On blogging stats, letting them defining us, popularity and so on

It has come to my attention that being popular is something we all love. And it is slowly making us all crazy.

Blogging is a hobby that takes a whole lot of time, energy, brain cells and mild existential crisis, every once in a while. Your fingers will cramp from the reviews you’re trying to write, crying or frustration will happen when you feel like you don’t have time to blog, blog hop or read the books you’re supposed to read. Blogging is a hobby that takes a whole lot of time and it’s only normal, it’s only human, for us to want to see results. Sort of like working hard and getting good grades.

Here’s the problem : for us, results usually come in the form of statistics. You all probably know or noticed it, the whole world relies on numbers, whether it’s to tell time, count money left in your bank account and the amount of followers someone has, likes, comments and so on, on blogs or whichever social media you’re on as well. Numbers are everywhere and there is NO ESCAPING from them. Numbers, we love them, but we also dread them. Me? I have a love-hate relationship with statistics.

Why I hate numbers

It’s really hard, whenever you’re just starting to blog, or when you have been into it all for a while, to measure your success. See how far we’ve come, if we grew up, if we changed, if people like us more now than before.

Obviously, we all compare ourselves to other book bloggers. How far they’ve come in the same time we did. How much farther they’ve managed to go in the matter of a few months, while we’re still waiting to reach the same goals. Numbers, followers, everything makes us question ourselves. Are we good enough, are we doing something wrong because we don’t have 1 000 of followers while others have 3 000 in less than a year?Β  Don’t we know the recipe to popular blog posts or do we just PLAIN SUCK?

Wow. Way to lighten up the mood here, Marie. Sorry.

It’s funny, but numbers have a damn way of screwing us all up and making us wonder why, how, when, giving us ideas on what it means to be popular, to be GREAT. Numbers make us happy, numbers disappoint us. Followers count and happiness for other bloggers also give us a little bit of blogging envy, this little devil we just want to shut the hell up sometimes. Statistics sometimes manage to make us question whether or not it’s worth it to keep on blogging.

Numbers and blogging stats does not define you or your blog. They don’t tell how passionate and how awesome you are.

I know I’m mildly doing okay in this blogging thing. I think. I know it’s also eating me away at times. At the beginning of November, I missed two of my usual posting times. I was BUSY. I was on holidays. I was with my loved ones. And I looked at my stats someday and felt just… well, I felt shitty.

Then I realized that I was being stupid. Obviously, because real life should come first and I had a blast with my people. Obviously, because stats are going down whenever you’re not posting, because people are drawn to your blog when there is something new to see. Whether you’re getting thousand of visits per day or thousand a month does not make you awesome, very popular or just a bad book blogger. Sometimes, people are busy. AND IT SHOULD BE OKAY.

I know it’s easier said than done and if some amazing bloggers manage not to look at their stats every single day anymore, or NOT AT ALL (how?!! I WANT YOUR SECRETS), some others just can’t. Sometimes, you just need to take a break from it all. NOT to think about your latest blog post, whether or not it will be good enough to attract bloggers, make you “this popular blogger that once wrote about something amazing”. Sometimes, you just need to step away and not think about stats.

It’s funny. I’ve been blogging for almost three years now and I still have no idea what I’m doing every single weekend I sit down to write blog posts. Hell, I almost lost my mind about 30 minutes ago because I felt like I was a bad blogger (hence this blog post). You know what’s even funnier?! I always end up on the very same seat every Saturday morning to write these blog posts and once I did… I don’t think about stats. For now. I just think about how I’ve written whatever it is that I had to say, screamed about the books I needed to, AND I FEEL GOOD.

Blogging should be about passion and I feel quite passionate whenever I’m writing these posts. If stats follow: this is pretty amazing. I feel “popular”. I feel “loved”. I feel happy to get visits, comments, to see that people want to read what I have to say on said topic. Whether stats follow as I expect them to, even better than I thought they would, or when they’re just a little bit of a disappointment… then what? I think I managed to say what I had to say. If I get 10, 100 or 1000 visits for it all, what the hell. I’m not being paid for this. I liked writing this post and for that, I think I should be my very own popular blogger. Most importantly, I think I should be HAPPY ABOUT IT, and so should you.

Before you ask. YES. Stats make me happy. OBVIOUSLY. But I’m determined (trying, okay) NOT to let high or low stats define me and my worth as a book blogger.

How do you feel about stats? Do you check them often, or do you manage not to? Do you also have a love-hate relationship with them?

Do stats influence the way you’re blogging – the kind of blog posts you want to write? Any tips on how to not be too stats-obsessed? Let me know all your thoughts in comments!

 

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91 thoughts on “On blogging stats, letting them defining us, popularity and so on

  1. This was a wonderful post. I am bad for letting the numbers get in my head. I have to remind myself of why I do this. There are days when I have felt guilty for not posting something or finishing a book on time for a review. It’s hard to push the thoughts away sometimes. I really loved reading this though made me realize I am not alone! Thank goodness.

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    1. oh you’re not alone, that’s for sure. It’s so hard not to let numbers get in your head, but we all need to try πŸ™‚ it’s much better to blog and keep it fun, try and remember why we love it all. It’s because we love the books, not the big numbers πŸ™‚ thank you so much!! ❀ ❀

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  2. Aaahh Marie! Thanks for writing such a great post. I worry about my blog stats all the time – my blog is 6 months old (I think? Honestly, I have no idea) but I keep comparing myself to bloggers with huge followings and UGH I AGREE IT DOES MAKE ME FEEL INSECURE. I had an urge to quit blogging, but my readers / friends were all so supportive, so I stopped thinking about it.
    Blogging is fun. It’s very enjoyable, but I 100% agree with you, we should definitely put real life as first priority. I sometimes stare at my laptop screen during class (sorry, teachers) and hope that someone will comment on my posts / follow me. But that doesn’t matter anymore. I use WIX as my blogging platform, and the stats are hidden somewhere (everytime I want to look at them I have to look for a tutorial telling me where it is!) and it really helps. Sometimes I’m lazy and I just don’t want to Google where I can look at the stats so I manage not to. πŸ˜‚

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    1. 6 months old, oh you’re too young to worry about these kind of things ahah. I’m so glad to hear you’re having tons of fun while blogging, but I get it. It’s SO easy to compare ourselves to other book bloggers, whether we’re just starting or have been blogging for months or even years. I think we need to remember that the numbers don’t really define us, it’s what we write about and the passion we have that should define us. And we are pretty fabulous. I think. πŸ˜›

      Ohh that’s so good!! My stats are way too easily accessible, which makes it easy to check them constantly. That’s NO good at all ahah, I should try not to do that too often.

      Thank you so, so much Chloe! I’m glad you enjoyed this post and I hope you keep on loving blogging ❀

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  3. Sometimes I feel this way, too! Especially now that it feels like I abandoned my baby, my stats are at an all time low. I had a blogging identity crisis this year, and when I saw that my other posts were not doing as well as I hoped it would, it really bummed me out. But then, I had this realization that the stats are just there to help us keep track of what works. Maybe it doesn’t work now, which probably means we can do something else to improve whatever it is. True, I have a love-hate relationship with stats as well. Yet sometimes we can just say, “Eh. I’ll blog what I want to blog about. Screw the stats. At least I’m passionate on the post I am writing about.”

    Thank you for this discussion, Marie. I really needed it.

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    1. It’s so funny, how stats influence us. Leave blogging for a couple days and stats get lower, try out new things and they might not work, and so on. Numbers get inside our minds, even if we actually enjoyed the time off, and the blog posts that didn’t succeed quite as much as we’d like them to.
      I think that, in a way, it’s good to see what works and what doesn’t, what interests people and make them comment, and so on. But it’s also good to remember that if something doesn’t work, or if we’re not with thousand of followers, like we thought we would be by now, it’s okay. As long as we pour our hearts out and have fun blogging ❀ ❀

      You're so welcome, thank YOU for your sweet comment, Bianca < I hope you'll keep on having fun writing blog posts ❀

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  4. I am utterly amazed that more people than just my best friend are subscribed and regularly like and comment on my blog. I do use the stats to see what the people who come to my blog like. Do they like when I write up a longer post about a current event? What types of books that I review get more attention? Does my original fiction do well? What type of pieces are people reading? That way I can write things that other people enjoy and we both get the most out of this thing. I’m more into the community I’ve discovered than how many people read my thing, but I do really love when people read my thing.

    Very thoughtful post.

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    1. I get the feeling – I think I will forever be amazed seeing people coming to my blog, reading what I have to say and even better, wanting to leave sweet comments like you just did ❀ ❀ thank you! ❀

      I agree with you, it's great to see what works and what not, and it's also pretty awesome to see people being interested in your content. But the community aspect of it all is the best, chatting with people and so on ❀ ❀

      Thank you again ❀ ❀

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  5. β€œNumbers and blogging stats does not define you or your blog. They don’t tell how passionate and how awesome you are.”

    YES!!!!! So much yes! It’s very easy to get caught up in the numbers, but they by no means define your success. If one post gets less views than another, it doesn’t mean that the less viewed post wasn’t as good! There are so many variables at play when it comes to stats – time, time others have to view blogs, exposure on other social media sites, and so much more. We are all our own worst enemy at times. Just be proud that you’re putting your thoughts out there where as most people are too afraid to take that leap. I love this post sooooo much!

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    1. I so agree with you, we are our own worst enemy when it comes to this! Statistics can be representative of how things are, of what posts work better and so on, but they don’t define any kind of worth, that’s for sure. They also change so much from month to month, depending on so many variables. It’s SO hard to trust them, that’s why I hate them hahaha. ❀
      I so agree. We need to be proud to already be writing our thoughts and having fun ❀

      Thank you so, so much for your sweet comment, Shanah!!<3 ❀

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  6. I need some advice on how to be less stats-obsessed. I check my stats constantly, it’s really bad. I go through such highs and lows during the week – I get so excited when a post does well, and I feel bad when a post I thought was going to be amazing gets only a few views.

    I started blogging mainly for myself, and I didn’t think anyone would read it, but now that some people do, I’m excited to see it grow. Although very slowly, compared to others!

    I try not to let the stats affect the things I write about, but it can be difficult. If you want people to read your blog, you kind of have to think about things that may be popular for readers. But – I don’t let that stop me from talking about books that may not be as well-known, for instance.

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    1. Oh, Angela, if I ever find the recipe on how NOT to be too stats-obsessed, I promise I’ll try and write a step-by-step guide ahah. It’s something I want to be working on, for sure, but it’s so hard. Sometimes, I don’t watch too often, but then I relapse, hahaha. πŸ˜›

      I get the feeling – it’s so good to see our little corner of the internet growing and that people are actually interested in reading it. that will forever amaze me. ❀

      I hope you'll keep on blogging and write the blog posts you love. It's great to write blog posts that are popular for your readers, for sure, but they also have to be posts you love writing πŸ˜€

      thank you so much for your sweet comment ❀ ❀

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  7. Great post! I’ve had a quiet week and it was getting me down, but reading this has made me really think about it. Blogging is my hobby not my job and I should do it because it’s fun! It doesn’t matter really if I don’t get as good as views!

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    1. Oh I’m so glad to hear this – it’s so good to remember that every once in a while. it’s fun and stats shouldn’t matter too much. At least, they shouldn’t rule our blogging world ahah πŸ˜›
      thank you so much ❀ ❀

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  8. I have definitely worried about stats on and off over my five years of blogging (and switching blogging platforms, and names, and topics, etc.). I’ve never gotten to the point of being a “big” or “celebrity” blogger, and honestly it’s depressing sometimes that I feel like I’m doing everything right yet never get anywhere. I definitely don’t write posts for stats or let stats influence my blogging, otherwise, I probably wouldn’t be blogging at all. I think it’s really important to remember that blogging is supposed to be for fun, ultimately, and that really, it’s extremely subjective and random as to who gets the biggest and highest stats.

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    1. FIVE YEARS – wow, this is awesome, congratulations to you for blogging for that long. It’s so great you kept on going and keep on having fun and spreading your love for books and all ❀ ❀

      I understand your thoughts – somehow at some point, we maybe feel like we should have "made it" by now, be celebrities or something, but truth is, you're so right, it's so random and subjective when it comes to stats. We can't really plan it all or try and make it happen, it just happens sometimes. and we're not here for business anyway, but to have fun blogging πŸ˜€

      Thank you so, so much for your sweet comment ❀ ❀

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  9. This is such a great post , I try not to check them so I don’t beat myself up ,though if i’m being honest I really am not committed to blogging the way I should be because of school and life getting in the way but I try not to check my stats because doing so will just make feel horrible

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    1. Oh thank you, glad you enjoyed reading this πŸ™‚ Oh it is great to be committed, but real life obviously comes first, so does school, so don’t beat yourself up for that. Just remember to have fun πŸ˜€

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  10. I have such a love-hate relationship with stats. At the same time I hate stats, but then I like to see that my blog is doing okay? I don’t hate bad stats. I hate that stats hold this power over us like a cloud and can make people feel so bad when they have slightly lower stats than usual.

    To me, I’ve been through phases where my blog doesn’t get much attention, and THAT’S OKAY. Sometimes, I just advent been able to get to writing and that’s okay. BLOGGING IS NOT MY ENTIRE LIFE. And that’s okay. I have school, I have exams, I have homework. And as much as I ADORE BLOGGING, it doest come first, it shouldn’t. It should not come before school. Don’t EVER feel bad for not blogging because you’re out there having a life ❀ As you said, this is a HOBBY.

    I don’t think that my stats really influence what Im posting? I post what I want and if people want to read that they can go ahead, if they don’t, then oh well. Not everything that I write is going to be for everyone. AND THAT’S OKAY.

    I try not to be too stats obsessed by focussing on the fact that I love blogging. And no matter the number of my views, or comments, or likes, I’m always going to love blogging!

    Great discussion topic!!

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    1. YES YES, that’s exactly it. I really hate the power some little numbers can have over my blogging and my blogging mood overall.
      You’re so right about this – real life and everything else should come first ❀
      I agree, not everyone will love all the things we post, that's almost impossible, so… let's at least make ourselves happy by posting whatever the hell we like?? πŸ˜›
      Thank you so, SO MUCH for your sweet comment ❀ ❀ ❀

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      1. YES!!!!!!!!! It’s such a small thing YET it completely has a hold on us???
        yES exactly!! post whatever you want, it’s YOUR blog, and people WILL want to read them if they like the same things / are interested in your posts!

        AWW YOU’RE WELCOME MARIE ❀ ❀ ❀ YOURE THE SWEETEST

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  11. I try so much not to stress about stats and just enjoy the whole experience, but I’m still fairly new to blogging, I can see how being a blogger for as long as you’ve been can put a lot of pressure on blogging though. But yeah, I also get quite competitve, I sometimes compare my number of followers or views with other bloggers (usually with ones that have been doing it for much longer than I), but then I try to tell myself that it’s not fair to myself to do that.
    Stats can be positive from time to time, though, I try to use them to see what were those posts that performed the best, so I can write more of that in the future and not stress about them. But it’s hard like you said!! :/ I guess we’ll just have to remind ourselves that stats don’t matter all that much!
    (I do think you deserve all the high stats because your blog is lovely, you put so much work in it and it’s very visible!)

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    1. I think you have the right set of mind here, it is so important just to remember that we love blogging, we love writing our blog posts and chatting with other bloggers and so on. That’s what matters and what should come first for us, not statistics. It’s hard to convince ourselves sometimes, but… I guess we need to just remember to have fun πŸ˜›
      It’s so hard not to compare ourselves and everything, but know that you have a FABULOUS blog, and you’re such a great blogger and person overall. You’re doing awesome ❀
      Aww, you're so, so sweet, thank you so much for your sweet words ❀ ❀

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      1. Thank you very much, Marie!!! 😍😍 Your words mean a lot to me because you’re a wonderful person and you’re basically this very knowledgeable person with amazing content that I look up to when it comes to blogging. So, thank you again, you’re very nice! ❀❀

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  12. I look at stats every day… it’s hard not to. And yes, you compare yourself to many other successful bloggers (successful in our own eyes!) It’s not a healthy relationship though… I also really try not to be bothered by the numbers… but you will always end up feeling something, good or bad. The only thing I don’t do is to change any post because of the numbers! I know when I write about travelling and tips, those are my best posts, however, they’re not the ones I love writing about the most, so I don’t write them just to get numbers. I write whenever I feel like it…
    And you know, congrats! Not because of your stats or followers or comments, but because you truly love what you do and that is extremely clear in your writing! xx

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    1. I agree – no matter what, numbers will always make us feel something. Good, or bad. I think we should just allow ourselves to try and take that feeling and… throw it away, put it in a box, forget it for a little while ahah. If that makes any sense. In the end, numbers should not determine the way we blog, what we post or why we do it all. It’s a fun hobby and we should keep it this way, I think πŸ˜€
      Oh, thank you SO much, that’s so sweet of you to say, wow. Thank you!! ❀ ❀ ❀

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      1. I try not to, most days anyway! I started measuring my own success comparing how much I would write when I first started and how much I write now. It’s a huge difference! I also keep challenging myself to see if I can write 5x a week minimum, which is what I’ve been doing since the beginning of October! So, you know, stats are always there, but I also try to focus on little things that matter to me πŸ˜…πŸ˜…

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  13. I love this post Marie. πŸ™‚ ❀ I definitely agree that the numbers and stats shouldn't define whether you're a popular or successful blogger but it's so hard not to look at them. I try not to get too concerned with my stats because the main reason I'm blogging is for the people to talk to about books and just the community in general, but it is hard because your stats are just there on the first page when you open WordPress and you can't help but judge yourself against them (well, I can't help anyways).
    I think passion is definitely what should make a blogger popular. I love it when I can tell a person loves blogging through their writing, or loved a book through their review. Stats definitely don't influence my blogging, I know there are some posts that get more than others but at the end of the day I post what I want because I know the second I try and force myself to blog for the views or the stats is going to be the day I burn out you know?
    Great post, I really loved reading your thoughts on this topic. πŸ˜€ ❀

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    1. YES YES YES. I love that you said that, the second you’re blogging for the views, you will be burnt out. That’s exactly how I feel about it all, as well. I want, obviously, to write blog posts that inspire people to chat with me, since I love comments, but I also and most importantly want to write the posts and reviews I want to ❀ ❀
      Thank you so, so much, Beth!! ❀ ❀

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      1. Yep, I know the main reason I’ve managed to make it this long blogging without burning out is because I love it, that kind of shifts when you’re too focused on stats I think. I love comments as well, but I want to make sure I continue I love blogging and that’s always going to be a priority of mine. πŸ™‚ ❀️
        That’s all right! πŸ˜€ ❀️ ❀️

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  14. Hello Marie!
    Love this post! I absolutely agree that it is so hard not to be affected by stats as bloggers. I am definitely guilty of checking my stats multiple times a day! (Ah, it’s bad!) These days I am trying to adopt a more positive and relaxed mindset about stats and trying not to let them affect me to much. One thing I do is to remind myself of the things that I like about blogging aside from stats, such as being able to chat with some amazing people, to express my thoughts, or to share snippets of my novel with others. πŸ™‚

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    1. I think it is such a great way of thinking, Sophie! ❀ I might steal it from you, ahah. I check my stats quite often as well, but I'm trying more and more not to. Just to focus on what I like to write and to check my comments and other bloggers' posts and so on. I want to focus on the positive things and not stress out about numbers… even if it's hard ahah πŸ™‚

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  15. Marie, I see that you have 4065 followers, including myself. Not so shabby. Is it people who visit and think, what a terrific blog site and comment? Or is it social media? Because if it’s the latter then that’s a particularly useless stat. I haven’t written anything new in a while but I do visit blogs that catch my attention, and often comment. When I don’t it’s usually because I’d be saying something negative. What I’ve noticed, is that while I may get a response to what I’ve said, that blogger rarely bothers to visit and check me out. ((I have around 500 articles, so there’s plenty of material to work through.) I think you’re right, Marie, Blogging stats don’t define who we are.

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    1. I was not complaining and everyone is allowed to be a bit stressed out about blogging πŸ™‚
      If you need to know, I have around 900 followers on social media (@dh_books over on twitter), so the amount you mentioned here is the total of that and my blog’s followers. I don’t know if social media followers are useless. It depends on who you are talking to. Bookish twitter works really well and brings on tons of books onto people’s radars, so I don’t think it is useless πŸ™‚ my opinion, though.
      As for commenting and leaving comments, I don’t know how most bloggers are working out. Some check out others’ blogs, some don’t, some take some time, some others wait for weekends to do big blog hopping sessions.
      Thank you for your comment πŸ™‚

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      1. Thank you, Marie. Nice of you to respond so
        nicely to my ratty comment. When I began my blog 5 years ago, I was also freelancing. I thought that getting instant online feedback would be nice, too. I have 500 followers but a small core of probably 100 online friends who respond if I ever post anything new. My original response to you has made me reprioritise.
        I’ve made an executive decision to unfollow people who like receiving comments but can’t find time to at least take time to see what sort of blogger liked their work. Wish you all the best. πŸ™ƒ

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      2. You’re welcome πŸ™‚ what matters is that you feel at ease and happy with what you’re doing, blogging-wise. Both in the blog posts you’re writing, the comments you want to leave and the people you want to chat with. Blogging should be fun before anything else πŸ™‚
        Thank you, wishing you all the best as well for your blog πŸ™‚

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    1. It is such a weird and conflicted relationship for sure ahah. I think it’s okay to care, or not to care, but what matters the most is not to let numbers affect the way we blog, or why we blog πŸ˜€ ❀
      thank you so much for your sweet comment xxx

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  16. haha oh gosh I related to this from the first line!!! haha yes I totally get what you mean about all the mini existential crises πŸ˜‰ hahaha oh gosh after you listed all those insecurities that I’m pretty sure we all have, I pretty much needed that gif πŸ˜‰ BUT it’s so true that they don’t define us, especially since we can’t be doing it all the time and yes real life comes first!! It’s such a good idea to just *step away* from the computer (hehe I sound like I’m staging an intervention- maybe I am… πŸ˜‰ ) And YES you are so right- this is meant to be fun- it’s a hobby we don’t get paid for- we need to remember that!! Awesome post!!

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    1. Hahahaha, well… you can stage all the interventions you want, I think at some point, all bloggers need it πŸ˜‰
      Thank you so, so much for your sweet comment!! ❀ ❀

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  17. This post is so relatable. πŸ‘ I always check on blog stats, but I don’t let it intimidate me or anything. I always try to remember that I’m doing this (blogging) for myself. While I accept people’s suggestion to further improve my blog, the final decision is in my hands. Stats also gives ideas on people’s expectations from your blog and what type of post they’re mostly into. However, I’m not forcing myself to do certain types of posts that people will like if I feel incapable of fulfilling their expectations. I cannot always satisfy theirs, but I’m doing my best to satisfy mine. πŸ™‚

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    1. YES YES YES. The final decision is in your hands for sure, it’s your blog and you should make it something you love, regardless of stats and everything ❀ ❀
      Thank you so, so much for your sweet comment! ❀ ❀

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    1. Oh thank you so much, Tasya ❀ ❀ I do agree that numbers aren't everything, but we can't deny that we love the big numbers and that stats, low or high, have an influence on us. As long as we don't let them control us ahah πŸ˜›
      THANK YOU so much ❀ ❀

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  18. Awesome discussion as always! I don’t have a ton of followers, but I love talking to people almost everyday and creating my own content makes it fun. Of course, that wanting more can suck, but I’ve learned to just have fun with it and create what content I like. You go girl πŸ™‚

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  19. It’s hard to ignore the stats because the moment I opened my blog dashboard the stats is just there, judging me. LOL.

    Stats for me is a double edge sword. It gets me motivated to blog more but at the same time, it can be devastating to see your efforts=stats. So I sometimes deliberately set my dashboard page to comments so I couldn’t see the stats. πŸ˜‚

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    1. Hahaha, if only there was a way to hide them, even for a while, not to have to see numbers in our face every single day.
      I think it’s a great strategy πŸ˜‚ It’s hard not to care at all – I mean, I don’t know any single blogger that doesn’t care about stats, in a good or bad way. I think that it’s just important to remember why we blog, and it’s not because of numbers. It’s because we like what we write πŸ™‚ ❀
      thank you so much!! ❀

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  20. This is such a good and relatable post! I definitely resonate with this. I don’t check my stats that often – just my follower count and sometimes I just can’t help comparing my number to others…
    The worst thing for me is the guilt I feel when I don’t blog. I’m very bad at sticking to a good blogging schedule because I’m always doing so many things and I’m kinda slow at writing posts. Sometimes I go to my blog and I realise it’s been two-three weeks since I posted something, so I know that I can’t expect my stats to be amazing or my follower count to be huge πŸ˜›
    Just recently I thought about quitting for good, because I wasn’t sure if I was actually into blogging, or if I just did it because I felt like I had to. I haven’t deleted it though, I feel like that would be me giving up. I want to win over this perfectionistic, obsessive part of me, instead of just throwing in the towel.
    Again, really great post and I hope you don’t mind the novel-like comment I just threw at you ;P

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    1. Oh, I don’t mind at all, novel-like comments are my favorite ❀
      I'm sorry to hear that blogging feels like an obligation, at times. I hope that's not the case and that you'll feel like blogging again. It is hard sometimes, to keep up with blogging whenever we are busy – but don't beat yourself up over it. Real life's more important for sure ❀
      I think you should think about why you're blogging and what you like about it all – if you still enjoy writing your blog posts, commenting and chatting and so on, don't give up ❀ It's okay to be a not-so-regular blogger ❀ If it's just an obligation and you have no fun, though… I don't see it as giving up. It's just letting it go, because it makes you not so happy anymore πŸ™‚

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      1. Thanks for this other perspective on it! I definitely still enjoy it – sometimes it’s just like with a tv show. At one point you’re totally binging, and then suddenly you don’t watch it that often and it’s kinda weird getting back into it. Did that make sense when thinking of blogging, or is it just me? πŸ˜›
        I think I need to remember this: “Real life is more important”. Since I don’t make money from it like you, it’s okay if it’s just prioritised as a hobby πŸ™‚
        Thanks again! xx

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      2. This makes A LOT of sense, actually ahah, I know I have my “binging” moments as well πŸ˜›
        YES, this is what we all should remember, for sure. If we love blogging, real life should always be prioritized ❀
        You're so welcome, thank you for your sweet comments ❀

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  21. Great Post! I always try to avoid checking my numbers because they do nothing but disappoint you and that will eventually effect your blogging life because you’ll slowly loose your interest in blogging or you’ll over-stress yourself about how to increase those numbers. We have to remember that Blogging is just a hobby and we do it for fun.

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  22. I actually don’t look at my stats. I used to when I first started, but about 6 months in I just said screw it. I can’t even remember the last time I looked at my page views. The biggest stat for me is comments and thats just because I LOVE comments hahahah When I have a lot it makes me feel good because that means there’s lots of people to chat with. Otherwise, yeah…I don’t care. And I don’t think anyone else should either! Unless they’re trying to make money off of blogging, since it matters then. Otherwise, this should be for fun and to make friends. Even if there’s only 1 person that liked a post, that’s 1 person to chat with and that’s enough for me πŸ˜€

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    1. You’re so right, Molly, I love the way you think ❀ I always care a bit more about comments than anything else, since I LOVE comments and chatting with other people, but in the end, we all should keep it fun and write what we like, no matter the stats πŸ™‚

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  23. Nice post Marie! I must admit that I don’t check my stats anymore. It’s been 4 months now since I started blogging. In the beginning I used to compare my blog with others, you know. But now I have just left. I know that you can’t force people to just come to your blog. I have to make a good post for people to come here (like yours πŸ˜› ). But it’s just that I try to do as much as I can in my time available.

    Also, I am too bad in scheduling posts. I always make a goal that I would keep at least 3 posts scheduled, but no. I always fail. I have to go to my hometown next week and I know I won’t be able to read or blog, so technically I should write some posts in advance. But see, here I am.. empty handed πŸ˜€ And I know that my stats will suffer, like big-time. But I don’t care anymore πŸ˜›

    And you are absolutely right. Family should be our first priority. And I am glad that you enjoyed your vacation πŸ™‚

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    1. Oh thank you so much for your sweet words ❀ It's good not to care too much about it all, because in the end, we're not blogging for these kind of numbers, but because we love it all ❀

      Ahah, it's good that you don't care anymore. I love scheduling everything and being ahead in my blog posts, but… I also know I'm a bit of a control freak when it comes to that ahahah. ❀

      Thank you so much, I did ❀ thank you ❀

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  24. “Numbers and blogging stats does not define you or your blog. They don’t tell how passionate and how awesome you are.” Yes! And also, it’s always about the quality you post! Quality over quantity is the key ❀

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  25. This was such a great post Marie – thanks for sharing! I’m a fairly new blogger so I know my stats aren’t as great as everyone else’s may be, but it doesn’t tend to bother me too much. I just appreciate any comments/likes I get because I do enjoy blogging and interacting with other readers. For me that’s the main thing! πŸ™‚

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    1. Oh thank you so much, I’m glad you enjoyed this post ❀
      I'm also really happy to hear that – it's much better to care about comments and interactions than just numbers. Chatting with other bloggers is the BEST thing πŸ˜€
      Thank you so much!! xx

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  26. I do check my stats a lot, but I can honestly say I don’t care what they say. I’m just curious and want to see what’s going on. And I like graphs. I’m honestly just pleasantly surprised there are hits on my blog at all when I’ve been absent for one or two months πŸ˜‚ And I’m always happy to see people are still following me and comment on my blog when I sporadically decide to come back πŸ˜‚

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    1. It’s good that you don’t let them influence you in any way – this is goals, really, ahah πŸ™‚ Also, you’re always GREAT and write great reviews, why wouldn’t people come back? πŸ˜‰
      thank you so, so much for your sweet comment xx

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  27. Aww Marie, this is such an awesome post! I don’t let stats determine what to post but I do get very happy if a post does well. I also feel the being busy with life thing on a deep level because I haven’t really had time to blog the past few weeks and that naturally affected my stats. But I’m okay with that since there weren’t any new posts for people to read. I agree that blogging is about passion and I think we all need to take a step back from stats sometimes and just remember that we all started blogs to talk about what we love.

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  28. Omg I was just going to post something about this topic tomorrow, ahah! I’m not gonna say much and let my post speak for me but I so agree that numbers & stats don’t define you/your blog! I personally feel like they ARE important, as they’re a tangible way to really see how far you’ve improved, but there are other ways to see that growth as well, not just stats! Of course, if it comes to the unhealthy obsession of checking your stats every moment and worrying about not a lot of views or followers, that’s not good. πŸ˜› Great post!

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    1. Ohhhh, great minds think alike!! πŸ˜€ I will be waiting to read your blog post then, I can’t wait!
      I understand your point, and I agree that stats help me track my progress, in a way, but they’re not the only way. I feel it myself, in the way I’m writing, I’m organizing myself and in the way I blog overall, compared to when I started πŸ™‚
      Thank you so much, May!! ❀

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  29. The way I don’t stress about them…I don’t really look at them. I post once a week, so I suspect that is part of the reason why I don’t have a lot of followers, but I don’t really care. I have great conversations in the comments of my posts and others. That’s all I need really, I just want to chat about books. Great post !!

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    1. YES, I love that you said that. Having great conversations about books and chatting with other bloggers is what’s the MOST fun about blogging πŸ˜€
      Thank you so much for your sweet comment! ❀

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  30. This is such an amazing post Marie! ❀
    Personally I check my stats at the end of a month. I just don't care about the stats that much, they don't tend to affect me. I'm just curious to see how my blog is going! Of course I'm happy to see that my stats are higher than the month before, but them being lower doesn't bother me either. Ever since I have started blogging I haven't cared about them. Blogging for me is a hobby that I mostly do for myself, so I never obsessed with the numbers.
    Also, blogging envy is seriously the worst. I used to be affected by that ages ago (when I had my old blog). But I have learned and accepted that everyone has a different path and not everyone is going to be on the same level of "successfulness". While I'm posting things that I like and enjoying my blogging experience I'm happy! πŸ˜€

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    1. Oh thank you so, so much, Anna! ❀ I'm so glad you enjoyed reading this post ❀
      I think it's the best when you're just at the point where you are enjoying your blogging experience overall. Without thinking about comparison, stats and so on. Just enjoying yourself and chatting about books, that's what we are here for πŸ˜€
      Thank you so much, Anna!! ❀

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  31. Yes to everything you’ve just said. I’m terrible at checking my stats and I think the worst thing is when you use your stats to compare against other bloggers. It’s the easiest way to make you feel shitty about yourself. I remember when I went to New Zealand and I was rarely on the blogosphere so coming back I felt like I had to work extra hard to build up an audience again and it was exhausting. Even now, I’ve not been as active because life is busy and I’m currently in this “trying to figure out shit” mode so a lot of the times I’m so drained I don’t have the energy to blog-hop. I still LOVE blogging, but I also know that it doesn’t define my life. It’s a hobby and it comes in handy when you’re trying to sell your skills haha. At the end of the day, I want to enjoy blogging. The moment I start blogging for a reason beyond my love and passion for it is the day I take a step back. πŸ˜€

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    1. Ahahhaha you’re right, it does come in handy whenever we need to sell whatever it is we can do in the real world πŸ˜› I hope everything is going well for you, this whole “figuring things out” is always so annoying… I know I hate it ahah.
      Thank you so, so much for your sweet comment, Lois!! ❀

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  32. Ooooh how I feel this. Stats and I have had a war with each other from the time I figured out what Google Analytics was. Until about… maybe 8 or 9 months ago. Now, I have no idea what they are. I shall share. Okay- so when I first installed GA, I figured it was just so I could tell publishers, right? Well. That IS what I used them for, but I became OBSESSED. Like- if I was down 3 pageviews from the month before, I’d be all bent out of shape. I assumed that EVERY month should go up no matter what, and considered it a personal failure if it didn’t. Eventually, I realized that oh wait, I have NO control over what the rest of the world does and how they interact with my blog.

    Only… that didn’t stop me from being obsessed. Like some times of year are slower than others, but I simply couldn’t accept that. I’d check the app constantly, I was a mess! Then I uninstalled the app on my phone. And I requested fewer books. And so I didn’t need the numbers as often. And then… I don’t know how, so this probably isn’t even helpful, but I just stopped caring. Those numbers ceased to mean anything. And honestly, NONE of the numbers did. As long as the people who I actually enjoyed talking with were still coming around, that was good enough for me.

    Maybe, at the end of the day, I just kind of decided that I wanted quality over quantity? And told myself that until it tricked my brain into believing it? I honestly don’t know, but I also know that I haven’t so much as looked at Google Analytics in at LEAST 4 or 5 months, so maybe it did help! This is a GREAT post, I love honest talk about how yeah, stats DO matter to us sometimes because we WANT to be successful!

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    1. I’m so glad you enjoyed this post, Shannon. It is SO easy to become obsessed with numbers and to check them all the time, to ask ourselves so many questions as to why, how, people are coming, then they are not, and so on. Deleting the app is probably good, helps from checking it too often ahah πŸ™‚

      CONGRATULATIONS on not checking your stats for so long, this is seriously amazing. Also, I so want to have this kind of mindset – to value quality over quantity, which is something I know I want and work towards to so much, and it is so good to remind ourselves of that. It’s better to obsess over doing one great post than to obsess over all of our stats ahah.
      Thank you so, so much for your sweet comment!! ❀

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