Book blogging with anxiety

When you’re standing on the outside, looking in on book bloggers, or any kind of blogger for that matter, looking through that fence, it’s so easy to feel like book blogging is easy. Even I, when I first started blogging, before and these first few days of getting into the grove, I thought book blogging would be a piece of cake.
Turns out I was completely fooling myself.

It’s one of the most common misconceptions about blogging, but the truth is completely different. Blogging takes a whole lot of time and energy, and not only our physical energy from staring at the screen, typing on our keyboards to let the words out before they escape our minds. Blogging also takes a whole lot of mental energy, too and, for those of us already dealing with mental health issues, it can be, well, A LOT, at times.

I’m not used to getting personal on the blog, but today I will. I have been dealing with anxiety for a long, long time and, if blogging can be a welcome escape, a safe haven, a place I adore with all of my heart, it’s also sometimes, the very root of my anxiety problems.

The thing is, I want to do too much.

I always did and will probably always do, because when I’m passionate about something, it’s borderline obsession and I’m throwing my entire being into it all. This has happened over four years ago when I started book blogging and quickly found out that, well, I loved doing this. I love waking up on Saturday mornings and drafting blog posts. I love answering to blog comments and every day am amazed, grateful and teary-eyed while reading sweet words I don’t deserve. I love blog-hopping, I love discovering new blogs, falling back in love with blogs I started reading years and years ago, I love chatting with you all. I love it, I really do.

☂️ Yet, book blogging can, for me, be so, so very anxiety-inducing.

Despite my love for it all, my cheerful, positiveness about it all, sometimes book blogging is not that easy.

Sometimes, when I’m supposed to start scheduling my blog posts for the next week, my brain is desperately empty, grasping for an idea, something original I could do and nothing happens. Sometimes, irritation (irritation can be anxiety. In case you weren’t aware. This is how I’m anxious, like, 80% of the time), at myself, at my brain, at everything, slowly rise inside of me.  I’m the kind of person that likes being organized and having a plan, at least when it comes to blogging, so when I don’t have one, this part of me comes rushing back.

Sometimes, when I didn’t manage to blog-hop like usual, got busy, got tired after a long day at work, I let the comments piling up, my own, others and I feel tired and stressed out just thinking about catching up. Since I’m trying my best to be honest about it all, at the moment, I have 35 comments pending and, most likely (I haven’t counted that precisely) about 30 blogs to check out. I don’t know if that’s a lot or nothing at all, I guess it will all depend on everyone’s point of view. No matter what, I know that, if I let this rise, I will start getting a little more stressed out. I wish I could help it or do something about it.

I can’t. It’s just who I am.

Nowadays and especially in the book blogging community, I feel like there’s this need to be constantly connected and aware. I know it’s just an expectation I am putting on myself. I know it’s just something that I’m doing to myself and yet, when twitter notifications pile up, I’m a little nervous. When I haven’t checked twitter for a little while, I feel like I missed out on something big (and I probably did).

When I’m not reading the hyped books, I feel like I’m missing out. (Sometimes I am. I mean, Evelyn Hugo. Sorry. I’m obsessed and this is completely out of topic). When I’m not on top of all the new releases, I feel a little anxious and, when I see my TBR books piling up and up and up, I feel anxious and mad that I’m not reading as much as I should be. I mean, if some people can read 200 books a year, why can’t I?

These are all feelings we can get every now and then, but the truth is, these feelings are multipling ten, a hundred, a billion times in intensity when you’re dealing with anxiety, the need to do it all overwhelmingly taking over, the irritability spiking way more, the stress making you stare at these comments, these blogs, these twitter notifications pending and yet not doing a single thing because anxiety. Then self-doubt creeps in and you’re done for the day.

I know what it feels like and, reading this, you’re probably asking yourself this question: why the heck are you continuing this if it just makes you anxious?

Isn’t book blogging supposed to make you happy and, if it doesn’t, then let it go?

You are absolutely right. Yet, I think it’s also important to recongnize the complexity of it all. Blogging is not all black and white, just like life. You’re not going to love it all the time, it’s not all sunshine and rainbows, just like other things, other passions you might let go and come back to. The thing is: book blogging might make me anxious at times. Book blogging might take a toll on my mental health and I know I need to be careful about that.

☂️ Then, how can I practice self-care while book blogging?

I am probably one of the worst person when it comes to self-care, because I just suck at it. I need my sister to take the computer away from me when I feel like I’m going to tear my hair out of something, because on my own, sometimes I just can’t do it. Yet, slowly but surely, I’ve learned to let certain things go. I’m still learning and I’m definitely not in that relaxing place about blogging that I am dreaming of. But I’m on the way.

  • I have learned to take breaks. It’s hard. It’s complicated because it feels like you’re missing out on everything and, the truth is, you probably are. But it’s okay. No one is going to forget about you and this book blogging thing is not a job. It’s okay to step back for a day, a week, a month. I’ve learned to take breaks and to take it easier on myself step by step. By taking my time with comments, for instance. By, not deleting the WordPress App from my phone because I’m not there yet, but deleting all of the notifications, which is a start. Small or big, even if it’s just one evening or one weekend, I’ve learned to let go a little bit.
  • I remind myself of the little things.
    • These things that made me start blogging, like my love for books,
    • These things that make me continue on blogging, like these books on my shelves I wouldn’t have read or ever known about if it weren’t for all of you and these books I have yet to find. These friendships I’ve made. This small comment that makes me feel like I’m doing something right and that my voice matter. This moment when I get on WordPress and feel a tiny, teeny pride about how long I’ve been doing this and how I just love it more and more.

Book blogging has brought me so, so, so much more than I ever thought it would. Books, friends, recommendations, skills I can use personally and professionally, incredible opportunities I’ve dreamed of and a whole lot of happiness and confidence I never thought I had, somewhere deep inside.

From now on, all I want to do is keep that feeling always. Take better care of myself? Yes, obviously. But keep on blogging, too, because I love it.

☂️ You might also be interested in: How to stay positive while book blogging.

My lovely friend Christine wrote a beautiful post about “Is Blogging Bad for My Mental Health?” that inspired me to write about my own experience and that I would 200% recommend reading.

Can you relate to some of these anxious feelings I have, when it comes to book blogging?

Do you have any self-care tips you’d like to share? I’d love to know your thoughts in comments!

 

 

 

 

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113 thoughts on “Book blogging with anxiety

  1. Omg! I could read this as if I wrote it myself. I suffer with depression and anxiety and for me book blogging was a way to escape especially while I wasn’t working but now back at work it’s become harder. I try and take breaks…and not feel to guilty if I have to cancel a blog tour. But if you or anyone else had tips I would be very grateful.
    Great blog post. Michelle

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    1. Oh thank you so much Michelle, I’m so happy you could relate to this ❤ I'm glad to hear you are taking breaks, like I wrote it in my post, it's so important to step back every now and then and to realize that we are allowed to take this one step at a time. It makes us happy, its our way to escape and, when it gets too much, it's good to step back 🙂

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  2. Aww Marie I appreciate this post so much! I can relate to a lot of the things you have brought up, especially with new releases. I’m always struggling to find time for ALL THE BOOKS I want to read. I think it’s super important taking breaks when you feel like blogging is a little too much. Remembering all the positive things that comes with blogging also works wonders for me ❤️

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    1. Oh thank you so much, you’re so sweet! ❤
      Same here, I just want to read ALL the books, but I know realistically, I just can't ahah 🙂
      Thank you so much for your sweet words ❤

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  3. I love this so much! It’s like you reached in my brain and let it spill out. At least once a month I have to remind myself that it’s okay if you don’t post for a week, it will all be waiting after you get your brain back on track. Anxiety sucks, I can’t let my hobby and the thing I love be a cause of it.

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    1. Oh thank you, I’m so happy to hear I’m not alone feeling this way ❤ You're so right, it's so important to remind ourselves of that and, that it's okay to take a step back when we're feeling too anxious ❤

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  4. I felt this 😭
    I’ve been struggling more with my mental health lately but most times I feel it’s not a big thing because I suck at communicating and I don’t get my feelings out there and also, last time I had an appointment I was having a nice enough day and my therapist thought I was fine and we could totally stop scheduling appointments. So it’s hard to get a decent diagnosis and how I can prevent feeling how I do. And lots of it comes down to blogging, too. Everything stresses me out, from numbers to not having time to answer comments and not having ideas to write about. And it adds up to life events and then I either burst out crying or want to punch walls – sometimes even both at the same time. It’s a chaotic mess – I apologize if it’s too much information.
    I haven’t figured out how to balance everything in order not to collapse. Most times, I just end up taking long breaks and neglecting my blog – and later hate myself for it and it’s a whole new cycle.

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    1. Marta, love, never, ever apologize for expressing how you feel and know that I’m a message away if you need to rant, scream or just let it all out, always. ❤

      I 200% understand how complicated it is to communicate about these things, I am the worst at this, actually, haha. I'm so sorry to hear that a whole lot of your stress comes from blogging, just as well – everything can quickly become stressful in this world, too and finding the right rhythm is complicated, sometimes. Even if I have sort of found a rhythm, I know I need breaks, too and it's not perfect.
      I am certain that you will find your pace and your blogging way, too, Marta ❤ Surround yourself with bloggers you enjoy, try to write what you enjoy to, comments never disappear and you can answer them later, ideas come and go, keep a list when you have ideas and, if you don't, it's okay, too! ❤ You are doing amazing, you are a wonderful blogger and you always, always come first before blogging, everyone understands that we can't be here always 24/7. I'm always here if you ever need to talk, but take care of yourself first and foremost, always ❤ ❤

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  5. Thank you for this post. I can relate to what you write about here. I totally hit a brick wall with blogging over Christmas and since I have re-adjusted my expectations and I blog when I have something to say and I don’t get all caught up with perfect graphics and social media tags and etc. I’m learning to just blog and not need to do it all, especially in the little internet time I have. I haven’t got it hundred per cent right yet, but I’m getting there!

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    1. Oh yes, it’s so easy to get all caught up in perfect graphics and details, I know that all too well. I’m so happy you are slowly learning how to do it at your own rhythm and not put too much expectations on yourself, definitely a lesson I need to learn, too. You’re doing amazing ❤
      Thank you so, so much for your sweet comment! ❤

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  6. Hey,
    I’ve suffered from anxiety (& depression) for 14 years and I understand a lot of what you have talked about here. I started my book blog this year as a way to combat my OCD and my anxiety and for the most part it does work. I do get anxious when I haven’t felt like reading but should or haven’t read a hyped book also. I also have difficulties with processing so sometimes that pushes my anxiety if I’m reading something I can’t understand. I get anxious when I haven’t got at least a weeks worth of posts lined up & I worry that the only people enjoying the blog are my parents and myself.
    My self-care is now a Rolodex of triggers that I find serve as a distraction or a break. I started to get really into colouring (more of an obsession now), I started a bullet journal (which helps track the anxiety), I play a lot of games on my Xbox, I binge watch tv shows or film series. I see a counsellor once a month which really helps me but I understand might not be good for everyone. Also, at the start of this year I started to have a monthly massage where I get my scalp, neck and shoulders massaged and I’ve found that really helps with anxiety. 😊

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    1. I’m so, so happy to hear you found great self-care methods, thank you so, so, so very much for sharing these wonderful tips and for sharing your story, too ❤ I'm glad you could relate to it all. Sending you lots of love and take care of yourself and thank you so much for such a sweet comment! ❤ ❤ ❤

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  7. Oh man, great post and so so relatable! I have the exact same thing, it’s both so much fun but I put so much pressure on myself to do it all, blog hop, read, review, memes, comment, reply to comments! It’s so much sometimes, so much fun but it can become so overwhelming and it makes anxiety worse because there’s so much pressure but it should be fun but it isn’t because pressure but you love it too etc etc etc. I forced myself to go on hiatus about 6 weeks ago and it was such a good decision as it became too much with everything else that’s going on right now, but I also miss it. It’s always going to be a struggle to find that balance !

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    1. Oh I’m so glad you could find a bit of yourself in that post, thank you so much for your comment! ❤ Agree, it's always a little bit of a struggle to find the right rhythm, but it's so important to take breaks and take care of ourselves ❤

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  8. Oh Marie 😭😭 I don’t even know how to verbally express how much this post means to me. The only healing I’ve found from stressing about blogging is realizing that I am not the only one struggling. And just…the way you describe becoming anxious about getting behind… I didn’t ever acknowledge that my irritability is 100% a symptom of anxiety and not just me being a brat 🙃 these stress levels are just so much a part of who I am and how I interact with the world. I know giving up isn’t the solution, because my brain would find something else to stress about!! Gah!! But at least we are not alone. We have each other and so many others who can relate. And that’s what I hold onto when things are looking bleak. Thank you so much for sharing this post. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

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    1. Oh Christine you’re not a brat at all, oh my god I’m glad you said that because that was exactly the way I was feeling before you wrote your post about mental health and blogging, which made me realize it all was… well, part of who I was and not a bratty attitude ahah. So thak YOU ❤
      Exactly, we always have each other and we're not alone in this, that's what matters the most ❤ ❤ ❤
      Thank you so much for your sweet comment!! ❤

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      1. I think on some level I’ve been accused of being bratty or having a bad attitude or being too negative SO MANY TIMES that I’ve started to believe that the problem is me, that I need to be more positive. Which, sure, am I super negative sometimes and could stand to let things go? Yeah, but sometimes it’s not that simple…and it’s important to be able to recognize that. I hope writing this post has helped you even just the smallest little bit. I know reading it has helped me ❤️

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      2. YES. sometimes it’s not that simple and I wish people could see and try to understand that, too. Thank you, Christine, it has helped me a little bit, I still need to work on it and myself. ❤
        Thank you so, so much, I'm so happy this could help you ❤ ❤

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  9. You hit the nail on the head with this one, especially with the complex emotions that are part in parcel of blogging. I was basically spending every free moment keeping up with blogging stuff when I started and it was the most exhilarating and draining experience. I’ve gotten a lot better now, but this need to be constantly connected is what gets to me. I’m the first to admit that reading has taken a back seat and the more I integrate TV and film posts, the more I feel like I’m losing touch with the books. It’s frustrating.

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    1. I’m glad you could relate! I feel like it’s important to acknowledge that this kind of thing is not all black and white at all. There’s so much pressure we put on ourselves, too, but sometimes we can’t and just don’t want to do it all either, and it’s good to acknowledge that, too ❤
      Thank you so much, Lois!! ❤

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  10. I totally feel this! My blog was born from Depression/Anxiety, and while it’s usually a massive help, sometimes… well, y’know!

    Btw, I read 200 books a year and *still* freak out that my TBR keeps growing. And I have no chance of keeping up with new releases. I’ve given up on that.

    The thing is (and I know, it’s hard to accept!): you can only do what you can do, and you don’t owe anyone anything. I have to tell myself that. A *lot.* ❤ (And always tell FOMO to eff off. FOMO is an a**hole.)

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    1. I admire you for reading so much a year, wow! ❤ and thank you for this wonderful reminder, i need to plaster these words on my walls or something haha ❤
      Thank you for your sweet comment! ❤

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  11. I can relate to a lot of this! Book blogging is amazing, but can definitely be so stressful.
    I know for me a lot of the negative feelings I have around blogging generally revolves around feeling guilty for silly reasons. Like, I’m terrible at planning ahead, so sometimes I end up going a while without posting and then panic that I can’t think of anything and feel guilty for not posting (like now for example…I haven’t posted in a few days!). And I always feel guilty when I haven’t got to comments as quickly as I would like.
    I totally agree that taking breaks is a good idea, even if it can make you feel like you might be missing out on something. If I find that blogging is stressing me out too much I try and step away for a few days or a week, and in the mean time, if I think of any good post ideas I write them down, and sometimes that rekindles my excitement for blogging rather than the stress and anxiety.
    I’m so sorry you’ve been going through this, but I definitely think you’re on the right track with your technique of trying to remember what you love about blogging (that’s something I’m going to try and keep in mind too!).
    This is such an amazing post, and one I think a lot of bloggers can probably relate to 🙂

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    1. Oh thank you so much Laura, I’m so happy you enjoyed this post and could relate to it ❤
      I get that guilt feeling a whole lot, way too often, actually, I wish I didn't haha. I think it's so important to take a step back when it gets overwhelming and to remind ourselves of the little things we love about it all ❤
      Thank you so much for your sweet words, it means the world ❤ ❤

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  12. Hi Marie!

    You always put into words what I am feeling. Its always a relief to know that others are experiencing the same things you are. I know how stressful and anxious the whole blogging process, trying to be consistent and the prrssure of not falling behind can be.

    I just always try to remind myself that it is okay. I try to remind myself that I am doing this because I love it. Because i enjoy it. Because i am passionate about it.That’s why I am here. I love reading other book blogs and I hope others enjoy mine too. This is why I share my stories.

    I love your blog, and all the content you create. It’s always lovely to read some of your more personal posts, as I feel like I can relate to you. I admire your bravery. It takes courage to put yourself out there, especially when it is personal.

    Thank you so much for sharing. Stay strong and I wish you all the best 💜

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    1. Oh Nisha I think I’m about to cry😭 your comment means way, way more than I can properly put in words, really, thank you so, so much for everything, this means so much. ❤ ❤ ❤
      I love your reminders and I really want to save this and re-read it whenever I need to remember that it's all okay, to feel anxious and overwhelmed, sometimes. ❤
      Thank you so much for your words, you're the sweetest ❤ ❤

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  13. aaa, marie, I love this so much, thanks for sharing 💛 I go through anxiety too on a regular basis, and it’s as much online as it is irl. personally, when I feel anxious while blogging, everything is so irritating, because you have this passion, or this need to get words out, but then again, you feel like you’re TOO rambly or TOO incoherent, and not put together at all. and then there’s also the urge that we always need to be on top of things or else.
    thank you again, for sharing– I could relate 100%.
    and yes, I think the self care practice is super crucial to remind us of why we do this in the first place.
    “this shall pass”. I’m rooting for you!!

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    1. Oh thank you so much, this makes me so, so, so, very happy that you could relate to this as well ❤ that's exactly it, I feel it all at once, the need to do everything but the unability to do it all, as well, because… well, we just can't handle it all.
      Thank you so, so much for your sweet words ❤ ❤

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  14. This was a lovely post. I agree that blogging can get very overwhelming and just overall a lot. It’s hard to keep up with everything, I find, these days because something is always going on. No matter how hard we try to shut it all off, there is always that wanting to know that’s inside us.
    I’ve been toying with the idea of taking a break from my blog in either June or July since I’ll be on holidays and I can’t seem to part with either because I’m so obsessed with being present on my blog. I still have no idea what I’m going to do. I may even just have a few posts scheduled, but it’s like why is it so hard for me to just let it go for a few weeks?!
    I really enjoyed your post! 🙂

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    1. Exactly! There is always something going on and, no matter what, we will miss things and sometimes it’s hard not to feel frustrated by that.But we can’t do it all, either, we’re not robots haha 🙂
      Ugh I SO get that feeling, you are not alone ❤ I personally find it easier to take a break especially when I'm on holidays, since my brain is focused elsewhere, too, aha and I find that not having a computer or deleting the wordpress app while on the break, that helps me disconnect completely …. well, almost haha 🙂
      Thank you so much for your sweet comment! ❤ ❤

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      1. Oh haha, no we are not robots at all, and it would be sad if we were. I’m very glad I’m not a robot!
        It feels good to know I’m not alone! 🙂 💞 I bet it’s a great feeling to just disconnect. I’ve been trying to, but I still can’t pull away. The anxiety knowing I’ll have things to catch up on freaks me out a little. I’m trying to get better! I’m still trying to make up my decision about June 😅

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      2. It would be really sad indeed haha 🙂
        I get that. I’m having such a hard time pulling away, too, I’m grateful to have my sister here knowing me too well and telling me to stop and forcing me to pull away, at times, too. it’s good to have these little reminders haha.
        I’m certain you’ll do great, once you can get away, even if it’s just one day already, it feels good to see that the world is still turning. I know that’s how I felt when I first stepped away hahaha.

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  15. YES TO ALL OF THIS! I’m still learning to take breaks – even if it means just dropping off without a hiatus announcement. I know a lot of people I know plan their hiatuses, but for me, it just doesn’t work for me. I’ve always just dropped off, and the first time I did, it’s given me anxiety when I dropped off, constantly worrying, “Ahhhh what if I come back to nothing? What if I’m back to starting over again???” I think being proactive – having a steady stream of posts available in pending has helped me as well – even if I’m not posting all of them right now despite the urge to do so, it’s eased my worry about running out of ideas. 😅

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    1. I think the fact that you just, drop off, is that little red light telling you that you need that break, no matter what ahah. I think we all have these questions in mind, I know I do, even if I schedule tons or take a planned hiatus with posts scheduled meanwhile, I’m always wondering if no one will be there if I am not there, either. I guess we can’t get rid of these feelings completely, ever haha.
      Thank you so much, Sophia!! ❤ ❤

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  16. Marie! I could legit cry right now because evn asI clicked on this post I knew I would 1000% relate. Every aspect makes me scream ‘me too’, maybe a little less or more regarding certain parameter but yes you’re definitely not alone. Blogging with anxiety, life with anxiety can be so freaking difficult. Only yesterday I had a meltdown regarding this but like you I’m slowly starting to let things go. Lovely post ❤️❤️❤️

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    1. Oh Charvi, I’m so sorry to hear that, please know I’m always a message away if you ever want to rant or talk about anything and I hope you’re feeling a little better today ❤ ❤ ❤
      Thank you so, so much for your sweet words and comment, I'm so glad you could relate to this, you are not alone ❤

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  17. I really relate to this, not so much for blogging but for other aspets of my life. with blogging I more worry that I don’t care enough and that makes me stressed. Doing things that matter is hard! but well done for persisting honestly, I”m so glad I have drizzle and hurricane books in my life. Your dedication means so much.
    I have managed resolutely to keep blogging as a hobby, and I don’t really want to turn my blog into a job and I don’t get ARCs, which all help me keep blogging fun (even though I”m on hiatus right now). and reading books helps so much, because that’s the reason why really.

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    1. Oh Shanti you’re too sweet thank you 😭 I’m really glad that you’re keeping blogging fun and really, this is my aim too. Sometimes, the pressure of everything gets to me, while I should… well, just try and take things easier, somehow it’s not in the way I do things and ughhhhh it can be frustrating haha.
      Thank you so much for your sweet comment! I hope you’ve been well ❤ ❤

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  18. I go through the motions of blogging as well– sometimes I am really motivated and feeling like I can engage with so many people. Whilst other times I am not liking what I am writing and I feel like I am not doing enough but that I want a break. But then the breaks don’t seem entirely restful because I am only thinking about what I should be doing. So I think it is hard to get a balance of it all— I think learning to let go a bit is really helpful– trying to embrace that I am not going to be on top of everything all the time and that’s ok. It is a ‘failure’ but part of the process and an important, restful part of the process.
    Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this and I think you should be really proud of what you have achieved— you write lovely posts and write sweet comments when blog hopping. You can tell you put a lot of work into this and I’m glad you enjoy it. And I really hope you get to practise self care and not feel too stressed out and give yourself breaks when you need it– it’s important to put yourself first.
    Lovely, thoughtful post!! ❤

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    1. Oh you’re not alone in this at all, Sophie! I sometimes want to take breaks, but don’t find them restful at all, because my mind can’t stop thinking about all the things I should be doing. It’s so frustrating! Moments when I finally learn to let go, little by little, are really good, they just take a long, long time to come, too, ahah.
      Thank you so much for your sweet comment, really, this means so much to me😭😭 thank you for being so sweet ❤ ❤

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  19. I deal with anxiety as well, and blogging really can make me anxious. I’ve definitely tried to not let it stress me out as much these days, which means I don’t always blog as often or get back to people as quick, but I’m doing it! I do want to try and schedule ahead more because that’s always helpful.

    -Lauren
    http://www.shootingstarsmag.net

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    1. I hope you’ll be able to schedule more ahead if it makes you less anxious, Lauren ❤ and yes, sometimes just taking our time with everything is good, too ❤
      Thank you so much for your sweet comment! ❤

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  20. I can totally relate. I’m catching up after being sick all weekend (still super sick so I’m super slow in reading blogs, commenting, and I haven’t read a book in four days!). I felt so anxious about missing articles, not being able to write posts, leaving comments pending… I was nervous to log in to WP today! But we NEED TO REMEMBER IT IS ALL FOR FUN! Well, the kind of fun which takes all your time and energy, and becomes your baby so you want to do yout best… ARGH!

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    1. Oh my sweechie, I hope you’re doing better now, I’m sending you tons of love ❤ ❤ ❤
      I agree, it's all for fun, but we just care about it to a point where it stresses us out sometimes haha. ❤

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  21. I totally relate to all of this! I always want to do too much, and it’s why I have this blog next to my Instagram AND my YouTube channel. I can’t seem to ever stop and I’m always terrified at the idea of not having ideas anymore. I never took a break on Instagram over the two years I’ve been there, and maybe I really should! I also tend to overstress myself when it comes to reading. If I don’t read fast enough I feel like a bad reader and that people will get bored of me, when it makes no sense? Anyway! This whole thing is stressful and isn’t helping my anxiety but I love the book community too much.
    As always, brilliant post! x

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    1. Oh Clara I’m glad you could relate to this, you’re not alone in this at all and I admire you so, so much for everything you do. I can’t believe you never, ever really took a break in over two years, this is so impressive. And people will never, ever get bored of you, you’re too incredible for that, love xx
      Thank you so, so much for your sweet words!! ❤

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  22. I love this post Marie! 🙂 ❤ I think it's really important to discuss things like blogging and mental health added together, I mean as much as I love blogging it is a lot of time and a lot of work and sometimes it does get a little overwhelming. When I first started out I thought it would be really easy too, I mean I was quickly proved one and as much as I love blogging (I wouldn't still be here otherwise) there are times when it is just so hard as well.
    Taking breaks is so important, and I used to be so bad at it but I think now my problem is I take too many breaks! The main thing that gets me is the expectations, mainly my own, it's like you said I want to do too much, and I always feel guilty when I miss replying to comments even just for one day. It's not easy, but it's worthwhile in the end. 🙂

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    1. Oh Beth thank you so much! ❤ ❤
      I think we're our own worst critic and definitely putting way too many expectations on ourselves sometimes, I wish I knew how to stop that haha 🙂 but yes, despite the anxiety at times, it's all so worth it ❤
      Thank you so much ❤

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  23. Aww, Marie, *hugs*! ❤ I absolutely understand the anxiety that can arise from book blogging. I'm the type of person who can't stand the idea of backing out of commitments, and my blog in a way, is a large commitment. Although it might be silly to imagine it, I have a fear that if I don't post x amount of blog posts a month or if I don't blog hop for a week, people will be disappointed in me. I don't want to let my viewers down, and I feel awful when I can't reciprocate the same amount of time to their blogs as they do to mine. Blogging truly brings out so many emotions from me, and even if some of them are negative, there are infinitely more positive ones that I wouldn't give up for anything!

    Thank you, love, for once again, beautifully compiling together a post that is so relatable! ❤

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    1. It’s not silly AT ALL, I have the EXACT same feelings, Kelly. I feel like people will be disappointed in me and mad and somehow that I’ll be the worst if I fail to meet these blogging commitments, while… well, blogging is a hobby and shouldn’t be so strict to me.
      Thank you so, so much for sharing your thoughts,Kelly, you’re not alone in this ❤

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  24. This is a lovely post, Marie 🙂 I can relate to this so much. Blogging is not at all easy and definitely took a toll on you sometimes. I was thinking of posting something on my blog from the past two weeks but because of the baby, I wasn’t able to and I was getting frustrated. But then I had to remind myself what is more important and it’s okay to let go sometimes 🙂
    In spite of your anxiety, I would say you are doing great and always does so. That’s why you are my fav 🙂

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    1. Thank you so much, Sim! ❤ I agree, you have to let things go sometimes, only to come back to it all more motivated, hopefully 🙂
      Thank you so much, you're way too sweet, this means so much ❤

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  25. Thank you for sharing Marie!

    I wouldn’t say I necessarily struggle with anxiety, but I would definitely say that book blogging can cause me anxiety. It was much worse my first 2 years blogging, but I’ve come to accept that blogging is a hobby and that I cannot do it all. Between working part-time and having 2 busy kids, I do not have unlimited amount of time to dedicate to blogging. At the end of the day, I have learned to not compare my blog to others, and accept the fact that whatever I can get accomplished on my blog is enough. Once I took that pressure off myself to try and keep up with others, blogging has been much more enjoyable and a whole lot less stressful 🙂 I totally relate to how you feel though. When I do something, I like to give it 100%, so it is hard to not let myself go overboard with blogging.

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    1. I’m so, so happy to hear that you’re not feeling too pressured anymore and too stressed out, either, this is the best when this happens 🙂
      thank you so, so much for your sweet comment ❤ ❤

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  26. I loved reading this post so much! I appreciated you putting into words how just because blogging causes anxiety at times, that doesn’t mean that blogging is the worst thing ever. Practically everything I do causes me anxiety, but blogging causes me so much joy as well!

    I’m also learning to channel my anxiety into productivity. Many times my anxiety paralyzes me from actually doing what I need to do. So I’ve started using those times where I can’t study because I’m too anxious to blog instead. It sometimes helps me to just start doing *something* productive, and then after a while I can manage to get my studying done. But it’s still a tricky balance.

    I hope you find it easier to practice self-care and that the good parts of blogging always outweigh the anxiety! ❤

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    1. Oh thank you so, so much Malka! ❤ I feel like it's sometimes a little strange to say that… well, blogging makes me anxious and stressed out and I am always scared that people will tell me, why the heck do you do it, then? But… then again, I'm easily anxious and stressed out and the good outweights these anxious moments, too. ❤
      Thank you so, so, so much for your sweet comment ❤

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  27. Hi Marie 🙂
    I love every aspect of this post. Maintaining a blog is a lot of work, and the thing is that blogging never really ends. We can never “finish blogging for the day” because there is always more to do! I definitely relate to what you wrote about keeping on top of comments, blog-hopping, checking twitter, reading hyped books, etc. Sometimes life doesn’t allow me to do all of these things and I feel stressed when I don’t get around to all of it!
    I liked the self-care tips that you shared. It is good to take a step back sometimes. It also helps for me to prioritize which are “must do”s, “should do”s and “can do”s. When I am very busy, I just do the “must do”s and let go of the rest 🙂
    I love that this post is so honest and sincere. Take care and wishing you all the best ❤

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    1. That’s exactly it! Blogging never really ends ahah and you can never really be done, there’s always something more to do and that’s both the beauty and the stressful part of it all haha 🙂
      Thank you so, so much Sophie, you’re the sweetest ❤ ❤

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  28. Marie, this post is so amazing. ❤ I admire you so much and you have such a way with words! I agree that a lot of people (myself included at first) underestimate just how much work and stress goes into blogging. It's so true that it isn't black and white though, just because it sometimes feels like too much doesn't mean I ever want to stop.

    Your self care ideas are wonderful too! YOU'RE JUST AMAZING OKAY and so is this post.😭❤️

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  29. I’m glad you’ve found some strategies that help you deal with your anxiety about book blogging ❤ ❤ I've found taking breaks helpful as well; sometimes you just need to step away and think about something else. One type of blogging anxiety that you mentioned in your post that I've been dealing with a lot lately is that of keeping up with new releases, since I feel I really haven't been reading many.

    Thank you so much for this thoughtful post ❤

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    1. Thank you so much for your sweet comment, Mel ❤ Breaks are so helpful and… well, I guess there's not much we can do about that guilt when it comes to reading new releases. I try to get to books I'm really excited about and, if it's a backlist title, then be it, the new books will be there later 🙂

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  30. I tend to get hyper-focused on whatever I’m doing, and will get really stressed if it’s not working like I want it to. It could be trying a new recipe, sitting down to blog for a few minutes, or just reading a single comic book without being interrupted. I have to take a step back and look at what I’m doing, and remind myself that it’s not the most important thing in the world, even if it feels like my life depends on getting it exactly right. Having kids has helped some, because they’re unpredictable and always interrupting my focus. However, it can also be frustrating when I feel like I need to get something finished.

    I’ve learned it’s about perspective. Tackle the things that need to be tackled, and do it with gusto, but don’t feel like a failure when something doesn’t work out. Maybe I leave a blog post half finished until the kids go to bed at night (I try to only be on the computer when they’re napping or asleep for the night, but sometimes they wake up after 30 minutes), or burn a small portion of dinner. It’s okay. I remind myself to breathe and focus on what makes me happy, and that’s always my family. I see them running around the house being destructive after I’ve spent hours getting it clean, and laugh at how carefree they’re being, because they’re kids and that’s what they’re supposed to be.

    I’m sorry you deal with anxiety, and I feel like I can relate a little to what you’re feeling some days. Just remember to make every day count, make them mean something, because happiness can be found almost anywhere. We’re here if there’s a day or a week you need a break from blogging. It’s okay if your brain is empty occasionally! Sometimes we need to shut ourselves down for a reboot. If you ever see my blog empty for a week or so, it’s because I’ve taken a spontaneous hiatus. Do whatever you need to do to take care of you, and the rest will fall into place.

    Sorry for the rambling!
    Lindsi @ Do You Dog-ear? 💬

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    1. Okay, so I don’t think it went through. It made me login again, and then the comment was gone, which is a big bummer. It was like three paragraphs long, haha. The gist was this: If you need a break, take one, because your happiness and mental health should matter. I often take spontaneous breaks from blogging, just to reset my brain, and it really helps.

      I also get hyper-focused whenever I do something. It could be cooking or writing a blog post, or even reading through a comic. I want to give it 100% of my attention, which is impossible most days because I have three kids under the age of 5. I can clean the entire house and watch them destroy it within minutes. However, I try to take a step back and appreciate the moment for what it is. Yes, they’re being crazy and rambunctious, but they’re also laughing and having fun. I try to focus on their smiling faces — their happiness — and not my frustration. They’re children, it’s what they’re supposed to do, and I want them to be happy. Now, I’m not saying the can get away with everything and do whatever they want, but I also know that I stress out about really inconsequential things sometimes.

      This isn’t as long as my initial comment, but it’s close! 😉
      Lindsi @ Do You Dog-ear? 💬

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      1. I ended up finding your comments buried in my spams, not sure what happened there, but THANK YOU. For the initial comment, for this one, for everything you perfectly wrote and expressed and that makes me really want to have this perspective, too and to do better at it and at relaxing, taking a step back and realizing it’s not the end of the world if I’m not posting as usual or missing blog hopping or something.
        Thank you so, so, so much for sharing your thoughts and advice it means SO much and this makes me so happy ❤

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  31. Marie!! This is such a gorgeous post. You’re an amazing writer/blogger – particularly when the subject is something you’re clearly passionate about. You have fantastic content and great book reviews. I’ve added so many books to my shelves because of you. But self-care is important, and if you need to take a break then we will be here for you when you get back. Sending so much love your way xxxx

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    1. Oh, oh you’re too sweet 😭😭😭 this made my entire weekend, thank you so much for your sweet words 😭
      I’m so happy you enjoyed this post, seriously can’t thank you enough, this means so much ❤

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  32. Wonderful topic Marie! I can find myself in what you are describing. But when I feel like it becomes too heavy I take a step back. I don’t blog hop or go to FB or… I go outside, read a book, take pictures. Because life thaught me to listen to my body and mind and not to push too far. Even if like you my moto could be “go big or go home”.

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  33. Marie, it felt like I could have voiced these thoughts from my very own heart! I definitely feel like book blogging has this constant, crushing pressure to be up to date with everything and it’s so fast paced as well. Unfortunately there is SO much work involved with it all that I’ve just learnt these days to let parts of it go. I wish I could keep up with it all but if I’m not able to blog hop as often as I did anymore, but that means I can continue book blogging, then so be it. You’re doing a great job and I definitely think it’s a learning experience.

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    1. Oh thank you so, so much for your sweet comment, Jeann, I’m so happy you enjoyed this post and could relate to it ❤
      There is definitely a lot of pressure and it's so hard to let go of it all, at times, too, because it feels like failing, but ultimately self care has to come first and I'm trying my best to let go, little by little. Even if it's hard at times ahah.
      Thank you so much ❤ ❤

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  34. Thank you so much for opening up about this, Marie! I relate so much to everything you said. As you can tell by my late comment, I’m currently a week behind with my WordPress reader and it’s giving me major anxiety. I had to pressure-read last week in order to get posts up for blog tours and I basically burned myself out. Trying to catch up now though! Your post was a fantastic one to come back to 💜

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    1. Oh thank you, Alex, I’m so happy you could relate to this. Blogging can be stressful and bring on a lot of anxiety, but it’s important to learn to let go a little bit. If you can’t catch up with everything or don’t even want to, it’s okay too, I’m learning a little bit to do that ahah. ❤
      Thank you so much for your sweet comment ❤ ❤ ❤

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  35. Hi Marie – you make a lot of excellent points about the unrecognized pressures of book blogging. I know exactly what you mean. It should be just read a book, post what you think about it and move on, but there’s a lot more to it, as you know. I understand how you feel about comments and notifications that pile up. That happens to me a lot because, honestly, some of life’s pressures need attention before the blog. I’ve pulled back a bit in the last year because I’ve been too busy with my real life to devote as much time to the blog, but I feel anxiety when I neglect it. This is something only a fellow blogger can understand. Anyone else just doesn’t get it or thinks it’s silly. But the thing to remember is that fellow bloggers are very understanding and loyal and they don’t judge if you take a break – it’s just part of the cycle!

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    1. Oh thank you for your sweet comment, really, this means so much ❤ ❤ I feel like it's hard to understand what we go through as book blogger and how complex the feelings can be about blogging overall, unless you're actually living it. 🙂
      Thank you so much for your sweet comment, take care of yourself ❤

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      1. It is hard – I’ve been blogging 6 years and I definitely go through phases. Only bloggers know what that means. But I still enjoy it so I ride through the slumps and come out of them with a new enthusiasm. What’s hard is when I don’t have the time, then days go by and I lose interest for a while…

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      2. Agree, it’s all an ups and down kind of adventure, there are slumps and moments where we feel, just, “meh” about it all. but then the love comes back and that’s beautiful, that it comes back means we’re meant to do this and to keep on going 🙂

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  36. I was starting to realize that I get a physical anxiety response to certain aspects of blogging—the overwhelming feeling of not being able to keep up with everything. I will literally sometimes feel panicky at the thought of how many books I have to read or how many comments I have left to reply to (or some other element of blogging). I had to struggle to let things go. I do better with it now, but it’s still always lurking under the surface! Good for you for figuring out how to keep yourself healthy—obviously a top priority. 🙂

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    1. I’m glad to hear I’m not the only one feeling this way, thank you for sharing your experience, Nicole ❤ It's never pleasant to have these feelings and it's a daily process, trying to let things go somehow and tried to be better at it and not feel guilty about it all, either. I hope we'll both make progress ❤
      Thank you so much for your sweet comment ❤ ❤

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  37. This post is an entire big mood!

    Book blogging has been for me a way to release my stress but also, when things don’t well with it, it also became a factor of stress.
    I realized that when sometimething is off, I need to drop off and be free about it. THis 2019 has been one of those cases since the start of the year.

    But yes, people always think everything is so simple but blogging is much more complicated. It’s kinda like having your own little brand minus the money budget issue

    While I can manage to keep up with blog hoppping, one thing that I’m bad at is catching up on socials! It’s very hard for me or sometimes I’m verynot fine to intreact with certain people, because even if everyone can mess up or chose the wrong term, people have the predispotion of close off and unlash stuff. Which sometimes it’s totally good and reasonable, other times… it’s kinda overboard.
    But in general too, it’s super hard to keep up with everything

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    1. That’s exactly it, it’s like managing a full time job while well, not being paid for it at all and sometimes it’s complicated, overwhelming and really stressful too. I’m so glad you’re trying to practice more self care this year and I hope this continues, this is so, so very important ❤
      And social media, oh this is probably the most stressful and impossible to catch up with as well ahha, you're not alone on that.
      Thank you so much for your sweet comment ❤

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  38. Oh Marie, I relate to this SO MUCH, and you are awesome for putting it into words! This was literally me a couple years ago- I swear at least half of this I could have written myself, because YEP. I started blogging just to like, have an outlet, maybe chat with like-minded people, whatever. But then it became… well, something I *had* to do my absolute best at. Like you said, I would straight up panic if I didn’t respond to everyone’s comments, visit everyone’s blogs. I thought if I didn’t post every day, I’d be forgotten. I was so hard on myself if I was denied for anything, or a publisher didn’t respond, or whatever.

    There were nights I’d be up til 5 in the morning, commenting everywhere, scheduling posts, making graphics, you name it. I can’t completely pinpoint when things started to change, even. At one point, I “let” myself go down to 4 posts a week, in hopes that I could, idk, breathe a little, but nothing really changed. Every year I’d make a resolution that I would calm down. And every year, I’d flat out fail. Until one day, I didn’t. And there was no magic reason, I think perhaps the realization of this no longer being fun coupled with life garbage made my brain understand, finally, that it needed to change its ways if we were to continue.

    And I am lucky- I really don’t think it is that much of a lightbulb moment for most, and it took me about 4 years to get to that point. And it’s not to say I don’t have those moments! I have about 15 tabs open right now and I am stressed like no other about them haha. The difference is, I WILL go to bed once I press “post” on yours, and leave the rest for tomorrow.

    BIG hugs to you, my dear, and thank you SO MUCH for making us all feel like we’re not alone ♥♥♥

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    1. I’m so happy to hear that you had that realization. I feel like it’s so easy to get overwhelmed by it all, to want to do it all and to chase all the comments, blogs and all the things that are always, always left to do. I’m trying to let go, little by little, sometimes it doesn’t work, sometimes I don’t manage to do it and get anxious, while some other times I manage to let the tabs opened for another day. I hope to get to that point where I can take my time and feel relaxed about it all, always ahah.
      Thank you so, so much for your sweet comment ❤ ❤

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