blog-posting schedule down to once a week because I felt like I was drowning in the pressure. It feels much better but still manages to stress me out on most days because I am easily stressed I guess?? πŸ€·πŸΌβ€β™€οΈ

    But overall – I loved this post! I always appreciate your sincere honesty! ❀


    1. WELCOME TO MY PERSONAL CLUB haha I am sooooo stressed all the time and I don’t even know why, I hate it so much, but I can’t help it, haha. I think it’s so important to take time for ourselves and try not to let the pressure get to us too much, but… I can’t help myself, haha.
      Thank you so, so much for your sweet words, Bridget ❀ ❀

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  8. Great post! This describes my feelings perfectly and all of the reasons you pointed out are why I basically took a break from blogging some time ago and actually fell into a huge reading slump. February is my one year anniversary of getting back to blogging, even though I’ve been doing it for much longer than that! I’m so much more relaxed because I feel complete as a reader and I basically read whatever I’m in the mood to read without getting side tracked by what everyone else is reading! I used to feel so much pressure for posting every single day and number were so important because I felt like they were my only reward. But, all that’s changed now and I’m so happy to be back to blogging because I’m doing it for me! I love this community and try to engage in it as much as possible, which is very exciting! I feel like you just have to relax and stop worrying about what everyone else will think if you miss a day or two. Scheduling beforehand has personally helped me a lot and the only things that take a lot of time are usually Most Anticipated Book Releases and Discussions. I probably spent a couple of hours putting them together but, I enjoy it. The people who love the content you’re sharing through this amazing platform will be here to support you, whether you decide to take a break or not! Everyone else is just not worth your time! That’s one of the most important things I’ve personally read. So, just take your time and stop stressing about it!

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    1. Thank you so, so much for your sweet comment and your lovely advice ❀ I already schedule everything, but I think what I struggle with the most, is knowing that, if I miss blogging for a day or two, the world won't crumble or anything, haha. I need to work on that and on the guilt feeling that goes with it for sure, haha.
      Thank you so much, Elena! ❀ ❀

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  9. MARIEEE. this was so heart-breakingly relatable, I’m literally writing a post about this now.

    I feel the same pressure: having to deliver PERFECT content all the time, blog hop, be active on every social media under the sun, and also know about everything in the blogging world to be relevant, but then add school and my exams on the top of that and I KNOW that i’ll burn out before the exams if I do everything that I want to be doing. But what scares me the most is going on a hiatus, taking the break that I need, and then when i come back, no one being here.

    I know that people will be, but the thought of losing this, this thing that is so important to me, is terrifying and i know that even when i am on hiatus, I’ll miss it so much.

    And if I don’t go on hiatus, then I know that the pressure that I’m feeling from the internet, and the pressure that I put on myself, i will BURN out. I feel the constant need that I need to improve and do this, that and the other and that my posts need to be constantly better. And I feel like I have to constantly improve in order to have a successful blog, and deliver this “PERFECT” content maybe every other day or so. I actually felt BAD for not posting in FOUR days. I gave myself FOUR days to catch up with school work (the most important thing right now) BUT I STILL FELT BAD???? and I DON’T GET WHY I DID, BUT THEN I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND WHY AT THE SAME TIME.

    Marieeeeee, you’re not alone in feeling this and if you ever want to talk, then I’m here because i relate to what you’re going through!!! And, never overlook your own health/mental health, and take all the time that you need, and (even though easier said than done) try not to stress too much ❀ ❀

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    1. I get your feeling so, so much. I’m here and there trying to take a break and when I don’t check out blogs in a couple days, I feel so bad and guilty and I hate it. But also, it feels good to take a step back sometimes, do other things, just to remind ourselves that… well, when we are not blogging, we actually miss it, and it feels even BETTER to come back to it afterwards??? If that makes any sense, haha πŸ™‚ ❀
      Thank you so, so much, you're the sweetest, I am trying to take my time with everything these past few days and it feels nice so far ❀ ❀

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      1. Yes!! That’s what i do, and i think that we need to not be blogging / resing posts EVERYDAY because otherwise the moment we stop for air and take one day off, we’ll feel AWFUL???
        I’m glad that things are going well so far for you ❀ ❀ ❀

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      2. EXACTLY. I haven’t blog hopped in a couple days now and I FEEL REALLY BAD AND GUILTY. Also, I feel a bit more…. relaxed, but still I FEEL STRESSED OUT. All the conflicted feelings ahhhhh.

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      3. I’m glad I’m not the only one feeling this way. Let’s rant about blogging things together whenever we need to, okay? hahaha πŸ™‚ ❀ ❀


  10. I really relate to what you were saying about the pressures. I definitely feel a lot of the same way about producing content and keeping up with the blogosphere. And yeah there always seems to be *more books*. But I love how you ended this on a positive note!

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  11. We all feel like this sometimes. I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve been tempted to write apologies for not managing to do ALL THE THINGS. Most of the time nowadays I hold myself back, because the fact is, we don’t need to apologize for not achieving the impossible (but they still slip out from time to time). πŸ™‚

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    1. Yes you are so right about that. I want to apologize ALL the time for not having time to blog hop or just… taking time for me. It’s silly, but I can’t help it. I need to remember that I don’t need to apologize for anything πŸ™‚
      thank you so much for your sweet words, Nicole ❀


  12. I’m having the problem of maintaining consistency a lot recently. With the increasing pressure of getting a job and studying, blogging is becoming a bit too hard. But this is something I love and I don’t want to give up on it. I’m trying to schedule most of my posts but my interactions with other bloggers are becoming less frequent. I am overwhelmed a little at this moment but I hope I can continue this journey.

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    1. Oh, Poulami ❀ I'm so sorry to hear that, but I understand – it's so hard to schedule everything and to stay on top of blogging while having a busy life. I find that scheduling really is helpful, and also sometimes just… not posting as enough as I'm used to, when I need a breather and don't have as much time. Point is, if you love it, don't give it up ❀ ❀ Take time for yourself and to know where you stand and how you can get organized, but don't give it up ❀ ❀

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  13. My own expectations for myself are always the highest compared to everyone else’s, and really, in certain situations, it can make me go above and beyond what I thought was possible… in other situations, it can make me feel like I’m never doing enough. πŸ˜• I think it’s great that you’re putting posts about book blogging pressures out there because these posts can come at the perfect time for people who might be struggling with these pressures & think they’re the only ones with these problems. 😊

    In the end, I do believe that we can be happy in the process of achieving something, whether that be gaining more readers, blog-hopping more, or posting consistently — if someone is, say, posting three times a week and they’re absolutely miserable doing so, there’s no shame in changing plans to post only two or even one time a week if it increases your health and happiness. 😊 If book blogging — or anything, really — becomes a burden, then it’s time to take a step and make some changes. I hope you’re able to really recharge during your hiatus, and take care of yourself! Cya soon! πŸ˜‹πŸ‘‹

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    1. YES I 200% agree with you here. Sometimes, it makes us aim higher and make us do things we never thought possible, but otherwise… it’s frustrating, to have such high expectations, isn’t it ? :/
      Thank you so, so much for your sweet words and your support ❀ You are so right, what matters is that we keep on doing whatever makes us happy ❀ ❀

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  14. I know where you are coming from, sometimes I think I should just stop blogging, because I can’t seem to make the time that everyone else does. But I have decided to just do what I can when I can and I stopped looking at my numbers completely.

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  15. Oh my god, Marie, this post hit me so hard! I recently talked about the pressure of being perfect online and this honestly just reinforces all that pressure?? I 100% feel you that I have to write this quality content in a voice that people expect about topics people expect, and I have to post it consistently! And not commenting on blogs some days makes me feel so bad, especially when all these people comment on my posts when I publish them?? And I haven’t been doing a lot of commenting back either which makes me feel so guilty!

    I hope you know that you don’t have to do any of these things, and we’ll still think you’re amazing and we’ll still love you. I mean, I know I have trouble not succumbing to these pressures and feeling bad when something goes wrong, but it’s important to know that YOU ARE STILL A GREAT BLOGGER if you don’t meet all these expectations you/other put on yourself!! LOVE YOU. πŸ’–πŸ’–

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    1. I remember your post from reading it just last night and I absolutely loved it. I feel like we share a mind when it comes to these things and I’m so glad I am not alone. ❀
      The guilt is real, for sure, but I'm guessing and hoping that people know and understand we can't do it all, we're only human after all and we are doing our very best ❀
      Thank you so, so much for your sweet words, that means a lot to me ❀ ❀ I'm trying to be easier on myself, it's…. well, it's a lot of work hahaha, but I'm trying ❀ THANK YOU so much, love you even more! ❀ ❀


  16. Thank you for this post! It really resonates in me since I’m always either stressing out or feeling very insecure about my blog. I don’t think I write well enough or regularly enough of that what I think even matters to people. But I keep on writing because I love to and I feel the need to share I learn and discover. My main resolution this year is to « simplifyΒ my lifeΒ Β» and my way of doing things. But it’s not easy when I either don’t have the time to write and I am motivated or don’t have the motivation when I have time.

    Anyway, I was really glad to discover ur blog! Especially now that I know you’re french and such a kind person 😊 I’ll be waiting for your next posts!

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    1. Oh you’re so welcome, I’m so glad if you could relate to it. You’re definitely not alone πŸ™‚ Blogging starts off as something fun, a hobby we want to do, but it’s so easy to let all of these little pressures get to us, until we’re losing our minds haha πŸ™‚

      I love how you’re thinking and it’s so important to think of us, what we want to do, before anything else. To remember to appreciate what we write, to keep the motivation to do so, to remember why we started and what makes us keep on going in this adventure πŸ™‚

      Oh thank you so much, you’re so sweet! Thank you for your sweet comment, that means a lot ❀

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      1. Yeah, blogging like many other things in life can become quickly stressful. Is it the price to pay for something we deep down like and (supposedly) brings us joy?

        Sometimes staying too much in our heads in bad and having other people’s opinion helps to make us understand that « we are enoughΒ Β» and that we are not alone and people care. I love seeing you blog-hopping, dropping mindful comments everywhere and responding to everyone! We need to see more of that genuine love on the blogosphere and in the world ❀️

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      2. Yes, I believe so – I mean, if we get stressed out and everything else, it means that we care and are really passionate about it all, so… in a way, it’s a good thing? At least, I want to try and see it this way haha πŸ™‚

        I agree with you, sometimes we just need to take a step back from everything. Oh that’s so sweet, thank you SO much! I’m trying my best to spread the love within the community, it’s one of the things I love the most and, if I can make people smile, well… even better πŸ™‚ ❀

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    1. JACKIE 😭😭😭 you’re so, so sweet thank you for your words and your support I needed it today, you’re THE BEST I love youuuuu thank you 😭 ❀ ❀ ❀


  18. Oh my gosh, I can relate to this so much, Marie!! Time and time again (mainly the end of last year and even early this year), I thought “what is the point of blogging if I’m only posting once a month?” When I post less, don’t blog hop, and don’t reply to comments it doesn’t even make me feel like a blogger anymore because that was not the kind of blogger I was starting out. I’ve come to accept that I’ll never be like the 2015 blogger I was, and a big reason for that is because a lot of the blogosphere has changed for me. Logging back into WP after a long time, I realized that only you and three or so other my blogger friends are still blogging; the rest have all taken indefinite hiatuses or said goodbye to their blogs. I know I can make more friends just by blog hopping and meeting others, but I’m not sure if I’m ready to do that because a big part of me just misses the original squad. But anyway, that is a whole other rant. With all that being said, I do still feel the pressure as well. Anyway, thank you for sharing this vulnerable state with us; I’m sure many book bloggers have felt these insecurities before. :’)

    P.S. I feel like you always leave thoughtful comments on other blogs so don’t feel too bad if you need to take a few days off from blog hopping. Your comments always brighten my day, Marie, but I don’t want you to ever feel stressed out because of blog hopping! Also, you’re definitely NOT a failure if you’re not able to check off all things you want to achieve in a day!
    P.P.S. You’re certainly a big blogger in book, Marie! ❀

    – Summer at Xingsings

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    1. Oh I get your feeling and your nostalgia about it all as well, Summer… so many things have changed ever since we started blogging – and it hasn’t even been that long! It ‘s crazy, how fast things move and how everything changes. But you’re right, that is another rant haha πŸ™‚ I am glad that you are still here and, even if you’re blogging just once a month, know that I always love reading your wrap-ups and catching up with you on instagram ❀

      Aww, thank you so, so much, Summer ❀ I really am doing my best, but sometimes it gets REALLY overwhelming and I am having the hardest time taking breaks haha. I am trying though πŸ™‚ ❀ ❀


  19. Oh I feel this post SO MUCH Marie. Everything you mentioned and described, and I’m sure I’m not the only one who relates to this. BUT it is SO SO SO important to take care of yourself, so I’m glad to hear that one of your resolutions is to try to chill more. We all love you so much, and we want you to be healthy and happy, not overwork and stress yourself, so if that means missing a post sometime, not replying to comments immediately, not blog hopping etc. then that is more than okay. Just take care of yourself and we’ll be here waiting for you ❀️

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    1. Thank you so much for your sweet comment, Michelle ❀ ❀ To be honest, I'm still a bit crazy and not as chill as I'd like to be, but I am trying, little by little ahah so that's good πŸ™‚ Thank you!! ❀

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  20. My biggest reviewing pressure is always “What if I’m wrong?” when I say if I like, MEH, or hate a book , or author. Then I start super overthinking it and start getting nervous about what will people think. I have a real hard time reading “classic” books, that everyone one the planet raves about til they are blue in their face, and there are iconic authors that I’ve read, and, I just don’t get it. Like, really? This is what all the hype is about? I’ve read things that are supposed to be THE GREATEST BOOK / AUTHOR EVER and just come out feeling MEH. Example….. I just read Shirley Jackson’s The Haunting of Hill House. I love horror books, and this has been labeled as one of the best horror books from the 20th century as well as one of the greatest ghost stories ever. I absolutely hated it. The characters were unlikable, the sentences ran on forever, and there was hardly any ghost or haunting at all. After ranting in my head about it for a few days, I started thinking “Ok, everyone loves this book…. Is it really that great and I am just too stupid to ‘get it’? Do I have to be smarter to understand all the nuances of the book?? Do I not understand enough about writing that her writing style and format is going over my head? I see the complex layers to the characters, but that doesn’t mean it’s a good story, or does it??” Then I just end up feeling really dumb and unsure of what to say in my review.. πŸ˜›

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    1. I honestly don’t think – I KNOW, actually – that there is no “right” or “wrong” when it comes to books. We are all entitled to our opinions after all, I know people who loved a book I could not stand, while some others hated a book I loved with all of my heart. It’s all a matter of taste anyway and we all have our own πŸ™‚ What matters is how we express ourselves, as long as, when reviewing, we are being fair and subjective, that’s what matters. We might not love a writing style that other people fall head over heels with and it’s perfectly okay if it’s not our style!
      As long as we are still being respectful in our reviews that’s what matters πŸ™‚

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